We died tube noodles for Monkey to string on yarn as our garland for the Christmas tree a few years ago. It was really fun. I bet he would love this idea too. I agree with the hubs, the rice does look like fruity pebbles.
A twist on the fruity pebbles as edible fun…Throw in mini colored marshmallows as the gold and gems and have them use tweezers to pic out the fortune to help with motor skills. (oh that was a good idea!) 🙂
Wish I could post pictures for ya. I made a busy book that had a story with interactive felt apples that Velcro onto a tree drawing on cardboard. The apples are taken from the tree and placed in the duct tape basket as each character in the story eats an apple.
I also used a Ziploc bag, small miscellaneous objects, rice and duct tape to make a seek bag. Before placing small objects in the bag I took a picture of them and made a pictorial list of things to find. I even used letter beads to spell out monkeys name. Then around the edges I reinforced the seals of the bag. I added an extra strip of duct tape to put holes in and added to his busy book.
Bead Counter made from left over ribbon, beads and cardboard (cereal box). 10 pieces of ribbon are attached to the cardboard and then on each strand there is the ascending amount up to 10. So the first ribbon has 1 bead, Second ribbon has 2 beads and so forth to the tenth ribbon having 10 beads.
shape matching made with cardboard (cereal box), felt shapes, Velcro, and perm marker. I cut out the shapes in felt, traced them on the cardboard and colored the shapes in, attached the Velcro to the cardboard. I hole punched a Ziploc bag to put the shapes in so they don’t get lost when not being used.
Sticker page was made form left over stickers, and a page protector. I just placed extra stickers in the sleeve and the sticker can be re-stuck to it over and over again.
Thank you so much for sharing the art class info. Of course you’re an easier going parent when your needs are met, creative and all. I hope you enjoy the class. Peace to you, Brenda Date: Mon, 17 Mar 2014 20:48:09 +0000 To:
I completely understand the frustration when things do not go as planned. I have to say “It’s in God’s Hands” in order for me to not become frazzled. However things always turn out just as planned or better even when I let my frustration go. I love the glow egg idea.
I completely understand the frustration when things do not go as planned. I have to say “It’s in God’s Hands” in order for me to not become frazzled. However things always turn out just as planned or better even when I let my frustration go. I love the glow egg idea.
I never would have thought of attaching accessories on the hangers with an outfit. Wish I would have done that years ago, it would have saved me a lot of time. Thanks Roxanne for the tip and the visual confirmation of what the outfits look like on the hanger all together. That was great.
I am not sure how I am going to set up a mom routine yet! I still have a few months before our baby girl is born but I have got into the getting up early and forcing my self through the day a few times a week to prep for the baby marathon of no sleep once she gets here. I already set my outfits up in the closet and I trade out clothing based on seasons. I have however changed up some of my organization setup to bring them down to kid levels and put others higher. What suggestions do you have on getting ready for baby?
Sounds like you are already pretty organized. In regards to prepping for sleepless nights… don’t prep. Nothing will prepare you. Get as much rest as you can now b/c it will be a very, very long time before you get enough! My suggestions getting ready for baby is be flexible and its ok to do whatever you need to do to get through an exhausting day! 😉 I think you’ll do great mama!
I am an advocate of thinning out the wardrobe twice a year and donating to my local church or goodwill. I have more room for my favorite outfits and feel like I’ve given back to my community. It feels great! Clothing stores also clear out the racks at least twice a year so I will comb the clearance racks for super cheap tshirts that are great for both day and bed time wear! After buying hockey gear for my son, I have no money left for clothes. But you can find some new fav items for pennies, well a few dollars anyway if you shop the clearance racks!
you rock Roxanne ! I also shop thrift stores and clearance racks all year and stash stuff away… It helps for last minute birthday gifts, too now that she is turning into a social butterfly in school…
I…….LOVE……THIS!! I spent many years as a stay-at-home and heard multiple working moms chastise stay-at-homes for, “not having a ‘real’ job,” or “she only stays at home.” On the flip side I heard multiple stay-at-home moms chastise the working moms for, “letting someone else do the job of parenting.” I said, more than once, “Aren’t we ALL moms and shouldn’t we be supporting each other as women???” Excellent write up, Roxanne. Carry on.
Thanks Tamara! I’ve heard the same chastising too! It really takes a village to raise a child- what kind of village are we creating if we are always working against each other?
I’ve been taking a Bollywood/Zumba dance class on Thursdays in Rhinebeck at the American Legion (630pm – $15 for “drop-ins” ) FABULOUS ! and a lot of fun ! we laugh a lot and I’ve fallen down from tripping over my own feet ….no one cares ! Come join us !
I need a night out (especially if wine is involved) so that I can feel like a human again. My kids are my life, but I have to remember myself at times too!
Definitely need a mommy’s night out!! Between running around after an 18 month old all day, cleaning all night, and dealing with lots of family drama….I’m about to lose it!!
I wish more of my mom friends understood the value of moms night out…I have the hardest time getting anyone to join me! Its so important for us as moms and for our children for us to get a little time “off” to reboot! Cheers!
Here’s a little organizational tip for overnight trips. Gallon sized Ziplocs that include a whole outfit. Let them pick out the outfits before they’re packed. It makes vaca a whole lot easier with little people.
Love it! I used this tip for our last family vacation! I fit 2 full outfits into 1 Ziploc bag and packed 14 outfits using only one half of my suitcase! Huge space saver and made getting ready in the morning much easier!
First of all I love you. You are hilarious and i am happy that you will not let that little shit hacker silence you! Secondly, I welcome the following topics: how to combat holiday overload, special needs issues, tips for play dates…mostly i love to hear stories about your daughters 🙂
I love this story! I, too, can’t stand the fact that some people just cannot control their mouths just like children cannot control their emotions. I learned very early as a young mom when a friend of mine, whose son was about ten months older than mine, said she couldn’t stop her son from climbing out of his crib so she put the side down and taught him how to climb out safely. I said I would NEVER put up with THAT! About a year later I was teaching my son how to climb out of his crib safely. I ate that bitter crow and shut my mouth after that! My most recent bout with meltdown madness was just a couple of weekends ago. My daughter and I took my grandson to Green Lakes for a beautiful walk. I was looking for some unique photos to take and I found a strange looking tree up on an incline. My grandson agreed to climb up with me. Without warning, he began to wail. He was afraid he would fall. I promised I wouldn’t let him and held onto his shirt. He screamed to let go of him but if I did, he would tumble. People stared at him as they walked by but seemed to be fine with it. I had to shimmy around the tree, sit down and drag him to me so we could slide down the hill. Kids have meltdowns, some louder than others. Some kids are calm, some aren’t but they’re all just kids. My son got lost at the Catskill Game Farm when he was 2 1/2. It all happened in about thirty seconds with four adults and an older brother and sister with him. Some guy said, “That’s what happens when you don’t watch your kid.” If I could have set his hair on fire without getting caught, I would have. 🙂
Some of the times I felt the most confused and upset as a child was when I wasn’t breaking any rules but got “punished” by my parents anyway because I might have been embarrassing them. I’m glad you don’t change the rules because of social pressure. This makes life a lot more consistent for kids and, of course, that is everything to a child. 🙂
I admit it’s hard sometimes to not let that pressure take over a moment. I’m sure I have a time or two, but it really hit me the other day kids are kids. If they aren’t being destructive, rude or ill-mannered then really not much to fuss over. Thanks for reassuring me I’m on the right path. 🙂
Good job ! I have the opposite problem in public – G is very reserved around strangers. We are working on the whole “make eye contact and speak loud enough when adults speak to her” thing. At home she is loquacious and very high energy just like yours…. She is finally speaking up in class (1st grade) and raising her hand to answer questions. And by the way – thanks for the acorn cap jewel craft idea – we did it last week and they turned out cool ! G is bringing them in to school to give to her classmates at their halloween party !
Sometimes I wonder if it is because there are 2 at the same age and stage. I don’t get the time to individually review things or address things. So glad you liked the acorn caps. We had fun with them too!
What a great reminder…thank you for sharing! Parenting is difficult enough as it is without feeling pressure and judged for all of your parenting decisions
i moved a few years ago and havent met a mom that i really click with. it’s so hard. i hear convos between where they are just competing with each other. it’s like, why do ya’ll do that!!!? why can’t we just be there to listen and not one up each other?
That’s exactly why I started the Whatever mom blog!! I want to share my philosophy of acceptance and let other moms know it is OK to make choices that fit your family, not everyone else’s expectations!
I love those moments where it clicks. I’m also lean more toward free range parenting (it drives my husband bonkers), it’s hard not to feel judged when you take the step back approach.
good question. i cant think of anything off the top of my head. i know i find myself saying things my mom always said. but good luck potty training. my girl was good to go by 2. i kept it simple, treats and stickers and pad time oooooonly if she sat on the potty. 🙂
We are a low tech family so no iphones or ipads. The girls are happy with books on the potty and pretty much where ever we go. They are just very strong willed kids who want to be the decision makers. I can’t wait until they become teenagers [sense the sarcasm?]. LOL
I’m currently in that “I’ll never” phase of my life, but give me 5 years and I’m sure I’ll be sprinkling magic fairy poop dust all over my house too. Such a cute idea!
I love that you sprinkled glitter everywhere! I celebrated my daughter’s half birthday today to make a sad week better. Never thought I would make cupcakes for a half birthday!
Oh we celebrated this year’s half birthday! My girls thought they were getting half a birthday cake… lol They got store bought chocolate chip muffins for breakfast and a round of Happy Birthday each. LOL
It really happens in their own time. When they feel they are in control of it. It’s just not easy affording all those diapers in the meantime! Hang in there! It will happen!
Thanks! The girls are pee-pee trained…. can go all on their own, but that pesky #2 thing is still a mystery to them. (And TONS of laundry for me!). lol Hang in there…it seems eternal b/c WE want to be done with it! LOL But, one day it all clicks and you realize you haven’t had to wipe up pee in weeks and you feel proud of your kids!
I am the eldest of 4, have a bunch of nephews and nieces and was a preschool teacher for 20 years. Believe me, by the time i finally had my own child I knew to never say never lol!
I love these tips. I must admit I am still not sure what to get my hubby for fathers day, from the kids, and I may just use your idea for the “car fund”. Even the make him king for a day one would be fabulous!
I love the fund jar idea! I truly believe that Father’s/Mother’s Day is from the kids, so I let my daughter pick out whatever she wants for her dad. She’s only three, so the gifts may be a little silly, but my husband gets a good laugh out of it anyway. It definitely makes the holiday more fun!
I love that y’all don’t purchase gifts, but that you out thought into something simple. Those are the best I gifts, better than anything advertised for these holidays in the store!
I always wait until the last minute too! My husband has been wanting copper mugs for Moscow Mules forever. I finally remembered to order some! He’s going to be so surprised! Now I need to figure out something for my dad. Thanks for sharing this great list!
So many great ideas! Pictures are always my favorite to give as a gift…but I love your idea of going on a picnic! We might just have to do that this year!
I totally agree! I love this post. I had a lot of negative feelings toward my c-section because I had to be put completely to sleep so both my husband and I didn’t get to witness the birth. Mom shaming totally stinks! I’ve written a post on it myself. I’m totally down for a group hug!
I love this! So true. We ARE all moms. All doing our best and what we think is right. It works for us and our family! Being a parent is hard enough, we shouldn’t have to worry about being judged on top of it!!!!
I agree. We are all Moms. I try to stay away for moms judging and all the drama that comes with it. Don’t judge someone until you walked in their shoes.
really great questions there. i dont even know if i wrote this on your blog or another mom’s, but i find it soooo hard to connect with other moms because it is ALWAYS about one-upping. i feel like that anyways and i am not talking about all moms, of course.
I’m all for group hugs! I think having a c-section or not would be part of a childbirth conversation. I love talking birth stories. Women need to get a grip!
So true!! It’s so easy to get wrapped up in mom drama! I am lucky to be surrounded by an amazing group of moms. My MOPS (Moms of preschoolers) group is amazing. I’m at the point where if someone is going to judge me or make me feel shamed, I don’t have time for them in my life.
I love #10, it’s a good rule to live by! My brother-in-law just graduated high school too and I remember graduating myself just like it was yesterday! It’s such a scary and exciting time and a little advice can make all the difference!
This is a neat idea. The boys only have toys at Mema’s so packing side walk chalk and other outdoor activities they could do would be a great idea. I would definitely pack a separate for the car that would include coloring books, travel printable games, reading books and snacks.
This would be perfect to take along to Mema’s when the boys visited. Not only would it keep them occupied during the ride but also during the visit. I have a activity basket that I keep in the car with snacks, coloring books, crayons, stickers, reading books and travel printable games.
This is perfect! Activity bags and baskets will definitely be around my household when I finally have kids of my own. 🙂 Love how you repurposed the broken basket as well!
I actually have a caddy in between their car seats, but they can’t reach it. (I thought I was being efficient lol). Easier for me to send things back to them, or hand off a new activity when I’m at a stop.
This is such a cute idea. Typically on a road trip to grandmas my little one usually falls asleep because I like to do it during his nap time. I wonder how long that will last!
I used to love writing letters when I was younger complete with the stamped sealing wax. I guess that is a lost art now. But The looked beautiful and so romantic.
Haha this is so true!! I used to LOVE receiving letters, and still have a few from old boyfriends lying around somewhere! I am so glad I am not 16 and starting to date with all the technology around – I have a feeling it could be mildly suffocating 🙂
What a great idea , schedules are a great way of documenting what needs to be done each day but a sticker chart rewards your hard work and records your activities . Good job and good luck with the rest of your posts http://www.fadedspring.co.uk
I’ve been thinking about doing this for my fitness journal. I write down what I do daily, but there’s nothing like seeing 30 days of progress at a glance. And, let’s face it – we all love stickers!
Hmmm! This is a great idea. I love stickers and something visual to represent progress, so I REALLY need to try this. Sometimes (okay, much of the time) it is hard for me to pin down that weasel known as motivation 🙂 Thanks for the tip!
I never thought of doing a reward system for myself like I do for the kids. This would be great so that I can feel better about what I accomplish during my marathon training!
Not sad…but also not a reward! lol That’s an essential mama!! I usually reward myself with wine or chocolate- which negate the whole going to the gym thing. So, I picked mani/pedi b/c there are no calories. 😉
Haha who knew that the little things that work for our children would work well for us, too! How exciting! I also wanted to say that I love your header and your about me. 🙂
What a creative way of keeping your children both educated and happy . I love how you have tossed aside projects with monetary value and created a project that is inexpensive and significant to your children’s understanding of the world x
such a fun idea. my daughter loves getting the mail and even takes my packages! lol. mailing a message in a bottle is probably the coolest thing i’ve heard of in awhile! i didnt know you could do that!
You can mail just about anything! When I was at the post office mailing this the postal worker shared the craziest thing he postmarked… a coconut. 🙂 You can even mail a flip flop if you put enough postage on it!
It’s always important for us to watch our own kids especially at the beach, near or in water. For us our beaches can be very dangerous with strong undertows, sleeper waves….So glad that everything turned out fine. Even with good swimmers keeping an eye out for them is super important. Our beaches don’t have lifeguards.
Yikes! I lived in Hawaii for 3 years, and I was on edge pretty much the whole time. Every time we went to the beach, I was vigilant about my children’s safety by ALWAYS keeping an eye on both of them. That pretty much meant my husband was the “fun” one playing, surfing, snorkeling with them, while I was the stick in the mud on the shoreline keeping a watchful eye on everyone haha.
You can never be too safe when it comes to water! Especially the powerful ocean.
I agree! Usually my husband is with me but was called into work. That meant I was alone with the two kids. It is a river beach- normally very calm. There were a lot of boats out churning up the waves. Lesson learned no daddy = no beach.
This is so true, we have to be vigilant whenever our children are near the water. It only takes a second and it doesn’t matter how old they are or whether or not they are strong swimmers. Accidents happen in mere seconds. Great post!
We are at the beach constantly and with 5 kids my eyes are all over the place. I am not a helicopter parent and my kids do know how to swim but anything can happen so I make sure they are being watched and stay close. Everytime we are at the beach we have random children come over to our areas and no parents in sight….amazing that more children do not end up missing in and out of the water.
I love taking my kids to the beach – it is a wonderful way to spend a summer day. Keeping vigilant is important as you have so clearly shared with your readers. Thanks for the reminder for everyone. It only takes a moment for everything to change.
Oh gracious! My son knows no fear and this includes water. In fact, he has his first official swim lessons this week and I’m feeling such comfort knowing that we’re both prepared in case of an accident. Summer is such a sweet time, but so important for us to be safe!
wow. i can’t imagine… im definitely a helicopter parent. i cannot help it. but even for those who arent, i completely agree, that should change around water. i dont think ill ever let my little girl run into the ocean. she has her first non-mommy and me swim class next week, and im already losing my mind. but its important she learns.
Thanks for sharing this story! I think it’s important to remember to always be watching, especially with kids and water. Lifeguards are a great pair of eyes, but they aren’t always focused on your child like you can be. (I do agree that she should’ve done more than just call down to you though!)
I’m with you. I am not one to hover over my daughter, but when it comes to water I stay close. When I was about 6 years old, we were at the beach and a storm started rolling in. The waves were getting a little too high. I was on one of those inflatable floats (no life vest) and started drifting out too far. I had to jump off the float and try and make my way back to shore. Waves were crashing over my head and I thought I was going to drowned because I couldn’t touch the bottom. The only thing I could do was swim under water until I could reach a point where I could stand. It was really scary and I still do not like to go in water that’s over my head.
I’m with you. I am not one to hover over my daughter, but when it comes to water I stay close. When I was about 6 years old, we were at the beach and a storm started rolling in. The waves were getting a little too high. I was on one of those inflatable floats (no life vest) and started drifting out too far. I had to jump off the float and try and make my way back to shore. Waves were crashing over my head and I thought I was going to drowned because I couldn’t touch the bottom. The only thing I could do was swim under water until I could reach a point where I could stand. It was really scary and I still do not like to go in water that’s over my head.
Oh my goodness, that would have been so scary! My kids love the water, but my 2.5 year old is starting to get to the ‘confident’ stage where she thinks she can do a lot more than what she really can! I have to watch her like a hawk, but it really only takes a second.Such an important reminder – thank you!
Wow you are a great planner I am not that organized that is for sure but I know plenty of people that do their christmas shopping in the summer. http://www.fadedspring.co.uk
I don’t think I will be able to get away with it much longer. The kids are still little so they don’t notice how much other kids are getting and haven’t asked for anything big yet…well, except a dog. That’s just not happening. lOl
You have a great plan. I didn’t quite make it shopping this month. I love to start early as well. It seems like I have a never ending list to buy for. I never know where to draw the line.
I love these tips. Now that I’m married and away from home, I’ve been thinking a lot about what traditions I want to start for our family (no kids yet, but in the future!). One thing I want to focus on is family time at Christmas rather than presents. This is a GREAT tip for that! Thanks. 🙂
Love this! I am usually done with Christmas shopping by October, but this year we are moving before Christmas so I don’t want to have extra things to move.
Now that my kids are going on 5…I’m not sure how much longer this plan will work in my favor. 😉 I think you can really get away with this in those first five years before they start to make a list of demands. 😉
These are some great tips! My 7 year old really doesnt care if toys are new or not so garage sales are a great way to shop. As for my 15 year old, she loves vintage, so heading to thrifts shops is great! Also, I receive a lot of gift cards throughout the year that I may not actually like or use (Forever 21 for example, not my style) and so I give those to her! I think the last few years I ahve spent no more than 300 for Christmas and that includes myself and hubby and other family and friends!
Within minutes of posting this several of my mom friends coordinated a park meet up with ice cream. We will each donate $6.00 per challenge and make a video of the results. So quick. So easy!
What a great thing! Giving back is such a rewarding experience, and it makes it that much better when there are these fun challenges involved. Thanks for sharing this!
I used to volunteer with a chapter before moving away from that area. It was fun working on the publicity end and setting up events! The Light The Night events are so incredibly touching!
I have heard a lot about Light the Night, but I have never participated in one. Tho I have taken part in many Relay for Life – 24 hour walk. So cool that you have helped work the vents! They could not be done without volunteers! Thank you!
What a great place. My cousin had leukemia has a child twice and now she is in her early 20’s and healthy. I love when celebrities give their time to good causes like this. Meeting Johnny Depp was my cousin’s make a wish.
I’m so sorry to hear about your friend; I hope all goes well. I love this message. We get so caught up in our mom brains that we forget to just live a little. Thanks for this reminder.
Great idea! I remember as a kid, my sister and I got to take turns deciding where we would eat for dinner on Friday nights, even when we were really little. Getting to make a decision was really awesome to us!
It’s always sad to get news that reminds us how short and precious life really is. What a fun way to be spontaneous with Happy I love you Day! Lots of fun memories made that day, I’m sure!
Woah, this was moving. I hope your friend is okay. Life is short and it is so difficult to remember that with all the to do lists. We try and do spontaneous things but my kids resist surprises. I think I will try this one day!
I took all of yesterday off and just enjoyed family time…all day! And it felt so good because you just don’t know how many of these moments you’ll have to treasure
I was an auntie before a mommy… I had no idea how easy I had it. Enjoy every minute of it because that too goes by so quickly and you are suddenly watching them graduate high school and starting lives of their own!
Such a nice post as my daughter sits next to me, refusing to go to bed. She insists she HAS to watch the Packer game. She’s happy. That’s what matters in this moment, right?! I am so strict on schedules that to let it go for a day or night, feels kinda good.
My kids are grown, married and have kids of their own now. They get so busy sometimes, I have to just pin them down to see how they are. I love spending time with the grands and I get lost in time and on my site because there isn’t time to do both when they are visiting :).
we are all just doing the best we can. SOme days are awesome & we do everything right, the other days well we wonder how we get anything right with them but as long as we do our best & they are loved, the rest will fall in place.
We missed you, but it’s totally understandable. Lots of ebbs and flows in our family. And surprises too. Not always pleasant ones. Today I was planning to get up super early and write a new post, but my baby woke up well before the alarm clock went off and now I have no post AND a cranky baby on my hands.
I love your analogy of the sea and parenting! It is hard when moms start to compare themselves to others – there really is no good that can come of it. I think that on any given day – we are all just trying our best! Hang in there!
This resonates for sure! I thought those days were over. I raised two daughters to 10 and 13…and things were becoming a breeze. The baby/toddler days were over and done and I was able to take naps, take some time out for myself, watch a TV show or two, put on some coffee or wine and read a book…
…and then I found out I was carrying baby #3! Yep, 10 years after the last one! 🙂 Oy vey.
Sometimes it’s hard. I think of the freedom I had just a little over a year ago, and now I have a 16 month old that has not slept through the night once. I feel like I’ve aged 10 years in just one. Zombies have nothing on this Mombie.
But then I think how blessed I am to have three healthy, funny, playful, beautiful kids and that’s what helps me each and every long day. Also, just before I found out I was preggo with my son I started feeling very sad that my girls were getting big. I pined for them to be little again, so I feel like I got another chance to revel in the baby/toddler/little kid years 🙂
This is a really long comment, so thanks for reading.
It all goes by so quickly!! My kids are only 5 and I keep thinking how are you 5 already?! I don’t want more kids- these two are enough for now. I am not so sure I’d survive another set of twins! lol
So true, we all have our ebbs and flows. I really thing we as parents need to be a bit kinder to one another and understand this is called life. : ) Glad you’re back!
I love this! I actually lost all of my weight, but my body is so not the same! It can be very embarrassing when I think of it in relation to society’s expectations, but I am definitely a proud mama bear and it was worth every bit of it.
I agree somewhat – there’s a patch of skin on my breast that will never be the same as it was pre-mastitis and I view that with a sort of pride that I’ve been able to feed my son who was born 30th centile and is now 95th. But I do miss fitting in my pre-pregnancy size!
What a beautiful post. It’s hard sometimes to look in the mirror and stop seeing what used to be (and wishing for it) and instead see what is and be proud and happy to have it.
I love this positive message and I so agree with you! You are so right celebrating women’s bodies really is a great way to help us be easier on each other because as women we can be so harsh!!
I’m so happy you created the Whatever Army! I am not a mom, but I feel like body shaming, no matter the reason, is wrong. Its sad that we have to have so many groups reminding people to love themselves, but since they are necessary, I’m glad one like this exists.
I’m not a mom, but I am 43 and I think the happiness and acceptance comes with age. You just decide to say F… it I don’t care. I need to be happy, If that means changing something about me fine, if it means changing my circle of friends that’s fine too.,
I just turned 40 this summer, but I agree the older I get the more I let go. But, I had a really hard time after the birth of my twins accepting what I was “left with.” I had worked so hard to keep my body healthy and the outside no longer reflected that. It took me a few years to realize all that work was to keep my body healthy through 5 months of bed rest and create two very healthy little humans. It may not look like a body that works hard any more, but motherhood sure is demanding on our bodies well after child birth! Glad you’re in a happier place…and great advice about changing friends if necessary.
Beautiful! I had my first child when I was 20…around the early 2000s when low-rise jeans, hip bones and crop tops were the thing, and there I was with my fresh new stretch marks and mama pouch. I learned to accept and love my body early on. If anything, it taught me to be a little more modest than I might have been otherwise 😉
What a great post. I think it’s so important to show our children that we love our bodies. I accept mine because I want my daughter to always accept hers.
Thank you for writing this. Your words are so important. Let me tell you, I HATE my boobs now. I go back n forth about getting new ones some day… is it really that important though? Otherwise, I feel better about myself, physically and mentally, after I had my daughter than I ever have. I think this is a powerful message for all women.
Great article and such an inspiration for the body conscious woman. I’ve had weight and negative body image issues since middle school. I’m much more accepting of my body now, and I hope more women will learn to love and accept themselves for who they are.
I love this post! I have struggled with my weight my entire life. I need to remind myself from time to time about how much my body ahs done for me. Giving birth to three incredible human beings, completed 70.3 triathlons, swam form Alcatraz. It has been strong – but yet there is always the extra weight. My goal this year has focused on self-care. I am getting there.
Those are all amazing accomplishments! You don’t need a picture perfect physique for your body to be healthy, strong and capable! You’ve completed 70 triathlons?? What? That’s amazing!
Love this post. It can be difficult to accept our bodies based on the images we are always being shown by the media defining beauty. I love your movement to take back our bodies and celebrate them in every shape and form!
I love this! As mothers, our bodies go through so much! I can’t think of anything more incredible than growing another human inside of our body. It is definitely not anything to be ashamed of. While I think health and maintaining a healthy lifestyle is essential, I also know that my body has not been the same since having my 2 kids, and I choose to embrace it rather than be ashamed of it.
I have a pretty healthy lifestyle with diet and exercise, but there are things that have changed about my body brought on by motherhood. I can’t change them without major surgery, so I feel like accepting them is my best choice. 😉
It’s so important to spread the self love message! We need to realize that we are more than the aesthetic body. What goes on inside our head is much more important.
wow – such a great message & I must admit, I am not very nice to myself most of the time. I am intentially trying to make a change but it can be so hard but I am trying & that’s what counts! Especially since I would never want my daughter to say anything negative about herself.
Such an important message. Naturally, as we age our bodies change. It can be a rough transition but no matter what, I’m still me and we all need to be as happy with ourselves on the outside as we are with the inside!
What a powerful expression of reclaiming the power that was stolen from you. Society degrades women because they are afraid of the power that we wield and consequently will do anything to make us feel inferior in comparison. Love yourself better than others love you and be happy in your own skin. Your children are powerful reminders of the strength that you had inside you to raise them as warriors x
This is a great post! I’ve never heard of this brand or these products, but I’m always up for trying new products that are safe, healthy, and not tested on animals, so I’ll check these out! Thanks for sharing!
Beautiful article for the mum and to-be mums but also for anyone finding it difficult to embrace their body. Love yourself media doesn’t matter
Thanks for sharing:)
It was hard post-baby to see celebs bouncing back in like 2 weeks… wouldnt it be nice to have a trainer come to you or want to take time away from your newborn? thats frustrating! you gotta be real about the time it takes to feel your best after you have a child and be okay with it!!! i feel better now than i ever have and every woman will get there.
I like how Beauty Counter is a healthier choice for your skin according to the Environmental Work Group’s Skin Deep Cosmetics Database. One thing I have been diligent about with my skin products is SPF.
Oh, gosh, those qualified “compliments” are just the worst. I realize most people don’t even know what they’re really saying when things like that tumble out of their mouths, but that’s the problem, isn’t it? People don’t think about the words we use enough to make sure we’re really saying what we mean! I’m glad you were able to let go of all of that!
I know people mean well, and I am sure I’ve said somethings similar thinking I was offering compliments. But, I definitely rethink my words before letting them escape my lips!
This is wonderful. You did something amazing and you have the right to rock how you look now. Twins are a lot of work, both before and after they’re born, so you do you!!
I think the issues with my body will always be an issue because the stretch marks will forever be there. It’s just a matter of changing my attitude and trying to feel good about myself.
Yes, stretch marks are always there. It took me a long time to see them as a part of me- not something that happened to me and I just want to hide them. Not that I am showing them off, but I feel a lot less insecurity about them when I remember how they became a part of me.
Your husband sounds so supportive, which is a huge part of self confidence. I think people try to be kind and don’t always realize how much we analyze their comments. Just from reading your blog, I know you’re a beautiful person.
There are some days that my body confidence is strong and other days that it just sucks. My son is always telling me I’m beautiful and I look like a princess so that helps!
My kids are still babies, so I don’t know how picky they are yet. As of right now, they both eat their food fine. I hope it stays that way, but I know that’s unrealistic.
Enjoy it! I hope your babies love food! My girls ate EVERYTHING I put in front of them until the age 2 1/2. Then they rejected everything. I swore I wouldn’t serve nuggets and fries but when your kids won’t eat anything you get desperate and take the plunge. They went through an adventurous phase where they tried a whole bunch of new stuff over the summer and now we are back to picky. Maybe one day I won’t have to work so hard to get them to eat! lol
That would definitely make for some stressful mornings! But if you take a look at what people eat for breakfast in other countries, cheese and meat aren’t exactly the weirdest ones on the list!
It’s usually all out hell here in the mornings with my kids. IF I can get them clothed and fed and out the door on time, I give myself a huge pat on the back! lol!
Oh my goodness how I love this so much! My daughter is hard headed and extremely stubborn about food! When I was pregnant I swore up and down she would eat healthy and would like it! Wrong! She hates it! And she eats in the car on the way to school! We live an hour away from her school and my work. So I do the best I can!!! It’s nice to see we aren’t alone in picking certain battles. Thanks for sharing!
I went through that recently. Every complaint about cereal. One day it just clicked, she doesnt like cereal! Duh Mommy. Lol. There are so many other options.
My son is such a picky eater, but the things that he loves are so off the wall, like scallops and tuna and salmon steaks. I guess he likes all seafood, haha! My husband is a chef so it kills him that our son won’t eat what he cooks.
I wish I could relate to this, but since I am not a mom yet it’s hard for me to understand what you are going through. But I completely empathize! And know that you are doing a fine job <3
Becoming a parent immediately clashes with every preconceived notion ever formed! One thing motherhood has taught me was patience. It is something I pray for daily 🙂
I can so relate to this. Our twins sound exactly like that, but both are not morning persons, so you can just imagine how chaotic our mornings are on school days.
I am seriously thankful only one twin is this way. If both gave me this much drama every morning I might be homeschooling just to save me the agony of leaving the house so early. 😉
Our favorite Halloween tradition is to invite the grandparents over for dinner and then go trick-or-treating as a group with all of the neighborhood kids. It’s so much fun for our children to go out trick-or-treating with their friends!
I have to admit I do like more natural products, they seem to work better with my skin – I shall have to treat myself to some Poofy Organics I think. x
I admit I’d be pretty skeptical of natural deodorant, too. It’s not like I have to use the Rx strength, but I’m pretty close. And down here you just don’t play around with sweat protection 😉
I think it takes time to find a natural deodorant that works with your body chemistry. That’s why I’m happy to give one away free for someone to try before they buy!
My girls have tons of hair, but the strands are fine, so we live in TANGLE CITY. Haha. I’ve probably tried almost every detangler and leave-in conditioner there is. I haven’t tried this one though! 🙂
We carve one of those intricate-looking pumpkins from a stencil (they aren’t actually that difficult!). Then we go trick-or-treating around the neighborhood.
Oh darn, I missed the giveaway! But that’s okay- this is just a good reminder for me to pick up my favorite Max Deo sticks (the Chamomile-Lavender and the Lemongrass!) when I go to playgroup at the Waddle n Swaddle in Rhinebeck today 🙂
Head lice is seriously the most terrifying thing to any mom with kids in school. I wonder if stuff like this actually works? Nothing scares me more than the thought of my kids getting them!
Exactly why I thought I’d try this out!! It has tea tree oil in it which is said to help ward off lice. I don’t know if enough science is backing it, but I’ll give it a try!
My Mom convinced me last week to use those crystal deodorants instead of regular ones with chemicals. i bought a roll-on version for myself, and one for my sweetie. I wouldn’t mind trying a natural stick deodorant.
I have a 2 year old so I totally get this and relate to it 100%! I have had to let him cry it out a lot lately. As exhausting as it is, I know he is learning a valuable lesson and becoming familiar with the word “no” is a must for coping throughout life.
We don’t get many tears over here unless it’s something major like and injury or stress. I just tell the kids it will be ok and let them cry it out. Listening is huge too, let them tell you why they feel the way they do. Sometimes they just need to be heard.
I am thankful that my child never really did this when she was younger & yes I realize I was lucky but it’s all part of them trying to communicate & it will work itself out. =)
She is a twin…both born premie so they are a little immature for their age. I think much of it has to do with always competing for attention. Its different when you have two kids on the same developmental timeline. It’s a crazy ride for sure! lol
She was born a sensitive child. I think it will always be a part of who she is. There is a sweetness about it, but then there is a definite roller coaster affect that some days get hard to keep up with. 😉
Major props for knowing your kids and recognizing and communicating the consequences of actions to even little kids. I see so many parents jump to the ‘not my angel’/who’s to blame for this script before truly reading a situation and, in the end, the kids don’t get the benefit of learning how to handle disappointment.
It is definitely important to let them cry it out sometimes. It’s hard, so hard, to do sometimes, but it’s a necessary tool in the parenting bag to teach your kids responsibility and accountability.
My son is drama Llama and cries about every single thing. We try to talk him through his emotions, but it’s just in his genes. I cry at the drop of a hat.
My daughter is beyond emotional… I wonder where she gets it from? Lol. But I agree, it’s important to let them know that they can cry if that is how upset they are. But listening to rules is a must. I love a good cry. It’s a nice release for me to be able to move on.
I agree, sometimes, we have to let our kids cry. My girls are very sensitive, too. You tell them something and they cry easily. I just try my best to explain things to them.
I hosted a Great American Bake Sale table for the No Kid Hungry campaign a couple years ago. It’s a great cause, and it really makes sense to combine it with Thanksgiving traditions!
This is wonderful! My grandfathers both served in the military and I have an uncle who did as well. Supporting our veterans is definitely something that is important to our family.
What a beautiful story. My grandfather is a WWII vet. It’s so nice that up until now, he still gets support from the government even if he is not living in the US anymore.
This is such a sweet story. My father is also a Veteran from the Vietnam War. I’ve had family members in every single war since WWII. Thank you for your service taking care of Vets and thank your family as well 🙂
If I were to list the veterans I know, the list would get long. Veteran’s Day is special to me because I grew up in a military household and I’ve now married into one. The military has always been (and always will be) a big part of my life. Thank you so much for sharing this story and the history behind it! Happy Veteran’s Day!
I know what you mean, Aja! This is why I like having the smaller, travel-size EnviroCloths in the house. I can dedicate one to the outside of the toilet and the area around it, so it’s easy to clean that spot, and that cloth is only used for that purpose. 🙂 I can’t wait to see what you’ll get through your Norwex party. It went so well!
I’ve been using norwex for over a year and I never run out of cleaning products because all you need is the cloths. They work great and I’m saving money! No more chemicals in my house!
Hi Cynthia! Having Norwex cloths in my home has made my life a lot simpler. I have 3 little kids, so we have a lot of messes to clean up! I hope you’ll join the private Facebook chat for Whatever Mom readers on Friday night. I’m looking forward to talking with lots of other moms about Norwex then!
I don’t like doing the dishes, either! I like using Norwex’s Dish Cloth because it’s long-lasting (ours is about 1.5 years old) and easy to clean, and it’s replaced all of the sponges I used to buy. It works well for simple dishes, but if something has a ton of burned on stuff, I use a Spirinett (a stainless steel scrubber). It’s saved a few pots and pans that I thought were ruined.
Hi Juliana! I’m glad you like your Norwex! I hope you’ll join the live chat we’re having for Whatever Mom readers on Friday night. I’m looking forward to hearing about everyone’s favorite products and their cleaning challenges!
These look great. Thanks for the giveaway, I hope I get the chance to try these out, I have heard rave reviews about them and love they just need water to clean.
Hi Ana! I’ve had such positive experiences using Norwex at home. I hope we’ll see you at Friday night’s live chat for Whatever Mom readers. Please ask Roxanne or me to invite you to it 🙂
I can’t wait to see who will win Roxanne’s giveaway! I love having an EnviroCloth and Kitchen Cloth on hand at home. If you have any questions, please reach out to me. I’d love to invite you to the live chat we’ll have on Friday for Whatever Mom readers.
I’m really curious about these cloths! I would love to try them. Dust drives me crazy and seems to return so quickly. I would love if they could keep dust away longer!
If you have time to stop by the private Norwex Chat happening on Facebook Friday night please do! Rebecca or myself can send you an invite. It’s a private chat for The Whatever Mom readers so you are free to ask any questions you want! Hope you took time to enter! Good luck!
Feel free to join our private Facebook chat exclusively for Whatever Mom fans! This Friday night at 9:00 p.m. Rebecca will answer all your questions about Norwex at no obligation. She is a wealth of knowledge!
They work REALLY well! You can join us for our free live chat on Facebook at 9:00 p.m. Rebecca will be available to answer all your questions with no obligations. She can send you an invite directly to our private group!
Definitely a MUCH quicker clean! Our table always has kid crumbs, sticky stuff and kid prints on it. The kitchen cloth cleans it so much faster than a sponge!
Bless you and your family! We never went without the basics, thankfully, but I know Mom worked a lot of overtime back in those days and did without a lot for herself to make sure of it for the three of us.
Thank you so much for spreading cheer this year and for doing good works of service. I don’t remember much about my mom, but I do remember that she could cook up a storm! She was even a lunch lady at my school when I was little, back when they actually cooked the food!
I’m a big believer in small things add up to big change. 🙂 Even though my family didn’t have a lot of extras, my mom still volunteered when she could. She took me along with her!
I know that you are making your mother proud because you are using your past to help others but also are acknowledging the hardships that she faced raising you but I know that she would not change it for a thing!
I always worry how I can teach my children the same lessons without them having to live through what I did. They have a much different reality than I did. Which I am thankful for, but makes me more determined for them to learn how to give back.
This is the kind of black friday shopping I wish more parents would do. Books need to be a gift for every child. Enough of technology, sit and read with your kids. Thanks!
What a wonderful idea, books that give back! I love Barefoot Books. They have such wonderful illustrations and great stories for kids. This is a great deal!
It is so sad to me how many people are food insecure. My area has a food bank and our co-op donates to that regularly. I think this is a great idea, especially at this time of year!
Everyone gets so involved this time of year that places are overloaded with volunteers. I try to set up different times of the year to serve as well. 🙂
I love this “12 Days of Service.” My church is doing something very similar over the next few weeks. I love this season of giving and your food drive is a wonderful way to serve and help others!
I think donating food to the homeless or those who need it is an excellent idea, they go through so much and especially at this time of year when everyone is receiving gifts it is important to help them.
Great Idea. love that you’re sharing this too. When I was a kid at school in UK we had a “harvest festival” each fall. Basically a food drive. As kids we’d make the food up into baskets and we’d distribute the food to local needy pensioners and families. Not even sure if they still do this, I hope they do!
First of all I love your header photo. It is too cute with all the moms in the background. Second thank you for this idea. I have been looking for opportunities to volunteer this holiday and this is an excellent idea.
I think this is fantastic we always donate to charity especially at this time of year where many cannot afford basic costs never mind presents and it is truly sad.
I never thought to use my home as a collection site – that is a good idea! I don’t leave my house all that often now with three littles…it is entirely overwhelming! Especially when it is cold out 🙂
Oye the amount of clothing you have to wrangle along with the kids in the winter. Makes me exhausted just thinking about it. lol I only invite people I know, but it brings all the items to me and then I only have to leave once to drop off. Much easier! 🙂 Plus the kids help with sorting and see and hear what’s happening.
I really want to start doing things like this with my boys. I want to teach early that there are always others how need help. I think they would really enjoy it.
This is a great idea! I love to go through our clothes and toys this time of year to give as much as we can to charity. It is so rewarding knowing that we can help others in this way.
we just got done donating a ton of clothing/ household items and it’s always such a great feeling knowing someone who needs our old items will benefit 😉
Wow, now that’s a fantastic idea, to host the drive in your own home. I’m sure organizations would appreciate that, and your friends would like to visit with you when they drop off various items. I’ll have to talk to my hubby and see if we can work this into our calendar.
The great part is these kinds of drives work right into parties you may already be hosting. 🙂 People are already coming to your house. It’s amazing how much people enjoy being able to donate.
What a wonderful deed you’ve done! I love this series too–it’s always great to promote ways to give back to our community and I love that you’re sharing this on your blog! You rock!
We tend to donate all our old clothes to different areas in need. I receive flyers and if I have a bag of clothes sitting around, I give them a call to come and collect.
I have a friend that hosts Holiday Open House every year and asks her friends to ring a warm coat to donate i they can. It is a great way to remind us to grab a coat to donate, stop by and visit, and have a warm cup of cider!
My dad was a volunteer fire fighter for many years. I grew up in and out of the station. My heart goes out to the fighters and the families who have to wait for them to come home!
Now that’s really smart–hosting a collection at home and turning it into a little party, too! I have a stack of clothes I recently cleaned out of my closet, waiting to go to a better home, but I didn’t think to look through our coats in the hall closet. Now I will!
It’s definitely add good reminder to go through all the stuff from past years and make sure there’s year for the new things that are going to be coming in this year. I agree with a few of the other commenters he said that they’re going to be cleaning out things. I love your approach to decluttering and focusing more on people this time of year.
It’s definitely a good reminder to go through all the stuff from past years and make sure there’s room for the new things we can’t wait to open on Christmas day. I agree with a few of the other commenters that said they’re going to be cleaning out things from closets. I love your approach to decluttering and focusing more on people this time of year.
Thanks for the reminder to show appreciation for people who serve in our communities. It is easy to remember to thank the people we see every day but there are plenty of people who dont get the thumbs up they deserve. bravo. cheers.
