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If this were my home I’d move some of the toys off the couch and shuffle the baskets of (mostly clean) laundry to give you a seat. I’d offer you a beverage, coffee? Tea? Wine? Now let’s chat about life. Let’s talk about how crazy this parenting thing is!

I’ll start: I have adorably, insane twins who make my life interesting and intense. I left my job when I was 3  months pregnant so I could “rest at home.” And it was the very last time I ever sat down!

I have lived most of my life as a perfectionist. Perfection used to bring me comfort, but now as a parent it brings me stress! Perfection and parenting just do not mix well. I’d like to say five years into this gig I’ve got it all figured out. But I still fight myself to let go of perfection. I drink too much coffee to survive the day and haven’t mopped the floor in weeks (maybe longer). Truth is, some days I have it all together and the schedule is just humming along. The very next day I might wake up to find no one has clean underwear and the fridge is empty. Then I just try not to loose it when I find out we ran out of coffee.

That’s my life. That’s my reality.

My baby daddy makes my life equally insane and intense. We get along most days and others we argue about who is going to shower the kids (so not me!). Most nights we plop down on the couch in front of the TV because we are too tired for anything else. He programs my coffee pot every night so I have fresh coffee in the a.m. and he scrubs the toilets (plural) without being asked. So I guess he is OK.

To get through all of the messy parts of my life I’ve adopted the Whatever philosophy. I ignore the experts and do whatever is going to get me through the day, or just the next 5 minutes, with as much sanity as possible. Sometimes that looks like wearing yesterdays shirt and skipping a shower. Or some days it looks like cereal for dinner and dishes in the sink. As long as my kids are healthy and happy at the end of the day (and in bed by 8:00 p.m. so I can chillax) I am happy. Feeling sane has become more valuable than keeping things perfect around here.

But enough about me. What’s your life like? What are you struggling with as a parent? Kids…. am I right?

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Thanks for joining me on this messy ride through motherhood! 




The Whatever Mom is a twin mom learning to let go of perfection. She shares her real life struggles with parenting through her blog and contributes her time and talents as a writer to Hudson Valley Parent and Masshole Mommy. When she isn’t writing you can find her chugging coffee, folding laundry and not judging other parents. Don’t forget to subscribe via email or sign up for her fascinating newsletter, so you never miss a single post! You can also find her work featured on Mamapedia.

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