We have a local coat drive near us ever winter and we try to contribute when we can. We also try to donate toys and any winter clothes and boots our children have outgrown at this time of year because there always are families in need. I love that you are doing this 12 Days of Service. What a beautiful idea.
Supporting those in service industries is a great way to spend time leading up to Christmas. Even if they are paid, the hours and type of work are quite demanding beyond what they receive.
OK, hahaha, first I love that you used the phrase “pillsbury persuasion” – that’s hilarious! and second, I love that you show your gratitude to those who keep us safe and protected. What a wonderful reminder 🙂 thank you!
I love this! I usually buy a box of cards each year and have my children write in them and we send them to our local children’s hospital. I am checking out your FB page now so I can also participate!
This is such a brilliant idea! I hear so many people talk about how much they appreciate those who serve their community but taking action and SHOWING them is a great idea.
My dad was a volunteer fire fighter when I was young. I spent a lot of time at the fire station and seeing first hand how these men and women operate. My dad passed 11 years ago, so I feel like I’m doing a little something special in his memory.
Our local grocery store used to do a coat drive, and now that I think about it – I haven’t seen one done in a long while. I think the stores and other areas have been concentrating on food drives lately.
This is such a lovely thought! We were at a christmas tree lighting tonight, and the local fire brigade brought Santa and Mrs Claus along in their truck – my kids were awestruck 🙂 I always make cookies for neighbours, but never thought to do it for the local departments.
My friend Tabitha sends Luvmail to children throughout the year, and your mission makes me think of her – you guys should connect 🙂 I’m happy to do an intro, but you can find her at Random Acts of Luvmail on Facebook 🙂
Getting the family involved in service is such a great way to teach kids about kindness and compassion. This year we are donating toys to the Sherif department for kids they come in contact with through unfortunate circumstances.
You obviously have a kind heart and a creative mind and you’ve found such a great way to utilize them! Congratulations on your organizations growth and keep up the excellent work!
It’s great that you are putting time and effort in spreading the Christmas cheer. We spent the last few days making home-made cards for senior citizens in our neighborhood and today we started delivering them personally with a piece of fruit as a gift. My kids thought it was a great way to spend Saturday!
What a great way to spread the holiday cheer! I love how a simple act of kindness has grown over the years and touched so many lives. Your series is so inspirational, I love everything you do to help others and set an example for giving back.
This is an amazing idea! I am sure that it makes such a difference for those kids and their families. I have been trying to think of something that my very young children can start doing as service to our community, and something like this would be very very good! I may try to start something like this in my own community, thank you for the wonderful idea!
This is such a good cause, and I would like to participate. I checked out the Facebook page to get a sense of what this was all about. I plan on making a few cards and sending them out.
What a fun idea for giving! I never would have thought to give away a birthday swag bag, but I would love to receive one. Shopping for a birthday party can get so expensive and I always forget at least one thing.
What a great idea for making kids happy! Birthdays are such an important time for little ones, specially with the peer pressure from their friends. This that you are doing is a wonderful activity.
What a sweet idea!! I bet the servicemen and women in our area would adore getting Christmas cookies as a kind Christmas gesture. You are too kind! Thanks for inspiring me this morning 🙂
I think this is a wonderful idea and it is great to get some practice at a shelter. I am sure that the shelter is really pleased about your contribution.
This is a great idea. My kids want a dog but they have no clue what it takes to care for a pet. I’m afraid the responsibility to care for the pet would fall on me. I think having them volunteer at an animal shelter will be a good way for them to get a taste of what it takes to care for a pet. Thanks for sharing this!
My kids have been asking for a puppy for the past few years. Having them volunteer at a shelter is a great way for them to get a taste of what it’s like to care for a dog.
Don’t forget they always need towels and blankets. So, if you don’t have time to give maybe during spring cleaning (or before you toss a towel) you can find something to donate. Thanks for reading!
Oh boy! We have two big dogs and I love them, but they are a huge amount of work and responsibility. My youngest and I often stop by our local animal shelter to spend time petting the cats. She loves it and so do all of the cats.
I love Operation Gratitude. When I lived out in LA I volunteered for one of their box packing days. I also hosted a party with my friends and we all wrote cards for the service men and women. I should do that again …
It’s a great way to connect! I was fortunate that there was a military mom in my group who helped us out. She was so grateful to give back since her son came home safe. She was a great help!
You always have such worthy causes on here, but I think this is the best so far. War is never easy, for the soldier or the family left behind, and it’s felt all that more on holidays.
You’re right! It isn’t just the soldiers making a sacrifice. It’s the families too! They have to miss a holiday, or months of their lives without their loved ones!
Wow! This is a really great option for gift giving. I know so many would be so happy to receive these. I’m so glad a program like this exists. Most of my family is in the airforce. It can be difficult to be away from those you love during the holidays.
I am a pacifist but I respect everything that the veterans have done for us and how much of a sacrifice they make. It is always important to remain grateful.
I am not a fan of war myself. But, I can definitely appreciate someone else volunteering to put their life on the line for my safety! I am forever grateful to those who have lost life and limb so I can sleep in my safe, warm bed at night. 🙂
Wow I can’t imagine having my brother gone for Christmas, nevertheless doing something so amazing and serving to our country. That is such an incredible way to give back. Glad he is home safely now!
YAY! good for you for doing this. I love that you are helping all of those furbabies and I always tell people I know who say they are looking to get a pet, to check these centers first and save the pups! You are right too, they could use all of the help they can get – so good for you plus they get to learn all about taking care of the pets and all the responsibility as well! 😉
I love this series that you are running! So many great ideas. I love the work of Operation Gratitude. It is the organization that I sent our excess HAlloween candy to.
losing a pet is so hard. We have an older dog and I worry about how many years she has left. We also have a puppy that we got in the beginning of the year. My daughter would have us get a thousand dogs if it was up to her but luckily it’s not.
My daughters like to change up the list of breeds each day…we are up to a poodle, a golden retriever, a husky, a black lab and a chocolate lab. That’s just today. 😉
I’ve always wanted to volunteer my time with the SPCA. As a dog lover, I know they need all the help they can get. It’s been my experience that getting a new dog does help heal the pain of losing a companion.
Thanks! My friend gave me a poem about getting a new dog. It is written from the perspective of your lost love and how your dog would want you to love again. It’s very touching!
This is perfect timing, our kids are joining a caroling group at church tonight and are SO excited! They’re visiting an assisted living facility, the neighborhood around the church, and a few specific senior citizen’s homes.
This is precious! I’m embarrassed to say I have never been caroling. I would love to, though! My mom took my siblings and I to visit nursing homes when we were younger. I have some wonderful memories of those times.
How beautiful, I agree giving something back to the community costs nothing and to see their faces light up with happiness is beyond price. Say yes to community.
I was going to call the animal shelter this week to see about volunteering. My daughter would love it. I would like another dog, too… but I keep telling my husband I need a bigger house first, 😉
I love this. My daughter belongs to a group at school that visits different communities/facilities around town that cater to the elderly where they will visit with them & sing. I know they enjoy it so much.
I’ve loved following along with this series. You’ve given me so many great ideas for how to share love and service with others. My oldest is just slightly too young to sing carols but this is a great idea for next year!
You are right. My elderly next door neighbor lost his wife over the summer and I was going to bring him some cookies, but I think maybe I will bring him a meal or even invite him over to eat with us at our house.
This is a great idea. Well done for setting up something to bring joy to others lives. Thanks for linking to #daysoutwithatoddler. Would you mind adding the badge please?
I thinking this is a great idea! Generally being aware of what others are doing, or may need, around us seems to be difficult in this day and age. I think often we are looking down instead of out around us.
Very kind, generous ideas in here. There have been days where I had wished for someone to do one of these for me. But I being impossibly proud would never have accepted.
Thank you. I used to find it very hard to accept kindness from others. It took me many MANY years to realize that by not accepting what someone offers I keep from them the same good feeling I get when I give. 🙂 When someone pointed that out to me it totally changed my perspective (although still takes practice).
This is another great post from you. Christmas is not just about gifts. You are already spreading the cheers with the little acts of kindness that you do everyday.
I’ve always said that the biggest sacrifice one could make (other than their life, of course) is their time. Time is precious, and when we give it to others, that is the best most selfless thing we can do! I love this!
I love this series so much. You have such great ideas for service projects. My brother was in the Air Force and we used to send packages to him and his friends all the time.
It is so important to give back not just during the holidays, but all year long. I think it is great you and your family are making a difference in people’s lives. It is amazing how even the smallest bit of kindness can make someone’s day.
Such an amazing thing that you are doing and what a great organization. It is so important to give back to those that are putting their lives in danger for our freedom. Thank your brother in law for his service on behalf of myself and my family. Merry Christmas to you and your family!
I recently saw a story of someone in my area doing something similar! We try to bring all of outgrown winter gear to the church shelter. My kids are always very concerned about the kids in our area and how they are doing. Wonderful way to help!
I always always ALWAYS spread a little cheer when I’m talking to my cashier this time of year. I used to work in retail during the holidays and trust me…IT SUCKS! Any way I can bring a little happiness to their day is a great way to give back even if it’s very very small.
I used to work retail too! Picture it Christmas 1990 something… the year of the Tickle Me Elmo. It was a mad house that day and tears were shed. Changed me for life! 😉 I know how hard it is to work retail at Christmas! Thanks for sharing your kindness!
Such a great idea for the season of giving. Too often we get caught up in money, gifts and the over indulgence.
I’m sorting out my closet this weekend!
This is the cutest and sweetest idea! Of course, here, it was 80 degrees today, so I may need to leave a wrapped bottle of sunscreen in our local park! haha
I have never been caroling before, and I don’t think I’ve ever witnessed caroling in real life. That must be such a heart-warming feeling to bring cheer to a nursing home in this manner.
I seriously think this is the best idea ever! What a great service you are providing people who need these items for when it turns colder – what a blessing for them =)
I like the series that you are carrying out and it is lovely to carry out random acts of kindness. I love surprising someone and making their day special.
Awww that is such a good idea and great fun decorating with your kids. I surprised my mail woman this morning with a box of chocolates and I received a lovely hug 🙂 x
Love the idea of recycling gently used stuff. I’m already a huge fan of recycling old wood as I love to use for decor and backdrops. I’ll be going through some of my stuff this weekend to give away what we don’t need anymore!
What a wonderful idea. I love all of your day of service ideas you have been doing this holiday season. You are doing a great thing for your family and others in need.
Absolutely love this idea! We’d have so much fun doing this together. I remember so many special things my mom did with us kids that have stuck with me after all these years. Really love the countdown you have here, It’s so nice to see!
Kindness is spreadable! I love your ideas. The other day at school one mom made a comment to the effect that she is the mom that forgot yet another important tidbit and was vocally berating herself. Another mom stepped up and told here she was ridiculous and reminded her of all the the does! This was just a quick moment as we were loading into cars for a field trip – but the words from the second mom totally changed the countenance of the first mom. Kindness changed her day.
Small acts of kindness really can have a huge impact. You never know what someone might be experiencing at the moment and what your small act of kindness might mean to them.
I remember one day there was a single dad shopping with his daughters who were just giving him a run for his money. He was really trying to impart manners and good behavior. I simply said to him, “you’re doing a great job with those beautiful daughters of yours.” Immediately his demeanor changed and he felt a bit of pressure fade away. We chatted for a bit about parenthood and when I walked away I could tell all of us were feeling lighter. 🙂 I wasn’t in the best mood when I walked in, but it helped to find something to compliment someone else with.
That is an awesome idea! And one I think my kids would absolutely love to do. We haven’t gotten anything for our mailman before, but he is a very nice gentleman, perhaps we should!
What a lovely way to show appreciation for those who are in service. It’s helps me thinking now to do the same appreciation to our mail man or garbage collectors.
What a lovely idea to appreciate those who are in service. It helps me thinking now what appreciation can I give now to our mail man or our garbage collectors.
I have totally enjoyed your days of service! It sounds like you have a husband that knows the meaning of family. I will be putting a gift card out for my mail person. Thank you for the reminder.
What a cute idea! Every year in our town a charity sets up a tree where people can leave hats mittens etc…. And if you’re in need you just go and grab what you need. I think it’s a great idea
I’ve always wanted to reward our mailman for a job well done…he’s so thoughtful. One year I wanted to give a big box of candy but didn’t want to feel the pressure of doing something similar every year. Maybe we can start with holiday cards – it’s the thought that counts.
There is always so much to do! I am glad that you made it home and all is well. I don’t struggle with perfection, but my to-do list is longer than there is time in my day. Long list can leave us all to be overwhelmed. I hope you find time to rest and heal.
Baby’s first Christmas is so special and I wouldn’t mind using any of these keepsakes to memorialize that special day 🙂 I especially love the Handprint ornament!
This year my gift giving is limited to the kids in my family. There are way too many young adults in my family with expensive taste. Enjoy your holiday on your own terms 🙂
Yes I often think that a lot of people talk and give advise but they never listen to it themselves. Something I learned a lot of when I was studying psychology.
being a mom today is so hard. We have so much guilt trying to make our children’s lives as memorable as possible (I’m guilty here too). But I do think we all need to just let some stuff go
I hope you’re getting better. You share the same struggle as me. Everything has to be perfect but I learn to just let myself loose and let it go because I realize life need to be balanced. Imperfection balance the perfection, and it makes life richer. That’s what l found. Take care.
Glad to hear you’re okay. But you’re right, this is a definite struggle. I have to actively work at letting my “perfectionism” go. Hope you get some rest and enjoy those babies!
I try not to be a slave to my to-do list – it is hard! I am a lot less concerned about making sure everyone else is “happy” at my own expense now though. I am glad that everything is ok! It is a good reminder to slow down a little bit!
so glad you are alright and regarding perfection . . Sometimes we expect things to be so out there & when they don’t happen it can be so depressing, so learning to live with ‘good enough’ is usually so much happier of a place! 😉
I can relate to this post. For me, it’s not so much achieving perfection, but the overwhelming weight on my shoulders when I know that something is going to set me back. Whenever I get sick, or something knocks me out for the day, I am constantly thinking of all the things I have to do for clients, how far back in my writing this will take me, etc.
That’s really great that they’re breaking into the theatre scene. As an actor I can testify to the many nightmares of using stage makeup. Excited for a product like this to come on the scene. I make my own makeup for everyday where, but that doesn’t cut it for stage. Thanks for sharing! Excited to check it out!
I struggle daily with letting go of perfectionism too! Thank you for this timely reminder! And I’m SUPER glad that your ER trip wasn’t something horrible!
My favorite mom on the go beauty tip would be if you don’t have time for the full makeup shabang just apply a little foundation, blush, and mascara! Especially don’t forget the mascara!
I found the best thing for me is to set up a good routine of cleansing and monitor ozone daily. Also, mascara goes a long way! I’d really love to learn more about makeup though and I’m pretty close by in newburgh, Ny.
Taking care of your skin is so important! When I was younger I did nothing, and now I am realizing I need to kick it into gear! The dry winter weather isn’t helping anything for me right now though!
Great review. So important to take care of ourselves inside and out! I think the big key is to moisturize. Lots on the outside, and water for the inside.
I love that the palettes are non-toxic! Seriously, so much makeup on the market right now is ridden with toxins. And those magnetic square trays are genius! I’d love any of these on my Christmas list!
I am sorry to hear that it was a scam and thank for warning others of how dangerous it is to believe everything that you see on the internet. You have to be so careful.
I’m glad that it all worked out so well! I think you’re totally right. Getting surprise gifts in the mail is so exciting, we should definitely do it more often. 🙂
Glad it worked out you! A few friends.if mine signed up too and got nothing in return. Normally I would have signed up but this year I opted out and I’m kinda sad I did.
Too bad it ended up being a scam, always some people out for themselves and spoiling things for everyone. Sounds like you made a a new friendship though!
This is such a cool idea but I would definitely be a little weary that no one would reply. I think I’ll modify it and try it out with a group of friends instead next year!
Glad you were able to get some lovely gifts after all. I saw this going around and the warnings too. I hate when something sounds too good to be true. I always want these things to be real, but it seems you really have to do your homework!
i have heard so much about this brand from my blogger friends but never had the chance to try it. So thrilled to know that their palettes don’t contain all that harsh chemicals. Definitely checking them out.
Awwww glad it worked out! I had a friend do this and she ended up getting a lot of fabulous gifts! So I don’t know…. I saw the warnings all over so didn’t give it a try, then saw my fiends fabulousness… Guess it was probably just one of those things where if you got flaky people or not
It’s sad that things like this have been messed up so much that they’re illegal. I think they’re fun as long as everyone is just doing it to bless others.
Congrats!! I’m so happy for you. I know one topic that I would like discussed ( and forgive me if it’s already been touched upon. I’m new to your blog and haven’t read through all yet :))
Anyway I have a 7 yr old boy , who although at times can be challenging I feel is just part of being a 7 yr old adjusting to 2nd grade responsibilities. However his teacher keeps pointing to ADHD. I know in my heart that he doesn’t fall on the spectrum. But I feel that I’m the only one. A recent visit to the pediatrician left me with normal blood work. Normal hearing (thank god) but a lot of forms to fill out to see if he fits the criteria. And even if he does. I’m against meds. Sooooo I’m wondering if anyone is in a similar boat
Thanks Cathy! I can tell you, you are definitely not alone!! I agree this is a great topic for me to reach out to other parents with, who like you, are feeling like they are the only ones. Thank you!!
I would like to see a post on how parenting can change you or has changed you? That would be a good one or parenting from the perspective of your child?
Congrats on being a featured parent in 2016 for Hudson Valley Parent! So exciting 🙂 I enjoy reading your parenting insight and can’t wait to see what you share in the new year!
What a great recap from WordPress. I loved your Body Beautiful posts. As far as the dark parts of parenting we all have them. My friends and I refer to parenting teens as the dark ages. With my children ranging fro 14 − 26, I am not out of the woods yet.
congrats on your feature, that’s awesome. One thing I would like to see discussed is how much sports is too much sports for a kid. Being a former competitive swimmer, training at the age of 13 for 2 -4 hours a day, 6 days a week, I reckon that was too much.
I am currently parenting three age groups: one toddler (19 m), one tween (11 yrs) and one teen (she’ll be 14 next week). I’m finding that it’s easy for the middle child to become THE MIDDLE CHILD when they’re sandwiched between a baby and a teen (both of whom are time-consuming in their own ways). Maybe you could touch on ways to make middle children feel just as loved and tended to! I know I’d love to hear some tips 🙂
I heard about this, and someone told me it was kind of like a pyramid scheme and the people at the top ended up getting the most gifts or something. I don’t really understand it, but I would definitely be skeptical!
Sometimes, but I remember that I have friends who probably went through it too. When I call them about my frustrations, they laugh and said their kids did the same thing. It makes me feel better to know he’s not a mutant.
My second (and youngest) is THAT child. I post pictures of his meltdown on Facebook all the time because I just have to laugh it off at this point. It’s like he goes out of his way to make things hard sometimes 🙂 That’s ok, though….he’s cute, so it cancels it all out.
I am not a parent but I understand where you are coming from as I look after children and have done since a young age. It can be difficult to show them you are boss and even harder to show a fine line between control and being a bully.
I have two very independent and capable little humans so it’s more of a control the situation at hand than them personally. They are at a stage where they argue with each other and I’m just like, “HEYYYY!!! Let’s not beat each other with toys today!” LOL
I don’t have kids, but my friends do. And I often think about them when I sit here drowning in work, housework, finance stuff, and more… um they do all this WITH KIDS TOO! Then I’m reminded that I have it easier, but then that’s one reason why I chose not to have kids 😉
Its so easy to forget that kids are meant to be curious which almost always leads to a mess, spill, broken bone, etc. As frustrating, exhausting, and unpredictable as parenting can be, I wouldn’t change it for the world!
I think that’s one of the great things about blogging–being able to see that you truly are not alone! My brothers weren’t twins, but they were very close in age (15 months apart) and we routinely had to separate them, one at one end of one sofa and the other at the opposite end of the facing sofa, just so they couldn’t touch each other. They probably had the same time-outs in caves, this sibling behavior is so pervasive.
I think that’s one of the best thing about blogging–you get to see that you are truly not alone! My brothers weren’t twins but were very close in age (15 months apart) and we routinely had to separate them with one kid on one end of one sofa and the other kid at the opposite end of the facing sofa just so they wouldn’t touch. That sibling behavior is so ingrained, I bet they had to do it with cave-kids, too!
My New Years’ Resolution was to work on softening my tone. By the end of the day, I feel like I’m the one whining and sounded perpetually frustrated. So I’m practicing staying calm and my tone gentle and kind, even when I have to be firm. It actually makes me feel better and keeps the focus on her behavior instead of how I’m feeling.
It’s always hard. Just hard for different reasons. I just hugged my youngest good-bye as she leaves for her final semester of college. I have two already out of college and this is her senior year – You would think I could do these goodbyes by now without the waterworks! It’s hard.
I think every age and stage brings about a new set of challenges! As much as my kiddos drive me crazy I do miss them when they are at school (college is a ways off).
I appreciate reading this because my 3 year old has taken me for a loop the last few days. He wants to be called “Otto” only and acted up so much that I gave up on grocery shopping the other day. It helps knowing I’m not the only one.
I once had to leave the grocery store after I had loaded ALL my items on the belt. My kid was SCREAMING so loud I just looked at the cashier and said, “I’m sorry but I can’t do this.” I left everything there and walked out of the store. It happens!
Parenting is definitely a lot harder than anything besides marriage for me. I have a few spirited kids which make life interesting at times. Thankfully, they usually save the bad behaviors for me.
I love my kids…but, I honestly in all my experience with kids have NEVER met such stubborn and strong willed humans before!! Not even in working with adults!! Ha, ha!
I enjoyed reading this post – it was entertaining. I am not a parent, but I go through ‘auntie struggles’ – my nephew is a joy to be with, but sometimes, he honestly makes me thrilled that I’m just an auntie. Hope I didn’t offend anyone…just my personal opinion.
Ha, ha! I so get it. I LOVE being an auntie! My nieces and nephews are all so awesome and well behaved that I believed parenting was a piece of cake! LOL
I was so nervous to read this when I saw the topic… And I’m pleasently surprised!!! Every blog I read about breastfeeding is all about #normalizebreastfeeding and it drives me crazy. Breast milk is great, we get it… But don’t push so hard that you’re making other mom’s that can’t (or don’t want to!) breastfeed feel like failures! Great read! 🙂
Oh yes! I know other moms are going through it, but it seems like in the moment I am the only one! And why is it that kids can’t wipe their own bums? It doesn’t make sense to me at all…I guess I should be thankful they are at least using the toilet…
I don’t understand what’s all the buzz over this very natural matter. Millions of women breastfeed their babies on the other side of the world and it’s nobody’s business whether when or when they want to do that. The different though with what Alyssa did, these women they don’t feel the need to expose their breastfeeding moment to the whole world. Anyway, this is very thoughtful post!
This is so interesting, really, to read that as a mother you see motherhood being marginalized. It’s interesting because, as a not-mom (by choice), motherhood seems to be anything but marginal- or minimalized. Just goes to show the different perspectives from looking out and looking in, right?
Frankly, I thought Wendy Williams was absolutely ridiculous in that clip and I can’t tell if she is genuinely that ignorant or if she was just playing devil’s advocate.
I never felt that way before I became a parent either. I always respected a moms role. But, you would be surprised by the comments I received when I decided to stay home with my kids. I was told I was “wasting” my college education. I left a career I’d never get back (which is OK, I kind of like this new one). I was told that “sexism” is alive in my household (however, if I made more money than my husband he would have quit his job). Other moms have said, “I could never stay home with my kids I’d be too bored.” As if my job as a mother is so mindless. (I admit now that the kids are 5 I am starting to get bored with routine, but this is the first year I’ve felt this way!). The list goes on. Meanwhile I’ve started my own charity, run my own business, and started a whole new writing career (all while juggling twins and a household). I agree, it depends on which side of the story you are in. 😉
This is very eye opening to someone like myself who doesn’t plan on having children! I’m amazed that parents hold it together for so long, you definitely deserve much more credit for the good job you’re doing!
ppl act like its so bad and it blows my mind !!!!! I much rather see a pretty mom breast feeding instead of a 1/2 dressed woman !! good for you Laci @ sequinsinthesouth.com
I think, in recent years particularly, that people are just too aware of what others do, instead of just taking care of their business. The world has become very hostile, but well in order for that to change we need start with evaluating ourselves.
I think is very ridiculous to question what a mother does to their children, how she feeds them and raises them. The majority of the mothers, if not all, just want the best for their kids. I did not generalized to all because there are always the exception of the rule. But well said.
To breastfeed or not should be a mother’s choice. Plus, there are some that want to but their breasts just don’t produce milk so they can’t. In conclusion, people should mind their own business haha.
My five year old is very spirited and chatty. He makes this screeching noise that makes me nuts. This week I figured out that he likes Simon Says AND that “Simon Says talk in a whisper” works to quell this issue, if used sparingly. Next week he will catch on and I’ll have to figure out a new trick.
I was excited when I discovered how much my girls loved playing the quiet game in the car! They are so competitive neither wants to lose! So it’s a nice quiet ride to school most mornings! lol
I’m 3-ish months away from having my first child and, I must admit, breastfeeding is more intimidating to me than actual child birth. There IS a lot of pressure and with that comes a lot of frustrations (from what I’ve heard and read). I’m trying to educate myself, decide what feels right for me & baby, and let the judgements go in one ear and out the other. Thanks for the post!
I actually saw that clip prior to reading your post and was like Go Alyssa!!! I think society has completely lost sight of what is important and needs to refocus!
I completely agree with you. We all have to do what’s right for ourselves and our children. No one else can make that decision for us and it’s disappointing when others try to judge us for our choices.
There’s been a lot of talk about this in the media lately and while I don’t have any children or experience with this, I totally respect the decisions you’ve made!
Thanks for the reminder. My oldest son is a gem, but my second one gives me a run for my money every single day! It’s easy to feel like I am doing a crappy job as a mom, but I am doing my best 🙂
This post could not have come at a better time. One of my twins literally spent most of the morning crying at me. I could find nothing wrong, and nothing would fix it and make her happy. And naturally, that set the other one off. Misery loves company.
I think all parents feel that pang of guilt. As the saying goes, kids don’t come with instructions. You do the best you can, and as long as your kids feel loved, you are doing a great job. I’m sure it can’t be easy with twins.
I love the honesty you poured in this post. You are the treasure for your kids and so are your kids for you. That will never change whatever situation you and your kids have to deal with. Don’t bother with what other people think. Btw, the quote above is so true! We need to start with ourselves before share it with other people. I remember the song Whitney Houston sung Greatest love of all, some of the lyric say, “Learning to love yourself it is the greatest love of all”, I think from there we can share that greatest love to our children, husbands/wives and others.
I personally don’t have children but I can only imagine how tough of a job it is! And I agree, having small support system around you for when things get tough is always a good idea!
Parenting is hard. Plain and simple – it is hard. It is also exhausting – physically and emotionally. I have always called the teen age years the dark years as it can get pretty scary sometimes. Somehow we make it! The kids sure are lucky that they are so dang cute and that we love them unconditionally.
2015 was pretty awesome! I have one goal for 2016: Not buy any toys or books. We have too many toys and can get any book we want from the library. Instead we will spend our fun money on experiences.
I don’t have kiddies so I can only imagine how tough it must get. I love the quote you included at the top of the post, it holds true for everyone and anyone – “You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.” Words to live by. Thanks for sharing 🙂
I am reading this at a perfect time! I am close to losing it because my daughter thinks it is hilarious to fight naps/bedtime by kicking me in the face, biting and pulling my hair. I keep on telling myself that it is not going to last forever and that she doesn’t do it on purpose. Having children do teach you how much patience you have for sure!
I had my computer crash a few months back and lost so much of my blog stuff, it was awful! Hopefully you can get it up and running again. I LOVE the philosophy behind your blog and totally support it!
I absolutely love this! I know that I am not perfect, but I also know that I am doing a fine job. However, there will ALWAYS be days of meltdowns and chaos. It is just life with kids! Expecting kids to be able to manage their emotions when many, many adults have their own versions of acting out and tantrums that just look less obvious is nuts!
It’s hard to have just twins. I feel like if they had an older sibling, or older cousins to emulate instead of just each other, the crazy roller coaster of emotions might not feel so steep! lol
Oh no! Twice in one year! That’s like lightning striking twice. 🙁 Hopefully you’ll get it resolved soon and you’ll be back to it in no time. — I hope you had your things backed up!
My kids are now adults (still living with us), and they can STILL get me frustrated beyond belief. And I still have days when I resort to a meltdown. Thankfully the good days FAR exceed the bad … and for the invention of cocktails. 😀
Hi Whatever Mom…Loved this series of 12 Days of Service. We did a handful of them with our 5 and 3 year old. The first one was this one and we dropped cookies off at the local state police barracks. It was a great experience. Thanks for all the ideas!
Hi Whatever Mom – Thanks for these ideas. We did a few of them with our 5 and 3 year old and as a family we loved it. This was the first one we started with by visiting our local state trooper barracks. It was great for the kids to see their giving in action.
Why is such a big deal about breastfeeding? Breast milk is best for babies. Some don’t understand that because some mothers are only concerned about their figures. If I had enough breast milk, I will continue breastfeeding my daughter ’til my milk is gone. I envy the moms who have lots of milk to provide for their babies.
I’m fortunate enough to have my Mom close by, but even the last date night I had with my husband was almost two years ago. We celebrated our anniversary 5 months late. My Mom has her own busy life so we try not to use her as a sitter unless it’s absolutely nesscary. Sometimes we are given busy hectic lives, and we feel like we hardly have any help. Like you said all you can do is make the best of what you have. That’s what we do too! <3
glad to read in your comments that it was fixed fast. I’ve had that in the past twice and ended up buying new ones both times. so glad you got yours fixed 🙂
I love your honesty here. I have parents who live close by but my mom has limited availability so I know what you are talking about here. I just keep telling myself the kids will only be little for a short time and to enjoy this season of my life 🙂
I am in a different situation because I am divorced from my boys father and he & his new wife share custody with us, so Chris and I get a lot of time off. I can’t imagine not getting a break.
Aw it can definitely be hard feeling alone. My whole family is 2 states away from me (my son has my in-laws close-by, though, and I do get to revel in the mentioned alone time) and I struggled with these feeling before I met my husband. I think friends can step into the roles of family/cousins/grandma 😉 and help you feel more supported.
Aw it can definitely be hard feeling alone. My whole family is 2 states away from me (my son has my in-laws close-by, though, and I do get to revel in the mentioned alone time) and I struggled with these feeling before I met my husband. I think friends can step into the roles of family/cousins/grandma 😉 and help you feel more supported.
I get it. I come from a small family, and my daughter’s father is not around. His family doesn’t know us. I’ve gotten close with many of our neighbors, most of whom are older with grown children. They all love my daughter and help me out when I need something. Blood doesn’t make family ! It’s like she has extra grandparents ! Even one of the aides at school seems to have taken on the role of an aunt… Take support where and when you can !!
We have definitely been fortunate enough to build our own family here. I have some really great friends and very supportive neighbors I couldn’t live without!
Oh, i totally understand that feeling. I have family close by but I always feel guilty… so I end up passing on childcare ALL the time. It’s exhausting.
My parents family always lived very far away when I was a kid, now with my own kids we live in a three generation household and I wouldn’t change it for the world. They see Nana every single day. I think we are really blessed, I am not sure if my husband agrees. 😉
It is ok to feel bitter because you have been through a lot. I wish that you could get more time to yourself but parenting is a hard slog and you are doing so well.
My parents moved back to the area when my sister and I had kids. What’s funny is that while having them nearby is a blessing, there’s a different kind of frustration and jealousy that happens with us – usually over who may be spending time with who, and how much. We only go out about once a year, as well.
We do not have any kids yet, but I know if Adam and I did have kids we might be in a similar situation; we do not live near any family members out here since we moved to Arizona, so I highly doubt we will have time for date nights or small trips if/when we have children. Keep your head up, lady! You are allowed to feel moments of frustration and wish you had the luxuries of others–it only makes you human!
I understand what you’re saying. Jealousy is, unfortunately, a very real and hard thing to deal with. While my mother-in-law lives here in town, I have a brother-in-law who monopolizes her time. His kids are constantly at her house and so when we ask for a babysitter on rare occasions, we’re often told she can’t because she already has his 3 kids (like every weekend). Even when we set something up far in advance (like an anniversary), at least one of his kids will end up being there anyway. I would love for my kids to get time with just their grandma the way his kids do (she’s always taking them shopping, or whatever) It feels frustrating that she feels free to tell us no, but for some reason can’t tell him no 🙁
I figure since there’s nothing I can do about it, I will try to just focus on the positives– she loves her grandkids dearly, and we do get occasional babysitting, so at least it’s something! lol. But it’s hard not to be jealous especially when it comes to our kids.
I am in a similar situation. My mom lives close, but travels so much for work we rarely see her. Our dates tend to be putting the kids to bed and trying to watch half a movie before the baby wakes up 🙂 I’m sure it will get easier as the kids get older though…at least that is what I tell myself!
Expecting our first, I completely understand. I’m already so jealous of the moms who can call their mom and have them come watch the kids at a moment’s notice, even just so they can run errands!
My situation is similar in that my kids have no grandparents. My parents aren’t in great health and have a hard time traveling to see us and my inlaws are the same. I, too, struggle with jealousy over moms who have awesome, involved grandparents, especially when my friends complain about their in-laws(who constantly babysit, help out, etc). Sometimes, people don’t realize how much help/support they have, even if it’s not perfect all the time!!!!
I like that it is compact which makes it a great travel purchase! Also the fact that it protects against bacteria is great for as I have a poor immune system.
I have never heard of the breathable toothbrush covers. I like the surgical mask analogy. I like to keep our bathroom and hygiene items surgically clean.
First, I just found your blog and as a fellow twin mom, I am in love! In love with your “whatever” philosophy and even moreso in love with your mentality. Maybe it’s just a twin mom thing, but we are SO, SO similar! I too have no outside help and have found myself envying those “friends” of mine who get date nights or go on vacations. Heck, I would LOVE to just make a trip to Target without two screaming toddlers in tow. But alas, such is life. My husband owns and operates his own construction company and as you can imagine, that keeps him away from us working the majority of the week. Yes, I am super fortunate to be a SAHM, but as you know even we get those cases of burnout. My mother is also “out of touch” although she likes to believe she’s an active grandma and participant in my kids’ lives. Our extended family is HUGE. Yet, I can count on no one to lend a helping hand. I am beyond fortunate my husband is amazing when he is home to help out with our boys. In short, thank you for being so raw and honest. You are my new favorite. ????
Awe Twin Mama you are so awesome! (Maybe that’s a twin mom thing too). It does help to know I’m not the only twin mama struggling. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply with kind words and sharing your experience too! All my best to you and your family!
this is such a great idea. We fortunately have out toilet in a separate room from the sinks but still, I always wonder about what’s flyng in the air – eeehh! this would help 😉
Omg I definitely feel where you’re coming from! Hubby and I rarely get a date night because there isn’t someone to babysit….. Definitely puts a strain on things….
I have 3 strong willed children. It seems like we have battles everyday but we are learning to pick our battles while also teaching our kids that they will not always get what they want or do what they want.
I used to be a huge morning person. No more. My teenager used to have crazy style when she was little and I just ran with it. We liked to mix patterns.
I have to say that souffle comment made me laugh! Sounds like you know how to pick your battles! I don’t have kids yet but I still get up an hour early for coffee and me time before the craziness of the day!
My daughter would wear stripes with plaids because “They both have lines, Mom!” and really, it’s hard to argue with that logic. The kid has impeccable taste now at 16, and I often ask her opinion/approval on what I am wearing.
Once again, IN. LOVE. This was so similar to one of our battles today. Where in your 2 year old mind did you think having quarters in your mouth was okay??? And why, sweet Jesus, WHY…. DID GRANDMA GIVE YOU LOOSE CHANGE?! You’re 2. You don’t know how to count much past 10, let alone understand the quarter is a filthy pieced “knicknack”. So, please. Just STOP. Soufflé or socks. Quarters or germs. It’s all relevant. Some battles are worth fighting. Others, nope. It is about those little (and sometimes big) victories. I am TIRED.
I can totally relate to your daughter’s outfit. My daughter found a pair of pink batman socks in one of the bins of bigger clothes that have been passed down to us, and she wears them over leggings. Most of her outfit choices are really wild, but somehow she pulls them off. And I’m like you– it’s not worth fighting over those little things. Heck, maybe they’ll end up being fashion designers 🙂
I am not nor have I ever been a morning person. However my daughter is, go figure, so she is nice & let’s me sleep a little extra on the weekends since she knows I stay up late, lol
I have become a morning person over the years, because my oldest is an early riser – the one with the smile on her face, that is her 🙂 I try to let the little things go…for the most part. Sometimes they will wear me down though, and I’m working on that!
I am not a morning person either! However, because I work from home and get to work when I’m ready to work, meaning I can sleep in a little longer, I don’t mind getting up early on the days that I have to be up for something. Regardless, I’m still not a morning person though!
What a great product! I feel like I’m guilty of not taking care of my toothbrush. These seem like they would definitely keep away the bacteria I normally don’t pay attention to. Great post!
I can see myself using these for travelling but I’m not sure I would use them in the house.
All of our tooth brushes are placed in a toothbrush holder and then in a drawer to keep them as clean as we can. We also swap them out every couple of months too.
My kids are kinda goofy and they would switch the covers just to see if we noticed (eww!!)
I hadn’t heard of this company before! I’m always forgetting to keep a reusable bag in the car for those pop-in stops at the store, something that folds small would definitely be good to keep on hand. (I might have one or two at home, already, I just need to find them!)
I need the medium bag for my purse. I keep saying I want to keep an extra bag with me for those times when I go the store and forget my bags. I’ve heard great things about Rume.
The tote is a fantastic idea , I like monograms it reminds me of the 90’s which is coming back into fashion. Always nice to have something with a personal touch.
Fantastic site. Plenty of useful information here.
I am sending it to several friends ans additionally sharing in delicious.
And of course, thank you to your effort!
That tote is awesome! And the play mat as well, although my littlest wouldn’t stay in it for very long at this point (we went from crawling to running it seems). I have been thinking about re-doing my bag organization…right now it is not working! This looks like it would definitely help.
I was not familiar with RuMe until I read your post. However, I really do appreciate a great pouch, bag or holder that has a lot of pockets , and helps me stay organized.
I have been dying to play that game. My sister in law has it and keeps saying she’s going to do a game night, so I am holding off until she does before I go out and buy it myself.
I have had so many of my friends tell me that I need to play this game!
I hear it’s hilarious! Just waiting for the next games night so we can get in on the fun.
Sounds like a great game – I have not yet played it, although I know many friends who really enjoy it. I like the idea of a mom’s game night. I am going to see if I can get that worked out with my college friends 🙂
What a fun time! I am not typically a game person – too competitive and a sore loser 🙂 But, I think I could definitely have fun with this game and a bunch of girlfriends!
I have been dying to play that game! I’ve only heard great things about it! Looks like it was a fun girl’s night. And yes, finding a place for the kiddos to go is a must!
ohhh that “Think About It’ sounds like such a great idea for kids (heck-anyone) and it just amazes me all of these great shows available now for our kids to watch.
These are awesome! I didn’t know there were so many websites out there geared towards kids! My son is not quite old enough yet, but I’m sure he’ll be surfing the web soon. I’ll have to keep these in mind!
This sounds like a great site! We are relatively low tech for the kids as well, but I am always searching out safe options for them. I will have to check it out!
This looks like a super cool website! I’m going to have to write it down for when I’m teaching full time again! I love finding fun, educational websites that can be used in the classroom!
I think this is a wonderful idea! Actually, my youngest son’s 3rd grade class is doing something similar this year and I love the positive effects on all of the kids in his class.
I love any book that teaches kids about empathy. I have a chronically ill child and I can tell you that empathy is completely lacking in a lot of kids.
Wow! What a fantastic road trip! The aquarium sounds brilliant, with Beluga whale and penguins, but then, you don’t stop at that, you’ve got actual dinosaur footprints! And then, a mini supermarket! My kids would be in absolute heaven, especially with the pizza thrown in, too.
Awesome #daysoutwithatoddler – I’m looking up Mystic right now!!
I wasn’t familiar with this company before reading your post, but I will be definitely checking the out. I love skincare/body products, especially when they are made in the US and don’t contain all kinds of chemical and synthetics.
This is such a wonderful idea! I love the buckets and envelopes. This is definitely something I would like to incorporate once my daughter gets a little older.
Yup, it happens. I have sent my kids to school with the sniffles before, but if they have a fever – I keep them home. We wash our hands A LOT, but they still get sick. It happens.
Exactly we all have different methods of looking after/ administering care to children and that is not a bad thing. People should respect your decision because it is not their child!
Thank you for saying this!!! I get so tired of people talking about going to the ER or hospital for every little dang thing. “Oh my gosh, I sneezed, I need to go to the emergency room!” I’m with you, I’m over it.
Amen! You sound like my kind of mom. I don’t send kids when they’re super sick (my husband would pretty much never keep them home unless it was something very serious!) but you just have to deal.
These are great tips. I usually wait a few days before bringing my child to the doctor. If on the third day the fever didn’t stop, that’s the time we go.
My little one has asthma and people always freak out on me for sending her to school or church with a nasty cough. She has TERRIBLE asthma people if I keep her home every time she has a cough she would miss from November to February!
I now have three kids and I don’t run to the doctor with every sniffle. But I’m so glad I could when I only had one and every sneeze was the end of the world. I just think I would have exploded from anxiety, if I didn’t have a doctor tell me, it was ok.
Kids get sick. It’s a rule. But you are absolutely right about moms needing to support one another rather than judge. Hope your kiddos start to feel better soon!!
I’ve definitely felt my share of guilt around what to do for my son when he’s sick. When I had an office job, I felt guilty for not being able to keep him home, but also guilty for sending him with a runny nose.
I’ve never heard of HungryRoot, so thanks for sharing. Those noodles look interesting. Love that they are gluten free and you really enjoyed them! Always looking for new ideas and this could be a timesaver!
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Yum! I have so many food allergies and suffer from the same thing as you! I get the kids and hubby meal all prepped and sometimes am left with nothing for myself. This would be perfect! Thanks! Found you through the twitter link up on Bloggers Get Social 🙂
Thanks for introducing me to something new! My family members are die hard carbaholics, I wonder if I could fool them? Do they have black bean noodles? Someone was just telling me about them today!
Wow, this seems really cool! I keep hearing more and more about subscription meals and really want to try! I will take advantage of the free one to see what it is all about!
I’ve never heard of HungryRoot, but it sounds delicious. I am so that person that wonders if there’s any flavor after it’s all things free. I’ll have to check these out.
I had to laugh really hard at your first sentence about there being flavor in an allergy friendly recipe. I have found many ways to get around the lack of flavor in these types of recipes and I try to tell people it doesn’t all taste lifeless!
Wow, these dishes sound amazing and lots of my favorite flavors, sweet potato, falafel, mushroom, coconut, CARROT CAKE! As a patient who us trying to give up gluten, dairy and sugar, these all sound heavenly to me!
I’ve tried a few meal/food delivery services and was disappointed every time. This looks like one that would be the exception to that. You had me at gluten free 🙂
That sounds amazing! I often make zucchini noodles, but nothing out of root veggies. I would love to try something like this though. It looks delicious.
I love making veggie noodles at home. This looks like a great program for people who are on the go and don’t have time to make them themselves. Thanks for sharing!
I’m trying to get back into yoga. I’m more of a pilates girl, but this class sounds so intriguing. I really do like how yoga does more than just work the body, it also works the mind.
Sometimes you learn your most important life lessons in the strangest moments and it is so uncanny. I agree we need to learn that it is ok to make mistakes but do it with grace and accept that it is ok to be flawed.
I’ve been really interested in trying aerial yoga. It seems like such a fun class but also a challenge, since I have no upper body strength lol. I love the connection you were able to make between this class and parenting.
We could (or actually I could) talk to you for hours about life lessons on the mat. Yes. We’re all going to make mistakes. It’s how we handle them that matters.
Honestly, I am all for anything that can de-smell my house. You would be horrified if you smelled my boys sometimes – especially my oldest after he comes home from karate class. P.U!
I always love the smell of our home when we use scented oils. I’ve used scented candles in the past, but I’m scared of letting the candle burn for too long. Glade has a variety of smell-goods that, well, smell good! Haha. Love their Hawaiian Breeze scented candle.
Isn’t it nice when they are old enough to pitch in around the house. This past winter my oldest was old enough to legitimately help shovel the snow (he’s 11) and that was a HUGE help!
I am a candle, scented oils, seasonal fragrances junkie too! Every time someone comes to my house, they tell me that my house smells like a craft store. Thank you, I’ll take that as a compliment! I have candles, scented oils and warmers throughout my house in every room.
I am so in the same boat as you are. My kids are old enough to help out and I am not the one who spit their toothpaste all over the bathroom sink. I am finding little things here and there to delegate to my kids and it is glorious
I’m all for making the house smell fresh and inviting.
Nothing too strong but just enough that people notice.
I try and switch it up depending on the season so we don’t get bored.
Oh yes, I am looking forward to those days! My older two are starting to be better about taking care of their things. We are all about chore charts around here right now, but I still tend to hand off tasks when I am overwhelmed!
I don’t have kids so I can’t relate to handing tasks off to the kiddos BUT this is something I have been working on in 2016! Handing off tasks that don’t have to actually be done by me but can be done by someone else…and it’s really freeing!
It really is freeing! Before kids I had a hard time handing things off too! I wish I had known then how much stress I was causing myself. It didn’t feel stressful at the time, but now I can see it! Good luck with your 2016 goals!
I’ve learned that it all gets done eventually! I am a recovering perfectionist so handing things off was hard at first. But, now I feel like even if they don’t do it perfectly half of my work is done already. 🙂
I have enjoyed letting my kids help me with some things. I let them take toilet paper around to the bathrooms. They enjoy doing it and it does help me.
I am a total candle junkie as well, but have had to cut back with little ones in the house! I have never thought about the wax melts, will have to check them out
girl let me tell you fro experience – the day I taught my daughter to do her own laundry was a game changer! BEST decision I ever made . . .just wait & see! 😉
I think it is so important to have kids help out with chores. I use chores as an incentive and a learning tool that you must work to get things you want in life. If my daughter wants a toy, we have chores and rules in place that she must follow for a week or two before I buy her what she wants. My daughter just turned 4, but she always wants to be mommy’s helper so she’s been helping me with chores since she was 2. She would put clothes in the washer (we had a front loader) and dishes into the dishwasher. Now that she’s 4, she knows she has to pick her toys up off the floor every night and she makes her bed every morning…which is kind of funny because I have NEVER told her to make her bed. She just started doing it all by herself one morning.
We’ve also had chores since around age 2. Two kids and a husband- I was outnumbered at the get-go! lol I needed to get them on board quick! Plus, it’s life lessons, not just obligation.
My girls both have chores, the little one mostly runs errands for me, which is when I hand her things to go put them in the right room when we are picking up, but it works really well!
I could have written this post myself. 😉 I definitely hand off a lot of chores to my husband, but I think motherhood is the biggest chore of all so the boys can handle the household stuff!
I remember being a perfectionist before kids. My friends would always say, just wait. I thought no I will do everything. Now I just try to get through the day and do what I can.
I have a treadmill that I have been doing the Couch to 5K series. I am just about to start week 5. I would like to check out those walking DVD sessions that on youtube. That might be fun to mix it up!
I run every day and I do it not only for my body, but for my mind. I just feel so much better when I’ve gotten a workout in, even if it’s just a quick one!
I love that you’re trying to keep yourself active for your family. It’s so important to keep them in mind whenever we do things. That’s the curse of the parent, right? Haha.
I say anything we can do a few times a week to stay active is a great thing – good luck with these & hopefully you have found something you can stick with – that’s always the hardest for me 😉
I love my home gym. Canceling my gym membership is in my top 5 of all time best health and fitness decisions. Find what you love and you’ll stick with it!
Thanks for the link to Leslie’s walking video. I’ve been trying to walk every morning, 5 days a week. I have found it has been giving me a lot more energy throughout my day. With this video, if it’s raining I can still do my walk.
I love this! Sometimes you have to let stuff go and do what’s in the now. Especially when the kids are little – they are only this age once. The other stuff can wait.
This is such an inspirational post. Oftentimes I find myself working more than I need to on things that aren’t making my life better. It’s one of the many reasons I have to stop myself and spend time with my family, go for a walk, and clear my mind.
I usually like to keep to a schedule and if I get off schedule, I get very spazzed out lol Lately, I have been just taking days as they come and only doing what I can without stressing about it.
I have to have a list, but I definitely don’t always go by it. It is just mostly a list of things I need to do for the day…ie getting my daughter to practice, etc.
First off – how nice that “EVERYONE is getting a 25% discount just for being a reader” – Thank you – and what cute shirts to be sure – I’ll be checking out their products –
I agree with this so much. Now that my daughter is 9 I realize just how fast it’s going and want those special moments with her so much more. So to-do lists can wait.
The target app is my life! I literally shop on there before actually going to Target or else I’ll be spending a lot of money haha nice post xx felinebykatsairs.com
I have been hearing about the iBotta app from different bloggers so I am strongly considering downloading this and using it. The savings add up so why not? Thanks for a helpful post!
I have to agree with you on the walmart shopping. It’s always a zoo, we have actually started going to ones that are farther away from our house because they are quieter. We used to have a target but they have since left Canada which makes me sad..they had the greatest stuff!
oh yeah the Cartwheel app from Target is like gold! I love it and have saved sooooo much money when I am there every week. It really is a great money saver.
TOO FUNNY ! So it’s not just me screaming like a lunatic in the yard for the neighbors’ entertainment. I think even the squirrels line up for the show…. And I have taken her chair away at dinner time. She had to stand for the whole meal…. Keep smiling and Happy Spring !
Such a relatable post for all readers. I like the unique twist on couponing and saving cash. With limited time on our hands, I’m glad someone documents different ways of saving ! Great post!
Not alone in the taking away is chairs…at some point all 6 of mine have had to stand while eating lol…and some days I don’t dare get in my car, for fear I will not return…
I spit my tea across the table at your Bring the big one of wine home. It must be something in the zodiac system, because I can totally relate to your day! Hang in there…. it has to get better…. RIGHT????
I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels like the kids never listen! lol I’ve thought of having their hearing checked just to be sure they in fact can hear me! lol
hahaha I laughed pretty hard at this. I’ve had those days and there are sometimes where hiding in the bathroom for a few minutes is all it takes to jump back on the wagon.
Yes, I have days like those as well. Sometimes you just need to get in the car and get out of there. Often, I like to send my husband and the kids out of the house so I can just sit in silence 🙂
I don’t know what it feels like to be at your rope’s end with kids, except for the times I spend with my nephew and he is tap-dancing on my last nerve. I feel for you, and enjoyed reading your post. Sorry, but I had to snort a little about how the window wasn’t working…I can tell you were definitely having ‘one of those days.’
I was an auntie before I was a mom and I never felt that last nerve being worked before. It was so much easier handing them back off to their mom and dad at the end of the trip. 😉
I can totally relate! Crazy how sometimes a trip to the grocery store is our version of paradise. I think that it has to do with feeling a bit of normalcy in or crazy worlds. Hang in there! So glad you had your mom to call!
You guys have break early! Ours isn’t for another 3 weeks, but we are packing up the troops and heading back to DC. Less chance of them driving me bonkers if we are away 🙂
Yes, we are early. Another friend of mine doesn’t have break until April. Easter was so early this year and we had no snow days so my guess is the teachers were all ready for break by now. 🙂 Have fun in DC!!!
Oh my gosh, reading this post makes me want to deep clean my entire house. Literally, I was sitting here on my couch with my laptop on my lap and read the part about spider webs and furniture and reached behind my sofa to see what the heck might be going on back there. It sounds like you guys had a productive break!
We just finished our Spring Break a week before Easter. I had a ton of cleaning to do as well and I always get my girls to help out. We had at least 4 garbage bags full to send off to the Salvation Army thrift store.
My 5 year olds are pretty good about helping with the daily chores. But we moved around furniture which they were eager to help with by sitting on top of it and demanding a ride. 😉
Normally I don’t have help. So, I often make a list of tasks like windows, bathrooms, closets and tackle one at a time. Then when I’m done I like to stare longingly at my progress. I know it won’t last long, but I want to relish the satisfaction of a finished project. 😉
I love spring cleaning… or rather I love chucking a load of old stuff out and de-cluttering. My kids, however, wouldn’t part with a toe nail for fear they might need it one day. Can’t wait till they’re older and it won’t matter to them as much.
We’re on spring break this week and I’ve been working on organizing and spring cleaning. I think I need way longer than a week! Our issue is clutter. My goal in life is to have a place for everything in our home.
That’s what I want! A place for everything and everything in it’s place. Well, that’s hard with a hubby and two kids. But, we purged a whole bunch of stuff to make room for the things we use the most and truly love. It already feels less stressful!
I just make sure that I work on one area at a time, instead of thinking of it as the entire house needs to be cleaned, one closet, one set of drawers, one corner. I have the same thing, two littles stuck to me all of the time.
I agree! We did one room at a time because there were two of us working together. When the kids get involved they like to “help.” Normally I encourage it, but not when it will take me another 3 hours to clean up their help. lol
I started laughing when you mentioned sticking items so high up so little hands can’t reach! Haha! Yes we have all done that I’m sure! Thanks for giving a wonderful narrative of your spring cleaning. I really enjoyed reading it!
I can totally relate to your feelings about cleaning. I too clean when Im trying to control something…. especially when my world is spinning out of control! Kids grow up way too fast don;t they! Unfortunately I can relate to that too 🙂
I am excited for them because I remember how much I loved school. But, sad I’m going to miss them so much. It’s the beginning of life taking off at top speed.
I clean when I’m trying to procrastinate on a project or deadline…which means I get a clean house but then I’m scrambling to meet a deadline and missing out on quality people time!
oh wow it’s always so emotional when you put away or pack up items from the kids so we can move on to the next phase of their growing up. I need to do this on the past couple of years still and hopefully will get to it soon.
I try to deep clean my house at least every 6 months. Well here’s the truth…I cannot seem to keep furniture in one place for too long. So I move the furniture, get horrified of what I find under it (I have a 4 yr old!) and begin to ask myself if I’m going to find any rodents somewhere and the deep cleaning begins!
I had the same cleaning schedule before I had kids. 🙂 Now I have 5 year old twins who are always (literally) hanging off of my body. Makes it hard to do the dishes most days! LOL
Wow! I love the concept behind this company. What an amazing endeavor 🙂 Sometimes I’m nervous that natural products might not smell that great, so I love how you included how good that scent was 🙂
Same here! I have such a hard time with scents that overpower me and set off my allergies. I feel like so many people have the same affliction so I like to share that.
This looks like a great product! We are slowly replacing everything that we use with natural options, some things are so hard to find, like deodorant that actually works!
I haven’t heard of HelloMellow before but that body oil looks divine. I actually prefer body oil because my skin absorbs this faster than lotion. I will have to look into them! Thanks for sharing!
I am into Spring Cleaning as well lately and had been trying my best to keep the house organized. I love this post and truly appreciate everything you have shared.
Thanks for not sharing another how-to guide for spring cleaning. I think I’m going to lose it if I see another one.
I’m not at kindergarten level yet with my boys (they’re under 3), but what my friends tell me who have been there is to have LOTS of patience. And more patience to back up that patience. Haha.
If feel like there is a lot of awareness for autism but not enough support. There are so many different kinds of autism, and everyone just seems to think they are all a disabling disease or something. There needs to be more positive support and awareness for this!
Yay, you survived. Spring break is over here and the only thing I do like is that there is no traffic in the morning when it’s time to drive to work lol. My youngest is 17. It’s so different now. Glad you enjoyed it.
Our spring break is over and I already started spring cleaning. But I’m kinda nutty with my spring cleaning. It can take me weeks to get things where I want them to be. lol!
What a wonderful heartfelt post. If people would realize for just one second they have no idea what’s going on with other people they might not be so quick to judge.
This is such an awesome post. Awareness and education are the building blocks to acceptance and help. We, as a community, need to stop judging each other and become the village it takes to raise a child
My son is autistic so I celebrate every day. I didn’t light it up blue because I don’t feel that autism awareness should be done on just one day. I tell everyone who asks me about my son what his diagnosis is and I explain a little to those who have no idea what having a child with autism is like.
Yes to all of the above. In addition to an actual gift, I always bring a meal, too. Some of my friends did that for me when I was a new mom and it was SO nice not to have to worry about dinner for a few nights.
Loving all your ideas for new moms. I love this idea because often the baby gets all the gifts (of course!), and the mom is left out a little – if that makes sense. I like the idea of these comfort items like tea and candles. I would also add in a blanket so she can lounge in style!
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I would give all of those to any expecting mom, or just any mom in general. Moms overall are known to take care of everyone but themselves. This would be a great step in the right direction!
These are really good ideas! Usually you just think about getting new moms baby stuff but it’s cool that you actually thought of things to get them for themselves. Great post xx felinebykatsaris.com
Most people tend to forget the moms so having a gift for them is a great idea. I might even say a gift card for a spa would also be good once mom is up to it.
This is definitely very handy as my best friend just recently gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. I will be trying to check them all out and weigh which is perfect for her.
You are so thoughtful and caring! These gifts would make new Moms feeling loved, and cared. Maybe flower that last for long like Orchid to add for the gift
What a sweet and thoughtful idea. My sister is expecting and of course I’ve been thinking about new baby gifts, but hadn’t considered just how much she would appreciate a gift too. I think she’d love the chocolate and lotion!
Wonderful list. Even though I’ve been a new mom twice, I still blank on what to get my friends when they have kids. I love essential oils, but never though to gift them to friends. I can’t wait to do this next time.
Oh, and I love your header picture on your blog. So cool. Very happy to have found your blog through Bloggers Get Social. I will definitely be back!
Thanks so much Hannah! I can’t wait to check out your blog too! I use my roller ball EO’s so much for stress and tension I thought ‘I wish I had these when I was going through that new mom stress.’
I like the idea of giving a present to the new mom! It’s easy to feel like the new baby gets all the attention, and a new mom deserves a bit of celebrating and doting over, too. (I almost said “pampering,” but … then all I could think of was diapers. LOL!)
Oh I love all of these choices for pampering a new mama! I would add epsom salts to the list for feet soaking. That is something I love to do, and with all the walking around carrying the baby, sometimes my feet can bother me! This helps.
My husband LOVES his Fitbit. He is wanting the new Alta that just came out. I have a different brand of activity tracker and may need to start looking into getting a Fitbit of my own. These features are great!
my co workers are obsessed with their fitbit and they have this constant competition going in. It’s cool that you’re into it too! Great post xx felinebykatsaris.com
I have avoided getting a FitBit so far because I’m so worried that I’ll get totally obsessive with it! I know it would benefit my health, but I think I would get REALLY competitive!
These are such great ideas! I know when people who are close to me have kids, its sometimes hard to show your support for them. They are exhausted, sometimes I feel like a new mom would just like some sleep and someone else to care for the baby for just an hour or two.
My husband has an older fitbit and I’ve been trying to convince him I need one. Now that I know all of what the new fitbit can do I want it even more!!!
My husband has one of these and one day it said he only took one step that day lol. It also said he had an hour of sleep while he drove to work… em, maybe not. Love the extras in this though.
I am terrible with getting enough water each day. This makes it so easy! You can set personal alarms to remind you to do things like drink water, get up and move, etc.
I got a FitBit Charge HR last summer also, actually the purple one too like the picture 🙂 I have an autoimmune arthritis which has damaged my feet. I was actually going to write a post on how it’s helped me figure out my disease. I can’t race but I do love everything it can track to help me figure out my body!
My youngest was just diagnosed with autism in December. My husband and I are constantly educating ourselves and work closely with his therapists. I can fully relate to your friend. Many people say to us ” he looks normal”..”are you sure the doctor is right”. I find it very frustrating because my husband and I know the difficulties our son faces each day. Thank you so much for posting this!
It is hard enough trying to figure out how to be the expert for your child without all the other “experts weighing in.” Much love to you and your family.
I love it! I love sneaking veggies into the kids food, to! My pasta sauce is filled with veggies and when I make mashed potatoes, half of the batch is cauliflower.
haha – I was also laughing at the nutritional yeast! You are smart to recreate their fave meals with healthy perks included. Its a win-win for all involved!
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This is the second time today I have read about nutritional yeast in cooking. My kids are pretty good eaters thankfully but they haven’t always been that way.
I’m not a picky eater and I would gobble this right up! I have never heard of nutritional yeast before, but I definitely want to look into it. Thanks for sharing 🙂
I had a VERY picky eater. I read once before a child will even willingly try a new food he has to be introduced to it 3-5 times. So, I would put a small portion on his plate at dinner when we had it. EVENTUALLY he tried it on his own! We have tried this with many hings, mostly vegetables. Works like a charm even now and he is 9!
I have done the same. My girls just are reluctant to even try new foods. Like tantrums for even suggesting it. So, I just work with what they will eat so neither of us has to stress. 🙂
I have to confess this is the first time that I am hearing about avacado mayo but it sounds delicious. I like the idea of an alternative mac and cheese.
I can’t tell you how much I was looking for a post like this. My youngest LOVES mac and cheese, but I don’t like the processed way it comes. THIS is going in my recipe book.
Awesome! I know the avocado mayo is a little less traditional, but sneaking in the veggies and adding in “cheesey booster” doesn’t take away from the deliciousness factor. 🙂
oh I think I have you topped with my son . The worst – he would never eat mac and cheese – still to this day – at 14 he won’t. We are going on a class trip for 4 days and I keep asking him what is he going to eat – he’s so picky.
That sure is an interesting way of making it. I usually sometimes add mixed vegetables to mine to give them that extra boost of veggies. With the cheese covering it, it tastes so much better.
I should definitely try to hide some veggies in the mac n cheese. My daughter wants it every day, and I just tell her she cannot eat it every day of her life! It’s a fight, but..
This looks delicious! I love nutritional yeast and put it on my salads everyday (and popcorn too!), I never thought to put it with mac and cheese though, I bet my kids would love this.
Where do you find veggie puree? I have tried blending spinach leaves and putting in lasagne. My daughter loved it and didn’t know the difference! She also like smoothies and I can get away with all kinds of fruit.
LOVE THIS!
Reminds me that I saw recently on youtube someone put shredded zuchinni in oatmeal and I was hesitant to try it but really you CANNOT taste it at all!
Hahaha I love this!!!! I so do the same thing with my daughters food. She decides all the time she now “hates” things so hiding the healthy stuff it is
How exciting!! I am looking forward to reading the articles that your guest posters write for you. A fresh perspective on things is always a good thing 🙂
Great post Nikki! It baffles me why people are so concerned with something that they have no experience with. It’s like they’re trying to find something to shame others in order to make themselves feel better. Single moms, live the life you want…however that looks to you!
How exciting! I’m looking forward to reading the articles that your guests write for you. It’s always wonderful to get multiple perspectives in one place.
I divorced from my boys dad when my youngest was 6 months old, so I definitely fell into the single mom category. As soon as I started dating Chris, I stopped calling myself that.
That’s awesome! It will be wonderful to see your reach grow with new people on the blog. What a fun journey! Glad to know there is light at the end of the tunnel from the early years as well 😉
This is so awesome. We need to get past trying to label everyone (and using labels to define, reward or condemn people) and start just being accepting that we are all different, we are all special, and we all rock regardless of which “label” society defines us
You know, I was a single mom. And it was hard. Dang hard but I didn’t wear that as a badge of honour. It was what it was. She was 6 months old when he disappeared from our lives and we got a whopping $100 a month in child support that he lorded over our heads like it was a million dollars. I was a mom and she was my daughter. We made it work our way. I wish society would stop defining people we don’t all fit into nice perfect little boxes.
Totally agree with your definition, but don’t misunderstand that look of pity… we nonsingle moms who barely get dressed everyday realize we could never do what you do alone! It’s more a look of, damn, I could never do it all! Thank goodness I have help! 🙂 Some people are never happy unless they are making people unhappy.
I’ve never thought there are many consideration before someone can be called as a single mom. All the labels toward women doesn’t make any sense. If she’s single with a child -regarding she receive support or not from the father of the child- she’s a single mom. That’s it!
Well said! All these labels get on my nerves and to be honest my friend whose a single mum couldn’t be happier she is far better off without the father.
Ugh. You know, “single mom” is pretty self-explanatory – you’re a mom and you’re single. That’s it. Anything else someone tries to put into it is just their way of being judgemental.
This is well said! I have heard of this before and it always makes me sad that woman aren’t more supportive. Anyone who does parenting on their own needs help not to be told they aren’t a single mom.
I feel like I hear the word “mansplain,” more and more these days. You would think in 2016 we poor women wouldn’t need a man to explain how this work or what our lives are or aren’t. I’m over it. There are lots of different types of single moms and dads out there; doesn’t mean one’s situation is better or worse than any other.
I know women who are raising their children any many different situations without their child’s father. I never thought of some being real “single moms” and some not being.
Congratulations on expanding the team. I know that it’s only going to get better and better. And I always try to prove the nay sayers wrong, even myself. 🙂
Wow, 14 and already a firefighter? That’s amazing! Have your girls talked much about this even afterward? It sounds like a really positive thing to take to kids to.
I’m totally with you on the being in awe of heroes! I find their dedication to helping others so inspiring and wonderful.
Thanks for joining #daysoutwithatoddler – see you next month!
My girls have always been fascinated by firefighters. We visit our local firehouse with treats 1-2 times a year. But, we have yet to see female volunteers. I thought this was a great way for them to really see they can be anything they want to be! See you next month!
Here’s my two cents on this: moms need to uplift other moms. Period. They don’t need to define anyone else’s “singleness” they just need to offer support.
Loved this post because its great to see parents complimenting teachers and seeing how much they do and how much of their own salary they contribute to their students. Mr. Chris looks like the coolest – totally checking out the links you offered!
Karen | GlamKaren.com
This post made me sad. It’s amazing how humans find new ways to beat each other up. 🙁 Glad to see you supporting other moms! Women should encourage and life each other up, always.
I had no idea there was such a negative connotation to being a single mom. I was raised by a single mom, and she is the most important role model in my life! Cheers to you!
Zaylen is going to be so proud of you! I don’t care about labels and who is allowed to be called what. I just know that when the job of two people is done by one, it’s hard. I’m glad you are ok with it. Cheers to you!
I agree about the labels! For some reason our culture feels comfortable putting everyone in a neat little box. I think Nikki is amazing for just enjoying every moment with her son despite how others want to categorize her!
I don’t know anyone with a child who has Autism. I have read about it though. It can be a challenge. I am so glad to see that there are those who strive to help children with Autism.
I didn’t realize any of this either. I certainly think that any mom who is taking care of her child without the father, is a single mom. Sometimes I don’t understand why people feel the need to downplay a mom’s role in her child’s life.
I didn’t realize there was a stereotype or any sort of negativity around being a single mother. I find it hard to juggle everything myself, and I can only imagine the challenges of doing it all on my own.
I love that it is Autism awareness month and I wish that my autistic friends had this when they were younger. My friend would have really liked reading this.
This is a great post, and I love how Nikki gave ‘shout outs’ to other Moms and pointed out their unique characteristics. Me personally, I don’t associate the title ‘single Mom’ with struggling…I just think to myself that the mother is not with the father for whatever reason…and it’s not always a negative one.
What an amazing guy he is. I have a child who is autistic so I know firsthand what it’s like living with someone who has a diagnosis. I will be going to his page to show him some support.
Thank you Amanda! That’s exactly what I was hoping to do with this post! Get him more support. I am sure there are so many other Special Ed teachers who are as passionate as he is, just not getting the recognition.
I have worked in a school for Autistic children. We used to take the kids out into the community and you would be so surprised how differently they were treated. Every kid I worked with was a happy thought for me. I still go back and remember them with deep fondness!
I want a FitBit, I have wanted one for a while now and am thinking about ordering one. My oldest son wants one for school, his principal wears one and tells all the kids to wear one to see how much they actually walk during the day.
Thank you so much for sharing this information. As a teacher, I was not aware of Mr. Chris and his very worth while project. I am now following him on Facebook and plan to help me spread the word about his project.
I love this post. Although I am not a single mother, my mom was a single mother. I agree with you just because you get support from the father still means you single. I have so much respect for all single mothers!
we go through a lot of play dough here in our house.
It’s a perfect activity when the kids are needing a little bit of quiet time. I’m all about the hand sanitizer too and my lysol spray! Germs be gone!
Playdough is good any time, just like you said! When my daughter was sick, she wanted me to read to her. I quickly figured out that she just needed me in sight. So I let her rest wherever she wanted. Made some extra clean up from time to time, but I did manage to recover part of my day without having to read to her 12 hours in a row!
I could write a whole other post on how to protect your living room furniture from a sick kid. lol My girls wanted to be in front of TV and where they could see me. That makes the couch the perfect spot. But germs. LOL We’ve created our own little system for comfort.
Thanks for sharing your Friday favorites and the wonderful cause of Autism awareness. I value this philanthropic effort and really appreciate the highlight and information you are spreading.
Thanks Cara! I’ve meet so many amazing people in the autism community- but the unsung heroes are the parents. They have the stress, the worry and decision making 24/7.
This is a great cheap way to do it, especially on a rainy day. I no longer buy my daughter play doh because I’ve had to get my carpet cleaned on more than one occasion because of it.
This is wonderful. I love seeing people and educators promoting acceptance and beauty for special needs children, it’s such an important topic, especially since I have family in the autism spectrum.
We are definitely big fans of homemade playdough. There are so many wonderful recipes! The sky is the limit. The last one we made was Fairy playdough with pink colorings and lots of glitter.
Time is moving so quickly, this year seems faster than last and so on. My oldest is almost 8 now, and it doesn’t seem possible. I try to soak up every minute, even the hard ones 🙂
Enjoy every moment! Great reminder for loving the milestones, but also a great reminder for anyone (kids or no kids) to appreciate every moment.
Karen | GlamKaren.com
My daughter’s forth birthday was last week and I looked back at the years with fond memories but I also wondered how they had gone by so quickly. I miss the falling asleep on me or early morning feedings.
When I read posts like this one, I can remember so clearly my own motherhood journey, one that is over 30 years old. Your advice is perfect. Every new mom should read this.
Don’t be down on yourself! Being a mama is HARD work and sometimes we just lose it and wish for things to be different. No regrets, it’s the love that matters and those sweet memories. Don’t dwell and miss the new ones!
This is so beautiful, and really came at the perfect time for me. My daughter will be going to Kindergarten next year, too, and it is killing me. If I would offer any parenting advice, it would be to hold on to one moment, from every single day, because it really does come and go too fast.
I can’t believe how easy it is to make your own play dough. This would have come in really handy when I taught Pre-Kindergarten years ago because the kids loved play dough.
My favorite part of having a new baby – was just that – the new baby and the first year. I literally would have a new baby every year just for that! I have a teenager now and he is just about killing me! ☺
I love this message! The years really do fly by, but every stage that we pass through and morn the loss of is simply a doorway to the nest stage. My kids are adults now, and while I loved the early years, these years are equally special
This applies to life in General. It seems to fly by no matter how much you want it to slow down. We just try to stay in each moment so it feels longer.
Aww! You detailing these precious moments makes me want to have children so badly! When I do become a parent I really want to be a stay-at-home mom for the first 5 years of their lives. I don’t want to miss a moment!
I just love this post because I was like that. I wished that they would just grow up and now that they’re grown up and almost out the door, I wish that they would be small again. You have to cherish every moment, the good and the bad.
Time really does go by fast! I find myself getting frustrated all the time and I always have to remind myself that my daughter won’t be little forever and to just embrace it
I have teenage nephews who were my first little cuddle bugs. We won’t snuggle on the couch for a movie any more, but I can squeeze a big hug out of them now and then. 😉
Time goes by so quickly, all we really have are memories to treasure. We’re getting ready to put our toddler in “big boy” school, and I’m not ready. It seems like just yesterday we were coming home from the hospital with him in our arms.
So true. It makes me sad to see what a little man my 3 year old is. How he takes care of his sister and plays with me and his dad. I want him to be a baby forever!
I remember receiving sound advice like this when I was expecting my first child. How little did I know it would be true. I’m still trying to grasp the fact that my first child turned 10 last month. Time is so fleeting!
All three of these sound like great products! In light of all the information being discovered about the epidemic of animals, land and sea, dying as a result of having stomachs full of plastic- the reusable bag is a great start to the solution.
I love reusing the storage boxes instead of the bags. They hold so much more and I can wash them out easier than I can a reusable bag. I wish they would go back to paper to be honest with you, at least they decompose and are much better for the environment than plastic.
Most all of what I have used from Norwex I have loved, and it feels so good to have natural cleaners rather than all those chemicals in my home. I have never used a RuMe bag, but it sounds fabulous to have on hand. Thanks so much for sharing!
I LOVE MY NORWEX! My favorite thing is my mop. I hate washing floors and my norwex mop makes it so simple. Not to mention I don’t have to use strong smelling floor wash.
I don’t know if we have Norwex here in Belgium, but I use the same kind of cleaner cloth (microfiber) and it cleans and shine everything. It does make a wonder, and like you said save a lot for environment.
Great idea to carry the bag in your bag. I tend to forget my reusable bags. Personally, as a presenter, I have started to email PDFs of my handout rather than use paper.
I’m not a mom, but I think that handmade gifts form your child have to be the best. THe most sentimental and the most memorable! Love that printable, too!
Karen | GlamKaren.com
Awww! I love the poem! My mom loved all the gifts we gave her from art class. Each year, for 12 years, she got a ceramic cat that I made in art. It is fun to see how I grew over time!
These are really cute printables, perfect poems. I don’t remember any notable mothers days but I cherish random memories of doing things with my mother, grandmother and great grandmother. I only have one photo of the four of us and it’s something I cherish
Those are two very beautiful poems and just like your mother, my mom would cherish all the handmade items that we made her. My daughter loves to bring me items and drawings that she did. She would even bring me leaves from outside. 🙂
What a great post. We should all be using products that are friendly. I’ve never heard of Poofy products but will check them out now after the positive comments 🙂
My son made me a necklace a couple years ago. While it isn’t my first choice, sometimes he will bring it to me and ask me to wear it for the day. I do. He gets the biggest kick out of it.
On Mother’s Day my husband always handles all the “work” of the house, and that is my favorite gift, because then I can sit back with my littles and really enjoy their personalities. Time is fleeting, and that is really the best gift I could ask for!
This is my very first mother’s day, but I love handmade gifts. It was a tradition we did with my mom growing up and I’m excited to have my kids do the same for me!
I really enjoyed your post! I remember collecting all the handmade cards my daughter gave me. The one that takes the cake was when one of the cards read ‘You are the QUEER of my World!” Haha! She made this in first grade and it was supposed to say ‘QUEEN’, but she mispelled it. I absolutely love it! Makes me laugh every time I see it!
I’ve stopped blaming myself for anything. If something goes wrong, it’s the kids fault or whoever messed it up. I don’t baby my kids and my kids definitely know that mommy isn’t playing.
I kind of have an idea. 😉 I have two that came home with the same poem. It’s those poems that really nail how short lived their time as little people is. They are only little once.
Thanks for sharing your friend’s story about her son with autism. It’s great to hear different stories from different moms to better gain perspective and learn how support can be a lifesaver to them!
Karen | GlamKaren.com
I wear all of my macaroni jewelry with pride because the little ones who made it for me are priceless 🙂 I also make sure to snap a photo of me wearing it beside them so if the piece ends up destroyed we will always have the photo to remind ourselves.
Thanks for sharing your story about Parker! I agree, never judge a book by its cover! We too used early intervention and swear by the results we saw in that program.
My 14 year old was diagnosed on the spectrum of Autism when he was 4. Parenting with him has been a lot different that I imagined parenting would be (he’s my oldest). I’m going to look for those books you recommended!
I agree, the best gifts are the handmade ones. I’m a teacher, and every year I make a Mother’s Day craft with my class just in case there are moms who are single or for whatever reason won’t be getting anything else for Mother’s Day.
Oh yes, guilt and blaming are a big thing in my life! Trying to realize that I am doing the best I can is a process that I have been working on for a while 🙂
I try to be pretty honest about how hard it is being a mom. It seems it gives other moms the freedom to themselves. I had surrounded myself with some really great moms who build me up and encourage me!
I am pretty on top of things; I only have one kid so I never really feel overwhelmed. But there are moments that I just have to laugh at. It’s amazing when you meet another mom who has done or gone through the same thing.
Humor, that has gotten me through more crap… sometimes I think Id be a nutcase if I didnt have a GREAT sense of humor! Because honestly sometimes if I wasn’t laughing id be crying and who wants that!
I’ve only been a mom for 4 years now (3 Mother’s Days so far) and the best gift I had gotten on my very first mother’s day was a vase my daughter ‘hand-painted’ when she was 5 months old in daycare. I still use the vase to hold my pens & pencils.
Oh how I love this post! I am the mom who takes all the blame. My husband even says it is like I look at our house like a business and as the “CEO” I should take blame for everything that happens with my business, but that is not how it works at all. Thank you for sharing this post! It is wonderful!
It must be difficult to experience such a diagnosis, but it sounds like having a support system is helpful and having options for different therapies sounds like a great thing for you!
This is so sweet! I think I’ll print these up and add some tiny handprints for the kid’s grandmas. My kids are still a little young, and they stay home with me all the time, but I can’t wait for them to start making the really cute crafts. (I’m not holding my breath for daddy to hold a craft time.)
Well said but I don’t agree that having a child with autism is a devastating diagnosis as some comments suggests. A hard diagnosis yes and like you said you have to be extra careful with him but autistic children are a pleasure to watch grow and develop and can be the sweetest kids. One of my best friends is autistic and he finds it hard to read social situations and can feel very awkward or anxious in certain environments but is one of the loveliest guys you would ever meet.
It really is easier to connect with other people when we allow our selves to be vulnerable. I love reading honest parenting blogs for this reason. It makes me feel like less of a failure when I see that other parents go through some of the same things I do as a parent.
I just had a circumstance this weekend where I believed my daughter’s knee pain was my fault. Thank you for this…knee pain is a reality of life that I have to remove myself from the fault of!
This is really insightful. My brother has Aspergers so while it isn’t all the same, I can see a lot of similar things in him displayed in this article.
I love this! Thank you for the beautiful reminder of how much our moms do for us, even as grown up mommas ourselves. I am so thankful for my mom and the way she has loved me so well!
I no longer have my mom as she passed away last year but each of these women are so right. I never realized all the sacrifices she made and I couldn’t wait to grow up and be on my own, but now that she’s gone I wish I could have her back. Don’t wait until Mother’s Day to tell your mom you love her, tell her that every day!
Amanda I am so very sorry for your loss. I have so many friends who mother without their own moms and I see how much it hurts. Sending you many hugs and peace!! (I also agree tell your loved ones you love them as often as you can!).
I agree that I don’t think I appreciated my Mom as much until I became a Mother myself. She is my biggest cheerleader and I appreciate her love and sacrifice so much.
I love this post and I love being able to honor mom’s. I’m not a mom, but the connection I have with my own mom is so strong and I am grateful for it 🙂
I am not a biological mother; never had the desire to have kids – not in a “I hate kids” kind of way, it just wasn’t for me. I became a stepmother at 37 and it is probably, other than overcoming some serious health issues, the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I seriously tell parents I have NO idea how they do it. My mom taught me something that I will forever be grateful for. She said, “Never rely on a man to take care of you.” I am so glad I took that advice. My sister and I both did and we’re both successful in our own right – I don’t mean this in a materialistic way. I mean, we know that no matter what we can make it on our own – and we have. On OUR terms. It has made us more secure women. Absolutely, 100%, without a doubt in my opinion being a parent is the hardest job there is. I thank my mom she did it three times (and dad, too). 🙂
That’s a totally valid decision to make. Parenting isn’t an easy gig and if you know for sure it’s not something you want why force it because that’s what’s “expected.”
I just wrote something like this in my moms card. It’s amazing how much I give my daughter; I give her every ounce of me, but my mom did this times 5. I am in awe of her.
What a great read. I agree that you don’t fully appreciate your mother until you have children yourself. There is so much worry involved. You only want what is best for your children.
I’ve always appreciated everything my mom has done for me. She is the heart of our family. When she was diagnosed with Stage IV cancer last year, my whole world was rocked. You know your mom won’t be around forever, but when you’re actually faced with the reality you could lose her before you’re ready, it is scary. Her strength as she battles back has been amazing, and I’m so glad I can be here to help take care of her and provide strength and encouragement.
I am so sorry to hear about your moms diagnosis. All the best for her and your family! I don’t think we are ever ready to loose our moms. Such a scary thought living in this world without them.
What a great post! It’s so true that it’s hard to really comprehend why our moms acted like they did when we were kids. Like you, it made all the sense in the world the moment I met my son. I love that my mom fought to give me opportunities, and to let me know that I was loved unconditionally. She saw the things that she wanted to do differently from her own parents and she did them well.
What a wonderful way to commemorate all the Moms out there! I enjoyed reading this post. It was also very effective in getting me sentimental about what to do for Mom’s Day!
I love your advice for people who don’t have a relationship with their moms. My husband and his mother have a complicated relationship but I agree with you that they should respect each other from a distance.
My Mom is now in her seventies and is helping t raise my niece, She keeps saying she is sorry she was working when my kids were little. it does n;t matter to us, a good mom is awesome! Your post brought me to tears with the joyous stories
It is definitely amazing what I now know as a mom as opposed to how I felt when I was younger. And I can see the questions in my oldest’s eyes when we disagree about certain things. I remember my mom taking my brother and I to breakfast and only ever getting a coffee, and now I realize it is because she wanted to treat us but couldn’t afford it. I sometimes do the same thing today with my littles.
I love cross carriers. I think this would be the perfect purse for a mom to carry her things and the kids things. However the pouch would be just the right size for a quick mommy trip to the store by herself!
The most beautiful thing is this world is to be a Mom. I have 2 Sons that are such sweethearts, and then I’m even more blessed with the most amazing Daughter of my heart!
I love satchels. I actually own a few that I use whenever I’m taking a trip because I can store my passport and wallet in it and keep it pretty safe. I am loving this one you got.
Aw that is such a lovely way of celebrating your mum. My friend said that when she became a mother all the petty fights with her mum became a thing of the past and their bond became stronger.
This is such a special post, I love that you had others contribute so that we can see a wide range of thoughts about mother’s. Now that I’m pregnant I’m seeing so much that I didn’t appreciate before, it really puts things in perspective.
So cute!! My son turns two this month and I think it’s time to upgrade the clunky diaper bag I’ve been carrying around! I would use the satchel to keep all of my mommy essentials – hand lotion, lipgloss, ibuprofen (haha), tampons, & a pen or two!
So true!!! Becoming a mother gave me a whole new understanding and empathy—not to mention respect and awe—for my mom. I find keeping my s**t together with 2 kids hard; my mom did it with 4! She is a rock star.
I feel like this is true for everyone. Sometimes I could be so tired but just can’t sleep. You learn as you get older what sleep schedule works for you.
Sleep is a highly individual thing. I have to be sitting up before I can sleep! When I am flat, I cannot get comfortable. Sitting up, my head rolls to the right and I am out!
The bit at the end made me chuckle! I remember even before I had a baby reading about Gina ford’s routines and thinking how bloody ridiculous it was. I am lucky my son sleeps for long stretches but he doesn’t ‘go to bed’ until 11pm or later! They are all different.
I remember those late nights. I has such a hard time dealing with no sleep. It does end at some point that is what I kept trying to remind myself that it was not going to be forever.
Oh man! I have to admit, this post made me LOL. My husband and I don’t have kids, but I’ve always heard everyone say — don’t believe what you see on TV—it’s NOTHING like that! haha
I absolutely love floral prints and cross body bag types so this is definitely me here. I haven’t heard of the brand before, but will take a look on their selection.
Such a realistic view on motherhood. My youngest had issues with his sinuses so he could never breathe properly at night. He was up ever hour or two for FOUR years. Sometimes, you just gotta hang in there.
So very true – every baby is different and whilst the techniques might work for some babies – others will just sleep when they want. Definitely agree that anyone who ignores a “ssh baby sleeping sign” deserves the response they get!
LOL – this is great. Sometimes it’s just best to let people go off telling you how something should be knowing in your head that you will do it your way anyway. No one knows what’s best except you. 😉
This is hilariously tearjerkingly accurate! I’ve had so many people tell me so many ways to get my baby to sleep and the truth is she just won’t unless she’s snuggled up next to me. You do you mama and sleep when you can!
Love your writing style for this. I”m sure you’re not alone in your sleep deprived existence. I was fortunate with both of my kids and sleep and I still felt sleep deprived the first month or 2.
Haha love this!!!! Swear sleep is different for everyone. I have no excuse for being sleep deprived yet here I am! I can’t turn my mind off at night where as my daughter and hubby snooze right off…
This article made me laugh. I can remember threatening to send my husband to spend the night at his mothers if he had to turn the television on or talk out loud. It had taken me over an hour to get my daughter to sleep and nothing was going to wake her…or else.
why should experts be any different in this subject than others…. I always laugh when I read how things are supposed to be in how to books. Its like, seriously people? Real life does NOT work that way! I can so relate to this article….. 🙂
I love this! We started with the bassinet with my oldest and tried the crib, and ended up co-sleeping. I get a lot of packages in the mail, and my mailman has started banging on the door to let me know the package is there…loudly…right after my youngest goes down for her ONE nap of the day. I keep putting up signs, which works for about 2 days, and then back to the banging…with the mailman taking the sign down!
I barely remember those days… I must still be a little sleep deprived! We have 4 and those early years we had a baby in the bassinet beside me so I could nurse in the middle of the night. We were never a quiet house so my kids can sleep through darn near anything now. Thankfully!!
I’ve often wondered where and how the term “sleeping like a baby” came to be associated with sleeping well. The fact that most people aren’t talking about the horrible level of sleep deprivation that happens in the first year (and sometimes beyond) is very confusing.
I think the saying should be sleep like a cat. They sleep through anything: storms, loud noise, kids pulling on them and I have even seen some sleep through being sat on by other animals.
I know this feeling! There is so much incorrect, unscientific info, out there from so called experts it can get a little confusing when our life with our real life baby seems so different to how things are supposed to be.
However there is some sleep ‘gold’ out there that I found when my daughter wasn’t sleeping through the night, from an organisation called Hand in Hand parenting. I loved their approach so much that I became an instructor! #fortheloveofBLOG
I don’t have kids of my own yet but I would imagine they are just like the rest of us – which means everyone is different. While I love reading tips from others, I’ve learned that experts don’t always know everything about how each of us operate rest. Keep pushing through and eventually you’ll figure out what works best for her.
Indeed no such thing as a perfect parent. At best use your heart and instincts in the tough decisions. And do not ever let guilt get the best of you. That’s what I learned early on! 🙂
I hear you loud and clear on the picky eater situation. Not only is my youngest SUPER picky, he will finally settle on something he likes – eat it 1000 times and then out of no where he will decide he hates it. It’s soooo frustrating.
Thanks so much! I try to see both sides. I’ve certainly said my share of things where I put my foot in my mouth. I try to remember how those moments made me feel.
Haha, I know. Suddenly it all makes sense…well, it makes sense why other parents are so tired all the time. I still haven’t figured out the whole parenting thing.
The worst thing is when someone tries to tell you how to parent your own child. No one is a perfect parent. Everyone parents differently, and as long as your child is taken care of it, it doesn’t matter what anyone else has to say.
Before I had a child, I remember not understanding why parents seemed to have so little time and constantly feel overwhelmed. I don’t think anything can really prepare a person for becoming a parent – the sleep deprivation was the worst for me. That and not having ANY time for myself, other than the hours of 8pm-1am.
I agree! I had no idea what the stress and worry was about. Moms always seemed anxious about sending kids on trips and I’d say let them live and enjoy. How little I knew the strength it took to send your baby on a bus far away without you.
Yes, there is no such thing as a perfect parent, as a new mommy I am learning this, and all parents and children are different. There are so many ways to be a great parent, so no need to try to be perfect.
I’m a member of your club, {raises hand}. Being a teacher, I thought my extensive background with kids gave me an edge over others and I’d be a way better parent than many. Motherhood has a way of teaching you lessons you’d never learn otherwise!
All Moms are applauding this post. 🙂 Trust me I was an obnoxious pre-kid person so I cringe when I think of all the “helpful” things I did. I try to give people grace though because I was once on that side.
I identify with this so much! I, too, thought I was a perfect parent pre-parenthood. I’m a young mom so I’m surrounded by many who think so too. I love this article! It’s so true, the struggles ARE real.
Look I dont have kids and I know being a perfect parent is a facade. I hate to say it but even some of these mommy bloggers make parent look so easy and perfect family portraits and candid of perfect moments when that in itself is a lie. Parenthood is a basket of unpredictability and sacrifice I do understand even though I dont hav my own yet.
Oh I understood a whole lot. I grew up with a single mother and watched my sister struggle as a single mom too. But there are just somethings you can’t truly relate to until you’ve lived it. That applies to all parts of life, not just parenting. I agree some of the blogs make it look so easy and that’s why I started this blog. So, the rest of us can feel OK with our messy lives. 😉
SO true. I remember I would say “i will do this” or ” I will do that” or the famous line “not my child”. I am laughing because now I am doing opposite!
I think I a perception of what kind of parent I’d be…the cool one, although probably not perfect…when I was a teenager. I became a mom at a youngish age, and just took it from there. I think the experience of being a mom makes me think I have a “good way” of parenting, but far far far from perfect. lol
I definitely had a lot of ideas before I had kids, but after, I realized that I needed to just let the kids lead a little bit, and let go of a lot of my own expectations.
Ah, the glory years. I remember those days; when I was a parenting expert and the parents around me were just ignorant. {To be 20 again!} Then I had kids. Yep. Parenting is crazy.
I’m quite sure my babies (14,10,7) would all love these vitamins. I imagine they would cheer for these vitamins over our GREEN SHAKE. 😀
Happy Friday!
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I am not a parent yet but I do have nieces and nephews and I totally understand you, no one is perfect and it is our job as adults to try guide them. They may not like it or do what they are told but they will learn from you or on their own and will thank you when they are older. So we shouldn’t feel bad for trying to educate and guide our children.
I bet my kids would like these. I always start giving them vitamins and then get out of the routine and forget. My daughter is a picky eater and could use a vitamin I am sure.
I am loving the fact that another child gets vitamins when I buy but I’m not so quite loving the price. I buy gummies for my daughter because she’s too little for pills. I might have to get one just to try it.
I was using another organic gummy brand that was highly recommended by a dietitian friend of mine. My kids refused to eat them. *sigh* So, these are much more affordable for us (the other’s were over $20 a bottle).
I love the fact that the taste on these vitamins is so good. That is one of the things that deters kids and adults from taking vitamins, the fact that they don’t taste really good.
We tried these and my kid hated them. But thats probably because he hates everything that isn’t pizza. We will try this again because it seems like a great product!
i am loving the name too – how clever. I am like you and could never find a vitamin that my daughter liked the taste of – maybe we should look at these now.
I’m very similar about feeding my kids whole foods instead of vitamins, but we have been doing vitamins for a while now since I am sure I am missing something!
My son had the same speech problems. By 2 he could say 2 words and they were not even correct. “galk” for milk and ‘Kee’ for Mickey. We called speech ‘talking school’. That got him excited that he was going to school like his big brother. We never really focused on the fact it was for his speech. He is now 9 and doing great in school!
That’s good to hear! My daughter will be moving into a preschool that has continuing speech classes for her now that she’ll be over 3. She really likes it and I think she’ll be excited to go to school like her sisters.
As a public educator I have been around speech therapy for 25 years and I can say that my speech therapists were always the most kind and hard working people! I can understand the stigma, but think of it this way, if a child comes to school needing therapy and the parents didn’t provide it, well, you can understand how we might feel about that… you, on the other hand, are taking good care of your child’s needs!
@Terri Thanks for supporting Jennifer! I think it is so rare for other moms to stand up and say good job! We need to hear that most in those moments we are second guessing ourselves.
My youngest started Early Intervention at 18 months and aged out at age 3. Then he went into private therapy after that for about a year. It never crossed my mind that it was something to be embarrassed about – a lot of kids need extra help.
Before this I worked for about 7 years with kids and families receiving early intervention. Every single parent processes their kids need for services differently. Some parents blame themselves, some become proactive and turn over every rock to get help. My twins needed EI at at age 2 and even though I knew how beneficial those services are, I kept feeling like I did something wrong.
In my head I know it’s nothing to be embarrassed about. I had to have physical therapy for my hips when I was a baby, and I know plenty of kids, multiples especially, that needed help.
My personality just makes me want to say that everything is fine, and I have a hard time asking for help. I don’t know. It’s a weird thing.
As someone who has speech problems I love that you’re doing whatever you can for your daughter. I had a pretty bad stutter as a kid and even now sometimes still have it. I wish more had been available for me as a kid, so don’t be embarrassed, embrace it!
My twin boys had speech therapy. I loved it. It was like play time for them. Plus the therapist came to our house so I had an hour to myself. They learned so much so quickly.
My daughter is in speech therapy and it was definitely hard for her. She has a hole in her palette so s’s and x’s are hard. The progress is amazing though. She almost has it figured it and she’s only been in for a few months.
This is something we are dealing with now. My 5 year old has severe trouble with the R sound, and while we don’t have any trouble understanding him, others do sometimes. There definitely is a stigma involved with speech therapy.
Love your supportive advice for moms. Its always important to take things in stride and not be too judgemental about yourself or others.
Karen | GlamKaren.com
I’m going through an issue with my 15-year-old that required me to get over my embarrassment too. I understand where you are and I appreciate you for sharing your story!
I’m glad your daughter is doing well with speech therapy! It’s totally understandable to have a little catch in the back of your mind when you first start doing any sort of therapy for your kids — we all want to be perfect mamas and if something needs a little extra ooomph we feel like we should just be able to fix it ourselves (and we also feel sort of like a failure if we can’t do it). We’re so lucky to have an abundance of professionals to consult with and there is no shame in drawing on those resources. =)
That’s exactly it – I feel bad it’s something I can’t fix myself, but that is why we have professionals. Thanks for helping me put into words another part of how I feel 🙂
I can relate. That was my 2nd son, the one who is autistic. My 2 older kids all started speaking right on time with an extensive vocabulary but my son was able to string a sentence and was barely intelligible. No one knows your child like you do so I was able to get him the services he needed. My youngest Madison was also in speech therapy but she’s doing great now. Kids develop differently because now I’m like “don’t you ever stop talking”.
I’ve always said that you’re amazing as long as you’re doing what you need to do for your kids. That’s all your kids need. I know my kids love that I am there for them and I have no mommy guilt. I used to but learned early that no parent is perfect.
Someone very near and dear told me when my son, my first born, was 6 months old, to just follow my gut! I have listened to my own heart every since – even when friends told me otherwise
Its so hard to let go of trying to be perfect, especially with how much judgement gets served out on a daily basis on social media. What I’ve found is that moms love to hear about your imperfect moments because they can relate in some way or another. We’re all far from perfect anyway 😉
When I was pregnant with my daughter, I had the perfect parent concept down pat. I’ve read almost every parent magazine and blog there is. Then she was born and the word perfect was a figment of my imagination. Good post!
I wish I had seen this book when I just started. That’s when I was buying books like Mommy Guilt by armloads. In eight years I found my sailor’s feet and got to a comfortable and cozy spot. But I’m glad to hear that there are more authors and experts out there who propagate the idea that perfection is a dream.
LOL – love the pee in the parking lot story as I am sure we have all done something a little questionable but who cares! As long as we are taking our kids’ best interest to heart it’s all good 😉
This is such an important read! I’m so happy that your little one is doing well in speech therapy. I totally understand why it can be hard to accept needing help, I’ve been in a similar situation myself, now it’s just the funds to get the help now that I’ve accepted I need it!
Mommy guilt is definitely a real
Thing. I think all moms go through guilt once in awhile but we just have to keep reminding ourselves that we are doing the best we can.
I have my favorite sun protectant protect. I like products that don’t contain too many chemicals. That Mary Kay one would be great though for those who prefer to have a more made-up look.
I love your summer SPF selections! I already use the Kiss My Face and it’s amazing stuff! I am so curious about Mary Kay’s CC cream with an SPF 15. I want to try that too!
Wonderful! I think it is so nice to be able to get a break like this and go away for a few days, of course with a friend you have experienced so much with already makes it the cherry on top. I had a getaway with friends to Barcelona and if was only for two nights with friends and I missed my hubby and little one but was much needed.
After constant being busy I think every Mom deserve a gateaway like this. Glad that you had a fabolous gateaway, and share valuables tips for other Moms.
I have not been away overnight at all, not without my kids though. Maybe once they are all off on their own I can venture off. I am trying to save all that for when the house is empty and I wont have much to do lol.
It’s getting to that time of year isn’t it? I know I walked the dog today and it was 85° so summer is definitely here! I use sunscreen, don’t like the smell but I use it.
That sounds like a fun time. I could really use a break myself. My daughter is grown, but my blog is my baby now. I need a little break from it. Lake George looks like a nice spot to take a break!
I always make sure to wear sunscreen if I’m going to be out in the sun for extended periods of time, especially in the summer. I also always try to wear makeup that has SPF as well!
These are all great picks to protect your skin from the sun. We all know how important it is. I always try to use SPF lotions even if I am not going to the beach. If I am going to be outside for a long time I always make sure I am using SPF
Sounds blissful! I remember when I was in my 20’s I used to see single women in food courts of malls and think, “Nobody is sitting with her… sad!” now I know that mom has finally escaped her chaos for a brief lunch and nobody should bother her! Just give her a thumbs up! Good for you Mom! Now I’m that mom! Sitting alone in a restaurant, content in my complete silence!
I can’t believe I look forward to letting my kids get completely covered in mud, paint, powder, bubbles and whipped cream (all at once) EVERY SUMMER! 🙂
We did thank you! That was intended to put other moms at ease. I have so many friends afraid to leave the kids home with hubby because he won’t know what to do. He will figure it out!
Those are some great tips. I have taken a day off without the family before and it all turned out ok. BTW after hearing about the motel, I’m not sure I’d want to stay there. 🙂
I am at a lacrosse tournament this weekend and I used about 40 pounds of sunscreen. I am hitting the stores in a few because I need more. I will try this brand. I am a huge lip sunscreen user . Lucky me , burn and never tan
My kids are outside all summer long and frankly, most of the winter, too. If it’s above 32 degrees, they are outside and I love keeping them as active as possible.
My kids are book worms and I try to get them to at least read OUTSIDE. But depends on the day. I’d love for them to love being outside as much as I do.
Thank you for letting me guest post today! My own words were good for me to read, because my kids are downstairs watching Netflix right now. Time for breakfast and a bike ride!
I love having your guest posts! Some days I have to remind myself it may be easier for me to let the kids sit in front of Netflix, but at some point in the day I am going to pay for it!
summer vacation is coming up and I’ll have to do this with mine. although I get them up early now before school and get them jumping on the trampoline. Helps wake them up.
I love keeping all of my kids active too. It is hard on days when it is 100+ degrees, other than of course swimming time. They are all so much better when they get activity.
Excellent post. As an educator we see this effect in the taking away of recess minutes. Our boys are feeling it. We need to be careful of what we create!
Yes! Whenever my kids are whiny, I know they haven’t been outside enough. I try to send them out first thing in the morning and let them in when they have run around for a long long time 🙂
I make sure my boys are outside quite a bit! It is getting harder now that they are 9 and 12 – they are running out of ideas. I need to come up with some stuff for them to do this summer!
I am the favorite aunt in the family because when I babysit the kids come home exhausted, but in great moods. Getting out and doing things is always a success!
You took the thoughts out of my head this morning as I was out for my daily walk after I walk the 2 younger ones to school. I have 3 sons and was thinking that I’ll need to take them with me every morning. It helps me focus on what I need to get done and they need to get some wigglies out. I totally hear you on the Netflix thing. Nothing good comes from letting my boys veg all day.
I have a 9 month old so he’s not really out and about yet, but I can’t wait until he gets to the age where he wants to run around outside! Right now I just take him on walks and we’re starting a swim class soon. I figure we’ve got to start him young. 🙂
I have a 13 month old son and we are always outside for at least 2 hours playing in his pool and water table! Plus our walks with the pups and when we go for runs a couple times a week! Being outside is a natural mood lifter too, saved me from sever postpartum depression!!!
When my twin boys were little I made sure we got out of the house and to a park by 9am. At 9am the chaos started and whining, etc. I still make sure we go do things outside everyday.
I don’t have any kids yet, but whenever I babysit my cousins I make sure to keep them as active as possible. They want to stay in and play video games, but after a fun day of activities, they always thank me in the end. Plus I’m a happy camper because they’ve used up all their energy and just want to watch a movie and cuddle by the end of the day!
Nothing helps my son grow then to be outside and running around. Experiencing the outdoors, exploring, camping is so awesome! Now if us New Yorkers could keep the snow away to enjoy it that would be great.
EiR NYC sounds like my kind of brand! I use witch hazel daily for cleaning my face; I’m sure the smell of witch hazel, aloe, and sage is amazing.
I’d love to try the Uplifting Butter, it sounds awesome.
Witch hazel is great stuff and I love the smell of sage so I can imagine it would make the house smell good. I’d be dubious of a magic lotion curing my cellulite!
I love it when I can find a local company that carries my favorites. Uplifting Butter sounds like a great product. I’ve always been a huge fan of body butters.
I definitely have those kinds of days when a shower just isn’t going to happen, so I will make sure to think of Eir NYC next time I’m looking to buy something to freshen up for those days!
I just saw these in the store and wondered what the heck they were for! I should pick up a couple for our vacation, you never know where your going to end up!
I’ve never heard of this company before but the product sounds ok. I wished they had sent the full product so you could really give real time results as someone who is purchasing but you said it felt softer over time so that’s a plus.
First I love your blog name and photo! We’re doing the same with our kids. We shut off cable and are forcing them to play outside all summer! Like we used to! 🙂
This seems like a great event! If only I was closer to NY haha.
My son also loves to jump in mud puddles, and when we were in Alaska found some that went half way to his knees. At first I kept telling him not to get wet, then figured he might as well have fun and enjoy it. He did 🙂
A lovely post Debra, being a Mum is so hard, and we are often overlooked when people ask us how the baby is doing, and I am very guilty of hiding my struggles. I have been known to answer the question “How is the little one doing?” by saying I’m fine. Your list of points is brilliant, just having a helping pair of hands, or a cup of tea made for you can make the world of difference. I hope it’s getting easier for you. Claire x #triballove
Aw…what a really thoughtful post for moms! Its so true and its so helpful to be really aware of others around us and how we can help – or be helped/supported in day to day stuff. Just that one check-in or coffee can make a world of difference.
Karen | GlamKaren.com
I love this, especially the idea about meeting at the park to chat while the kids play. I really feel like play dates are often more for the mom than for the kids, lol.
Children are such easy distractors. I’ll keep that in mind when I see my neighbors with young children. I want them to know that I care about them as mothers, as much as I care about their children.
I love this post because I can totally relate to it. I am always smiling on the outside but inside you don’t want to know what’s going on. You’re absolutely right, we can all use a little help.
I am right there with you Amanda. I hide things very well. On this particular Sunday I was at my limits. Sometimes the kindest of words helps give a little relief.
Great ideas to really bless a fellow mom. I think taking some time to talk together while taking a walk with strollers or for coffee is always so helpful to just be with a friend.
Got any fun indoor play places? Or kids big enough for a splash pad/water park? Even pushing strollers through the mall in the a/c or hosting play dates at home can give moms (and kids) a break.
I never thought I’d be a mother. And so I had no expectations of myself however now as a mother. I get it. I get the perfect parenting. And how things don’t always work out. Great post.
I think that as women we all need to be more supportive of one another. I love the idea of coffee dates, I often invite my mom friends over – I wish they were free more often!
So much yes to this list!!! I will admit I’ve been the struggling mom before trying to balance it all and I would of died from happiness if someone offered to help even if it was only watching my daughter for 5 minutes while I took a deep breath lol…
This is such a beautifully raw post! I love it. I was just chatting with my sister-in-law about “parenting” and how it’s easy to talk about being a parent until you actually ARE a parent with real kids and real issues. haha. Then things change. =) I love your writing style. It is engaging and clever. Thanks for being so awesome!
I always see Fat-Fit-Fun on Facebook and was curious who actually tried it out! You never know what actually comes…ya know? Loving what you received in your box, especially that necklace!
Karen | GlamKaren.com
I think being an ear they can talk to is a really good way to help. Sometimes, you just need to vent, ask questions, gain reassurance, etc. every now and then.
I always try to help out my sisters one is already a mommy of a ten years old and my other sister is expecting her first baby in august and I am always texting them even if its just to ask how their day is going. Begin a mom is no easy task but someone has to do it right. I think I will love being a mom 🙂
What a great piece! I remember almost being skipped at communion because the cup bearer was so busy looking at my baby girl. She was the same person who later wrote me the most kind and compassionate letter when I told her I was suffering from postpartum depression. We DO get caught up in the adorable little faces of our friends’ babies, but gosh what opportunities we have to connect with the new mamas. You’ve laid out some great ideas here. Thank you for writing this!
Oh no! I am glad that she was able to send some comfort during your difficult time. It is funny but this is not the direction I was originally going but I am glad this is how the article ended. Thank You!
Oh my goodness! I love literally everything in that box! I just got a box of bath bombs I have yet to try mostly because it’s one of those things I wanna save for a special occasion and might end up never using them. But I definitely want to give this fab-fit-fun a go! Thanks!
Being able to help each other out is so important. We go through so much as moms, and lending a helping hand out to a fellow mom could mean the world of difference to them!
I fall into all the categories of “mombie” you mentioned, especially wearing my maternity pants too long. Haha. FabFitFun sounds really neat. I have never heard of it before. You get such a wide selection of things. Ps. I wouldn’t share those bath balms either!! This is something I need to look into.
I LOVE FFF boxes. I got a few of them. I really want a few of the items in this box, so maybe I should get myself one! LOL I think they’re a great gift idea too!
I have been thinking about getting this box, but wasn’t sure how I would like it. This looks like a great box though! I especially love the herbs kit – and I know nothing about contouring either 🙂
I completely agree. The little things mean so much more than a grand gesture. I find it less overwhelming that if somebody offers to say come clean my house…..
But then again at this point I would take the help.
I’ve never tried anything to keep them from chewing, but my oldest son is the worst with this! I am still telling him at ten years old to take the Lego out of his mouth! He was also my pacifier kid so maybe that has something to do with it? But yeah kids are crazy. ????
It’s definitely moving to see the reality of kids having to practice protecting themselves in their own school. My views on gun control are probably unpopular but I do believe in making changes and doing better. Whatever our political and social views I know that we are all moved by our children. Hate is very real. And we don’t want our children to be victim to it.
I agree with you…I am scared every day for my teen to go to school. It seems like it can happen anywhere and I am not sure if change will ever come. Thank you for sharing this and encouraging others to share as well.
I agree with Carolina, Hate is real but honestly the “bad guys” are still going to get their hands on a gun whatever means possible and they are going to do what they intend on doing. I’m all for Gun education and getting military grade weapons out of the hands of the public but as a woman and a mother you bet your bottom dollar I am going to get my PAL and learn how to protect myself and my babies.
I totally get that bad guys will always find a way. I just feel we shouldn’t make it so easy for them. And if we really want to protect our kids why not give them better than bathroom drills? We put locks on lesser things. Where ever we stand on guns and gun control I think we can agree our kids deserve better. ❤
Oh my goodness, I literally gasped out loud when I read when the little girl was doing. I can’t even imagine. I have 6 young children, but they are homeschooled. It is so incredibly sad that this is the state our system is in, and that our precious kids are the victims. No child should ever have to be put in that position of practicing for what is going to be a common occurrance of violence in what is supposed to be a safe environment. It is just so heartbreaking.
I have to say that I do not think making stricter gun laws will help. Bad guys will always get weapons.If people are going to kill, they will use whatever they have to do so whether it be poisons, slow cookers, knives, whatever.Most of these people obtain guys illegally anyhow. On another note, I do not think anyone needs assault riffles unless they are military.
It is so sad that this is happening in our schools, but I think it’s good to be prepared! Regardless of what the laws say, bad guys will still find ways to do horrible things.
I agree being prepared is a good thing. But, there has to be better ways to prepare our kids and staff than training them to be a victim. 🙁 Perhaps we should look at ways of keeping them out of our schools and not make it so easy to get in. Perhaps mandatory back ground checks for gun purchases would help reduce the body count or the amount of suicides. It took one reporter 7 minutes to purchase a military grade weapon. I think when we say things like, “it’s just going to happen no matter what we do” is accepting this as the new normal. I just can’t do that. 🙁
Forgive me, this may get long. I want to give you another perspective as a now 40 year old woman who grew up around guns and who has guns in her house. Disclaimer: my father was military and former law enforcement – an arms expert. My husband is a former cop and former military – arms expert.
I grew up in a home where guns weren’t for “killing”. They were a way to put food on the table and for protection. I grew up where there was an EXTREMELY healthy respect for guns and I wasn’t overly curious because my dad didn’t hide it from us. He educated us.
My grandmother (paternal) lived to be 92. Had she not had her gun, she wouldn’t have been past her 60’s. After my grandfather died in 1991 two men broke into her home to rape and rob her. It was between them and her gun. The gun won. I give thanks for that, still. She has since passed, but she was allowed a full, long life – thanks to a gun.
I am a gang rape survivor. I was a child when it happened (eleven). I live knowing that horrid, wretched violence and I can promise you that if someone broken into my home or tried to do that to me again I know thanks to guns I’d have a fighting chance.
I know if someone tried to hurt my stepchildren I could protect them – thanks to guns. I know I have ninety pounds of meat in the freezer and won’t go hungry – because of guns.
That written, both my husband and I feel there should be better laws and regulations. We feel that magazines with no greater than ten rounds of ammo should be banned from sales to civilians and we feel gun education should be mandatory. But because he is a former cop he is also well aware if criminals want guns, they’ll get them regardless of any laws we impose.
We are not right learning conservatives (in fact we are independents who lean very left), but I just ask that you look at it in its entirety. It broke my heart, too, when my ten year old stepdaughter – then nine – told me they have lockdown drills at school for active shooters.
And if it ever came down to someone trying to hurt your child, I could almost guarantee, without a second thought YOU’D pull the trigger to protect them.
(When my husband was a cop, his colleague was shot by a ten year old child who broke into his dad’s gun case. TEN. In addition, I am a Florida native with a gay niece who did a Facebook video on the Orlando shootings. My very good friend checked in on “safe” as Facebook because he was Pulse that night. I broke down into tears on the ground in the middle of my event in Colorado because of it, so please know gun violence has touched our lives, too).
Thank you so much for sharing! Guns are a huge part of the tiny town where I grew up. My parents had guns and used to spend date nights target practicing. My family has a long line of hunters providing food for our family. All the guns I’ve been around have always been properly cared for and the users have been properly trained. Guns are so well respected that the entire 20 years I grew up in that town there wasn’t a single stranger on stranger crime. So I totally believe guns have a purpose and a place. I agree with you that what we have access to on the open market (non military/police) should be limited. I don’t believe anyone needs a military grade weapon in their home. I am certainly not asking anyone responsibly caring for and living with their guns to give them up. I just think it should be a lot more difficult for someone on the street with a history to get their hands on that powerful of a weapon.
I saw that news in Australia and it definitely was food for thought. We don’t have this drill for kids here (not that I know of anyway!). Thanks for sharing your thoughts in this post.
Before I’m a blogger, I’m a forensic scientist. The sad truth of the matter is that laws exists for law-abiding citizens. Those of us who will follow laws anyway follow them. The criminal population, well, they don’t care what the law is, they’ll find a way to get guns.
Having seen the worst things humans can do to other humans, I fear for our children’s future in this country. We can never prepare for the unknown.
I completely understand that. But, there has to be a better option to secure our children at school than giving them drills to prepare to be a victim. We are essentially training them to be victims. We can never prepare for the unknown and we never know what the day is going to bring, but it just feels like if we accept this as the normal things will only get worse from here.
This post is so heartbreaking. Our children will no longer grow up in a world of innocence. We thought after the world wars the children did not need to be raised in a world of fear but I guess we didn’t learn well enough. ????
I can’t imagine anyone reading this post and not feeling it deeply. I will never give up trying to make a difference but situations like this, too often, make me feel helpless to do anything to make a change.
It’s hard to know the right way to make situations like Sandy Hook and Orlando never happen again. It definitely seems like better care for the mental ill and more gun control would be a great start.
I also thinking funding poured into our educational facilities for security could be a good start too. Why should we make the targets and victims deal with all the stress and struggle? 🙁
Wow…a three year old. I have a three year old and can’t imagine her innocence being destroyed like this. It is horrifying and something has to be done.
I am constantly worried for the children’s safety as well. My daughter is in high school and has had to go through many drills on what to do in case a shooter comes into the school. Many schools around us have been on lock down several times due to students carrying guns, and bomb threats.
I think there is a lot of wisdom in doing drills with your kids in case of an active shooter situation but I also agree with you that we should take a stand against violence and let our voices be known about it!
It is terrifying to know our children must practice saving himself during a shoot out. We live near Orlando and that was a horrible moment but what is worst was knowing after all the school shooting our town actually had a drill to prepare kids. It was terrifying.
Two weeks ago I remember overhearing my co-worker talk to her daughter, who is studying in UCLA, and she was so worried and tense. There’s been a shooting in her school and her daughter, along with a few students, locked themselves in the bathroom. Goodness! Really can’t believe this dilemma facing us parents, now matter how old our children are! 🙁
Thank you for writing this powerful post. I share your strong feelings and have also been contacting representatives, donating $, posting on FB and tweeting…I feel a constant need to be doing something, anything to address this issue.
I don’t understand the argument that bad people will always find a way to get a gun. Even if one attack is prevented by banning assault weapons, isn’t that alone worth it?? Why have any laws at all if we think they won’t be obeyed?
I respect the rights of responsible gun owners to own guns. I certainly understand wanting to have them to protect oneself and one’s family.
I agree with limiting magazine capacity if semi automatic weapons can’t be outright banned.
Mental health resources are pathetic in this country and need a major overall. We need programs in our schools and better treatment for all ages. We need to eliminate the stigma associated with all types of mental health conditions. Sandy Hook Promise is a wonderful organization working on gun violence on multiple fronts.
This is not just about outside terrorists or Americans influenced by ISIS or Al Queda. This is also about homegrown white supremisists, prejudice and hatred against all minority groups, not to mention people murdering members of their family on a daily basis!! It is just insane the number of guns easily obtained in this country by people who have no business having them!
And then the accidental shootings! I could go on and on and on. We have so much work to do and it will be a long fight but i refuse to just throw my hands up in the air!
This is such a sweet article, Diedre. I don’t have children yet, but being an aunt to many I can attest that my older sisters have adjusted their friendships, at least when the kids were younger. It’s always great if you have other friends in similar situations who understand!
I would be lost without texting! I, too, used to spend a lot of time on the phone when I was feeding infants but now, text is teh only way to communicate with friends in my hectic day!
My friends say I’ve become more observant ever since I became a mom and they also claim that my need to clean stuff has also increased! It’s quite funny when you realize the changes once your become a parent.
The goldfish printables made. my. day. Thank you! I’m working on phonics with my 3-year-old AND she loves goldfish, so it’s a win win. I also love the tip for using the yoga ball to help with focus. Do you use a smaller ball? My kiddo is tiny, so she can’t actually sit on our ball.
I have used one of the larger kick ball sized balls you get at Target, with a small kids table. As long as her feet can touch the floor to help keep her balance. I am upgrading to a yoga ball soon since my kids are so tall (they have at $5 Below store).
I love this article! Every single word of it is true! Thank goodness friends can pick up right where we left off because sometimes it can be a month in between having time for each other.
I think that a cleaning service/person is a great idea and one that can help you. It gets your place clean and saves your energy for your kids! Really a great plan…
Karen | GlamKaren.com
I love the cleaning service idea! My parents used to do the same thing during the summer, of course we still had out own chores to do as well! Great post xx
Very good tips! Especially the cleaning service/person. We definitely need a break from the never ending clean ups. There are days when I feel like “what’s the point? It’ll get messy again”.
Another tip I think could be relevant is “it’s okay to ask for help” like asking if a friend or family could babysit for a day while you have some alone time. Either to soak in the tub, or go shopping, whatever you need. Everyone needs some time to recharge.
That’s a lot to do for the summer! I normally ask my kids to help out but it would be nice to hire a cleaning lady too, they know better about cleaning anyway. I love the last one. Every mom deserves a break every once in a while!
Wow, curbside grocery shopping must be a complete lifesaver. I use PeaPod and it has been such a time saver having groceries delivered to me. A mom I know actually cleans houses for a little extra cash every so often, so I agree, it’s absolutely possible to hire someone to clean your house for an affordable price-point.
Cute post! I love how we can be talking to our friends, scream mid-sentence at our kids about interrupting us and jump right back into what we were saying! The best thing is we totally get it:)
I would lvoe to have a cleaning lady even for one day a month to help with deep cleaning. There are so many things that really need a deep cleaning this summer.
A cleaning lady is such a good idea! There is so much more SAND around here during the summer! We haven’t had nearly enough baths because we’re always out late. Last weekend we went 2 nights straight without a bath! :-X
I have to text more than talk also. My kids are loud and either yelling or crying so it’s just more efficient to do this. A lot of my friends don’t understand.
I remember hearing new moms complain about not being able to work, clean house and have a kid and I’d think oh come on. People do it all the time! Now as a mom I totally get it!
I remember those days… this too shall pass! So many good times we forgot the rough ones. Now that the kids are grown and married, we find that we once again have that leisure time to visit, shop, etc… we just don’t have quite as much energy.
We have some of the same problems with our grandkids… but it’s SO much easier to just laugh at the messes they make and trouble they cause. After all, WE are not their parents! LOL
Personally I Childbirth is different for everyone. It was worse than I expected it to be that’s for sure. My last two were extremely quick labor (think1.5 hours and 45 min from first contraction to having a baby) with no medication (there wasn’t time). I only had one with medication and the mental fog was just as bad as the 12 hour labor that was both mentally and physically exhausting. But for me the pain quickly subsides after the baby was born.
I think that everyone experiences something different, but there are many similarities. Take it day by day and little by little! 🙂
Karen | GlamKaren.com
I snorted when I read about the sedation, then I though, hey, why not? All of what I read is what I experienced. I can just promise that over time it all gets better. Hugs.
Lol, yes! And the list goes on….I had 2 kids with pain meds and 4 without. I would take no meds anyday. The heartburn….I have been a long time sufferer, but found a few things that have helped. The biggest for me is to remove gluten, actually most carbs. Happy to chat more if you’d like.
I was warned about these when I was pregnant with my first child. It’s still different once you start experiencing it for real. I think these are all worth it though. Definitely!
Great post – and one of my additions is that having a birth plan is a great idea, BUT, be prepared to throw it out the window and trust yourself to make decisions if everything goes sideways during labor. It might even be helpful to allow yourself to talk about what happens if every plan you had goes out the window. What do you really need, support-wise, from your partner? What do you need if you have to have a c-section? It’s great to plan out the ideal situation, but I found that it created a truly false sense of control over a situation that can be completely out of one’s area of influence.
Overwhelmed. Aint that the truth? I feel like I am overwhelmed everyday. But I have to keep toughing it out because so many mothers before me have done so and I feel like there is no reason for me not to. But at the end of the day, when I see a soundly sleeping baby, I feel it’s all worth it.
Everything is true except that childbirth was the most excruciating painful experience for me! 🙁 I had my children naturally as well, plus I have a high tolerance for pain. It’s mostly probably because I went through a long labor with both children, though!
oh-my-gosh you are SO funny! Caffeine is a necessity for pretty much most adults and this Bean Box sounds ideal! What a great concept and sounds yummm…
Karen | GlamKaren.com
Ahhhhh I feel you on never having time! My daughter is now four and I’m finally just starting to get a little bit of me time since she’s older and doesn’t need my constant attention.
No day is complete without coffee and it’s good to have it with friends as well. These days, people even setup coffee stations or bars when they have friends over! I love that you can customize your coffee as well! It’s awesome!
I’m not really a coffee person, but I will drink it every now and then to help jump start my day. I also use in body scrubs. It does wonders for the skin!
I was a huge coffee drinker, but now I’ve turned to decaf. I do agree it’s a great way to sit down with someone and spend time chatting over a good cup of coffee!
A very honest post. I agree with you, I left my first birth and thought “wow, that wasn’t all that bad!” I mean, don’t get me wrong it hurt….but once the baby was out it was over…and it was all for a good cause LOL
I thought with a four year old I didn’t have to worry about this anymore. Then, last week, she put a small toy in her mouth and it got trapped. I had to do the heimlich and luckily she’s ok but it was the scariest moment of my life.
OH MAN! That is SO scary!! Glad it came out…and yes, I thought by age 4 my kids would stop putting things in there mouth..but here we are at 5.5 and I’m still wondering when this phase will end.
I don’t know much about kids because I don’t have one. But I know my mom and my aunts will buy toys that were meant for kids who chew everything. Maybe this might help. Also remember that is their way of exploring the world.
I have three children. The first two never put anything in their mouths…somehow something happened with my third and she puts EVERYTHING in her mouth. Everything…it is miserable. I am constantly picking stuff out of her mouth…Why?!
I can’t even imagine. I was lucky with my 3 that none of them were much into putting things into their mouths. A necklace sounds like an awesome idea…if you can’t find one you should come up with one and sell it to others. 🙂
Oh my! I learned in my studies that toddlers learn more through their mouth as that is one of more sensitive areas of their bodies. So everything goes into the mouth to be judged. Still…
My sons used to pick up anything and everything to put in their mouths. It was a workout just running behind them and making sure they didn’t ingest anything dangerous for them.
wow, what a nightmare. a light bulb, I think I’d freak out. Thankfully the only thing my two ever put into their mouths were their own fingers or their feet.
These stories remind me of my brother when was little. He loved to put anything in his mouth or that of the dog’s mouth. If you heard, “dere,” you ran because you knew something of yours was about to be eaten.
I like to believe that it’s just exposing them to enough things to build a good immune system. It’s amazing what they find attractive enough to stuff it in their mouths!
Kids can be confusing sometimes especially with the habits that they develop. I think one of the reasons they put things in their mouth is their curiosity.
I remember that child birth to me was okay. I did prenatal Yoga and lamaze really helped me. But I had a more difficult time after birth because I was groggy all the time. I was not used to breastfeeding every 3 hours. And I was still very weak.
My kids are a lot older now but when they were younger we had this same problem. Smaller things that resembled food were always the worst. I have no advice besides just telling them not to do it. Hope they break of it soon!
Great post! We also had the “advice” that we wouldn’t be able to handle being new parents, which personally made me unhappy hearing this. In the end it is what you make of it. If you decide you are going to have a great time being a new mother and parent than so it will be – exhaustion, alone time and all. I don’t bother to even close the bathroom door when I have to go, because I know my three year old is right on my heels “What you doing, Mama?” 🙂 We just have to learn to love ourselves and press on.
Great post, really enjoyed reading it!
oh-my-gosh…so funny! Love these stories/memories with kids – they really are the most funny and heartwarming things! 🙂 What kids say… the darndest things!
Karen | GlamKaren.com
Oh God, I’m so happy that your son didn’t get hurt. My son is 1 and he’s been picking up stray bits to put in his mouth. I found him chewing on some of his cereal puffs, which would be fine, but I haven’t given him any. He must’ve found some in his chair or some where. It frightens me that I didn’t know where he got it from and I have that many crumbs laying around and didn’t know.
I think fire F**k is one of the most common mispronunciations for kids! I still struggle with cinnamon! I love that you not only dont stress over it but appreciate the little things!
My mom used to call frogs the f word. The boys at our church thought it was so fun they used to bring frog stickers to get her to say it in the middle of church.
I think I saw a viral video of a little boy your son’s age that had the same pronunciation problem of saying truck too. It is funny to hear a child say it even though they dont mean to…kids say the darnest thing.
Kids are always amusing, especially with their pronunciations. You try to correct them as much as you can but they won’t give in, it’s really going to take a while. Lol.
Kids will eat anything. My husband told me one time his baby sister got into the cleaning cabinet and started drinking the hand cleaner. Eeew! Luckily it wasn’t harmful.
Those necklaces are truly a lifesaver. My son was a chewer when he was little and thats the only thing that kept him from going after grosser options, lol!
I love the cute little things that kids say! I’ve heard the truck one from other moms, so at least it’s normal, right? 😉 Our 3yo twins say calipidder, and I actually accidentally Google “Eric Carle Calipidder” last week and couldn’t figure out why there were no results! They also call bathing suits “bannit soops” and I am not correcting that. <3
I love calipidder!! My oldest also said artilerary instead of artillery. I really had to think about the word before I used it so I didn’t mispronounce it too haha.
Roxanne- great review of this awesome company! I’m in love with the chemical-free skincare. My favorite skincare product is Must Dew… Hydrate your skin while getting an immediate glow. The pro-makeup is exceptional too… My faves are the botanical foundation, perfect mascara, perfect eyeliner pen, and the new paraben-free eyeshadows!
I love learning about new skincare products. RIght now I am pretty happy with my Rodan and Field line but if I’m not, I’ll be sure to check this one out.
This makes me want to expand my cosmetic horizons. It’s very cool that this is a family-owned company, and that they use 100% recyclable packaging – woohoo!
Oh man. Christmas lights!! And I thought mine was bad eating the crumbs from her car seat every car ride. As for necklaces check out Glitter and Spice who makes lots of teething necklaces and accessories as well as Mama Gems is another favorite. Great for either you to wear or your kids depending on their ages.
Oh you are speaking my language! This is the SAHM real story! However it is completely true that at that tipping point a little hand in yours or a little hug can make everything ok again.
My kids are older, so trust me when I say it does change as they grow up. My oldest is going to be 12 next week and doesn’t need me like he used to, so I get lots of me time these days.
I feel you on a lot of these things. I try to remind myself that the kids are little for such a short time and will be off to college before we know it.
You have just reminded me why I only have one kid. And now that she is fully grown, I don’t intend on having any more. One was enough for me. I can’t imagine having three.
Literally tearing up right now. I only have one kid but my husband works a lot too (military) and we live away from family so I get it! My daughter and I are really close and she’s great, but we have our days… then out of nowhere she runs back and just hugs me. And none of the other stuff matters!
When I teach yoga I talk a lot about creating physical and mental space for yourself. We all need it and with it we’re better at all the things we have to do and be.
I love the confidence LLR has given you and really loved the line you wrote , “a recovering self body basher”. Thank you for your encouraging post, it was what I needed to read today!
The leggings are like nothing I have ever worn before! They are the softest, fit amazing and most importantly add a bit of color to my usual, blue, black and gray wardrobe. Thank you Heather Bunch and LuLaRoe!!!
Love pop-up shops – and try to check those out lots so I can get to know a brand better. That dress on you is STUNNING! I mean… really pretty!!
Karen | GlamKaren.com
Wow, thank you for sharing this. While I’m not a mother yet, I can relate it to my childhood, having a mother who always put us first, even when we were driving her crazy. Kudos to you!!
I would be a fan of this company just to see your transformation! You rock those clothes! My neighbor is a consultant and she’s often asked me to try, but I am bigger than their biggest size (right now.) I sure do get your body image deal as that is where I stand at the moment.
On days I wish I had more space for me, I think about how one day, I will have all the space I need and miss my sweet babies. They really do make like. I’ll get there quick enough.
You are killin it in those outfits! I love the skirt and I know I just need one before hitting the beach in a few weeks! I’ve got to check out lula roe!
I hear you! My sanity saving trick is an early morning time. I get up before everyone else, so I can have some peaceful, uninterrupted time just for myself. I do yoga, meditate, have a cup of tea or two and write my blog posts. I don’t get enough sleep for sure, but it’s so worth it!
That skirt takes me back I had a shorter version of your azetc skirt before. Sorry to hear about your struggles with perception of body image. I am the same and find it hard to accept my body as it is but I am better and hopefully you will be soon too x x
Its kind of a “grass is always greener” type of thing, huh? But – you totally bring up good points, but its hard to gauge it all. You’re just too cool and fun as a mom!
Karen
I sometimes secretly think that too. I often struggle on the best way to give my 3 meaningful, one on one attention. I do love having all of the craziness and that they all have each other to play with. I am sure I will long for these crazy days when they are all grown and out of the house.
you know I have two and I came from a family of seven kids. If I was able, I would have liked two more, max. I don’t feel jealous of singletons because it’s up to the adult to entertain them. At least with siblings there’s someone else.
That’s a very good point about siblings playing with each other. Mine really do a great job together most days, and I’m really glad we have the four kids close together. It’s just some days are harder than others 🙂
Hahaha I can definitely see how one kid would be easier but I’m sure you wouldn’t have it any other way. My best friend has 4 kids and I always say she had my share!
It’s tough work for sure… but think about the amazing bonds your kids are going to have with their siblings for the rest of their lives. Totally worth it 🙂
I only have two kids and I think that is the perfect amount. We considered only having one but, in retrospect, I think I would have regretted that decision.
I have one son and he’s one right now. We’re still contemplating on another though. I kinda want a little girl but I don’t know what I’ll do if we have another boy. Too much testosterone in the house! Haha
I think it’s those early years that are the hardest. Two year old’s are crazy little people. You have two of them at once and your whole world goes haywire. But, then they get a little older and the chaos isn’t as bad.
I often think back to when I just had my oldest, and I think, wow, I had so much free time! Definitely not the same now with three little ones, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything!
I love your honesty. You are only saying what everyone else is thinking. When my second baby was born I didn’t understand why I had such a hard time adjusting- I already had one so I knew what I was doing, right? Wrong. My friend encouraged me by saying, “it doesn’t really count unless you have two or more kids. It’s a totally different ball game with more than one.” So true! I can’t even imagine 4 kids under the age of 5…but hang in there!!
It totally counts with one!! 🙂 I think being a mom and caretaker gets harder the more kids you have. You are one person taking care of the needs of many and it can get exhausting and even frustrating. I envy the moms who have several kids, a husband and pets and still have their patience!! 🙂
I’m a mom of one and we are totally happy with having one kid. On the one hand there’s lots of one on one time and I love that. On the other hand, there’s not a sibling for him to play with and so sometimes, instead of him playing with his brother or sister while we do something else, we play with him (which can be draining after a long day, if I am being honest). It’s also very hard to be continually asked “when” we’re having another one … I’m 44 and have no interest in going through the infant stage at this point (even just almost 6 years later). I wouldn’t change what we have, but I also don’t find that having “just” one is as easy as some folks might think.
I think parenthood is certainly full of challenges no matter how many kids you have! I have twins and one on one time is rare for us. It’s all me all the time. I wish they’d prefer playing with each other some days, but they both want me most of the time. I agree, it’s draining entertaining kids! I can’t imagine having two sets of multiples at once. Potty training two at once was hard enough…I can’t imagine 4.
My aunt used to say to me, “the heart is like a rubber band, it stretches to make enough room for everyone.” I am a twin mom too, and for me the hard part is having two kids demanding the same kind of attention. A two year old’s needs are different than a newborn. That’s a whole different game to me! You will adjust quickly!
This is SUCH a great post – because its a reminder to me to get healthy in the mornings. I need to develop a gameplan like you and get some protein and good stuff into my routine!
Karen
As a single parent with one child, I always felt that it was hard, never felt adequate or able to do everything that I needed to do… Intellectually I realize that it would have been harder with more children but it never felt easy or something that I was able to do a great job at…
Every parent has their challenges, whether it is one or ten our job is never easy. I think single moms have it rough because you are everything to your child- mom, dad, disciplinarian, fun maker, bread winner, caretaker. My mom was a single mom to 4 of us and I remember it was never easy. I think for me as a twin mom I wish I had the time to enjoy each individual child. There is just one me and two of them and there is always conflict over my attention. That’s the hardest part for me.
Sounds like the perfect way to make sure you’re energized during the morning. I never skip breakfast because it gets me through the day! It would be nice to have this in the morning especially if you’re going to have a long day!
I’m also a twin mom and I think the jealousy part for me is having the time to bond one on one. Two kids the same age demanding the same kind of attention gets hard. You feel like you have to divide yourself. I see moms with just one kid and they get to give them all their attention and really focus in on their needs. With my two … it’s just chaos.
I am all about quick breakfasts too. I am just not a morning person so I make big batches of muffins for my kids and just pull them straight out of the freezer and they eat them on their way to school.
This sounds like something a lot of people in Brillion joint I know will getting busy and trying to stay healthy is a challenge in itself I will look more into it thanks for sharing.
I love my morning smoothies. I just don’t have time for all the cutting and chopping. It sounds so easy and simple, but really hard with two little ones hanging off my back pockets. 🙂 This is working much quicker and easier for me! And I get to keep my smoothies!
It is a life time of rewards…but, when you are in the thick of doing all the work the days feel long! True what they say, “the days are long but the years are short.”
I try to start my mornings off with a green smoothie, but they can be a bit labor intensive. Have a quickie and healthy on the go alternative would be nice.
You can definitely add in berries or fruit of choice to make it a smoothie. I personally need something gluten, dairy, soy and egg free. It’s hard to find good clean sources of protein without those things added! 🙂
You look fantastic! Such great colors/designs for the fall season, too! I’ll definitely have to check them out for friends/family. Sad to miss the giveaway!
I’m sorry you missed the giveaway too! But, I hope you get a chance to try some LLR SOON! I just picked up a couple of dresses for my girls back to school wardrobe. 🙂
Oh I so need this just for the energy booster, I normally eat healthy for breakfast but I need something to give me energy so this is an awesome choice it’s healthy and it gives you more energy!!
I just recently started my weight loss journey, and I have to admit I have never used weight loss shakes. I may have to give it a try and implement it into my routine!
haha – nope. Expensive toys not required! Save that for when they are much, much older and value it! Enjoy all the memories you have with your baby!
Karen
YES. YES. YES! To all of these. My son is 11 months old and I can’t believe how much I’ve learned over that short time. Everything in your post mirrors what I’ve learned as well. Love it!
Your post is full of truths! We learned early about not buying expensive toys too, although the Jumparoo was a lifesaver in our house. Both my sons would sump until they fell asleep!
Lol, oh the toys. Yes, I bought all the expensive toys too and my kids played with them for about 26 seconds. And I never learned, I did that with all three kids!
Marriage can be rough if its just the two of you. Add a new baby into the mix and it really gets rough. Glad to see you survived it all and pulled through.
So cute – that pencil bow is unique and so clever 🙂 I’m SUPER excited for my son to go to kindergarten this year. He’s a September baby so he goes nearly a year after his cousins (born only 5 weeks before him). He’s ready and rarin’ to go, so that’s why I’m thrilled for him.
I love that pencil bow too! So different. My kids are getting more excited to start school. They have a late birthday and had to wait an extra year too. I think we are all ready by this point!
My kids go to public school and we get a specific list. It makes my life easier just to walk through Target and check stuff off as I throw it in my cart.
My boys started last week and they do well in public school. I love though, that there are options for those that don’t do as well or need an optional environment to learn and thrive.
Wishing you all the best in getting your own school year going and that it is filled with adventures! Hope you get to plan a lot of fun trips with your kids for some fun hands-on lessons!
So interesting. I’ve thought about home schooling (we’re still a few years away though) so it’s great to hear the practical differences between the two. Thanks for sharing!
I don’t have kids but have friends that do, plus friends that are teachers, and friends that homeschool. I will say that seeing it from an outsider as a parent I’d prefer homeschooling I think.
That is neat how you have a perspective on both homeschooling and public school. My son had a lot of trouble in the 3rd grade and I really thought I was going to have to homeschool him. Something about the 3rd grade!
Thank you! And that’s wonderful! We’re not sure how long we’ll be homeschooling. For now we’re taking it year by year, but I am hoping to hang on as long as possible.
Before reading this article I really didn’t know any of the differences between traditional and homeschooling practices when it came to back-to-school time. Interesting read!
My kids have, at various times, been homeschooled and traditionally schooled, and either way, getting ready for a new school year is quite a challenge.
Wow! I am a real stickler when it comes to these types of products and your product has hit every thing I value straight on the head. I’ll be checking them out and I’ll tell them you sent me.
I’m totally interested in the hand sanitizer! I have sensitive hands but a slight case of germaphobe, so this would come in handy. I thought this might be sticky and then read NON-STICKY, 🙂 LOVE that!
Thanks for sharing your review.
Hmm, I could use some of that hand sanitizer and the bug away. Do you know if the hand sanitizer reacts with gel nails? My last set of nails discoloured with the hand sanitizer I normally use.
I don’t wear gel nails, so I’m sorry I don’t know the answer to that. I am sure you could write to Kim directly through her website to be sure. The ingredient list in this santizer is much different than your usual sanitizers.
I am loving the idea of that hand sanitizer! Heather above had a good question too about the nails. I’m definitely going to look into this, had never even heard of it until this post. Thank you.
I had toyed with the idea of homeschool in the past, but I don’t think it would make sense for me to do it now since work keeps me pretty busy. I do admire those who are able to do it, though!
So curious to try the magic salve. I really like more natural products that help treat bumps, scratches, burns and any other irritants that bother my skin.
Not only are they organic, eco friendly but its cruelty free too which is perfect for me. I love that the herbal range cares about animals and the environment as well as making excellent products.
That is so awesome that you were able to figure out at a young age what worked best for your daughter. So happy to hear that she is thriving. It seems like you’re really creating a well-rounded education for her. So great!
Total solidarity! I remember back to when I was a kid and if I didn’t eat something I just sat there quietly and found a way to get rid of it when my mom wasn’t looking. It would just be so much easier if my kids figured that out! LOL
you are so funny! I only eat round… no… not that… triangle… but not that… omg. Nailed it. And it can be such a battle – who wants to look forward to that every-single-evening? lol
This was really great to read. I am a first time mom and we have transitioned from bottle to food. My little one eats everything so I have not had to go through this. Of course, he could change (praying he wont) so this is a post I am going to keep. I love your letting go of perfection mindset – I just recently wrote a post on authentic self and another on being an imperfect perfectionist. Raising the white flag is a step out of your comfort zone, but I guess it must have been the right time 🙂
Oh I feel your pain and so has every other parent in the world! Just when you think you have found the one food they eat, disaster strikes and they change to something else, ha
Man…. do you have a hiddeb camera in my house or what?! I feel like we lead VERY similar lives. My dynamic duo is 3 years old going on 14. Bossy. Mouthy. PICKY…… is there a stronger adjective to describe picky?! If there was, I’m sure you would know it. My one boy is AWFUL. He doesn’t even like the touch or sight of most foods. Each bite has to be cut into microscopic pieces & most times he barely finishes anything on his plate. Mealtime = a BATTLE three times a day here too. Constant coaching to eat, take a bite, empty threats of going to the doctor, etc. The other boy is a decent eater, so thank God he balances out this craziness. Hang in there, momma! It’s “whatever” here too. ????
YES YES YES!!! I am on the verge of a picky eater emerging and I have to ALSO think back to when I was a kid – and all I wanted was macaroni and cheese with BBQ sauce in it. So who am I to fault my kid for wanting something particular even if it drives me mad. YOU ARE WINNING MAMA!!! Hang in there!!!!
You are every Mom! My toddler just got really picky all of the sudden and it’s driving me nuts. This post made me laugh so hard, because it is so true.
I have 2 great eaters and 1 terrible eater. I have found that the more kids a person has they more they realize that each kid is his own person and it isn’t that the parents are awesome parents so that is why they have good kids…it is because the kid was randomly born good. Some kids are just born difficult and you can be the best parent ever and those kids are just who they are…I feel like it will serve them well as adults to be so demanding. 🙂 They will make great bosses…they have been acting like a boss their whole lives. Ha!
OMG, I can so relate to this. I am a food blogger….and all three of my kids are super-picky. It is only SLIGHTLY better with my oldest two now that they are 10 & 11. My rule is that if they don’t want what I’m making they can fix themselves something else. All three will starve rather than eat something they don’t want.
This conversation is hilarious!!!! Haha and we love how you pointed out the “offensive shape”. We don’t have children yet, but when we do we hope we maintain your sense of humor. XOXO
So true! My kids were like this when they were little. They used to say like they couldn’t eat eggs because they felt weird in their mouth. Now they eat eggs all the time. They’ll get over it! You just have to show them you’re stronger than they are…LOL
I think it’s okay to feed them what they ask for sometimes. So long as they’re eating. We all parent differently and we all want the best for our kids. Just do what you think it right for them.
Awe Roxanne Finally got on your Blog.
Sherri my cousin Florence’s daughter
Ozzie’s cousin too. I was really impressed with Norwec
Towels. Awesome! Where can I buy them?
Walmart have them
I always found it difficult to make my kid eat and behave at the dinning table. Thankfully now my kids are older and we really enjoy spending together time, especially at hibachi restaurants.
My little cousin went throught a phase when he said he couldn’t swim in wound pools, so I definitely feel you on the strange pickiness. Go with your gut mamma, believe it or not, this too will pass and when they get hungry enough, they will eat.
These cards are adorable! And I love that they have a service for double checking that everything is right – if I were sending out a big batch of cards I’d totally take advantage of that.
I definitely pick my battles when it comes to meals. Usually they get free reign for breakfast and lunch, and then dinner is mine, where they need to eat what I make. Sometimes that works, sometimes that doesn’t…
Basic Invite has THE best custom cards out there – love the variety and the quality! And uploading your own photos is the best part, especially when they make the design patterns so chic to use!
Oh – you reminded me that I need to get some thank yous in the mail! And now you also have me thinking about designing my Christmas cards! I need to check this company out.
These are too cute! Should’ve looked them up for early July when I had my son’s birthday party. Would’ve saved me a heck load of trouble doing the designs and prints.
I love cards. I keep every card that someone gives me, so I would love to add this to my stash if someone sent me one… especially since it has all the personal touches from the customizations 🙂
Ashley is amazing and a true inspriation, as are you Whatever Mom for all you do to to fight against childhood cancer! Thank you for this heartfelt and powerful post.
I went to Penn State and every year they hold, THON, the largest student-run philanthropic event in the world. The money goes to the Four Diamonds Fund that helps find a cure for pediatric cancer, so whenever I see stories like this, I always stop, read and get a bit teary eyed. What an inspiration Ashley is!
Kait, my daughter lost a dear friend to cancer as a young child. 12 years later, as a senior at Penn State, she danced. Now my son is working toward when he dances for the kids, and for a cure. Both The Four Diamonds Fund and St. Baldricks are truly exceptional and putting so much into research and truly helping to find a cure.
Yes! A local mom friend of mine has two children who both attend Penn and have thon experience! I have supported them that he last couple of years. Amazing event and organization!
God this made me cry noone should have to go through cancer, but to hear a toddler suffering it breaks my heart. She is beautiful and its amazing that she has raised so much money for others and I think its great that she braved the shave. Good on her and you for raising awareness x
What a scary thing to watch your niece go through!! I would have to say going bald would be important as well to my family after going through that. Sounds like an amazing organization!
They are amazing! They have no corporate overhead so majority of the money they raise goes directly to researching a cure. Please feel free to pas along to anyone who wants to get involved. ????
thank you fro sharing this story of a brave girl. I have volunteered on occasion at children’s hospital adn it always amazes me how strong these children are.
I love this story! Childhood cancer is horrible and I love that you supported your niece in this way. I’m a cancer survivor and the night my Hubby had to shave my head, he finished shaving me and then shaved his own head. It really speaks volumes to the person going through cancer to see others doing that FOR THEM.
I can’t image going through this with my kids or watching them get operated on, wondering if they are going to live.Thank you for sharing this important story. God bless her
What a brave young girl. Cancer is so hard to watch anyone go through, but I have always found it even harder with children. I so admire what she is doing for other. It takes a special person to go through such an experience and be so passionate to help others at such a young age.
Your family sounds amazing and I wish Ashley a long and happy life! I am so thankful for medical centers, especially pediatric ones, that specialize in treating cancer.
I was a picky eater as a kid but it was only the types of foods. I can’t imagine dealing with pickiness about color and shape too! Best of luck in the future! Maybe they’ll outgrow it. 😉
What a beautiful post. I know your friend Michelle smiled big and is watching down from Heaven. I don’t know why but maybe she had something to do w/you getting them twins 🙂 I myself was heading to work and had no clue what was going all I remember was the massive amount of people all moving out of the city and here I was walking towards the city wondering what in the world is going on. Each year my heart aches and seems unreal. I can’t even believe it’s been 15 years but no matter the time we will NEVER forget. ((HUGS)) to you.
I am sitting here at my desk reading this and sobbing. My husband and I recently took a trip to NYC to see the memorial museum and it leaves you without words and full of emotion. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend and for all the others who perished on that awful day. Like you, I remember thinking the sky was so pretty in PA – crsip, clear and beautiful. Thank you for sharing this.
Such a hard day for the country – but especially if you knew someone personally from this tragedy. I’m so sorry for your loss. Its got to be incredibly painful. 🙁
Prayers going up for your friend! The souls we lost will be with us always! We will never forget this tragedy, but honor them by living life to the fullest right?
I was living in California on September 11 so didn’t know a lot of people personally impacted by the events. But just a couple of years afterwards I moved to Philadelphia and then everything suddenly became more personal because it was so much more personal for the people around me
This made me tear up a little. This is very touching. I’m sure each and everyone of us remember what we were doing that day and where we were. It was heartbreaking and horrific.
Love it!
very clever activity.
<3
We died tube noodles for Monkey to string on yarn as our garland for the Christmas tree a few years ago. It was really fun. I bet he would love this idea too. I agree with the hubs, the rice does look like fruity pebbles.
A twist on the fruity pebbles as edible fun…Throw in mini colored marshmallows as the gold and gems and have them use tweezers to pic out the fortune to help with motor skills. (oh that was a good idea!) 🙂
An edible version is great for little ones who still put things in their mouth! And, it’s just plain fun!
I love the color coordination!!!!
Wish I could post pictures for ya. I made a busy book that had a story with interactive felt apples that Velcro onto a tree drawing on cardboard. The apples are taken from the tree and placed in the duct tape basket as each character in the story eats an apple.
I also used a Ziploc bag, small miscellaneous objects, rice and duct tape to make a seek bag. Before placing small objects in the bag I took a picture of them and made a pictorial list of things to find. I even used letter beads to spell out monkeys name. Then around the edges I reinforced the seals of the bag. I added an extra strip of duct tape to put holes in and added to his busy book.
Bead Counter made from left over ribbon, beads and cardboard (cereal box). 10 pieces of ribbon are attached to the cardboard and then on each strand there is the ascending amount up to 10. So the first ribbon has 1 bead, Second ribbon has 2 beads and so forth to the tenth ribbon having 10 beads.
shape matching made with cardboard (cereal box), felt shapes, Velcro, and perm marker. I cut out the shapes in felt, traced them on the cardboard and colored the shapes in, attached the Velcro to the cardboard. I hole punched a Ziploc bag to put the shapes in so they don’t get lost when not being used.
Sticker page was made form left over stickers, and a page protector. I just placed extra stickers in the sleeve and the sticker can be re-stuck to it over and over again.
Do you want some more ideas…lol
Thanks Deb! Great ideas!
I love your blog! I just read the whole thing top to bottom and will continue to do so! Thanks for sharing so many fantastic ideas!
Thanks Jodi!!
Thank you so much for sharing the art class info. Of course you’re an easier going parent when your needs are met, creative and all. I hope you enjoy the class. Peace to you, Brenda Date: Mon, 17 Mar 2014 20:48:09 +0000 To:
Brilliant and so easy! I love it!
I completely understand the frustration when things do not go as planned. I have to say “It’s in God’s Hands” in order for me to not become frazzled. However things always turn out just as planned or better even when I let my frustration go. I love the glow egg idea.
I completely understand the frustration when things do not go as planned. I have to say “It’s in God’s Hands” in order for me to not become frazzled. However things always turn out just as planned or better even when I let my frustration go. I love the glow egg idea.
I never would have thought of attaching accessories on the hangers with an outfit. Wish I would have done that years ago, it would have saved me a lot of time. Thanks Roxanne for the tip and the visual confirmation of what the outfits look like on the hanger all together. That was great.
I am not sure how I am going to set up a mom routine yet! I still have a few months before our baby girl is born but I have got into the getting up early and forcing my self through the day a few times a week to prep for the baby marathon of no sleep once she gets here. I already set my outfits up in the closet and I trade out clothing based on seasons. I have however changed up some of my organization setup to bring them down to kid levels and put others higher. What suggestions do you have on getting ready for baby?
Sounds like you are already pretty organized. In regards to prepping for sleepless nights… don’t prep. Nothing will prepare you. Get as much rest as you can now b/c it will be a very, very long time before you get enough! My suggestions getting ready for baby is be flexible and its ok to do whatever you need to do to get through an exhausting day! 😉 I think you’ll do great mama!
I am an advocate of thinning out the wardrobe twice a year and donating to my local church or goodwill. I have more room for my favorite outfits and feel like I’ve given back to my community. It feels great! Clothing stores also clear out the racks at least twice a year so I will comb the clearance racks for super cheap tshirts that are great for both day and bed time wear! After buying hockey gear for my son, I have no money left for clothes. But you can find some new fav items for pennies, well a few dollars anyway if you shop the clearance racks!
That’s my new mission! I set a budget for the girls wardrobe, but never include a budget for myself. Must change immediately! 🙂
I absolutely love it! The best part it was free. Roxanne Ferber you should consider being a pary planner.
I absolutely love it! The best part it was free. Roxanne Ferber you should consider being a party planner.
Love it! Keep the ideas coming!
you rock Roxanne ! I also shop thrift stores and clearance racks all year and stash stuff away… It helps for last minute birthday gifts, too now that she is turning into a social butterfly in school…
This is your best article by far!!!!!
Thanks Debra! It was a really fun and important project for me to complete!
I…….LOVE……THIS!! I spent many years as a stay-at-home and heard multiple working moms chastise stay-at-homes for, “not having a ‘real’ job,” or “she only stays at home.” On the flip side I heard multiple stay-at-home moms chastise the working moms for, “letting someone else do the job of parenting.” I said, more than once, “Aren’t we ALL moms and shouldn’t we be supporting each other as women???” Excellent write up, Roxanne. Carry on.
Thanks Tamara! I’ve heard the same chastising too! It really takes a village to raise a child- what kind of village are we creating if we are always working against each other?
I am drowning and losing myself with all that I do for my three kids and work. A night out would be awesome!
Good luck busy mama!
Lol vine is my surname lol x
I love this idea for a mom’s night out. Combining my love of wine and creativity, all while unwinding after chasing my two little munchkins all day!
You deserve some time to yourself!
I’ve been taking a Bollywood/Zumba dance class on Thursdays in Rhinebeck at the American Legion (630pm – $15 for “drop-ins” ) FABULOUS ! and a lot of fun ! we laugh a lot and I’ve fallen down from tripping over my own feet ….no one cares ! Come join us !
Sounds like a lot of fun!
Thanks for the chance!
Welcome! You deserve it!
Would love a night out and I have a mom friend who needs one bad!!!
Every mom needs a night out! Good luck!
because it’s a fantastic time, even if you suck at painting (like i do)!
If there’s a bottle of wine open you can find me close by! Whether it’s a paint night or a truck rally!
In need of a night out!! Two teenagers, enough said!
Definitely says it all!
I need a night out (especially if wine is involved) so that I can feel like a human again. My kids are my life, but I have to remember myself at times too!
Moms are people too!
Definitely need a mommy’s night out!! Between running around after an 18 month old all day, cleaning all night, and dealing with lots of family drama….I’m about to lose it!!
I’m sorry to hear about the drama! Good luck sounds like you deserve a win!
I wish more of my mom friends understood the value of moms night out…I have the hardest time getting anyone to join me! Its so important for us as moms and for our children for us to get a little time “off” to reboot! Cheers!
“reboot” that’s a great way to put it!
I want to go to a Vin Van Gogh event so badly.
I definitely would love a night out! I have a very energetic 2 year old and a new baby who keep me busy all the time!
Sounds like you could use a break! Good luck!
Beautifully said Roxanne! I love you girl!
These are great! Any chance of sharing your freezer crockpot meal recipes?
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I am loving the acorn tops!!!! Very kid friendly and beautiful. Love seeing pics of the hubs too. <3
Here’s a little organizational tip for overnight trips. Gallon sized Ziplocs that include a whole outfit. Let them pick out the outfits before they’re packed. It makes vaca a whole lot easier with little people.
Love it! I used this tip for our last family vacation! I fit 2 full outfits into 1 Ziploc bag and packed 14 outfits using only one half of my suitcase! Huge space saver and made getting ready in the morning much easier!
First of all I love you. You are hilarious and i am happy that you will not let that little shit hacker silence you! Secondly, I welcome the following topics: how to combat holiday overload, special needs issues, tips for play dates…mostly i love to hear stories about your daughters 🙂
Right back at ya!! I’ll do my best to cover these topics! 🙂
Loved, loved, loved this post! Great ideas. Thanks for sharing
I love this story! I, too, can’t stand the fact that some people just cannot control their mouths just like children cannot control their emotions. I learned very early as a young mom when a friend of mine, whose son was about ten months older than mine, said she couldn’t stop her son from climbing out of his crib so she put the side down and taught him how to climb out safely. I said I would NEVER put up with THAT! About a year later I was teaching my son how to climb out of his crib safely. I ate that bitter crow and shut my mouth after that! My most recent bout with meltdown madness was just a couple of weekends ago. My daughter and I took my grandson to Green Lakes for a beautiful walk. I was looking for some unique photos to take and I found a strange looking tree up on an incline. My grandson agreed to climb up with me. Without warning, he began to wail. He was afraid he would fall. I promised I wouldn’t let him and held onto his shirt. He screamed to let go of him but if I did, he would tumble. People stared at him as they walked by but seemed to be fine with it. I had to shimmy around the tree, sit down and drag him to me so we could slide down the hill. Kids have meltdowns, some louder than others. Some kids are calm, some aren’t but they’re all just kids. My son got lost at the Catskill Game Farm when he was 2 1/2. It all happened in about thirty seconds with four adults and an older brother and sister with him. Some guy said, “That’s what happens when you don’t watch your kid.” If I could have set his hair on fire without getting caught, I would have. 🙂
Some of the times I felt the most confused and upset as a child was when I wasn’t breaking any rules but got “punished” by my parents anyway because I might have been embarrassing them. I’m glad you don’t change the rules because of social pressure. This makes life a lot more consistent for kids and, of course, that is everything to a child. 🙂
I admit it’s hard sometimes to not let that pressure take over a moment. I’m sure I have a time or two, but it really hit me the other day kids are kids. If they aren’t being destructive, rude or ill-mannered then really not much to fuss over. Thanks for reassuring me I’m on the right path. 🙂
Good job ! I have the opposite problem in public – G is very reserved around strangers. We are working on the whole “make eye contact and speak loud enough when adults speak to her” thing. At home she is loquacious and very high energy just like yours…. She is finally speaking up in class (1st grade) and raising her hand to answer questions. And by the way – thanks for the acorn cap jewel craft idea – we did it last week and they turned out cool ! G is bringing them in to school to give to her classmates at their halloween party !
Sometimes I wonder if it is because there are 2 at the same age and stage. I don’t get the time to individually review things or address things. So glad you liked the acorn caps. We had fun with them too!
This is very beautiful!
You nailed it!! There are so many ways to chip in and to teach our children the value of helping others.
I miss those little cherubs however proud of the young people they have become!!! Love this post, your best so far!
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Thank you!! Good luck!!
I shared the blog with 32 friends and on my Facebook page. Hopefully they start to follow your awesome blog! Hopefully I win the gift card
Thanks for sharing!! Good luck!
shared with at least 15 friends on Facebook.
Thank you! Now let’s hope they all follow to get us closer to 500!!
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Thanks so much Jenna! Good luck!!!
I shared with all 700 of my Facebook friends! Who doesn’t love winning?!,?
Now if all of them subscribe to FOLLOW the blog we could get to 500 followers real quick!! Thanks for sharing! Good luck!
Awesome! Kids have the hardest time clearing their noses.
I shared with my Facebook friends. All 468 of them, but I know some are already fans!
Thank you! Good luck!!
You’re awesome love your blog ????
Thanks Felicity! You’re pretty awesome yourself! Thanks for following! 🙂
Love this!
I love it so much more now that it isn’t the daily occurrence! 😉
Loved this! I am in the same season of life and deal with these same things. Check out my blog Mother’s Divided http://www.atasteoftheforbiddenfruit.com/comforting-confessions-blog/mothers-divided
I would love your feedback! Thank you!
Wow, this is an awesome post that I am sharing now!!
Thanks so much for reading and sharing!
What a great reminder…thank you for sharing! Parenting is difficult enough as it is without feeling pressure and judged for all of your parenting decisions
I love it when you hit it off with someone like that!
A lot of times, it’s the kids who click and not the moms. It’s nice when you can find someone who’s in the same place to click with.
i moved a few years ago and havent met a mom that i really click with. it’s so hard. i hear convos between where they are just competing with each other. it’s like, why do ya’ll do that!!!? why can’t we just be there to listen and not one up each other?
That’s exactly why I started the Whatever mom blog!! I want to share my philosophy of acceptance and let other moms know it is OK to make choices that fit your family, not everyone else’s expectations!
Its always nice to find someone you can talk to and with. Having adult talk is important!
I love when you meet someone new and just hit it off!
I love those moments where it clicks. I’m also lean more toward free range parenting (it drives my husband bonkers), it’s hard not to feel judged when you take the step back approach.
It’s the best when you can connect with someone right of the bat. It doesn’t happen that often so enjoy every minute of those conversations!
I really can’t think of anything I said I would never do. I guess my attitude was always do what you have to do to survive and never say never.
I’ve been walking around thinking about your post and it came to me! I never thought I would say, “if you don’t eat your dinner, NO DESSERT!”
There some things we find ourselves doing we just never saw coming. 😉
good question. i cant think of anything off the top of my head. i know i find myself saying things my mom always said. but good luck potty training. my girl was good to go by 2. i kept it simple, treats and stickers and pad time oooooonly if she sat on the potty. 🙂
We are a low tech family so no iphones or ipads. The girls are happy with books on the potty and pretty much where ever we go. They are just very strong willed kids who want to be the decision makers. I can’t wait until they become teenagers [sense the sarcasm?]. LOL
I’m currently in that “I’ll never” phase of my life, but give me 5 years and I’m sure I’ll be sprinkling magic fairy poop dust all over my house too. Such a cute idea!
What a great experience with another mama! It’s so nice when you can just click like that!
I love that you sprinkled glitter everywhere! I celebrated my daughter’s half birthday today to make a sad week better. Never thought I would make cupcakes for a half birthday!
Oh we celebrated this year’s half birthday! My girls thought they were getting half a birthday cake… lol They got store bought chocolate chip muffins for breakfast and a round of Happy Birthday each. LOL
We ares struggling right now with potty training. My son has no desire to use the potty what so ever.
It really happens in their own time. When they feel they are in control of it. It’s just not easy affording all those diapers in the meantime! Hang in there! It will happen!
OMG I’m going through the terrible potty training phase and it is not for the weak! Good luck from one mama to another!
Thanks! The girls are pee-pee trained…. can go all on their own, but that pesky #2 thing is still a mystery to them. (And TONS of laundry for me!). lol Hang in there…it seems eternal b/c WE want to be done with it! LOL But, one day it all clicks and you realize you haven’t had to wipe up pee in weeks and you feel proud of your kids!
I am the eldest of 4, have a bunch of nephews and nieces and was a preschool teacher for 20 years. Believe me, by the time i finally had my own child I knew to never say never lol!
I think we are going the picture route. It’s thoughtful & Dad’s love to show off family at work. Since my kid is 1, I’ll do most of the work ????
I’m sure he’ll appreciate showing off the family! I know my hubby likes to share pics with his co-workers too.
I love these tips. I must admit I am still not sure what to get my hubby for fathers day, from the kids, and I may just use your idea for the “car fund”. Even the make him king for a day one would be fabulous!
I love the fund jar idea! I truly believe that Father’s/Mother’s Day is from the kids, so I let my daughter pick out whatever she wants for her dad. She’s only three, so the gifts may be a little silly, but my husband gets a good laugh out of it anyway. It definitely makes the holiday more fun!
It’s fun to see what things kids consider a gift. 😉 But, it’s chosen with so much love!
The ideas in this post are great! It just goes to show that it truly is the thought that counts.
I love that y’all don’t purchase gifts, but that you out thought into something simple. Those are the best I gifts, better than anything advertised for these holidays in the store!
The kids really enjoy making things and having their parents get excited about it!
Yes it’s really the thought that counts and showing appreciate to a beloved dad.
I enjoyed these ideas.
Thanks!
I always wait until the last minute too! My husband has been wanting copper mugs for Moscow Mules forever. I finally remembered to order some! He’s going to be so surprised! Now I need to figure out something for my dad. Thanks for sharing this great list!
I am taking my husband on a picnic with our daughter for Father’s Day! Soooo much fun and it shows that you really put some thought into the day!
So many great ideas! Pictures are always my favorite to give as a gift…but I love your idea of going on a picnic! We might just have to do that this year!
I totally agree! I love this post. I had a lot of negative feelings toward my c-section because I had to be put completely to sleep so both my husband and I didn’t get to witness the birth. Mom shaming totally stinks! I’ve written a post on it myself. I’m totally down for a group hug!
I love this! So true. We ARE all moms. All doing our best and what we think is right. It works for us and our family! Being a parent is hard enough, we shouldn’t have to worry about being judged on top of it!!!!
I agree. We are all Moms. I try to stay away for moms judging and all the drama that comes with it. Don’t judge someone until you walked in their shoes.
I love those ideas! Hello fellow twin momma!
I love those ideas! Hello fellow twin momma! Kiddie coupons is a great idea!
I hate the mommy battles SO much! What does it matter to anybody if you had a c-section. Drives me crazy!
really great questions there. i dont even know if i wrote this on your blog or another mom’s, but i find it soooo hard to connect with other moms because it is ALWAYS about one-upping. i feel like that anyways and i am not talking about all moms, of course.
Something about Social Media that makes people feel so powerful and with that power they share everything i.e freely dumping our personal opinions
I’m all for group hugs! I think having a c-section or not would be part of a childbirth conversation. I love talking birth stories. Women need to get a grip!
So true!! It’s so easy to get wrapped up in mom drama! I am lucky to be surrounded by an amazing group of moms. My MOPS (Moms of preschoolers) group is amazing. I’m at the point where if someone is going to judge me or make me feel shamed, I don’t have time for them in my life.
I am part of a MOPs group too! Nearly saved my life!! I would not have survived the last 3 years of motherhood without my MOPs moms!
I had two c-sections. I haven’t expereinced mom shaming but it is something that I hold in the back of my head in case it happens to me.
Agreed! It takes a village, but we can’t be a village if we are all cat fighting.
Wow! Some people are horrible. I mean if you carry a child you are a champ no matter how you get that baby out!
I’m in for the giant group hug coffee session 🙂
Yay!! {{{Hug}}}
Love your tips – especially the looking where you sit! The world always looks so bright on graduation day!
I can’t tell you how many times that advice alone has helped me get through a bad day. 😉
I love #10, it’s a good rule to live by! My brother-in-law just graduated high school too and I remember graduating myself just like it was yesterday! It’s such a scary and exciting time and a little advice can make all the difference!
My mom packed us activity bags for our road trips when I was younger and I LOVED them! Kept us busy for the 3 and 4 day road trips we took!
This is a neat idea. The boys only have toys at Mema’s so packing side walk chalk and other outdoor activities they could do would be a great idea. I would definitely pack a separate for the car that would include coloring books, travel printable games, reading books and snacks.
This would be perfect to take along to Mema’s when the boys visited. Not only would it keep them occupied during the ride but also during the visit. I have a activity basket that I keep in the car with snacks, coloring books, crayons, stickers, reading books and travel printable games.
Great ideas for traveling anywhere, even the cabin or the beach! Thanks for sharing!
This is so fantastic! We do something similar!
What a great idea! My kids don’t have grandparents anymore but if they did I would love to do this!
Smart Idea. We’ve always had something in the back of the car to entertain kids at all times.
These little baskets are the cutest! You are so organised 🙂
This is perfect! Activity bags and baskets will definitely be around my household when I finally have kids of my own. 🙂 Love how you repurposed the broken basket as well!
Cool idea, I probably should have this permanently in my car. the only time my kids bring with them an activity bag is when we go to church.
I actually have a caddy in between their car seats, but they can’t reach it. (I thought I was being efficient lol). Easier for me to send things back to them, or hand off a new activity when I’m at a stop.
This is such a cute idea. Typically on a road trip to grandmas my little one usually falls asleep because I like to do it during his nap time. I wonder how long that will last!
I used to love writing letters when I was younger complete with the stamped sealing wax. I guess that is a lost art now. But The looked beautiful and so romantic.
Haha this is so true!! I used to LOVE receiving letters, and still have a few from old boyfriends lying around somewhere! I am so glad I am not 16 and starting to date with all the technology around – I have a feeling it could be mildly suffocating 🙂
So much of our lives a public now. I’m just glad it wasn’t the way it is now when I was a kid. I would have gotten into so much trouble.
This is so true, I’m so glad my husband and I met during the time before all the tech and apps were around and part of everyday life.
What a great idea , schedules are a great way of documenting what needs to be done each day but a sticker chart rewards your hard work and records your activities . Good job and good luck with the rest of your posts http://www.fadedspring.co.uk
Thanks!
I’ve been thinking about doing this for my fitness journal. I write down what I do daily, but there’s nothing like seeing 30 days of progress at a glance. And, let’s face it – we all love stickers!
Hmmm! This is a great idea. I love stickers and something visual to represent progress, so I REALLY need to try this. Sometimes (okay, much of the time) it is hard for me to pin down that weasel known as motivation 🙂 Thanks for the tip!
Crazy how quickly I can muster the motivation to poor a glass of wine than I can to lace up my sneakers. lol
I never thought of doing a reward system for myself like I do for the kids. This would be great so that I can feel better about what I accomplish during my marathon training!
I am a very visual person so this was just a great idea for me. I get a little competitive and want to see more stars! 🙂
That’s a fun way to stay accountable! Mani/pedi rewards are my fave!!!
Mine too! 🙂
I love using sticker charts for myself! So helpful to see a visual representation of my progress towards my goals!
I don’t really have anything I am working towards right now, but this is a great idea!
This is sad but I was thinking if I lose the weight that I want that I would reward myself with a new bra. So sad!!
Not sad…but also not a reward! lol That’s an essential mama!! I usually reward myself with wine or chocolate- which negate the whole going to the gym thing. So, I picked mani/pedi b/c there are no calories. 😉
What a great idea! 🙂 Easy to use and a reward!
Haha who knew that the little things that work for our children would work well for us, too! How exciting! I also wanted to say that I love your header and your about me. 🙂
Thank you so much Jaclyn!! Thanks for reading 🙂
Wonderful idea! My kids do love stickers!
Looks like you are doing great! Keep up the good work!
What a creative way of keeping your children both educated and happy . I love how you have tossed aside projects with monetary value and created a project that is inexpensive and significant to your children’s understanding of the world x
What a fabulous idea! I think kids and grown ups alike (or at least me!) love getting real mail…and in fun packaging no less!
I still love getting packages too! 🙂
I love this idea! this is a new one for me, but as a teacher I love that kids are writing, sending and sharing about their community. So cool!
Wonderful idea! I’ll have to try this with my kiddos.
This sounds like a lot of fun! I love that you mailed the first package inside of a bottle!
such a fun idea. my daughter loves getting the mail and even takes my packages! lol. mailing a message in a bottle is probably the coolest thing i’ve heard of in awhile! i didnt know you could do that!
You can mail just about anything! When I was at the post office mailing this the postal worker shared the craziest thing he postmarked… a coconut. 🙂 You can even mail a flip flop if you put enough postage on it!
This sounds like a lot of fun and a great idea.
This is such a fun idea, I wish someone had put this together for me to do when I was a kid!
What a great idea! Good job Mom!
This sounds like so much fun! I can’t believe summer is winding down already!
What a cool idea! I think the idea of sending actual mail had lost its appeal and this is a fun way to make your kids interested in it
What a great craft to do with your kids. My son’s class took a trip to the post office last year and he now loves getting mail!
What a fantastic idea! I love all teh thought you put into this activity and I bet this will catch on via playgroups!
It’s always important for us to watch our own kids especially at the beach, near or in water. For us our beaches can be very dangerous with strong undertows, sleeper waves….So glad that everything turned out fine. Even with good swimmers keeping an eye out for them is super important. Our beaches don’t have lifeguards.
Yikes! I lived in Hawaii for 3 years, and I was on edge pretty much the whole time. Every time we went to the beach, I was vigilant about my children’s safety by ALWAYS keeping an eye on both of them. That pretty much meant my husband was the “fun” one playing, surfing, snorkeling with them, while I was the stick in the mud on the shoreline keeping a watchful eye on everyone haha.
You can never be too safe when it comes to water! Especially the powerful ocean.
I agree! Usually my husband is with me but was called into work. That meant I was alone with the two kids. It is a river beach- normally very calm. There were a lot of boats out churning up the waves. Lesson learned no daddy = no beach.
I won’t lie, Water terrifies me! I watch my kids like a hawk when they are in the water!
This is such an important post. It can be very stressful to be alone at the beach with kids.
That is such a scary situation and I agree that you HAVE to be hyper careful! I’m so sorry the life guard wasn’t more attentive!
This is a wonderful and useful post, more that we live next to beach. Thanks! 😀
Water and kids scare me. I have 4 kids and my 7 year old just learned to swim. Really working on getting the littler ones able to swim now.
This is so true, we have to be vigilant whenever our children are near the water. It only takes a second and it doesn’t matter how old they are or whether or not they are strong swimmers. Accidents happen in mere seconds. Great post!
We are at the beach constantly and with 5 kids my eyes are all over the place. I am not a helicopter parent and my kids do know how to swim but anything can happen so I make sure they are being watched and stay close. Everytime we are at the beach we have random children come over to our areas and no parents in sight….amazing that more children do not end up missing in and out of the water.
You’re brave taking 5 kiddos by yourself. I only have the twins and I feel stretched! 😉
I love taking my kids to the beach – it is a wonderful way to spend a summer day. Keeping vigilant is important as you have so clearly shared with your readers. Thanks for the reminder for everyone. It only takes a moment for everything to change.
Oh gracious! My son knows no fear and this includes water. In fact, he has his first official swim lessons this week and I’m feeling such comfort knowing that we’re both prepared in case of an accident. Summer is such a sweet time, but so important for us to be safe!
wow. i can’t imagine… im definitely a helicopter parent. i cannot help it. but even for those who arent, i completely agree, that should change around water. i dont think ill ever let my little girl run into the ocean. she has her first non-mommy and me swim class next week, and im already losing my mind. but its important she learns.
Yikes how scary! I’m so glad my daughter is now old enough to be a good swimmer. I still watch her but I feel better.
Thanks for sharing this story! I think it’s important to remember to always be watching, especially with kids and water. Lifeguards are a great pair of eyes, but they aren’t always focused on your child like you can be. (I do agree that she should’ve done more than just call down to you though!)
I’m with you. I am not one to hover over my daughter, but when it comes to water I stay close. When I was about 6 years old, we were at the beach and a storm started rolling in. The waves were getting a little too high. I was on one of those inflatable floats (no life vest) and started drifting out too far. I had to jump off the float and try and make my way back to shore. Waves were crashing over my head and I thought I was going to drowned because I couldn’t touch the bottom. The only thing I could do was swim under water until I could reach a point where I could stand. It was really scary and I still do not like to go in water that’s over my head.
I’m with you. I am not one to hover over my daughter, but when it comes to water I stay close. When I was about 6 years old, we were at the beach and a storm started rolling in. The waves were getting a little too high. I was on one of those inflatable floats (no life vest) and started drifting out too far. I had to jump off the float and try and make my way back to shore. Waves were crashing over my head and I thought I was going to drowned because I couldn’t touch the bottom. The only thing I could do was swim under water until I could reach a point where I could stand. It was really scary and I still do not like to go in water that’s over my head.
Oh my gosh that does sound really scary! So sorry that happened to you! I’ve been caught in undertow before so I get anxious around rough water.
Oh my goodness, that would have been so scary! My kids love the water, but my 2.5 year old is starting to get to the ‘confident’ stage where she thinks she can do a lot more than what she really can! I have to watch her like a hawk, but it really only takes a second.Such an important reminder – thank you!
My kids are also at that stage where they think they can swim, but cannot. That makes me so nervous too!
Wow you are a great planner I am not that organized that is for sure but I know plenty of people that do their christmas shopping in the summer.
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We’ve definitely worked to keep Christmas more low key, but you’re AWESOME for keeping it at $150 for 2 kids!! Way. To. Go.
I don’t think I will be able to get away with it much longer. The kids are still little so they don’t notice how much other kids are getting and haven’t asked for anything big yet…well, except a dog. That’s just not happening. lOl
You have a great plan. I didn’t quite make it shopping this month. I love to start early as well. It seems like I have a never ending list to buy for. I never know where to draw the line.
I love these tips. Now that I’m married and away from home, I’ve been thinking a lot about what traditions I want to start for our family (no kids yet, but in the future!). One thing I want to focus on is family time at Christmas rather than presents. This is a GREAT tip for that! Thanks. 🙂
Wow. I love Christmas, too, but don’t start planning until after my daughter’s birthday. So… August. LOL.
We have Thanksgiving, birthday and Christmas literally all a few weeks apart. I have to start early to keep it all organized! 🙂
Love this! I am usually done with Christmas shopping by October, but this year we are moving before Christmas so I don’t want to have extra things to move.
That’s an awesome plan! I would plan ahead but my kids change what they want and then they always come out with new stuff in December.
Now that my kids are going on 5…I’m not sure how much longer this plan will work in my favor. 😉 I think you can really get away with this in those first five years before they start to make a list of demands. 😉
These are some great tips! My 7 year old really doesnt care if toys are new or not so garage sales are a great way to shop. As for my 15 year old, she loves vintage, so heading to thrifts shops is great! Also, I receive a lot of gift cards throughout the year that I may not actually like or use (Forever 21 for example, not my style) and so I give those to her! I think the last few years I ahve spent no more than 300 for Christmas and that includes myself and hubby and other family and friends!
Aw what a wonderful charity and six dollars is really nothing at all. If we came together and donated so many children would have a happier life and enjoy a wonderful vacation. These children deserve it.http://www.fadedspring.co.uk/#!The-Colour-Wheel/cmbz/55affba60cf286eab0299113
Within minutes of posting this several of my mom friends coordinated a park meet up with ice cream. We will each donate $6.00 per challenge and make a video of the results. So quick. So easy!
Such a fun challenge for such a great cause!
What a great thing! Giving back is such a rewarding experience, and it makes it that much better when there are these fun challenges involved. Thanks for sharing this!
What a FUN idea for such a great cause! My kids would love to participate!
Awesome!! What kid doesn’t love ice cream?? 🙂
This is so fun! What a great cause!
What a fun way to give! I am a huge supporter of Leukemia and Lymphoma Society!
I used to volunteer with a chapter before moving away from that area. It was fun working on the publicity end and setting up events! The Light The Night events are so incredibly touching!
I have heard a lot about Light the Night, but I have never participated in one. Tho I have taken part in many Relay for Life – 24 hour walk. So cool that you have helped work the vents! They could not be done without volunteers! Thank you!
Wonderful cause! All kids love ice cream. I think I still prefer ice cream to many other sweets.
I love ice cream, but it is not my friend any longer. I’ll just have to put my donation where my mouth is. 😉
What a beautiful place! I try and give back to children’s cancer funds anytime I can. I can’t imagine…
What a wonderful charity! I never even knew about this place, so thank you for sharing. Also, glad to hear that your niece is a survivor. 🙂
Thanks! I hope you can share as well and help inspire others to participate! 🙂
With so many challenges going around the internet, I am glad this is not only fun but a great cause! Thanks for sharing!
Ahh how exciting! This is such a sweet campaign!
This sounds like a great charity! I had never heard about it before. Thanks for sharing. 🙂
What a great place. My cousin had leukemia has a child twice and now she is in her early 20’s and healthy. I love when celebrities give their time to good causes like this. Meeting Johnny Depp was my cousin’s make a wish.
Did she get that wish?
I have never heard of this group before. What a wonderful organization! Thank you for sharing!
I’m so sorry to hear about your friend; I hope all goes well. I love this message. We get so caught up in our mom brains that we forget to just live a little. Thanks for this reminder.
Great idea! I remember as a kid, my sister and I got to take turns deciding where we would eat for dinner on Friday nights, even when we were really little. Getting to make a decision was really awesome to us!
It’s always sad to get news that reminds us how short and precious life really is. What a fun way to be spontaneous with Happy I love you Day! Lots of fun memories made that day, I’m sure!
Aw that is adorable it looks like you had so much fun and it is nice to end with a cuddle.http://www.fadedspring.co.uk
Woah, this was moving. I hope your friend is okay. Life is short and it is so difficult to remember that with all the to do lists. We try and do spontaneous things but my kids resist surprises. I think I will try this one day!
Breakfast in bed feels like you are breaking some rules…they might be all for that. 😉
I’m so sorry about your friend, I hope she survives cancer. We have to live our lives to the fullest.
This made me cry. We definitely need to enjoy every waking moment with our loved ones. I am praying for your friend. God Bless!
Thank you!!
I took all of yesterday off and just enjoyed family time…all day! And it felt so good because you just don’t know how many of these moments you’ll have to treasure
My girls would love breakfast in bed! Sorry about your friend. Cancer sucks!
I am so sorry about your friend! I love that you gave the kiddos breakfast in bed!
Thanks for finally writing about >The Whatever Mom Wants You to Join the Whatever Army!
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I’ve been there! Glad you are getting time for yourself to write again!
Is there such thing as a “put together” parent? haha I’m glad you are back and finding your rhythm!
I think you’re right… much like the fabled unicorn perhaps a “put together” parent doesn’t exist either!? 😉
I’m not a parent, but I’m an aunt. I know how hard parenting can be, and I admire you sharing your thoughts and experiences.
I was an auntie before a mommy… I had no idea how easy I had it. Enjoy every minute of it because that too goes by so quickly and you are suddenly watching them graduate high school and starting lives of their own!
Such a nice post as my daughter sits next to me, refusing to go to bed. She insists she HAS to watch the Packer game. She’s happy. That’s what matters in this moment, right?! I am so strict on schedules that to let it go for a day or night, feels kinda good.
I really feel like living happens between all those planned and structured moments. Enjoying some down time to just “be” is always great!
My kids are grown, married and have kids of their own now. They get so busy sometimes, I have to just pin them down to see how they are. I love spending time with the grands and I get lost in time and on my site because there isn’t time to do both when they are visiting :).
I think I am pretty much always on my butt from the wave. Good to know you are OK!
Glad to know I am not the only one!
we are all just doing the best we can. SOme days are awesome & we do everything right, the other days well we wonder how we get anything right with them but as long as we do our best & they are loved, the rest will fall in place.
Bless you parenting is difficult but I am glad that you took some time away to spend time with your little one and help them settle into school.
We missed you, but it’s totally understandable. Lots of ebbs and flows in our family. And surprises too. Not always pleasant ones. Today I was planning to get up super early and write a new post, but my baby woke up well before the alarm clock went off and now I have no post AND a cranky baby on my hands.
I’m sorry! I so know that feeling too!
Sometimes you have to put more time & energy into real life. Otherwise, there won’t be anything to blog about anymore! 😀
Brilliant advice!
Oh, definitely, it’s so easy to get caught up in what everyone else is doing! Glad you’re finding your balance again 🙂
I love your analogy of the sea and parenting! It is hard when moms start to compare themselves to others – there really is no good that can come of it. I think that on any given day – we are all just trying our best! Hang in there!
I miss those days (at times) love my children but they are grown now and I’m loving my freedom enjoy them they do grow fast.
This resonates for sure! I thought those days were over. I raised two daughters to 10 and 13…and things were becoming a breeze. The baby/toddler days were over and done and I was able to take naps, take some time out for myself, watch a TV show or two, put on some coffee or wine and read a book…
…and then I found out I was carrying baby #3! Yep, 10 years after the last one! 🙂 Oy vey.
Sometimes it’s hard. I think of the freedom I had just a little over a year ago, and now I have a 16 month old that has not slept through the night once. I feel like I’ve aged 10 years in just one. Zombies have nothing on this Mombie.
But then I think how blessed I am to have three healthy, funny, playful, beautiful kids and that’s what helps me each and every long day. Also, just before I found out I was preggo with my son I started feeling very sad that my girls were getting big. I pined for them to be little again, so I feel like I got another chance to revel in the baby/toddler/little kid years 🙂
This is a really long comment, so thanks for reading.
It all goes by so quickly!! My kids are only 5 and I keep thinking how are you 5 already?! I don’t want more kids- these two are enough for now. I am not so sure I’d survive another set of twins! lol
So true, we all have our ebbs and flows. I really thing we as parents need to be a bit kinder to one another and understand this is called life. : ) Glad you’re back!
Welcome back and all mothers take time to adjust!
This is a great post. Yes there is a flow in parenting. Sometimes it goes good and you feel together and other times not.
I love this post!! I’ve put on weight since having my kids but I’m happy and confident in my skin!!
I love this! I actually lost all of my weight, but my body is so not the same! It can be very embarrassing when I think of it in relation to society’s expectations, but I am definitely a proud mama bear and it was worth every bit of it.
What an amazing article. Thank you for the reminder that our bodies are so much more than how they look.
What a great reminder. It has taken me a long time to accept myself. It is so freeing once you really do.
Wow thanks for sharing, such inspirational ladies! Every mom’s journey is unique and special!
Excellent post. Body acceptance is so tough for so many, and way more than just vanity.
I agree somewhat – there’s a patch of skin on my breast that will never be the same as it was pre-mastitis and I view that with a sort of pride that I’ve been able to feed my son who was born 30th centile and is now 95th. But I do miss fitting in my pre-pregnancy size!
Women need to appreciate how beautiful they are, how perfect they are, regardless. I salute you for bringing this to the front
I think all women of every shape and size are beautiful. God don’t make mistakes and He made us perfectly. What a great topic to share.
What a beautiful post! Thanks for sharing!
What a great, empowering piece! As I get older, I care less and less about appearance.
What a beautiful post. It’s hard sometimes to look in the mirror and stop seeing what used to be (and wishing for it) and instead see what is and be proud and happy to have it.
I love this positive message and I so agree with you! You are so right celebrating women’s bodies really is a great way to help us be easier on each other because as women we can be so harsh!!
This is such a wonderful reminder. I know that I’ve struggled with my body after having children.
I’m so happy you created the Whatever Army! I am not a mom, but I feel like body shaming, no matter the reason, is wrong. Its sad that we have to have so many groups reminding people to love themselves, but since they are necessary, I’m glad one like this exists.
Thank you!!
I’m not a mom, but I am 43 and I think the happiness and acceptance comes with age. You just decide to say F… it I don’t care. I need to be happy, If that means changing something about me fine, if it means changing my circle of friends that’s fine too.,
I just turned 40 this summer, but I agree the older I get the more I let go. But, I had a really hard time after the birth of my twins accepting what I was “left with.” I had worked so hard to keep my body healthy and the outside no longer reflected that. It took me a few years to realize all that work was to keep my body healthy through 5 months of bed rest and create two very healthy little humans. It may not look like a body that works hard any more, but motherhood sure is demanding on our bodies well after child birth! Glad you’re in a happier place…and great advice about changing friends if necessary.
Beautiful! I had my first child when I was 20…around the early 2000s when low-rise jeans, hip bones and crop tops were the thing, and there I was with my fresh new stretch marks and mama pouch. I learned to accept and love my body early on. If anything, it taught me to be a little more modest than I might have been otherwise 😉
Such a wonderful message! I’ll never get back down to pre-kid size, but I am beyond happy with where I am.
What a great post. I think it’s so important to show our children that we love our bodies. I accept mine because I want my daughter to always accept hers.
Thank you for writing this. Your words are so important. Let me tell you, I HATE my boobs now. I go back n forth about getting new ones some day… is it really that important though? Otherwise, I feel better about myself, physically and mentally, after I had my daughter than I ever have. I think this is a powerful message for all women.
Thanks so much for reading and for taking the time to share your thoughts!
Great article and such an inspiration for the body conscious woman. I’ve had weight and negative body image issues since middle school. I’m much more accepting of my body now, and I hope more women will learn to love and accept themselves for who they are.
Beautifully written. It’s essential to bmbrace your own body, post-partum or not!
I agree!
I love this post! I have struggled with my weight my entire life. I need to remind myself from time to time about how much my body ahs done for me. Giving birth to three incredible human beings, completed 70.3 triathlons, swam form Alcatraz. It has been strong – but yet there is always the extra weight. My goal this year has focused on self-care. I am getting there.
Those are all amazing accomplishments! You don’t need a picture perfect physique for your body to be healthy, strong and capable! You’ve completed 70 triathlons?? What? That’s amazing!
Love this post. It can be difficult to accept our bodies based on the images we are always being shown by the media defining beauty. I love your movement to take back our bodies and celebrate them in every shape and form!
Thanks for reading and for the support!! <3
I love this. There is too emphasis on how we are “expected” to look. I am proud of what my body has done and I have battle scars that I embrace.
I love this! As mothers, our bodies go through so much! I can’t think of anything more incredible than growing another human inside of our body. It is definitely not anything to be ashamed of. While I think health and maintaining a healthy lifestyle is essential, I also know that my body has not been the same since having my 2 kids, and I choose to embrace it rather than be ashamed of it.
I have a pretty healthy lifestyle with diet and exercise, but there are things that have changed about my body brought on by motherhood. I can’t change them without major surgery, so I feel like accepting them is my best choice. 😉
what a lovely post one that is full of pride of who you are. Good for you
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It’s so important to spread the self love message! We need to realize that we are more than the aesthetic body. What goes on inside our head is much more important.
Great post. We, as women, need to stop hating our bodies based on what others define as normal. Our bodies are beautiful, post partum or not
I agree!! Our standards for beauty have gotten out of control!
Aw, I LOVE this post! So much empowering insight. I definitely have a new appreciation for my body after having my son!
Beautiful photos
wow – such a great message & I must admit, I am not very nice to myself most of the time. I am intentially trying to make a change but it can be so hard but I am trying & that’s what counts! Especially since I would never want my daughter to say anything negative about herself.
What a beautiful post, just like the women in it. Embracing your body is so so important!
Such an important message. Naturally, as we age our bodies change. It can be a rough transition but no matter what, I’m still me and we all need to be as happy with ourselves on the outside as we are with the inside!
What a powerful expression of reclaiming the power that was stolen from you. Society degrades women because they are afraid of the power that we wield and consequently will do anything to make us feel inferior in comparison. Love yourself better than others love you and be happy in your own skin. Your children are powerful reminders of the strength that you had inside you to raise them as warriors x
<3 I LOVE this! You're totally right that ALL bodies are beautiful!!!
I love this project! Amazing!
These products sound so good – toxin free? Do you know if they’re cruelty free too?
This is a great post! I’ve never heard of this brand or these products, but I’m always up for trying new products that are safe, healthy, and not tested on animals, so I’ll check these out! Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for reading!!
Beautiful article for the mum and to-be mums but also for anyone finding it difficult to embrace their body. Love yourself media doesn’t matter
Thanks for sharing:)
This tinted moisturizer looks right up my alley. Thanks for sharing.
It was hard post-baby to see celebs bouncing back in like 2 weeks… wouldnt it be nice to have a trainer come to you or want to take time away from your newborn? thats frustrating! you gotta be real about the time it takes to feel your best after you have a child and be okay with it!!! i feel better now than i ever have and every woman will get there.
Such a lovely post!!! Always love yourself!!! Makes life go so much easier if you just love you!
I’ve not heard of this brand before, I might check it out. Thanks for sharing
It is new to me too but I love it so far!
I agree – you do need sunscreen! I think that being so faired skin, I learned this lesson in my teens and saved myself a lot of anguish now!!
I love tinted moisturizer, great review of this brand. I havent heard of them before.
Getting to try beauty products at home is always so much less intimidating! And you’re right — sunblock is so important!
I’ve never heard of this brand before. I plan on checking this out because I am always looking for products with sunscreen!
I’m a twin mommy too. Great advice on make up especially for us lol
Any busy mom need products that multi-task for us…but, twin moms need double of everything!! lOl Thanks for checking this out1
I have never heard of them either – but may check into them.
I love your Friday Favorites. I am interested in trying the tinted moisturizer.
Great review, thanks for the suggestions!
Thanks for the reviews! It is so important to use sunscreen – I am glad that it is in my moisturizer as well!
These all sound like great products. I like that they are not tested on animals. Thanks for the recommendations!
Such a beautiful post with a powerful message. I like that you incorporated other people’s thoughts.
I’ve never heard of this brand before! So glad you found something you love!
I like how Beauty Counter is a healthier choice for your skin according to the Environmental Work Group’s Skin Deep Cosmetics Database. One thing I have been diligent about with my skin products is SPF.
Oooo your products sound pretty fabulous!!! I can’t live with ought a great facial moisturizer!
*without*** sorry for the typo
This is a beautiful series! It’s so important that we learn to love ourselves.
I haven’t tried moisturizers yet. I’m afraid of using products. Maybe I can start with this one.
Love this! The stories are so motivating and the pictures are gorgeous. 🙂
Tinted moisturizer is my favorite! I wear it every day!
Such a multi-task product!
You’re a beautiful woman and with a wonderful husband, don’t ever feel bad about your body! I’m glad that you’re well now!
It took some time, but I think having my husbands support really helped!
Oh, gosh, those qualified “compliments” are just the worst. I realize most people don’t even know what they’re really saying when things like that tumble out of their mouths, but that’s the problem, isn’t it? People don’t think about the words we use enough to make sure we’re really saying what we mean! I’m glad you were able to let go of all of that!
I know people mean well, and I am sure I’ve said somethings similar thinking I was offering compliments. But, I definitely rethink my words before letting them escape my lips!
You are exactly right. This is why the mom judging, the body judging, the judging all together needs to stop.
I’m over the judging! 🙂
This is wonderful. You did something amazing and you have the right to rock how you look now. Twins are a lot of work, both before and after they’re born, so you do you!!
Thanks so much for reading and the kind words! 🙂
Oh my goodness! Your husband is precious. That brought tears to my eyes. Every woman is beautiful. Our bodies endure a lot and it is truly a miracle.
He will be happy to hear those kind words. Thank you! 🙂
Thank you so much for the honesty in your story. It can be rough, but loving yourself is key. <3 this series!
Thank you for reading!!
The judging needs to stop and I hope posts like yours help spread that word. Stay the beautiful and loving person you are!
Thanks! Right back at you!! 🙂
all I can say is you are so right on this.
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This is so inspiring! Every mom is beautiful!
I struggle with body issues too, it’s important to try and feel good for yourself and not anyone else!
You are so right. It’s always about what’s on the inside and so important to look past the outside. None of the physical ever matters!
I think the issues with my body will always be an issue because the stretch marks will forever be there. It’s just a matter of changing my attitude and trying to feel good about myself.
Yes, stretch marks are always there. It took me a long time to see them as a part of me- not something that happened to me and I just want to hide them. Not that I am showing them off, but I feel a lot less insecurity about them when I remember how they became a part of me.
Your husband sounds so supportive, which is a huge part of self confidence. I think people try to be kind and don’t always realize how much we analyze their comments. Just from reading your blog, I know you’re a beautiful person.
What an incredibly kind thing to say! Wow. Thankfully, my hubby has never complained as I make my travels up and down the scale. 😉
Ahhhh only if all the judging can stop! Loving yourself is the key to success and happiness though! I’ve learned that myself 😉
I love your posts! I had a similar experience with my husband (though I didn’t have twins), but it’s still a struggle to accept myself everyday.
There are some days that my body confidence is strong and other days that it just sucks. My son is always telling me I’m beautiful and I look like a princess so that helps!
What beautiful words and a wonderful message. Self-love is so important.
I know I have a picky eater at home, I wish she likes everything including healthy vegetables :-/
My kids are still babies, so I don’t know how picky they are yet. As of right now, they both eat their food fine. I hope it stays that way, but I know that’s unrealistic.
Enjoy it! I hope your babies love food! My girls ate EVERYTHING I put in front of them until the age 2 1/2. Then they rejected everything. I swore I wouldn’t serve nuggets and fries but when your kids won’t eat anything you get desperate and take the plunge. They went through an adventurous phase where they tried a whole bunch of new stuff over the summer and now we are back to picky. Maybe one day I won’t have to work so hard to get them to eat! lol
That would definitely make for some stressful mornings! But if you take a look at what people eat for breakfast in other countries, cheese and meat aren’t exactly the weirdest ones on the list!
Haha I with your daughter I am not a morning person at all either – might have to try some of these ideas myself as I hate eating first thing. x
It’s usually all out hell here in the mornings with my kids. IF I can get them clothed and fed and out the door on time, I give myself a huge pat on the back! lol!
I am so relieved to hear I am not the only mom struggling with the morning routines! Sending you a pat on the back from me!!
Haha omgsh I love this and you just made me feel human again! I had a rough day with my little one and, well, it all started with breakfast! 😀
Awww you’re so brave to deal with Twins! I’m not a morning person either…
Oh man, those are the stages of our mornings too. Mornings are rough…..
Oh my goodness how I love this so much! My daughter is hard headed and extremely stubborn about food! When I was pregnant I swore up and down she would eat healthy and would like it! Wrong! She hates it! And she eats in the car on the way to school! We live an hour away from her school and my work. So I do the best I can!!! It’s nice to see we aren’t alone in picking certain battles. Thanks for sharing!
So glad I’m not alone either! Thank YOU or sharing! 😉
Great tips! I too was a perfect parent before I became one 😉
I went through that recently. Every complaint about cereal. One day it just clicked, she doesnt like cereal! Duh Mommy. Lol. There are so many other options.
I LOVE this post. Every word is true.
Ha, ha. Thanks! I wish it weren’t my truth- but here I am! lol My new mantra: “it is what it is.”
I was the same way when I was a kid. I refused to wake up and hated getting ready for school. You are doing a great job raising them, though!
My son is such a picky eater, but the things that he loves are so off the wall, like scallops and tuna and salmon steaks. I guess he likes all seafood, haha! My husband is a chef so it kills him that our son won’t eat what he cooks.
Oh that must sting! I am not a chef but I put a lot of thought into our meals. So, when it is rejected I feel like it goes to waste.
My 7 year old is complaining about everything lately. Glad I’m not alone.
Becoming a parent really teaches us how silly we were before. 😉
I wish I could relate to this, but since I am not a mom yet it’s hard for me to understand what you are going through. But I completely empathize! And know that you are doing a fine job <3
Becoming a parent immediately clashes with every preconceived notion ever formed! One thing motherhood has taught me was patience. It is something I pray for daily 🙂
I can so relate to this. Our twins sound exactly like that, but both are not morning persons, so you can just imagine how chaotic our mornings are on school days.
I am seriously thankful only one twin is this way. If both gave me this much drama every morning I might be homeschooling just to save me the agony of leaving the house so early. 😉
Fun! Going to check out the website now!!
Happy shopping! Thanks for reading and entering!! <3
Our favorite Halloween tradition is to invite the grandparents over for dinner and then go trick-or-treating as a group with all of the neighborhood kids. It’s so much fun for our children to go out trick-or-treating with their friends!
This is our first year trick or treating with friends! We’re excited!
We love to have Halloween dinner with the grandparents, and then go trick-or-treating with all of the neighborhood kids as a group.
I have to admit I do like more natural products, they seem to work better with my skin – I shall have to treat myself to some Poofy Organics I think. x
I am definitely interested in replacing my color products with some Poofy Organics!
That Raspberry Lemonade Punch shampoo sounds amazing!
It smells delicious!
would love to try this. I have also tried and failed with natural deodorant.
If you win you can try for free!! Win-win!
I love giving out candy!!
I admit I’d be pretty skeptical of natural deodorant, too. It’s not like I have to use the Rx strength, but I’m pretty close. And down here you just don’t play around with sweat protection 😉
These look so great! I love a good natural product, as long as it works! 😉
Sounds great! Always on the lookout for organic personal care products!
Carving pumpkins!
That shampoo probably smells amazing. Why cant adults have shampoo that smells like lemonade? Lol. I have heard mixed reviews on natural deo, too…
I think it takes time to find a natural deodorant that works with your body chemistry. That’s why I’m happy to give one away free for someone to try before they buy!
That shampoo/conditioner sounds like it smells super good! And the lice prevention is absolutely necessary now while kids are in school.
Those reports of resistant lice scare me! I hope this works to prevent it!
Oh fun! All of these products sound like they would smell amazing!
So far yes!! We love them!
Sounds like a great company! And great giveaway. Thanks.
Thank you for reading! Hope you entered for a chance to win! Good luck!
These look like great products! I know several people who are exclusively organic.
I would love to try these products! I hope I win
good luck!
My girls have tons of hair, but the strands are fine, so we live in TANGLE CITY. Haha. I’ve probably tried almost every detangler and leave-in conditioner there is. I haven’t tried this one though! 🙂
I love using organic or all natural products. The ones you featured sound amazing. I would like to try the Raspberry Lemonade Punch shampoo
I love raspberry! Great company too!
We carve one of those intricate-looking pumpkins from a stencil (they aren’t actually that difficult!). Then we go trick-or-treating around the neighborhood.
Nice!
What a great giveaway thank you for sharing!
I love discovering new products especially for the littles ones. Thanks for sharing!
I have a couple of picky kids like that right now! So glad I’m not the only one, lol!
These products look awesome! My kind of products!
Ooooo what a great giveaway!!! I’m all about organic deodorant these days. I will have to check this one out!
Oh darn, I missed the giveaway! But that’s okay- this is just a good reminder for me to pick up my favorite Max Deo sticks (the Chamomile-Lavender and the Lemongrass!) when I go to playgroup at the Waddle n Swaddle in Rhinebeck today 🙂
Head lice is seriously the most terrifying thing to any mom with kids in school. I wonder if stuff like this actually works? Nothing scares me more than the thought of my kids getting them!
Exactly why I thought I’d try this out!! It has tea tree oil in it which is said to help ward off lice. I don’t know if enough science is backing it, but I’ll give it a try!
My Mom convinced me last week to use those crystal deodorants instead of regular ones with chemicals. i bought a roll-on version for myself, and one for my sweetie. I wouldn’t mind trying a natural stick deodorant.
My little ones are full of tantrums these days. I know it is only temporary!
I have a 2 year old so I totally get this and relate to it 100%! I have had to let him cry it out a lot lately. As exhausting as it is, I know he is learning a valuable lesson and becoming familiar with the word “no” is a must for coping throughout life.
Crying is just another form of communication. Tantrums will pass, hopefully — many adults still have them!
We don’t get many tears over here unless it’s something major like and injury or stress. I just tell the kids it will be ok and let them cry it out. Listening is huge too, let them tell you why they feel the way they do. Sometimes they just need to be heard.
I am thankful that my child never really did this when she was younger & yes I realize I was lucky but it’s all part of them trying to communicate & it will work itself out. =)
She is a twin…both born premie so they are a little immature for their age. I think much of it has to do with always competing for attention. Its different when you have two kids on the same developmental timeline. It’s a crazy ride for sure! lol
Everyone processes emotions differently! She may just be really sensitive right now 🙂
She was born a sensitive child. I think it will always be a part of who she is. There is a sweetness about it, but then there is a definite roller coaster affect that some days get hard to keep up with. 😉
Childhood is full of tears but those tears are full of memories that can help us remember the past.
Major props for knowing your kids and recognizing and communicating the consequences of actions to even little kids. I see so many parents jump to the ‘not my angel’/who’s to blame for this script before truly reading a situation and, in the end, the kids don’t get the benefit of learning how to handle disappointment.
It is definitely important to let them cry it out sometimes. It’s hard, so hard, to do sometimes, but it’s a necessary tool in the parenting bag to teach your kids responsibility and accountability.
My son is drama Llama and cries about every single thing. We try to talk him through his emotions, but it’s just in his genes. I cry at the drop of a hat.
That’s one thing I”m not looking forward to whenever I have kids!
Some parents really get lucky with compliant, happy go lucky kids! I wasn’t one of them, but I see other parents who have them. 😉 Good luck!
My daughter is beyond emotional… I wonder where she gets it from? Lol. But I agree, it’s important to let them know that they can cry if that is how upset they are. But listening to rules is a must. I love a good cry. It’s a nice release for me to be able to move on.
Oh my, my 3 year old is full of emotion and its all spilling out lately. So many tears! lol
I agree, sometimes, we have to let our kids cry. My girls are very sensitive, too. You tell them something and they cry easily. I just try my best to explain things to them.
What a sweet idea 🙂 I love spending time with friends x
This is such a sweet idea! It’s heartbreaking just how many kids here, in America, go to bed hungry at night. Thank you for sharing this!
I love this! Any organization that helps starving children is amazing in my book! Thank you for sharing!
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Sounds like a great organization! I’m definitely going to have to look into them! <3
I love doing a friendsgiving! Collecting donations is a great idea!
What a great way to help others. It really is a horrible thing that so many children go hungry in our country. No child should be hungry!
I agree Stacey!
This is a great tradition to start. Thanks so much for your giving heart
What a great way to help feed the hungry. I’d like to join in this campaign.
I really admire the Share Our Strength cause. This is a great way to help out around this time of year.
I like the concept of FriendsGiving!! I will share this idea!!
You can just as easily use the concept on a local level in your town.
I love friendsgiving! It is better than thanksgiving!
You are right what can be better than dedicating November to sharing food. Plus, it’s good to get kids involved!
I hosted a Great American Bake Sale table for the No Kid Hungry campaign a couple years ago. It’s a great cause, and it really makes sense to combine it with Thanksgiving traditions!
Omg I love the idea of a friendsgiving! My family lives so far away that this would be great for me!
I have never done a Friendsgiving yet but this is such a great reason to DO one.
What a great idea! We need to start doing something like this!
I love this idea! So thoughtful and sweet <3
Definitely a win-win! Thanks for letting me know about this!
Thanks for reading and taking time to reply!
What a wonderful way to help people! I need to research this more!
Great idea! So sweet!
That’s such a great idea to help other families in need. If I was able to host something like this in my own home I totally would.
That’s the beauty! You can host an online friendsgiving too if you can’t coordinate one at home! 🙂
Such a sweet story. I had no idea about this tradition of buddy poppys. Definitely something I will be sharing with my kids.
I had never heard of this before. Thanks for sharing this lovely story, I learned something new today!
This is wonderful! My grandfathers both served in the military and I have an uncle who did as well. Supporting our veterans is definitely something that is important to our family.
I love the poppies story. We always purchase them when we see someone selling.
Oh, I remember Buddy Poppies! I didn’t see any this year, though.
I don’t see them as often either. Was excited when I saw them this year. Now I know where to find them again next year!
What a sweet story. I never realized the significance of the poppies. Thank you for sharing your story about supporting our veterans.
I had no idea about the buddy poppys – that is good to know! I have many veterans in my family so it is an important day for all of us.
Aw bless and sorry to hear about their deaths but they sounded like incredible souls. A very touching story xx
Thanks! They were pretty amazing humans considering what they survived!
What a beautiful story. My grandfather is a WWII vet. It’s so nice that up until now, he still gets support from the government even if he is not living in the US anymore.
This is such a sweet story. My father is also a Veteran from the Vietnam War. I’ve had family members in every single war since WWII. Thank you for your service taking care of Vets and thank your family as well 🙂
If I were to list the veterans I know, the list would get long. Veteran’s Day is special to me because I grew up in a military household and I’ve now married into one. The military has always been (and always will be) a big part of my life. Thank you so much for sharing this story and the history behind it! Happy Veteran’s Day!
Happy Veteran’s day to all of your loved ones!! Thank you all for your sacrifices!
I am proud of how many veterans I have in my family. It’s so important to give them thanks.
This is so nice! This is the first time I have heard of this.
<3 How special that you are already teaching your girls to honor our vets! <3
I’ve always loved the poppies but I had no idea about the story! Thank you so much for sharing!
These cloths sound great, just went to my first Norwex party and Rebecca is super knowledgable!
I would love to try the cleaning cloths.
I’ve been using my Norwex kitchen cloths and Enviro cloth for a couple of months now and am very happy with them!
Hi Katy! I’m so glad you’re enjoying your cloths!
I hate cleaning the toilet and surrounding areas now that my son knows how to use the bathroom but has trouble with aim!
I wasn’t a fan of cleaning toilets before kids, but now. Ick!
I know what you mean, Aja! This is why I like having the smaller, travel-size EnviroCloths in the house. I can dedicate one to the outside of the toilet and the area around it, so it’s easy to clean that spot, and that cloth is only used for that purpose. 🙂 I can’t wait to see what you’ll get through your Norwex party. It went so well!
I’ve wanted to try these for awhile! Entered contest!
Good luck!
I’m very interested in trying these cloths! I don’t mind cleaning but I hate the oven!! I also clean houses so these may be helpful there as well!
These look great.
I’ve been using norwex for over a year and I never run out of cleaning products because all you need is the cloths. They work great and I’m saving money! No more chemicals in my house!
You will have to come clean my entire house for me to be convinced!
FYI they make kiddie sized Enviro Cloths so you can get everyone on board. 🙂
I love Norwex I highly suggest people have parties I got a ton of free stuff, like over $300 worth.
The best part is you can have a party right on Facebook! You don’t even have to get dressed or put out snacks! 😉
These look like great cleaning cloths. I would love to give them a try
Hi Cynthia! Having Norwex cloths in my home has made my life a lot simpler. I have 3 little kids, so we have a lot of messes to clean up! I hope you’ll join the private Facebook chat for Whatever Mom readers on Friday night. I’m looking forward to talking with lots of other moms about Norwex then!
I’d love to try these out! My least favorite chore is the dishes. The time spent vs. little results just doesn’t add up for me.
I don’t like doing the dishes, either! I like using Norwex’s Dish Cloth because it’s long-lasting (ours is about 1.5 years old) and easy to clean, and it’s replaced all of the sponges I used to buy. It works well for simple dishes, but if something has a ton of burned on stuff, I use a Spirinett (a stainless steel scrubber). It’s saved a few pots and pans that I thought were ruined.
Love my envirocloth and I really need more!!!
Yes you do! You can’t just have one! 😉
Hi Juliana! I’m glad you like your Norwex! I hope you’ll join the live chat we’re having for Whatever Mom readers on Friday night. I’m looking forward to hearing about everyone’s favorite products and their cleaning challenges!
I totally need these! Ive heard so much about them and I’m ready to try them out!
They really are great!! I use them for everything!
These look great. Thanks for the giveaway, I hope I get the chance to try these out, I have heard rave reviews about them and love they just need water to clean.
I could really use these I need them for my bathrooms! I have been using mine to clean up all the dust from taking apart my family room!
I’ve had my eye on these towels, I’ve been wanting to try them out. Thanks for the chance to win!
Good luck!
I have never heard of the brand before but they sound fantastic. Great post.
Hi Ana! I’ve had such positive experiences using Norwex at home. I hope we’ll see you at Friday night’s live chat for Whatever Mom readers. Please ask Roxanne or me to invite you to it 🙂
These cloths look great!
I’d love to try these!! I’ve heard good things.
I have been wanting to try these. I want to see how well they clean with just water. That would be amazing. Thanks for the chance to win!
I can’t wait to see who will win Roxanne’s giveaway! I love having an EnviroCloth and Kitchen Cloth on hand at home. If you have any questions, please reach out to me. I’d love to invite you to the live chat we’ll have on Friday for Whatever Mom readers.
I’m really curious about these cloths! I would love to try them. Dust drives me crazy and seems to return so quickly. I would love if they could keep dust away longer!
If you have time to stop by the private Norwex Chat happening on Facebook Friday night please do! Rebecca or myself can send you an invite. It’s a private chat for The Whatever Mom readers so you are free to ask any questions you want! Hope you took time to enter! Good luck!
These look incredible! My microwave needs some serious love currently. hehe. 🙂 LifeAsLex
whoah these sound amazing! And cleaning that fast – must check these out!
Feel free to join our private Facebook chat exclusively for Whatever Mom fans! This Friday night at 9:00 p.m. Rebecca will answer all your questions about Norwex at no obligation. She is a wealth of knowledge!
These look great. I love the fact they only need water to clean.
Very budget friendly as it reduces the need for paper towels!!
I am with you on the microwave. I even bought a cover to use, but somehow it always ends up on the stove. ><
thanks for sharing. these look soft and like they really do the job!!! im interested.
They work REALLY well! You can join us for our free live chat on Facebook at 9:00 p.m. Rebecca will be available to answer all your questions with no obligations. She can send you an invite directly to our private group!
I’ve never heard of Norwex, but I could definitely use them around my messy house!
That is a great wipe! Microwaves are a bear to clean – that works great
I have heard of Norwex but I haven’t used it. It worked really well on your microwave.
Love it! LOL my microwave needs a good cleaning!
I’d love to try those cleaning cloths. That’s how I clean my microwave, too. Sometimes, I add a few drops of lemon juice.
These look awesome! (I HATE cleaning the microwave!)
These look like great cloths! I absolutely hate spending so much time scrubbing the kitchen down – these look like they would really help out! 🙂
Definitely a MUCH quicker clean! Our table always has kid crumbs, sticky stuff and kid prints on it. The kitchen cloth cleans it so much faster than a sponge!
These look like great cloths! I hate cleaning the microwave – I usually end up using paper towels and it’s such a horrible waste!
Oh wow, these cloths are pretty versatile. I really like how they last for 500 washes (or 10 years)…that’s a long time!
I would definitely love to give these a try!!! Microwave cleanings are the worst!
I agree! Kids just need to be kids and that comes with motional growth/changes.
Hi! Stopping by from Mom Bloggers Club. Great blog!
Have a nice day!
Thanks for stopping by!!! Have a great day too!
Amen!
Thanks for reading Mary!! Nice to hear from you!<3
Bless you and your family! We never went without the basics, thankfully, but I know Mom worked a lot of overtime back in those days and did without a lot for herself to make sure of it for the three of us.
Moms always go without the most so their kids can have more!
I love the idea of 10 days of service! I plan on doing lots of community service with my daughter when she’s old enough.
Hi Esther, you may enjoy the blog I wrote last year about 7 Ways to Give Back With Little Ones In Tow. My kids have been assisting me with service projects since their second birthday. http://thewhatevermom.com/2014/11/06/charity-starts-at-home-7-ways-to-give-back-with-little-ones-in-tow/
Thanks so much for sharing this awesome post. We are a family of service and it’s because I too grew up poor and giving hearts made our lives special.
Thank you so much for spreading cheer this year and for doing good works of service. I don’t remember much about my mom, but I do remember that she could cook up a storm! She was even a lunch lady at my school when I was little, back when they actually cooked the food!
Wonderful and touching post! This is what the holiday season is all about. Thank you!
Thank you for reading! 🙂
I love that you are sharing ways to give back without costing much! Everyone wants to be able to serve, but some feel like they can’t.
I’m a big believer in small things add up to big change. 🙂 Even though my family didn’t have a lot of extras, my mom still volunteered when she could. She took me along with her!
I know that you are making your mother proud because you are using your past to help others but also are acknowledging the hardships that she faced raising you but I know that she would not change it for a thing!
I always worry how I can teach my children the same lessons without them having to live through what I did. They have a much different reality than I did. Which I am thankful for, but makes me more determined for them to learn how to give back.
What a great way to help. I’d like to this when the girls are old enough.
What a great way to give back!!! A mothers work is never done…
I’ve never heard of these, but it sounds like something I would’ve loved. The illustrations are so cute too!!
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This is the kind of black friday shopping I wish more parents would do. Books need to be a gift for every child. Enough of technology, sit and read with your kids. Thanks!
These look like awesome books. Now that I have a teenager, I miss picture books.
Never heard of these before, but they sound awesome!
They are really beautiful books! My kids absolutely love them!
They sound like great books. My girls love to read, I will look for these books.
i love giving books as gifts. These look great and I’ll be adding them to my list
These sound like some pretty great books! I hadn’t ever heard of these before, but would love to check them out!
Now that’s a great thing to shop for on Black Friday! My son loves his reading.
What a wonderful idea, books that give back! I love Barefoot Books. They have such wonderful illustrations and great stories for kids. This is a great deal!
This is so awesome! I do something similar here and it is just amazing!
I have never heard of any of these books before. What age do they cater to?
All ages! From birth through teens. I am especially excited about the Greek mythology series for my kids!
Ooo… I’m looking forward to your posts about service! <3
These look awesome! I’m going to have to check them out! <3
It is so sad to me how many people are food insecure. My area has a food bank and our co-op donates to that regularly. I think this is a great idea, especially at this time of year!
Such a great idea. I plan on doing plenty of community service this month!
Everyone gets so involved this time of year that places are overloaded with volunteers. I try to set up different times of the year to serve as well. 🙂
I think giving is such an important part of the holidays! This is such a great way to give back too, and so easy for the whole family too!
I love this “12 Days of Service.” My church is doing something very similar over the next few weeks. I love this season of giving and your food drive is a wonderful way to serve and help others!
Teaching your kids to give back is so important! Love this post!
this is such a great idea & I love the fact that it’s easy for the whole family to be involved too
I think donating food to the homeless or those who need it is an excellent idea, they go through so much and especially at this time of year when everyone is receiving gifts it is important to help them.
I live the idea a 12 days of service!!! I need to follow suite!!!!
What a great way to give back. Great idea of 12 days of service!!!
Great Idea. love that you’re sharing this too. When I was a kid at school in UK we had a “harvest festival” each fall. Basically a food drive. As kids we’d make the food up into baskets and we’d distribute the food to local needy pensioners and families. Not even sure if they still do this, I hope they do!
Amazing way to get kids involved. And memorable!
First of all I love your header photo. It is too cute with all the moms in the background. Second thank you for this idea. I have been looking for opportunities to volunteer this holiday and this is an excellent idea.
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What a wonderful thing to do!
I think this is fantastic we always donate to charity especially at this time of year where many cannot afford basic costs never mind presents and it is truly sad.
This is a great idea, everyone has extra clothing lying around!
love it! I hope you and your family had a wonderful thanksgiving!
Same to you!! And we did! 🙂
I never thought to use my home as a collection site – that is a good idea! I don’t leave my house all that often now with three littles…it is entirely overwhelming! Especially when it is cold out 🙂
Oye the amount of clothing you have to wrangle along with the kids in the winter. Makes me exhausted just thinking about it. lol I only invite people I know, but it brings all the items to me and then I only have to leave once to drop off. Much easier! 🙂 Plus the kids help with sorting and see and hear what’s happening.
I really want to start doing things like this with my boys. I want to teach early that there are always others how need help. I think they would really enjoy it.
This is a great idea! I love to go through our clothes and toys this time of year to give as much as we can to charity. It is so rewarding knowing that we can help others in this way.
we just got done donating a ton of clothing/ household items and it’s always such a great feeling knowing someone who needs our old items will benefit 😉
Good for you! My sons’ pre-school is collecting food for a local food pantry so am having us all collect and donate together.
Great to get him involved at such a young age!
What an amazing thing to do. A coat drive sounds like a great idea.
Wow, now that’s a fantastic idea, to host the drive in your own home. I’m sure organizations would appreciate that, and your friends would like to visit with you when they drop off various items. I’ll have to talk to my hubby and see if we can work this into our calendar.
The great part is these kinds of drives work right into parties you may already be hosting. 🙂 People are already coming to your house. It’s amazing how much people enjoy being able to donate.
I’m a firm believer in “every little helps” This isn’t a little thing at all, so I’m sure it will help A LOT. Great article.
I am always giving away extra food if we are not going to eat it in time. It’s so important to give back to those who need it.
such a great cause. Well done to you. Amazing that the kids are involved too
What a wonderful deed you’ve done! I love this series too–it’s always great to promote ways to give back to our community and I love that you’re sharing this on your blog! You rock!
Awe thanks! Growing up with so little, it feels so good to be able to give so much.
We tend to donate all our old clothes to different areas in need. I receive flyers and if I have a bag of clothes sitting around, I give them a call to come and collect.
I have a friend that hosts Holiday Open House every year and asks her friends to ring a warm coat to donate i they can. It is a great way to remind us to grab a coat to donate, stop by and visit, and have a warm cup of cider!
My husband was a firefighter for 20 years and gestures like this are MOST DEFINITELY appreciated. I love that you did this 🙂
My dad was a volunteer fire fighter for many years. I grew up in and out of the station. My heart goes out to the fighters and the families who have to wait for them to come home!
Now that’s really smart–hosting a collection at home and turning it into a little party, too! I have a stack of clothes I recently cleaned out of my closet, waiting to go to a better home, but I didn’t think to look through our coats in the hall closet. Now I will!
It’s definitely add good reminder to go through all the stuff from past years and make sure there’s year for the new things that are going to be coming in this year. I agree with a few of the other commenters he said that they’re going to be cleaning out things. I love your approach to decluttering and focusing more on people this time of year.
It’s definitely a good reminder to go through all the stuff from past years and make sure there’s room for the new things we can’t wait to open on Christmas day. I agree with a few of the other commenters that said they’re going to be cleaning out things from closets. I love your approach to decluttering and focusing more on people this time of year.
Baking cookies for our firefighters ad police officers is on my list of giving ideas! It is a simple way to show our thanks!
It really is. Often we get a fun tour of the trucks and the station. We take a few pics with the fire fighters too. My kids love it!
How very thoughtful! Such a great idea and it is a good thing for the kids to do!
Thanks for the reminder to show appreciation for people who serve in our communities. It is easy to remember to thank the people we see every day but there are plenty of people who dont get the thumbs up they deserve. bravo. cheers.
We have a local coat drive near us ever winter and we try to contribute when we can. We also try to donate toys and any winter clothes and boots our children have outgrown at this time of year because there always are families in need. I love that you are doing this 12 Days of Service. What a beautiful idea.
Supporting those in service industries is a great way to spend time leading up to Christmas. Even if they are paid, the hours and type of work are quite demanding beyond what they receive.
OK, hahaha, first I love that you used the phrase “pillsbury persuasion” – that’s hilarious! and second, I love that you show your gratitude to those who keep us safe and protected. What a wonderful reminder 🙂 thank you!
We do this for our job! I love recognizing our service men and women that keep us safe everyday! It’s nice your family does this!
That is a really good idea. I love making Christmas cookies and always deliver them to neighbors and friends. Yours look so good.
I love this! I usually buy a box of cards each year and have my children write in them and we send them to our local children’s hospital. I am checking out your FB page now so I can also participate!
Thank you!!!
What a kind and wonderful thing to do. I’m sure it uplifts these children, who are no doubt feeling down about what they’re going through!
This is such a brilliant idea! I hear so many people talk about how much they appreciate those who serve their community but taking action and SHOWING them is a great idea.
What a great idea to let our fire fighters feel they are loved. Everyone of us should do this.
My dad was a volunteer fire fighter when I was young. I spent a lot of time at the fire station and seeing first hand how these men and women operate. My dad passed 11 years ago, so I feel like I’m doing a little something special in his memory.
Love that you did this! Sharing is caring. And great family and community way to show support to the emergency responders!
Our local grocery store used to do a coat drive, and now that I think about it – I haven’t seen one done in a long while. I think the stores and other areas have been concentrating on food drives lately.
This is such a lovely thought! We were at a christmas tree lighting tonight, and the local fire brigade brought Santa and Mrs Claus along in their truck – my kids were awestruck 🙂 I always make cookies for neighbours, but never thought to do it for the local departments.
I’ll bet you have some really great cookie recipes to make too! 🙂
What a fantastic idea! I bet they were so thrilled to receive them! I love that you are teaching your kids young!
My friend Tabitha sends Luvmail to children throughout the year, and your mission makes me think of her – you guys should connect 🙂 I’m happy to do an intro, but you can find her at Random Acts of Luvmail on Facebook 🙂
I saw your post about her on your blog! I left a comment there. Would love to be introduced!! 🙂 She seems like a really amazing person!
What a great way to spread cheers during the holidays. I am sure you are making a lot of children happy.
Getting the family involved in service is such a great way to teach kids about kindness and compassion. This year we are donating toys to the Sherif department for kids they come in contact with through unfortunate circumstances.
That’s a really great way to help out!!
We love participating in coat drives. I even make my job participate for a local charity!
Roxanne it is a gift fr you to share all these wonderful ideas!
Thanks! It’s truly a gift to be able to share them with my kids!
This is wonderful. I would love to do something like this and get my kiddos involved too, I bet they’d love doing it too.
I love this idea! Often poor children wish that they had a birthday cake and a little party just like other kids. Fantastic!
Such a wonderful idea. I don’t think you have to start large with charitable work. Sometimes the little things can bring a smile to an ill child.
This is beautiful! I’m going to check out the names on your list and add them to my Christmas card list for this week!
Thank you for taking the time to send some cards! 🙂
You obviously have a kind heart and a creative mind and you’ve found such a great way to utilize them! Congratulations on your organizations growth and keep up the excellent work!
Thank you so much!
It’s great that you are putting time and effort in spreading the Christmas cheer. We spent the last few days making home-made cards for senior citizens in our neighborhood and today we started delivering them personally with a piece of fruit as a gift. My kids thought it was a great way to spend Saturday!
Definitely sounds like a great Sunday!
From goody bag to thoughtful swag bags. Where will the fun and ingeniousness stop.
What a great way to spread the holiday cheer! I love how a simple act of kindness has grown over the years and touched so many lives. Your series is so inspirational, I love everything you do to help others and set an example for giving back.
What an amazing way to teach compassion to little ones. I’m so sorry your niece and your family had to go through that!
This is an amazing idea! I am sure that it makes such a difference for those kids and their families. I have been trying to think of something that my very young children can start doing as service to our community, and something like this would be very very good! I may try to start something like this in my own community, thank you for the wonderful idea!
This is such a good cause, and I would like to participate. I checked out the Facebook page to get a sense of what this was all about. I plan on making a few cards and sending them out.
Thank you!
What wonderful way to spread cheers. I would love to do something like this, too. Thanks for the idea.
What a fun idea for giving! I never would have thought to give away a birthday swag bag, but I would love to receive one. Shopping for a birthday party can get so expensive and I always forget at least one thing.
What a great idea for making kids happy! Birthdays are such an important time for little ones, specially with the peer pressure from their friends. This that you are doing is a wonderful activity.
What a wonderful cause!! Thank you so much for giving all of us the opportunity to help out!!! <3
What a sweet idea!! I bet the servicemen and women in our area would adore getting Christmas cookies as a kind Christmas gesture. You are too kind! Thanks for inspiring me this morning 🙂
This is a great activity for kids to teach them to be thankful and respect those people helping others (hopefully others, anyway!).
Thanks for linking up on #daysoutwithatoddler
Recently got a puppy for my kids (well me really). ACPCA/shelters are such a great cause for the fur-babies without mommies.
I think this is a wonderful idea and it is great to get some practice at a shelter. I am sure that the shelter is really pleased about your contribution.
I love what you are doing through your acts of service and teaching your children to serve as well. That is so important and wonderful.
This is a great idea. My kids want a dog but they have no clue what it takes to care for a pet. I’m afraid the responsibility to care for the pet would fall on me. I think having them volunteer at an animal shelter will be a good way for them to get a taste of what it takes to care for a pet. Thanks for sharing this!
My kids have been asking for a puppy for the past few years. Having them volunteer at a shelter is a great way for them to get a taste of what it’s like to care for a dog.
What a great idea for an act of service! I always forget that our shelter needs volunteers and donations when I think of giving.
Don’t forget they always need towels and blankets. So, if you don’t have time to give maybe during spring cleaning (or before you toss a towel) you can find something to donate. Thanks for reading!
We volunteer at the shelter taking care of the cats once a week. It helps them keep costs lowers!
And it’s a great way to keep the cats social and friendly with humans! 😉
What a great idea! I would love to get a furry friend!
Oh boy! We have two big dogs and I love them, but they are a huge amount of work and responsibility. My youngest and I often stop by our local animal shelter to spend time petting the cats. She loves it and so do all of the cats.
Giving back is so important. You are doing great things.
This is such an amazing thing you’re doing! I love hearing about all of the opportunities to give back.
What a great idea to have the kids volunteer at the shelter. They will learn the proper way to take care of pets there.
I love Operation Gratitude. When I lived out in LA I volunteered for one of their box packing days. I also hosted a party with my friends and we all wrote cards for the service men and women. I should do that again …
It’s a great way to connect! I was fortunate that there was a military mom in my group who helped us out. She was so grateful to give back since her son came home safe. She was a great help!
You always have such worthy causes on here, but I think this is the best so far. War is never easy, for the soldier or the family left behind, and it’s felt all that more on holidays.
You’re right! It isn’t just the soldiers making a sacrifice. It’s the families too! They have to miss a holiday, or months of their lives without their loved ones!
I love this organization. I’ve always wanted to do this, thanks for posting… going to do it over the weekend!
Wow! This is a really great option for gift giving. I know so many would be so happy to receive these. I’m so glad a program like this exists. Most of my family is in the airforce. It can be difficult to be away from those you love during the holidays.
I am a pacifist but I respect everything that the veterans have done for us and how much of a sacrifice they make. It is always important to remain grateful.
I am not a fan of war myself. But, I can definitely appreciate someone else volunteering to put their life on the line for my safety! I am forever grateful to those who have lost life and limb so I can sleep in my safe, warm bed at night. 🙂
Wow I can’t imagine having my brother gone for Christmas, nevertheless doing something so amazing and serving to our country. That is such an incredible way to give back. Glad he is home safely now!
These are great ideas and a great reminder to thank those who keep us safe. Thank you!
Thanks for sharing about this! We absolutely need to be supporting our military in whatever ways we can!
How lovely. This is without a doubt the time for giving!
YAY! good for you for doing this. I love that you are helping all of those furbabies and I always tell people I know who say they are looking to get a pet, to check these centers first and save the pups! You are right too, they could use all of the help they can get – so good for you plus they get to learn all about taking care of the pets and all the responsibility as well! 😉
I love this series that you are running! So many great ideas. I love the work of Operation Gratitude. It is the organization that I sent our excess HAlloween candy to.
losing a pet is so hard. We have an older dog and I worry about how many years she has left. We also have a puppy that we got in the beginning of the year. My daughter would have us get a thousand dogs if it was up to her but luckily it’s not.
My daughters like to change up the list of breeds each day…we are up to a poodle, a golden retriever, a husky, a black lab and a chocolate lab. That’s just today. 😉
This is such a great idea. My brother was deployed about 10 years ago. I know he really appreciated getting care packages//
Awwww, how sweet. We used to do the same thing when my kids were little and I was in the MOMS club in town. The old folks LOVED seeing the kids.
I’ve always wanted to volunteer my time with the SPCA. As a dog lover, I know they need all the help they can get. It’s been my experience that getting a new dog does help heal the pain of losing a companion.
Thanks! My friend gave me a poem about getting a new dog. It is written from the perspective of your lost love and how your dog would want you to love again. It’s very touching!
This is perfect timing, our kids are joining a caroling group at church tonight and are SO excited! They’re visiting an assisted living facility, the neighborhood around the church, and a few specific senior citizen’s homes.
So fun!! Enjoy!
This is precious! I’m embarrassed to say I have never been caroling. I would love to, though! My mom took my siblings and I to visit nursing homes when we were younger. I have some wonderful memories of those times.
Never too late to start!
I love this! I absolutely adore caroling! <3
How beautiful, I agree giving something back to the community costs nothing and to see their faces light up with happiness is beyond price. Say yes to community.
I was going to call the animal shelter this week to see about volunteering. My daughter would love it. I would like another dog, too… but I keep telling my husband I need a bigger house first, 😉
A care kit for the troops sounds like a wonderful idea. They so need this.
I’ve volunteered at our animal shelter for the holidays before. I should do that again. Such a great cause!
I love this. My daughter belongs to a group at school that visits different communities/facilities around town that cater to the elderly where they will visit with them & sing. I know they enjoy it so much.
I love these care kits! This is such a great idea to do with your kids. I bet my kids would love it!
What a great way to love on those around you! Yay or kids being involved! 🙂
I’ve loved following along with this series. You’ve given me so many great ideas for how to share love and service with others. My oldest is just slightly too young to sing carols but this is a great idea for next year!
Thanks for following along!! 🙂 Feel free to tuck away any of these ideas for another time.
Yes! I love that you’re not forgetting the furry friends that need love too!
That is a great way to ease into getting a dog! I like to send supplies and treats to our local shelter.
You are right. My elderly next door neighbor lost his wife over the summer and I was going to bring him some cookies, but I think maybe I will bring him a meal or even invite him over to eat with us at our house.
Awe my heart goes out to your neighbor. I bet he would enjoy spending time with you and your family!
Aw bless your neighbor, I agree that we should en-devour to instill community spirit. It is always nice to give something back.
This is a great idea. Well done for setting up something to bring joy to others lives. Thanks for linking to #daysoutwithatoddler. Would you mind adding the badge please?
I will email you!
Such a great series. I love the encouragement to catch up with someone you miss. The holidays are the perfect time of year to do that!
I thinking this is a great idea! Generally being aware of what others are doing, or may need, around us seems to be difficult in this day and age. I think often we are looking down instead of out around us.
I LOVE your ideas! These are just basic common sense and manners right?!
I agree! But you would be surprised how many people think I am punking them in the parking lot! lol
I try to practice #3 all year long! People are always so surprised and appreciative!
Very kind, generous ideas in here. There have been days where I had wished for someone to do one of these for me. But I being impossibly proud would never have accepted.
Thank you. I used to find it very hard to accept kindness from others. It took me many MANY years to realize that by not accepting what someone offers I keep from them the same good feeling I get when I give. 🙂 When someone pointed that out to me it totally changed my perspective (although still takes practice).
I think this is one of my favorite ideas! We could make such a difference if we just keep our eye open!
This is another great post from you. Christmas is not just about gifts. You are already spreading the cheers with the little acts of kindness that you do everyday.
Awe thank you! Thanks for reading the series and writing such a wonderful comment.
Believe it or not I have never been Christmas caroling before! I should look into doing this with my daughter. It would be so fun!
I’ve always said that the biggest sacrifice one could make (other than their life, of course) is their time. Time is precious, and when we give it to others, that is the best most selfless thing we can do! I love this!
I love this series so much. You have such great ideas for service projects. My brother was in the Air Force and we used to send packages to him and his friends all the time.
Thank you so much for reading along and for taking the time to leave such a nice comment! 😉
It is so important to give back not just during the holidays, but all year long. I think it is great you and your family are making a difference in people’s lives. It is amazing how even the smallest bit of kindness can make someone’s day.
Such an amazing thing that you are doing and what a great organization. It is so important to give back to those that are putting their lives in danger for our freedom. Thank your brother in law for his service on behalf of myself and my family. Merry Christmas to you and your family!
I love these simple tips for making someone else a priority. I think it’s a great idea to always give your best self to others.
That is a great idea! We participate in a coat drive every year, but those little things like mittens & scarves tend to get forgotten about.
I recently saw a story of someone in my area doing something similar! We try to bring all of outgrown winter gear to the church shelter. My kids are always very concerned about the kids in our area and how they are doing. Wonderful way to help!
I always always ALWAYS spread a little cheer when I’m talking to my cashier this time of year. I used to work in retail during the holidays and trust me…IT SUCKS! Any way I can bring a little happiness to their day is a great way to give back even if it’s very very small.
I used to work retail too! Picture it Christmas 1990 something… the year of the Tickle Me Elmo. It was a mad house that day and tears were shed. Changed me for life! 😉 I know how hard it is to work retail at Christmas! Thanks for sharing your kindness!
I seriously love what you are doing here. Such great ideas and things that everyone can do!
Thank you! You’re right any one can do any of these things! 😉
This is such a cute idea and easy to implement and children will feel like they are helping. Fantastic!
This is such a great idea. Not only does it help others in need, but also teaches children to be thankful for what they have.
I love this!! My family and I are doing 12 Days of Kindness, I’m sharing a post about it this weekend. 🙂 Great minds!
XOXO
This is such a sweet idea. My family and I are doing 12 days of kindness, I’m sharing a post about it this weekend. 🙂 Great Minds!!
XOXO
Can’t wait to read it!
Such a great idea for the season of giving. Too often we get caught up in money, gifts and the over indulgence.
I’m sorting out my closet this weekend!
Way to go! Our troops need all the support we can give.
This is the cutest and sweetest idea! Of course, here, it was 80 degrees today, so I may need to leave a wrapped bottle of sunscreen in our local park! haha
I try to do these things all year long. The simplest acts of kindness can change someone’s entire day!
I have never been caroling before, and I don’t think I’ve ever witnessed caroling in real life. That must be such a heart-warming feeling to bring cheer to a nursing home in this manner.
I seriously think this is the best idea ever! What a great service you are providing people who need these items for when it turns colder – what a blessing for them =)
This is such a fantastic idea! I think so many people could use this in times of cold. I want to do this with my kids!
I like the series that you are carrying out and it is lovely to carry out random acts of kindness. I love surprising someone and making their day special.
Awww that is such a good idea and great fun decorating with your kids. I surprised my mail woman this morning with a box of chocolates and I received a lovely hug 🙂 x
Love the idea of recycling gently used stuff. I’m already a huge fan of recycling old wood as I love to use for decor and backdrops. I’ll be going through some of my stuff this weekend to give away what we don’t need anymore!
Love giving back to others. Each year we go through our closet and give a lot away to friends, family and those who don’t have much.
I love this idea! These things might come in handy for passers by.
Oh yes, the post men shouldn’t be forgotten. I love this idea!
Great tips! I love giving to my friends or teachers and seeing them happy. It’s always rewarding when you help someone else.
What a wonderful idea. I love all of your day of service ideas you have been doing this holiday season. You are doing a great thing for your family and others in need.
Thank you for reading along! We’ve enjoyed doing all of them together!!
Absolutely love this idea! We’d have so much fun doing this together. I remember so many special things my mom did with us kids that have stuck with me after all these years. Really love the countdown you have here, It’s so nice to see!
Thank you so much for reading along and taking the time to share your kind words! 😉
Kindness is spreadable! I love your ideas. The other day at school one mom made a comment to the effect that she is the mom that forgot yet another important tidbit and was vocally berating herself. Another mom stepped up and told here she was ridiculous and reminded her of all the the does! This was just a quick moment as we were loading into cars for a field trip – but the words from the second mom totally changed the countenance of the first mom. Kindness changed her day.
Absolutely! Sometimes it is validating just hearing the good others see in us. A shame we loose sight of it for ourselves.
I think this is a lovely idea and it really helps strengthen your bond and understanding of one another. Loved this series..
Thanks so much for reading along!!! 🙂
Oh this is such a beautiful idea! We are trying to teach our children these values, and this is such an easy way for them to get involved
Small acts of kindness really can have a huge impact. You never know what someone might be experiencing at the moment and what your small act of kindness might mean to them.
I remember one day there was a single dad shopping with his daughters who were just giving him a run for his money. He was really trying to impart manners and good behavior. I simply said to him, “you’re doing a great job with those beautiful daughters of yours.” Immediately his demeanor changed and he felt a bit of pressure fade away. We chatted for a bit about parenthood and when I walked away I could tell all of us were feeling lighter. 🙂 I wasn’t in the best mood when I walked in, but it helped to find something to compliment someone else with.
That is an awesome idea! And one I think my kids would absolutely love to do. We haven’t gotten anything for our mailman before, but he is a very nice gentleman, perhaps we should!
Sounds like such a great idea! I wish we still had a mailbox and weren’t now in a townhouse. This is a fun idea!
I have done caroling when I was still young. I think I should do this again with the kids. It will be fun.
Oh how sweet. I’ve never actually gone caroling. I’ve seen carolers but never been a caroler.
What a lovely way to show appreciation for those who are in service. It’s helps me thinking now to do the same appreciation to our mail man or garbage collectors.
What a lovely idea to appreciate those who are in service. It helps me thinking now what appreciation can I give now to our mail man or our garbage collectors.
I agree it is important to share and show community spirit. Love the idea of cookies to share with those who work hard to keep our community intact.
These are great ideas. I think I need to step up doing these acts of kindness in my life.
Whatever works for you!! Even if you choose to do one thing for the whole year, I hope you choose something that brings you joy!
I have totally enjoyed your days of service! It sounds like you have a husband that knows the meaning of family. I will be putting a gift card out for my mail person. Thank you for the reminder.
Thanks for reading along!! Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!
LOVE the idea of leaving small gifts through december! Much better than one gift and done. The lotto ticket is genius! Totally stealing that idea!
That is so cool and I wish all neighborhoods did this.
Decorating the mail box is such a cute idea. I’m going to share with my mom (I’m in an apartment). Cheers!
What a cute idea! Every year in our town a charity sets up a tree where people can leave hats mittens etc…. And if you’re in need you just go and grab what you need. I think it’s a great idea
I’ve always wanted to reward our mailman for a job well done…he’s so thoughtful. One year I wanted to give a big box of candy but didn’t want to feel the pressure of doing something similar every year. Maybe we can start with holiday cards – it’s the thought that counts.
Oh that is so awesome! I absolutely love that you’re committing to service this season!
I gave up years ago. Now, people get what they get from me and if they are not happy with it – too bad. You can’t please everyone, right?
You are absolutely right!
Perfection was always one of my biggest enemies and sometimes it still is! I had to learn to let go of that and to stop expecting that in others, too.
I’m learning to squash that perfectionist that lives inside me, but she’s a bossy one! Hang in there, Mama!
Mine is pretty bossy too! lol
I think it is so hard to not expect perfection. I always have these magical ideas in my head and I know I should just let them go.
Perfection is a lie. 🙂 That I know for sure, but yet we still try for it sometimes…Be you, authentically. 🙂
Aim for good and not perfect. I love that quote.
That’s a good one!
There is always so much to do! I am glad that you made it home and all is well. I don’t struggle with perfection, but my to-do list is longer than there is time in my day. Long list can leave us all to be overwhelmed. I hope you find time to rest and heal.
Thank you! I am feeling better and on the mend! Glad to know I’m not the only one with a mile long to-do list!
Baby’s first Christmas is so special and I wouldn’t mind using any of these keepsakes to memorialize that special day 🙂 I especially love the Handprint ornament!
This year my gift giving is limited to the kids in my family. There are way too many young adults in my family with expensive taste. Enjoy your holiday on your own terms 🙂
Yes I often think that a lot of people talk and give advise but they never listen to it themselves. Something I learned a lot of when I was studying psychology.
being a mom today is so hard. We have so much guilt trying to make our children’s lives as memorable as possible (I’m guilty here too). But I do think we all need to just let some stuff go
This is such a wonderful idea! I don’t know why I never thought to leave gloves. 🙂
Thank you for sharing kindness!
XOXO
I hope you’re getting better. You share the same struggle as me. Everything has to be perfect but I learn to just let myself loose and let it go because I realize life need to be balanced. Imperfection balance the perfection, and it makes life richer. That’s what l found. Take care.
I am happy that I got my Christmas shopping done. Now I just have to get it all wrapped. I am glad you are ok.
Sorry to hear you have been in hospital hope you are ok now? Your right we need to stop striving
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Glad to hear you’re okay. But you’re right, this is a definite struggle. I have to actively work at letting my “perfectionism” go. Hope you get some rest and enjoy those babies!
such a sweet idea! Christmas cookies are the best! We live on a base and love giving Christmas cookies to the base guards!
I try not to be a slave to my to-do list – it is hard! I am a lot less concerned about making sure everyone else is “happy” at my own expense now though. I am glad that everything is ok! It is a good reminder to slow down a little bit!
so glad you are alright and regarding perfection . . Sometimes we expect things to be so out there & when they don’t happen it can be so depressing, so learning to live with ‘good enough’ is usually so much happier of a place! 😉
my tip is have someone else do your makeup!!
Awesome review! My favorite tip is to use coconut oil as moisturizer 🙂
Flawless….ahhh please!! I need that!!!
Checking it out either way!
Drink lots of water and get lots of rest! Hard to do as a mom!
Yes!!! I agree!
My tip is do whatever’s quickest and easiest ;).
It is definitely easier and quicker to have someone do it for me! 🙂 At home I have two kids hanging from my elbows.
I find if I apply a thin layer of Chapstick before I apply my gloss/lipstick, it tends to last longer!
Nice tip!
I can relate to this post. For me, it’s not so much achieving perfection, but the overwhelming weight on my shoulders when I know that something is going to set me back. Whenever I get sick, or something knocks me out for the day, I am constantly thinking of all the things I have to do for clients, how far back in my writing this will take me, etc.
For a special occasion it’s good to have make up team like that to assist us.
It’s good to have a special make up team like this for a special occasion
You look flawless love the lippie. What a fantastic offer too how generous of them to offer a lesson.
My favorite beauty tip passed down from my mama is…”The trick to makeup is to look like you’re not wearing any”
My favorite beauty secret is passed down from my mama…”The trick to makeup is to look like you’re not wearing any”
That’s really great that they’re breaking into the theatre scene. As an actor I can testify to the many nightmares of using stage makeup. Excited for a product like this to come on the scene. I make my own makeup for everyday where, but that doesn’t cut it for stage. Thanks for sharing! Excited to check it out!
I used to apply stage makeup for actors in college productions. That I’m sure was horribly cheap. But, I remember how “cakey” it could get.
Great review, I need to treat myself to some new makeup. I’ve got to try this brand x
I was super excited to see how affordable it is! Toxin free makeup and products can often get pricey.
I struggle daily with letting go of perfectionism too! Thank you for this timely reminder! And I’m SUPER glad that your ER trip wasn’t something horrible!
My favorite mom on the go beauty tip would be if you don’t have time for the full makeup shabang just apply a little foundation, blush, and mascara! Especially don’t forget the mascara!
I found the best thing for me is to set up a good routine of cleansing and monitor ozone daily. Also, mascara goes a long way! I’d really love to learn more about makeup though and I’m pretty close by in newburgh, Ny.
Taking care of your skin is so important! When I was younger I did nothing, and now I am realizing I need to kick it into gear! The dry winter weather isn’t helping anything for me right now though!
What a great review. I love the shades of the nail enamels.
Great review. So important to take care of ourselves inside and out! I think the big key is to moisturize. Lots on the outside, and water for the inside.
What what gorgeous colors! I really need to try this out, I could use more fun in my life!
This sounds like great makeup! I love finding out about toxin free makeup companies!
I love that the palettes are non-toxic! Seriously, so much makeup on the market right now is ridden with toxins. And those magnetic square trays are genius! I’d love any of these on my Christmas list!
Glad that it all worked out and see, you got some really lovely gifts. I am with you, though – I would have been skeptical about it, too.
Wow! Thanks for the warning. You received lovely gifts and they were definitely appreciated x
Too bad this is a scam, although you did receive some really nice gifts.
What a fun idea!! I haven’t heard of the secret sister gift exchange but it would be fun.
I am sorry to hear that it was a scam and thank for warning others of how dangerous it is to believe everything that you see on the internet. You have to be so careful.
Awww, it’s such a great idea though to do with your pick though! I’m glad it worked out!
I’m glad that it all worked out so well! I think you’re totally right. Getting surprise gifts in the mail is so exciting, we should definitely do it more often. 🙂
Glad it worked out you! A few friends.if mine signed up too and got nothing in return. Normally I would have signed up but this year I opted out and I’m kinda sad I did.
I saw this on facebook but I totally thought it was a scam so I didn’t participate. Now I am sad I opted out. So glad it worked out for you!
Too bad it ended up being a scam, always some people out for themselves and spoiling things for everyone. Sounds like you made a a new friendship though!
This is such a cool idea but I would definitely be a little weary that no one would reply. I think I’ll modify it and try it out with a group of friends instead next year!
Aw. At least you got some sweet gifts!
Glad you were able to get some lovely gifts after all. I saw this going around and the warnings too. I hate when something sounds too good to be true. I always want these things to be real, but it seems you really have to do your homework!
I am always skeptical of these types of exchanges. I’m glad you were able to receive a couple of beautiful and fun gifts!
i have heard so much about this brand from my blogger friends but never had the chance to try it. So thrilled to know that their palettes don’t contain all that harsh chemicals. Definitely checking them out.
There are a lot of scams out there. Earlier in the year I was sent a secret shopper one. Wonder how many people fall prey to scammers.
I’d be sceptical also if I receive this kind of message on FB, but you have the nice result at the end. They are lovely gifts.
I have heard of this, never participated and would not have known it was a scam either. But look at the lovely gifts you received!
Awwww glad it worked out! I had a friend do this and she ended up getting a lot of fabulous gifts! So I don’t know…. I saw the warnings all over so didn’t give it a try, then saw my fiends fabulousness… Guess it was probably just one of those things where if you got flaky people or not
We all fall victim to things we feel silly about later. I’m so glad this worked out for you in the end. Thanks for sharing!
It’s sad that things like this have been messed up so much that they’re illegal. I think they’re fun as long as everyone is just doing it to bless others.
Cute idea! I’ve never seen the secret sister gift exchange but I’m glad it turned out well for you!
I’ve never heard of the secret sister gift exchange but I’m glad it turned out well for you! It’s a super cute idea!
I have heard a lot about this brand. What a super giveaway! I really like the color palette.
Congrats!! I’m so happy for you. I know one topic that I would like discussed ( and forgive me if it’s already been touched upon. I’m new to your blog and haven’t read through all yet :))
Anyway I have a 7 yr old boy , who although at times can be challenging I feel is just part of being a 7 yr old adjusting to 2nd grade responsibilities. However his teacher keeps pointing to ADHD. I know in my heart that he doesn’t fall on the spectrum. But I feel that I’m the only one. A recent visit to the pediatrician left me with normal blood work. Normal hearing (thank god) but a lot of forms to fill out to see if he fits the criteria. And even if he does. I’m against meds. Sooooo I’m wondering if anyone is in a similar boat
Thanks Cathy! I can tell you, you are definitely not alone!! I agree this is a great topic for me to reach out to other parents with, who like you, are feeling like they are the only ones. Thank you!!
I would like to see a post on how parenting can change you or has changed you? That would be a good one or parenting from the perspective of your child?
Great ideas! I am asked all the time about how my life has changed since having kids.
I loved the review WP shared. I thought it was very cool to see a snapshot of 2015 on the blog.
Congrats on being a featured parent in 2016 for Hudson Valley Parent! So exciting 🙂 I enjoy reading your parenting insight and can’t wait to see what you share in the new year!
Thank you so much!! 🙂 Can’t wait to read your posts as well!
I love the blog report from wordpress. It sounds like you had a good year and I’m looking forward to all your posts in 2016 x
Congrats on being a featured parent blogger, that’s exciting! Love your efforts in uniting all parents, a fabulous goal!
This is such a thoughtful and wonderful idea! You are truly an inspiration 🙂
How fun I didn’t know wordpress did this! I’ll have to check mine. Plus scrolling down I didn’t know they had bloggin university either! Cool!
What a great recap from WordPress. I loved your Body Beautiful posts. As far as the dark parts of parenting we all have them. My friends and I refer to parenting teens as the dark ages. With my children ranging fro 14 − 26, I am not out of the woods yet.
I am seriously afraid of the teen years!! Two daughters going through the same stages at the SAME time…*shudder*
Congrats on your feature! Here’s to hoping 2016 is an EVEN better year for you!
It sounds like 2015 was an incredible year for you! I hope 2016 is even better! Happy New Year!
Omg congrats on being featured!!! That’s huge :):) xoxo
You will be great! The teen years…tip: pick and choose your battles. 🙂
I think there are lots of ways to do the secret sister thing where it works out for everyone! Glad it worked for you!
I agree! I’ll be checking out a new way for next year! 😉
I need that palate that is for sure it looks fantastic. I like the range of colours and textures available.
I have to say I am impressed with the affordable quality!!
Just keep doing what you’re doing and you will definitely go far! 2016 is going to be a great year – I can feel it 🙂
Thanks so much Robin!
congrats on your feature, that’s awesome. One thing I would like to see discussed is how much sports is too much sports for a kid. Being a former competitive swimmer, training at the age of 13 for 2 -4 hours a day, 6 days a week, I reckon that was too much.
The not so glamourous time is what I want to hear. Congrats to you!
I have PLENTY OF THOSE moments to share!! lol
I love inglot! I have always wanted to try their eyeshadow palettes, they look like they’re such high quality!
Congratulations on being featured. I look forward to reading more of your posts.
Love that you have all the letter so carefully saved for the future! Such a sweet keepsake and family tradition!
I am currently parenting three age groups: one toddler (19 m), one tween (11 yrs) and one teen (she’ll be 14 next week). I’m finding that it’s easy for the middle child to become THE MIDDLE CHILD when they’re sandwiched between a baby and a teen (both of whom are time-consuming in their own ways). Maybe you could touch on ways to make middle children feel just as loved and tended to! I know I’d love to hear some tips 🙂
My sister is a middle child… and she has a middle child. I’ll have to ask her for some words of wisdom. 😉
Oh the colors! I know you had a hard time choosing but I bet it was a good time.
Oh the colors! I would have had a hard time choosing.
Congrats on the interview and being featured, that is so so exciting!
Congrats on being a feature parent that is awesome! Way to finish 2015 on a high note. Wishing you a wonderful 2016!
Thank you!! Wishing you a wonderful 2016 too!
Oh my goodness! Congrats on being featured, thats amazing!
Congratulations on the blogging success!
I heard about this, and someone told me it was kind of like a pyramid scheme and the people at the top ended up getting the most gifts or something. I don’t really understand it, but I would definitely be skeptical!
Yay for blogging success! Cheering for you from this corner!
Awe, thank you so much!! 🙂
Congratulations! I would love to see topics on guilt and ways to reward.
Sometimes, but I remember that I have friends who probably went through it too. When I call them about my frustrations, they laugh and said their kids did the same thing. It makes me feel better to know he’s not a mutant.
Definitely feels better knowing we aren’t the only ones who have to deal! lol
Great wordpress insight. I love parenting advice posts so those are always my go-to recommendations.
My second (and youngest) is THAT child. I post pictures of his meltdown on Facebook all the time because I just have to laugh it off at this point. It’s like he goes out of his way to make things hard sometimes 🙂 That’s ok, though….he’s cute, so it cancels it all out.
For the longest time I was the only twin mom in my circle. It wasn’t until I met other twin parents who assured me we are all “normal.” lol
I am not a parent but I understand where you are coming from as I look after children and have done since a young age. It can be difficult to show them you are boss and even harder to show a fine line between control and being a bully.
I have two very independent and capable little humans so it’s more of a control the situation at hand than them personally. They are at a stage where they argue with each other and I’m just like, “HEYYYY!!! Let’s not beat each other with toys today!” LOL
I don’t have kids, but my friends do. And I often think about them when I sit here drowning in work, housework, finance stuff, and more… um they do all this WITH KIDS TOO! Then I’m reminded that I have it easier, but then that’s one reason why I chose not to have kids 😉
Its so easy to forget that kids are meant to be curious which almost always leads to a mess, spill, broken bone, etc. As frustrating, exhausting, and unpredictable as parenting can be, I wouldn’t change it for the world!
I agree!!
Kids are such a blessing, but they can also be so incredibly difficult! Your post really had me laughing, thanks for sharing!
I think that’s one of the great things about blogging–being able to see that you truly are not alone! My brothers weren’t twins, but they were very close in age (15 months apart) and we routinely had to separate them, one at one end of one sofa and the other at the opposite end of the facing sofa, just so they couldn’t touch each other. They probably had the same time-outs in caves, this sibling behavior is so pervasive.
I think that’s one of the best thing about blogging–you get to see that you are truly not alone! My brothers weren’t twins but were very close in age (15 months apart) and we routinely had to separate them with one kid on one end of one sofa and the other kid at the opposite end of the facing sofa just so they wouldn’t touch. That sibling behavior is so ingrained, I bet they had to do it with cave-kids, too!
LOL Cave kids… love it!
My New Years’ Resolution was to work on softening my tone. By the end of the day, I feel like I’m the one whining and sounded perpetually frustrated. So I’m practicing staying calm and my tone gentle and kind, even when I have to be firm. It actually makes me feel better and keeps the focus on her behavior instead of how I’m feeling.
I’ve noticed for me that self care is really important to staying calm. If I’m not filling up my cup I have nothing to pour into my family.
Especially true if I’m not filling my coffee cup, LOL
I have to tell myself that nobody has it all together as they look. That seems to help in those crazy moments!
I hear ya! My three are grown now and I do miss when they were little. At the same time I’m glad.
I feel like I fail from time to time but then I remind myself that we are all doing our best and at the end of the day it is so worth it! 😉
It’s always hard. Just hard for different reasons. I just hugged my youngest good-bye as she leaves for her final semester of college. I have two already out of college and this is her senior year – You would think I could do these goodbyes by now without the waterworks! It’s hard.
I think every age and stage brings about a new set of challenges! As much as my kiddos drive me crazy I do miss them when they are at school (college is a ways off).
Thank you for this honest post! I personally don’t have kids and am so impressed how parents handle the craziness of parenting.
I appreciate reading this because my 3 year old has taken me for a loop the last few days. He wants to be called “Otto” only and acted up so much that I gave up on grocery shopping the other day. It helps knowing I’m not the only one.
I once had to leave the grocery store after I had loaded ALL my items on the belt. My kid was SCREAMING so loud I just looked at the cashier and said, “I’m sorry but I can’t do this.” I left everything there and walked out of the store. It happens!
Parenting is definitely a lot harder than anything besides marriage for me. I have a few spirited kids which make life interesting at times. Thankfully, they usually save the bad behaviors for me.
Yes, moms are the lucky recipients of all that left over energy the kids couldn’t unleash on anyone else. 😉
Oh my goodness, my sons have all been that kid at one point or another. I just want to hide in my room occasionally. lol.
Good luck with your family this year. Hope you have a great 2016!
Thanks!
This post is really amusing! I love the funny pictures you put up. I guess I’ll understand once I have kids!
I love my kids…but, I honestly in all my experience with kids have NEVER met such stubborn and strong willed humans before!! Not even in working with adults!! Ha, ha!
Thank goodness I have my husband to help with our teenagers. Parenting is hard work. Now I know how my mom and dad felt when I was a kid…
I’m so so incredibly fortunate in that I have never felt alone in parenting. I picked a great man to an even greater father. So grateful.
I greatly appreciate my parents now. It is hard to raise good kids and be a good parent.
I enjoyed reading this post – it was entertaining. I am not a parent, but I go through ‘auntie struggles’ – my nephew is a joy to be with, but sometimes, he honestly makes me thrilled that I’m just an auntie. Hope I didn’t offend anyone…just my personal opinion.
Ha, ha! I so get it. I LOVE being an auntie! My nieces and nephews are all so awesome and well behaved that I believed parenting was a piece of cake! LOL
I dont have any children yet, but I love all the little images in this!
These look amazing I’ve never heard of this company before. I love the colors.
Nice blog. Thank you Very much!!
What a great post! Whether a mom wants to breast or formula feed (I have done both) it shouldn’t matter as long as she is there for her kids.
I was so nervous to read this when I saw the topic… And I’m pleasently surprised!!! Every blog I read about breastfeeding is all about #normalizebreastfeeding and it drives me crazy. Breast milk is great, we get it… But don’t push so hard that you’re making other mom’s that can’t (or don’t want to!) breastfeed feel like failures! Great read! 🙂
Oh yes! I know other moms are going through it, but it seems like in the moment I am the only one! And why is it that kids can’t wipe their own bums? It doesn’t make sense to me at all…I guess I should be thankful they are at least using the toilet…
I don’t understand what’s all the buzz over this very natural matter. Millions of women breastfeed their babies on the other side of the world and it’s nobody’s business whether when or when they want to do that. The different though with what Alyssa did, these women they don’t feel the need to expose their breastfeeding moment to the whole world. Anyway, this is very thoughtful post!
This is so interesting, really, to read that as a mother you see motherhood being marginalized. It’s interesting because, as a not-mom (by choice), motherhood seems to be anything but marginal- or minimalized. Just goes to show the different perspectives from looking out and looking in, right?
Frankly, I thought Wendy Williams was absolutely ridiculous in that clip and I can’t tell if she is genuinely that ignorant or if she was just playing devil’s advocate.
I never felt that way before I became a parent either. I always respected a moms role. But, you would be surprised by the comments I received when I decided to stay home with my kids. I was told I was “wasting” my college education. I left a career I’d never get back (which is OK, I kind of like this new one). I was told that “sexism” is alive in my household (however, if I made more money than my husband he would have quit his job). Other moms have said, “I could never stay home with my kids I’d be too bored.” As if my job as a mother is so mindless. (I admit now that the kids are 5 I am starting to get bored with routine, but this is the first year I’ve felt this way!). The list goes on. Meanwhile I’ve started my own charity, run my own business, and started a whole new writing career (all while juggling twins and a household). I agree, it depends on which side of the story you are in. 😉
I completely agree with you, mums can choose what is best for their babies and other people shouldn’t comment on what they have chosen to do 🙂
It is the mums body and child and therefore she should have the choice to make her own decisions. Some people are so judgemental.
This is very eye opening to someone like myself who doesn’t plan on having children! I’m amazed that parents hold it together for so long, you definitely deserve much more credit for the good job you’re doing!
I have to agree with you. It’s up to each mother and what they want to do. Really loved reading your post!
It’s up to each mother and what they want to do. I have to agree with you too! Really loved reading your post!
Thank you!
ppl act like its so bad and it blows my mind !!!!! I much rather see a pretty mom breast feeding instead of a 1/2 dressed woman !! good for you Laci @ sequinsinthesouth.com
I think, in recent years particularly, that people are just too aware of what others do, instead of just taking care of their business. The world has become very hostile, but well in order for that to change we need start with evaluating ourselves.
I think is very ridiculous to question what a mother does to their children, how she feeds them and raises them. The majority of the mothers, if not all, just want the best for their kids. I did not generalized to all because there are always the exception of the rule. But well said.
To breastfeed or not should be a mother’s choice. Plus, there are some that want to but their breasts just don’t produce milk so they can’t. In conclusion, people should mind their own business haha.
Great post!
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I will never understand why this is such an issue. Breast feed/bottle feed who cares as long as you are taking care of your baby!
My five year old is very spirited and chatty. He makes this screeching noise that makes me nuts. This week I figured out that he likes Simon Says AND that “Simon Says talk in a whisper” works to quell this issue, if used sparingly. Next week he will catch on and I’ll have to figure out a new trick.
I was excited when I discovered how much my girls loved playing the quiet game in the car! They are so competitive neither wants to lose! So it’s a nice quiet ride to school most mornings! lol
I nerver really get it when this comes up as being so controversial.
Great post! I was expecting a whole different blog post! But I’m glad you mentioned what you did and I totally agree with you! xo
I’m glad you got over it. Guild is an absolutely useless emotion that doesn’t do anyone any good.
I was expecting a completely different post, but I’m glad I was wrong. I wholeheartedly agree with you!
I’m 3-ish months away from having my first child and, I must admit, breastfeeding is more intimidating to me than actual child birth. There IS a lot of pressure and with that comes a lot of frustrations (from what I’ve heard and read). I’m trying to educate myself, decide what feels right for me & baby, and let the judgements go in one ear and out the other. Thanks for the post!
Good luck! You will know exactly what the right choice is for you and your baby when the time comes!! Either way you decide you’ll be a great mom!
I actually saw that clip prior to reading your post and was like Go Alyssa!!! I think society has completely lost sight of what is important and needs to refocus!
I completely agree with you. We all have to do what’s right for ourselves and our children. No one else can make that decision for us and it’s disappointing when others try to judge us for our choices.
I’m Team Feed Your Baby so to me, all the drama is unnecessary. That being said, I love Alyssa Milano and what she’s doing to normalize breastfeeding.
I chose to nurse my daughter and I loved my choice. It was the right choice from me but I’m fine if people choose not to.
Breastfeeding is definitely the healthy way to go. As long as the mom is caring for her child that all that should matter.
There’s been a lot of talk about this in the media lately and while I don’t have any children or experience with this, I totally respect the decisions you’ve made!
Thanks for the reminder. My oldest son is a gem, but my second one gives me a run for my money every single day! It’s easy to feel like I am doing a crappy job as a mom, but I am doing my best 🙂
It true, it does get better. And eventually they move out on their own and form their own lives. Some days I miss the Mommy season…
This post could not have come at a better time. One of my twins literally spent most of the morning crying at me. I could find nothing wrong, and nothing would fix it and make her happy. And naturally, that set the other one off. Misery loves company.
Having twins is the craziest ride Ive ever taken! Lol Hope tomorrow is a better day for all of you!
Absolutely love this post. I’m a recovering perfectionist myself and after letting go of that, I’ve felt so much better in a lot of aspects of life.
Great post, I know so many parents can relate, it can be very tough at times.
I’m just beginning my mommy journey, and my hat is off to any mom of twins!! Such a great reminder.
I love that! I think I forget that all the time. I need to take care of myself so I can take care of others!
I think all parents feel that pang of guilt. As the saying goes, kids don’t come with instructions. You do the best you can, and as long as your kids feel loved, you are doing a great job. I’m sure it can’t be easy with twins.
It’s easy for people to criticize when they are not in your shoes. Having twins has got to be a handful.
Kids are a blessing but also, sometimes major sources of stress:) Wine and coffee makes it a lot easier to swallow, LOL.
I love the honesty you poured in this post. You are the treasure for your kids and so are your kids for you. That will never change whatever situation you and your kids have to deal with. Don’t bother with what other people think. Btw, the quote above is so true! We need to start with ourselves before share it with other people. I remember the song Whitney Houston sung Greatest love of all, some of the lyric say, “Learning to love yourself it is the greatest love of all”, I think from there we can share that greatest love to our children, husbands/wives and others.
I am with you. I have a very strong eldest, and it is not fun at times. But I know it will serve her well.
Nice share. I have to agree…the only time you’re the perfect parent, is before you have kids. After that it’s just survival some days. lol!
My boys are great separately but together boy you better watch out. I guess it’s a sibling thing.
I love the title of this post. So true.
I also feel like that as a mom. I know I am doing my best, but still I feel like I’m the worst mom.
I can totally relate to this. There are times that I feel that way, too.
I am so not good at self-care. This is a great post reminding me I need to be better at this.
I personally don’t have children but I can only imagine how tough of a job it is! And I agree, having small support system around you for when things get tough is always a good idea!
Parenting is hard. Plain and simple – it is hard. It is also exhausting – physically and emotionally. I have always called the teen age years the dark years as it can get pretty scary sometimes. Somehow we make it! The kids sure are lucky that they are so dang cute and that we love them unconditionally.
I couldn’t agree more. I just don’t understand, at all, why feeding your kid is a divisive issue.
Hope the computer is fixable!
2015 was pretty awesome! I have one goal for 2016: Not buy any toys or books. We have too many toys and can get any book we want from the library. Instead we will spend our fun money on experiences.
Mommin’ ain’t easy! That’s a fact. Thanks for sharing!
Oh no! I hope you get it fixed ASAP! The times that my own has crashed always were so horrible. Good luck!
I don’t have kiddies so I can only imagine how tough it must get. I love the quote you included at the top of the post, it holds true for everyone and anyone – “You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.” Words to live by. Thanks for sharing 🙂
I am reading this at a perfect time! I am close to losing it because my daughter thinks it is hilarious to fight naps/bedtime by kicking me in the face, biting and pulling my hair. I keep on telling myself that it is not going to last forever and that she doesn’t do it on purpose. Having children do teach you how much patience you have for sure!
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I had my computer crash a few months back and lost so much of my blog stuff, it was awful! Hopefully you can get it up and running again. I LOVE the philosophy behind your blog and totally support it!
Thanks so much!! Computer is back home safe and sound and the tech guys were super quick!! *phwew*
Friday unfavorites! That’s so funny and I totally get it. Good luck with your tech troubles.
Yikes! Computer crashes are the worst. Here’s to getting it back next week in working order. 🙂
I absolutely love this! I know that I am not perfect, but I also know that I am doing a fine job. However, there will ALWAYS be days of meltdowns and chaos. It is just life with kids! Expecting kids to be able to manage their emotions when many, many adults have their own versions of acting out and tantrums that just look less obvious is nuts!
It’s hard to have just twins. I feel like if they had an older sibling, or older cousins to emulate instead of just each other, the crazy roller coaster of emotions might not feel so steep! lol
I had the same thing happen. I just picked mind up from the apple store….lol! Hope you have a great weekend 🙂
Oh no! Twice in one year! That’s like lightning striking twice. 🙁 Hopefully you’ll get it resolved soon and you’ll be back to it in no time. — I hope you had your things backed up!
I know the feeling. I have to take mine in for repairs as well! That’s never fun. Good luck!
Well that sucks! Lucky for me my hubby is a computer geek and knows how to fix them. lol Hope yours gets fixed soon! Cheers!
I had a computer crash! Have a great week. Love the cover photo ????
UGH! I hate computer issues. Just last night my display went haywire. Good luck on it not being to expensive!
YOur post made me love my mom even more.
My kids are now adults (still living with us), and they can STILL get me frustrated beyond belief. And I still have days when I resort to a meltdown. Thankfully the good days FAR exceed the bad … and for the invention of cocktails. 😀
Eeek! Technology is fabulous when it is working, but when it goes down: panic and pandemonium! Hope it gets resolved soon.
This is such a nice idea!
Noo computer crashes are the worst! :p
I too live in the Hudson Valley! I am like a rabid animal anytime my computer has crashed! The best thing I ever did was switch to a Mac!
Hi Whatever Mom…Loved this series of 12 Days of Service. We did a handful of them with our 5 and 3 year old. The first one was this one and we dropped cookies off at the local state police barracks. It was a great experience. Thanks for all the ideas!
Thank you so much for following along!! Wishing you and your family a great 2016!!
What a beautiful idea! I’d love to start doing this. I’m getting more sentimental with this last baby.
Hi Whatever Mom – Thanks for these ideas. We did a few of them with our 5 and 3 year old and as a family we loved it. This was the first one we started with by visiting our local state trooper barracks. It was great for the kids to see their giving in action.
That’s awesome! I hope your kids enjoyed the experience!! Thank you for taking the time to share!
Why is such a big deal about breastfeeding? Breast milk is best for babies. Some don’t understand that because some mothers are only concerned about their figures. If I had enough breast milk, I will continue breastfeeding my daughter ’til my milk is gone. I envy the moms who have lots of milk to provide for their babies.
Mhar Sefcik
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I’m fortunate enough to have my Mom close by, but even the last date night I had with my husband was almost two years ago. We celebrated our anniversary 5 months late. My Mom has her own busy life so we try not to use her as a sitter unless it’s absolutely nesscary. Sometimes we are given busy hectic lives, and we feel like we hardly have any help. Like you said all you can do is make the best of what you have. That’s what we do too! <3
glad to read in your comments that it was fixed fast. I’ve had that in the past twice and ended up buying new ones both times. so glad you got yours fixed 🙂
I love your honesty here. I have parents who live close by but my mom has limited availability so I know what you are talking about here. I just keep telling myself the kids will only be little for a short time and to enjoy this season of my life 🙂
I am in a different situation because I am divorced from my boys father and he & his new wife share custody with us, so Chris and I get a lot of time off. I can’t imagine not getting a break.
Aw it can definitely be hard feeling alone. My whole family is 2 states away from me (my son has my in-laws close-by, though, and I do get to revel in the mentioned alone time) and I struggled with these feeling before I met my husband. I think friends can step into the roles of family/cousins/grandma 😉 and help you feel more supported.
Aw it can definitely be hard feeling alone. My whole family is 2 states away from me (my son has my in-laws close-by, though, and I do get to revel in the mentioned alone time) and I struggled with these feeling before I met my husband. I think friends can step into the roles of family/cousins/grandma 😉 and help you feel more supported.
I get it. I come from a small family, and my daughter’s father is not around. His family doesn’t know us. I’ve gotten close with many of our neighbors, most of whom are older with grown children. They all love my daughter and help me out when I need something. Blood doesn’t make family ! It’s like she has extra grandparents ! Even one of the aides at school seems to have taken on the role of an aunt… Take support where and when you can !!
We have definitely been fortunate enough to build our own family here. I have some really great friends and very supportive neighbors I couldn’t live without!
Oh, i totally understand that feeling. I have family close by but I always feel guilty… so I end up passing on childcare ALL the time. It’s exhausting.
My parents family always lived very far away when I was a kid, now with my own kids we live in a three generation household and I wouldn’t change it for the world. They see Nana every single day. I think we are really blessed, I am not sure if my husband agrees. 😉
That’s really wonderful! I grew up the same way. Our house was always full!!
That’s really wonderful! I grew up the same way. Our house was always full!!
It is ok to feel bitter because you have been through a lot. I wish that you could get more time to yourself but parenting is a hard slog and you are doing so well.
Thank you. That’s very sweet of you to say!
I love that quote. I also love how honest and open your writing is.
My parents moved back to the area when my sister and I had kids. What’s funny is that while having them nearby is a blessing, there’s a different kind of frustration and jealousy that happens with us – usually over who may be spending time with who, and how much. We only go out about once a year, as well.
We do not have any kids yet, but I know if Adam and I did have kids we might be in a similar situation; we do not live near any family members out here since we moved to Arizona, so I highly doubt we will have time for date nights or small trips if/when we have children. Keep your head up, lady! You are allowed to feel moments of frustration and wish you had the luxuries of others–it only makes you human!
I understand what you’re saying. Jealousy is, unfortunately, a very real and hard thing to deal with. While my mother-in-law lives here in town, I have a brother-in-law who monopolizes her time. His kids are constantly at her house and so when we ask for a babysitter on rare occasions, we’re often told she can’t because she already has his 3 kids (like every weekend). Even when we set something up far in advance (like an anniversary), at least one of his kids will end up being there anyway. I would love for my kids to get time with just their grandma the way his kids do (she’s always taking them shopping, or whatever) It feels frustrating that she feels free to tell us no, but for some reason can’t tell him no 🙁
I figure since there’s nothing I can do about it, I will try to just focus on the positives– she loves her grandkids dearly, and we do get occasional babysitting, so at least it’s something! lol. But it’s hard not to be jealous especially when it comes to our kids.
I am in a similar situation. My mom lives close, but travels so much for work we rarely see her. Our dates tend to be putting the kids to bed and trying to watch half a movie before the baby wakes up 🙂 I’m sure it will get easier as the kids get older though…at least that is what I tell myself!
Expecting our first, I completely understand. I’m already so jealous of the moms who can call their mom and have them come watch the kids at a moment’s notice, even just so they can run errands!
My situation is similar in that my kids have no grandparents. My parents aren’t in great health and have a hard time traveling to see us and my inlaws are the same. I, too, struggle with jealousy over moms who have awesome, involved grandparents, especially when my friends complain about their in-laws(who constantly babysit, help out, etc). Sometimes, people don’t realize how much help/support they have, even if it’s not perfect all the time!!!!
This is such a good product I didn’t even know it existed!!
Way more sanitary and easy for traveling!
This idea is so simple and brilliant at the same tie! I was always avoiding the plastic covers, but these are just fantastic and I really want a few.
I like that it is compact which makes it a great travel purchase! Also the fact that it protects against bacteria is great for as I have a poor immune system.
I need these! I always worry about the bacteria in the air in the bathroom. These are great!
That is a better way to keep the tootbrush. How many covers are inside the pack?
An interesting and seemingly better way.
I have never heard of the breathable toothbrush covers. I like the surgical mask analogy. I like to keep our bathroom and hygiene items surgically clean.
These are crazy cool! I have never heard of them before. I will have to give them a try!
First, I just found your blog and as a fellow twin mom, I am in love! In love with your “whatever” philosophy and even moreso in love with your mentality. Maybe it’s just a twin mom thing, but we are SO, SO similar! I too have no outside help and have found myself envying those “friends” of mine who get date nights or go on vacations. Heck, I would LOVE to just make a trip to Target without two screaming toddlers in tow. But alas, such is life. My husband owns and operates his own construction company and as you can imagine, that keeps him away from us working the majority of the week. Yes, I am super fortunate to be a SAHM, but as you know even we get those cases of burnout. My mother is also “out of touch” although she likes to believe she’s an active grandma and participant in my kids’ lives. Our extended family is HUGE. Yet, I can count on no one to lend a helping hand. I am beyond fortunate my husband is amazing when he is home to help out with our boys. In short, thank you for being so raw and honest. You are my new favorite. ????
Awe Twin Mama you are so awesome! (Maybe that’s a twin mom thing too). It does help to know I’m not the only twin mama struggling. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply with kind words and sharing your experience too! All my best to you and your family!
What a better way to keep our toothbrushes protected. I’d like to give them a try.
this is such a great idea. We fortunately have out toilet in a separate room from the sinks but still, I always wonder about what’s flyng in the air – eeehh! this would help 😉
Omg I definitely feel where you’re coming from! Hubby and I rarely get a date night because there isn’t someone to babysit….. Definitely puts a strain on things….
I didn’t know there were covers like these! I’m a bit of a germophobe so I’m definitely going to invest in these!
I have a strong willed child and it’s tough sometimes. I definitely have to pick my battles, but I try not to sweat the small stuff.
I have 3 strong willed children. It seems like we have battles everyday but we are learning to pick our battles while also teaching our kids that they will not always get what they want or do what they want.
I used to be a huge morning person. No more. My teenager used to have crazy style when she was little and I just ran with it. We liked to mix patterns.
you, Moms, are superheroes! Do you know that?))
Awe you’re the sweetest for saying that!
Oh wow that outfit is quite something. I don’t blame you though after all the trauma you went through to get her to eat Cheerios!
I have to say that souffle comment made me laugh! Sounds like you know how to pick your battles! I don’t have kids yet but I still get up an hour early for coffee and me time before the craziness of the day!
My daughter would wear stripes with plaids because “They both have lines, Mom!” and really, it’s hard to argue with that logic. The kid has impeccable taste now at 16, and I often ask her opinion/approval on what I am wearing.
So you are saying there is hope! 🙂
I am so not a morning person either. I have one child who wakes up filled with joy and two crabby pants kiddos that I steer clear of!
I am laughing out loud with, “I steer clear of!”
Once again, IN. LOVE. This was so similar to one of our battles today. Where in your 2 year old mind did you think having quarters in your mouth was okay??? And why, sweet Jesus, WHY…. DID GRANDMA GIVE YOU LOOSE CHANGE?! You’re 2. You don’t know how to count much past 10, let alone understand the quarter is a filthy pieced “knicknack”. So, please. Just STOP. Soufflé or socks. Quarters or germs. It’s all relevant. Some battles are worth fighting. Others, nope. It is about those little (and sometimes big) victories. I am TIRED.
I’ve always said I’d like to spend just 5 minutes inside the mind of a toddler. What makes them think of putting strange things in their mouth!? LOL
Oh my word. I giggled a little about the souffle. I am not a morning person at all. At ALL! Rough days!
I can totally relate to your daughter’s outfit. My daughter found a pair of pink batman socks in one of the bins of bigger clothes that have been passed down to us, and she wears them over leggings. Most of her outfit choices are really wild, but somehow she pulls them off. And I’m like you– it’s not worth fighting over those little things. Heck, maybe they’ll end up being fashion designers 🙂
I am not nor have I ever been a morning person. However my daughter is, go figure, so she is nice & let’s me sleep a little extra on the weekends since she knows I stay up late, lol
Early morning is my favorite time of day. 4:00 to be exact.
I actually woke up this morning before my kids did and it was fantastic.
I have become a morning person over the years, because my oldest is an early riser – the one with the smile on her face, that is her 🙂 I try to let the little things go…for the most part. Sometimes they will wear me down though, and I’m working on that!
I am not a morning person, but I became one because the kids are up early. NOw that I’m used to it, I actually love it.
Lol…your daughter had to make one last stand. Please tell us what she thinks when she finally gets that soufflé.
I am not a morning person either but I have found that starting the day with yoga helps me out a lot
It does help…when I remember to do it! lol
I am not a morning person either! However, because I work from home and get to work when I’m ready to work, meaning I can sleep in a little longer, I don’t mind getting up early on the days that I have to be up for something. Regardless, I’m still not a morning person though!
What a great product! I feel like I’m guilty of not taking care of my toothbrush. These seem like they would definitely keep away the bacteria I normally don’t pay attention to. Great post!
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I can see myself using these for travelling but I’m not sure I would use them in the house.
All of our tooth brushes are placed in a toothbrush holder and then in a drawer to keep them as clean as we can. We also swap them out every couple of months too.
My kids are kinda goofy and they would switch the covers just to see if we noticed (eww!!)
I hadn’t heard of this company before! I’m always forgetting to keep a reusable bag in the car for those pop-in stops at the store, something that folds small would definitely be good to keep on hand. (I might have one or two at home, already, I just need to find them!)
I’ve never heard of this brand before. Super cute!
I absolutely need that travel baby play mat! I’ve never heard of RuMe before, thanks for sharing!
Same here. Never heard of the brand. I wonder what other products they have! Great post. Love learning new things from different bloggers.
Love all there stuff! So durable and great for organizing!
what a great list of some really cool products. I think they are all great but that baby travel play is so genius!
I need the medium bag for my purse. I keep saying I want to keep an extra bag with me for those times when I go the store and forget my bags. I’ve heard great things about Rume.
I haven’t heard of RuMe but these are wonderful. I love the idea of machine washable and easy carry and store
My daughter and her friends are all about monograms and personalized. They’d love the tote idea.
The tote is a fantastic idea , I like monograms it reminds me of the 90’s which is coming back into fashion. Always nice to have something with a personal touch.
Fantastic site. Plenty of useful information here.
I am sending it to several friends ans additionally sharing in delicious.
And of course, thank you to your effort!
Thanks for reading and for sharing!
These are all great products. Love those Rumes. I’ve never seen them before, but they look like they would be perfect for many things!
That tote is awesome! And the play mat as well, although my littlest wouldn’t stay in it for very long at this point (we went from crawling to running it seems). I have been thinking about re-doing my bag organization…right now it is not working! This looks like it would definitely help.
I am not familiar with this company, but their products look awesome. I love the tote!
I am not familiar with this company, but their products look awesome. I love the tote!
I love those little personalized totes! I have been looking for something for my girls library books and this sounds perfect!
I was not familiar with RuMe until I read your post. However, I really do appreciate a great pouch, bag or holder that has a lot of pockets , and helps me stay organized.
Cool brand! I love that baby play mat. RuMe looks like a company I could get behind!!
I have been dying to play that game. My sister in law has it and keeps saying she’s going to do a game night, so I am holding off until she does before I go out and buy it myself.
I haven’t ever played the game before, but I keep seeing it everywhere and I really want to! It looks like so much fun!
I have had so many of my friends tell me that I need to play this game!
I hear it’s hilarious! Just waiting for the next games night so we can get in on the fun.
So glad you enjoyed it! I was introduced to it in my last year of uni when I was living with mates and it is a right hoot I loved it.
I love board games and I love the idea of game night! So fun and a great way to connect face to face if you can get everyone off their phone!
Looks like you guys had a great time. I have YET to play CAH, but it seems absolutely hilarious. Game nights are always a win in my book!
Ladies, you are incredible! I loved reading about your game and words, sometimes we all need to “express” ourselves)))
What a great fun night out. KI have not heard of this game, seems like a blast!
Sounds like a great game – I have not yet played it, although I know many friends who really enjoy it. I like the idea of a mom’s game night. I am going to see if I can get that worked out with my college friends 🙂
this game is just wrong on so many levels but it is such a blast to play. i was introduced to it at a family party of all places.
I’ve played this game several times with girlfriends. We have had so much fun every time!
What a fun time! I am not typically a game person – too competitive and a sore loser 🙂 But, I think I could definitely have fun with this game and a bunch of girlfriends!
I have been dying to play that game! I’ve only heard great things about it! Looks like it was a fun girl’s night. And yes, finding a place for the kiddos to go is a must!
I would love a girls game night. Sounds like fun.
I haven’t played this game. It looks fun! You ladies had a blast.
ROFLMAO Looks like Coach Terry missed leg day!
I wonder if any of the kids have seen these sites ’cause they are new to me!
I don’t follow that many sites so this was very informational and such a good survey of some fun and educational sites!
Jett loves to do yoga and zumba with me! I will have to give this a whirl!
Haha Cards Against Humanity is definitely not for everyone. Colorful language is putting it mildly 🙂
I am surprised how many different sites and programs are available for kids! Some of them sound like real fun!
What a great selection of sites and programs for children. I like that they are both fun and educational!
I don’t have littles anymore, but my son used to love the http://www.pbskids.org website to play along with wild kratz!
Great list, I am going to check out the silly songs one and Maximo for days it’s too cold to play outside. Thanks for sharing.
ohhh that “Think About It’ sounds like such a great idea for kids (heck-anyone) and it just amazes me all of these great shows available now for our kids to watch.
I haven’t heard of this site but glad that I know about it now!! I will be checking it out for our lil guy!!
This is the first time I heard of this app. I think my girls will love this. Thanks for sharing.
This is so cool for the kids!!!! My little cousin would loves these!!!
This looks like a great holiday, lots of fun days out x #daysoutwithatoddler
These are awesome! I didn’t know there were so many websites out there geared towards kids! My son is not quite old enough yet, but I’m sure he’ll be surfing the web soon. I’ll have to keep these in mind!
This sounds like a great site! We are relatively low tech for the kids as well, but I am always searching out safe options for them. I will have to check it out!
Ong I just love this game!!!! Afew months back I hit together with afew bloggers and we played this and omg… Had a blast!
That sounds familiar!!! Great blog x
Gotta love free apps! I like the picks you showed here, and I think it’s really cool that they have a Zumba for kids.
This looks like a super cool website! I’m going to have to write it down for when I’m teaching full time again! I love finding fun, educational websites that can be used in the classroom!
I think this is a wonderful idea! Actually, my youngest son’s 3rd grade class is doing something similar this year and I love the positive effects on all of the kids in his class.
What a cute idea! I’m sure it can explain the abstract empathy term to the kids 🙂
I haven’t read this book but heard so much about it. I need to get it for my 2 year old.
This is a great way to address issues with kids! It also helps them develop skills and traits that uplift people. You are a great mom (and creative)!
I like the idea of teaching abstract empathy. Especially since children find it so difficult to understand the whole range of emotions this is great.
What great apps! I need to learn about these since Caleb won’t be as young as he is forever and will eventually want to start playing with technology.
I love this so much. I want to read this book with my little girls. They would love it!
This is an awesome idea. I know my kiddos learned this concept in school and I thought it was great.
What a great idea. I love doing this at dinner time with my kids.
This book is a fun way to teach kids about empathy. I need to get this for my twin granddaughters.
This is an awesome idea! And I love that you work on it together, as a family. I definitely think that makes all the difference!
I love any book that teaches kids about empathy. I have a chronically ill child and I can tell you that empathy is completely lacking in a lot of kids.
I will definitely be sharing this book with my sister, who has two little ones. I love the idea of encouraging kids to feel empathy for others.
This is a fantastic idea for kids! I’ll be sharing this book with my friends and I am possitive they’re going to love it too
The Starbucks cup
I would love to win a cup full of samples!
I would love to win the cup full of samples. It would be a great way to try out new goodies.
What a fun giveaway! I would love to win the cup full of samples!
Oh these look amazing! I need to try these, that body butter and skin Caffeinator sound like products I meed. Thanks for the chance to win!
I would love the Starbucks cup with samples! Thanks!
All of these look great and I’d love to win! I have really been getting into more natural beauty products and all of these look great.
Wow! What a fantastic road trip! The aquarium sounds brilliant, with Beluga whale and penguins, but then, you don’t stop at that, you’ve got actual dinosaur footprints! And then, a mini supermarket! My kids would be in absolute heaven, especially with the pizza thrown in, too.
Awesome #daysoutwithatoddler – I’m looking up Mystic right now!!
I can’t tell if the Gender Bender soap is hilariously appropriate or terribly non-PC, lol.
I would love to win the gender bender bar! Great giveaway and post!
Great giveaway!! I need to try these products!
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I would love that lip balm sample! How fun for Valentine’s Day!
What a perfect giveaway for Valentine’s Day. I’m loving the gender-bender bar. The name alone is awesome, but I’m sure its a great product too. 🙂
I would love a cup full of samples!! 🙂
Ooh! I’ve been wanting to try charcoal soap for it’s purifying qualities!
Starbucks cup with sample….yes please:)
I want one of each please. I’m fascinate by the skin stick and the gender bender bar.
Love this! I’d love the starbuck cup filled with goodies! 🙂
I wasn’t familiar with this company before reading your post, but I will be definitely checking the out. I love skincare/body products, especially when they are made in the US and don’t contain all kinds of chemical and synthetics.
These sound like great products. I would love to try the body butter and the Caffeinator skin stick.
First off, awesome post with great reviews! I would love to win the Starbucks cup!
I would love the Starbucks cup!
These are all amazing products love them all looks like an awesome giveaway
The Gender bender cracks me up!
Too bad I’m too late but these products seem awesome, great giveaway!
This is such a wonderful idea! I love the buckets and envelopes. This is definitely something I would like to incorporate once my daughter gets a little older.
This is so interesting. Thank you for sharing. XO
Yup, it happens. I have sent my kids to school with the sniffles before, but if they have a fever – I keep them home. We wash our hands A LOT, but they still get sick. It happens.
Exactly we all have different methods of looking after/ administering care to children and that is not a bad thing. People should respect your decision because it is not their child!
Thank you for saying this!!! I get so tired of people talking about going to the ER or hospital for every little dang thing. “Oh my gosh, I sneezed, I need to go to the emergency room!” I’m with you, I’m over it.
It really bothers me when parents send their kids to school sick and they are really sick.
Being a parent you run the risk of all kinds of judgement. Like you said “get over it” with many parenting things 🙂
Amen! You sound like my kind of mom. I don’t send kids when they’re super sick (my husband would pretty much never keep them home unless it was something very serious!) but you just have to deal.
I agree! I think that each parent really needs to decide for their own child. We are wait and see people, and also keep the kids at home people 🙂
These are great tips. I usually wait a few days before bringing my child to the doctor. If on the third day the fever didn’t stop, that’s the time we go.
My little one has asthma and people always freak out on me for sending her to school or church with a nasty cough. She has TERRIBLE asthma people if I keep her home every time she has a cough she would miss from November to February!
I now have three kids and I don’t run to the doctor with every sniffle. But I’m so glad I could when I only had one and every sneeze was the end of the world. I just think I would have exploded from anxiety, if I didn’t have a doctor tell me, it was ok.
Kids get sick. It’s a rule. But you are absolutely right about moms needing to support one another rather than judge. Hope your kiddos start to feel better soon!!
I’ve definitely felt my share of guilt around what to do for my son when he’s sick. When I had an office job, I felt guilty for not being able to keep him home, but also guilty for sending him with a runny nose.
I really want to try this! I’ve heard you rave about it before but this really pushes me to buy! Looks awesome.
Sounds yummy!
These meals sound great!! Can’t wait to try them!
I’ve never heard of HungryRoot, so thanks for sharing. Those noodles look interesting. Love that they are gluten free and you really enjoyed them! Always looking for new ideas and this could be a timesaver!
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I can’t believe I haven’t gotten it together to try these yet! This is great!
These look delicious! I’d love to try some to mix it up in the kitchen!
Yum! I have so many food allergies and suffer from the same thing as you! I get the kids and hubby meal all prepped and sometimes am left with nothing for myself. This would be perfect! Thanks! Found you through the twitter link up on Bloggers Get Social 🙂
Thanks for reaching out Sarah!! Nice to meet another blogger! 🙂
I think these are some great tips! Some parents definitely overreact when it comes to sickness and that can be a problem!
Thanks for introducing me to something new! My family members are die hard carbaholics, I wonder if I could fool them? Do they have black bean noodles? Someone was just telling me about them today!
Wow, this seems really cool! I keep hearing more and more about subscription meals and really want to try! I will take advantage of the free one to see what it is all about!
I’ve never heard of HungryRoot, but it sounds delicious. I am so that person that wonders if there’s any flavor after it’s all things free. I’ll have to check these out.
I had to laugh really hard at your first sentence about there being flavor in an allergy friendly recipe. I have found many ways to get around the lack of flavor in these types of recipes and I try to tell people it doesn’t all taste lifeless!
Wow, these dishes sound amazing and lots of my favorite flavors, sweet potato, falafel, mushroom, coconut, CARROT CAKE! As a patient who us trying to give up gluten, dairy and sugar, these all sound heavenly to me!
Those meals all sound really good. I’m going to check these out more!
What a great company! I love how good everything sounds! I am going to have to try this company soong!
I’ve tried a few meal/food delivery services and was disappointed every time. This looks like one that would be the exception to that. You had me at gluten free 🙂
These look great!
I would try this!! I really love pasta, but it’s so bad for me!!! I’ve tried a meal delivery company.
That sounds amazing! I often make zucchini noodles, but nothing out of root veggies. I would love to try something like this though. It looks delicious.
Now this is a subscription that sounds good to me. Happy to try foods that don’t always require meat.
I love making veggie noodles at home. This looks like a great program for people who are on the go and don’t have time to make them themselves. Thanks for sharing!
I’ve tried meal delivery kits but not HungryRoot. I love how they are time-savers for those really hectic days!
That actually sounds like a cool class. I wonder if there is anything like it here in Boston?
I’m trying to get back into yoga. I’m more of a pilates girl, but this class sounds so intriguing. I really do like how yoga does more than just work the body, it also works the mind.
Very insightful and great connection! Its better to embrace things and not be afraid to fall!
Sometimes you learn your most important life lessons in the strangest moments and it is so uncanny. I agree we need to learn that it is ok to make mistakes but do it with grace and accept that it is ok to be flawed.
This sounds amazing! I love the way you wrote this article it really makes me want to try this kind of class!
love your analogies that you were able to draw from this class. That class seems fun! Parenting is SO tough!! Teenagers drive me bonkers!
I’ve been really interested in trying aerial yoga. It seems like such a fun class but also a challenge, since I have no upper body strength lol. I love the connection you were able to make between this class and parenting.
We could (or actually I could) talk to you for hours about life lessons on the mat. Yes. We’re all going to make mistakes. It’s how we handle them that matters.
I’m pretty sure that I would be stuck upside down most of the class…I think falling with grace sounds like awesome advice! What a great lesson 🙂
this would be such a cool class to take. I have to admit it definitely would be a little intimidating though
Ooowwiee!!! That class sounds like a lot of fun! And I definitely love a class that teaches so much about life too! <3
Honestly, I am all for anything that can de-smell my house. You would be horrified if you smelled my boys sometimes – especially my oldest after he comes home from karate class. P.U!
Oooh I adore glade and the wax melt warmer sounds amazing. I love anything that makes a room smell better and this will make any room smell fresher!
I love melt warmers, I didn’t know Glade made them too now! Do you make your own melts with essential oils?
I haven’t tried making my own yet1
I love LOVE warmers! I have one in almost every room of my house! I am going to have to check out Glades!
I always love the smell of our home when we use scented oils. I’ve used scented candles in the past, but I’m scared of letting the candle burn for too long. Glade has a variety of smell-goods that, well, smell good! Haha. Love their Hawaiian Breeze scented candle.
Isn’t it nice when they are old enough to pitch in around the house. This past winter my oldest was old enough to legitimately help shovel the snow (he’s 11) and that was a HUGE help!
I’ve seen these around and didn’t really know what to make of them. After reading this they sound fantastic. Thanks for sharing.
I am a candle, scented oils, seasonal fragrances junkie too! Every time someone comes to my house, they tell me that my house smells like a craft store. Thank you, I’ll take that as a compliment! I have candles, scented oils and warmers throughout my house in every room.
I love anything that makes my house smell good. I love doing different scents depending on what kind of mood I am in for the day 😉
I am so in the same boat as you are. My kids are old enough to help out and I am not the one who spit their toothpaste all over the bathroom sink. I am finding little things here and there to delegate to my kids and it is glorious
Great job holding the kids accountable for their messes.
They’ll thank you for that lesson when they’re adults!
I’m all for making the house smell fresh and inviting.
Nothing too strong but just enough that people notice.
I try and switch it up depending on the season so we don’t get bored.
I love the warmers I have from Scentsy. I need to change out the scents though they have lost their smell since I haven’t used it in awhile.
Oh yes, I am looking forward to those days! My older two are starting to be better about taking care of their things. We are all about chore charts around here right now, but I still tend to hand off tasks when I am overwhelmed!
I don’t have kids so I can’t relate to handing tasks off to the kiddos BUT this is something I have been working on in 2016! Handing off tasks that don’t have to actually be done by me but can be done by someone else…and it’s really freeing!
It really is freeing! Before kids I had a hard time handing things off too! I wish I had known then how much stress I was causing myself. It didn’t feel stressful at the time, but now I can see it! Good luck with your 2016 goals!
I am so hard on myself and often times feel like I need to get everything done at once. Thanks for this post.
I’ve learned that it all gets done eventually! I am a recovering perfectionist so handing things off was hard at first. But, now I feel like even if they don’t do it perfectly half of my work is done already. 🙂
I get in the habit of doing it all myself too- it seems quicker. But in the long run it means Mommy doing all the work! Gotta deligate!
I have enjoyed letting my kids help me with some things. I let them take toilet paper around to the bathrooms. They enjoy doing it and it does help me.
I need this reminder constantly! It is okay to let go of control of some things. Thanks for this post!
I am a total candle junkie as well, but have had to cut back with little ones in the house! I have never thought about the wax melts, will have to check them out
girl let me tell you fro experience – the day I taught my daughter to do her own laundry was a game changer! BEST decision I ever made . . .just wait & see! 😉
It’s not only ok to let things go it’s essential to your well being and happiness. Priorities. Right?
You are so right!
I think you are an amazing mother and your kids will be so grateful for teaching them to do adult things when they grow up!
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Thank you, you are so kind to say that. My goal is to make sure they can take care of themselves when the go off into the big wide world.
I think it is so important to have kids help out with chores. I use chores as an incentive and a learning tool that you must work to get things you want in life. If my daughter wants a toy, we have chores and rules in place that she must follow for a week or two before I buy her what she wants. My daughter just turned 4, but she always wants to be mommy’s helper so she’s been helping me with chores since she was 2. She would put clothes in the washer (we had a front loader) and dishes into the dishwasher. Now that she’s 4, she knows she has to pick her toys up off the floor every night and she makes her bed every morning…which is kind of funny because I have NEVER told her to make her bed. She just started doing it all by herself one morning.
We’ve also had chores since around age 2. Two kids and a husband- I was outnumbered at the get-go! lol I needed to get them on board quick! Plus, it’s life lessons, not just obligation.
I don’t have kids yet but I think it’s important for them to have chores. It starts teaching them responsibility at an early age!
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My girls both have chores, the little one mostly runs errands for me, which is when I hand her things to go put them in the right room when we are picking up, but it works really well!
I could have written this post myself. 😉 I definitely hand off a lot of chores to my husband, but I think motherhood is the biggest chore of all so the boys can handle the household stuff!
Glade makes the cutest wax warmers! I love clean cotton scents!
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I so agree. I spoiled mine when they were younger – big mistake. It took a lot of time, but they are all helping now!
I remember being a perfectionist before kids. My friends would always say, just wait. I thought no I will do everything. Now I just try to get through the day and do what I can.
I have a treadmill that I have been doing the Couch to 5K series. I am just about to start week 5. I would like to check out those walking DVD sessions that on youtube. That might be fun to mix it up!
I just walked a 5k with Leslie this morning!
This looks super fun. I love working out, and also trying new things at home as well as the gym. Thanks for this 🙂
I’ve done these videos and they are fun and the time goes by quickly. They are awesome to have on hand when there is bad weather.
I run every day and I do it not only for my body, but for my mind. I just feel so much better when I’ve gotten a workout in, even if it’s just a quick one!
I love that you’re trying to keep yourself active for your family. It’s so important to keep them in mind whenever we do things. That’s the curse of the parent, right? Haha.
What an awesome way to workout. Walking is so good for you!
You just reminded me of Sidney Crowford workout videos that I used to have years ago! Will check Leslie’s walking videos, thank you for sharing
I say anything we can do a few times a week to stay active is a great thing – good luck with these & hopefully you have found something you can stick with – that’s always the hardest for me 😉
I love my home gym. Canceling my gym membership is in my top 5 of all time best health and fitness decisions. Find what you love and you’ll stick with it!
Thank you for sharing this post! I’ve been looking for workout that fit with people who has heart health problem, and you elnlightend my day.
Such an awesome way of promoting the workout video. I like the description and the theme that goes with it! You know how to sell something 🙂
I go for walks, a lot. I also love running/jogging. I usually do that as my work outs because I can’t ever get time to go the gym!
I love walking through my neighborhood on good weather days. It’s such an enjoyable exercise.
I’m a huge fan of Leslie Sansone videos. They are so much fun. You get a great workout no matter which walk you take.
My husband and I have an at home workout that we do everyday! It is focused on building strength and flexibility!
I want to start working out more I think it is important to keep healthy and I have been unwell so this would definitely help! Thank you x
Thanks for the link to Leslie’s walking video. I’ve been trying to walk every morning, 5 days a week. I have found it has been giving me a lot more energy throughout my day. With this video, if it’s raining I can still do my walk.
The Dolls love to practice yoga at home! We move the furniture around and find a nice meditative place. XO
I love this! Sometimes you have to let stuff go and do what’s in the now. Especially when the kids are little – they are only this age once. The other stuff can wait.
It is good to let go and focus on the present because life is too short to focus on what you could and couldn’t do. A great read!
Yes !!! That little fourtne says it all I take work so serious which is very good and sometimes bad.
It’s a struggle!
ahhh this is so sweet. I too, think it’s so important to recognize these moments with our kids because they are only this age ONCE. ;
Life through the eyes of a 5 year old. Great reminder to enjoy the little things.
This is such an inspirational post. Oftentimes I find myself working more than I need to on things that aren’t making my life better. It’s one of the many reasons I have to stop myself and spend time with my family, go for a walk, and clear my mind.
My mom used to do this with me…… she would throw everything out the window and it was called a kids choice day! Love it!!
Kids have to feel like they are winning sometimes too right? Makes them feel capable when they can be in charge now and then!
I think my girls would love the monarchs and the mermaid shirts!
Love this style
I usually like to keep to a schedule and if I get off schedule, I get very spazzed out lol Lately, I have been just taking days as they come and only doing what I can without stressing about it.
It has taken me a long time to learn to let go of sticking so tight to my expectations. lol I am a recovering perfectionist after all. 😉
What a great giveaway. super cute shirts.
Work but don’t forget to live. What a fantastic mantra! Let’s remember what’s important.
XO
I know some little people who would love these shirts. They are so precious and unique.
the shirts are adorable! I will be stopping there to see the other designs! Thank you for the discount!
I have to have a list, but I definitely don’t always go by it. It is just mostly a list of things I need to do for the day…ie getting my daughter to practice, etc.
This is so sweet and very inspiring! It’s true ,sometimes we just too focus on work, and forget to spend time with important people in our lives.
I own a couple of organic cotton shirts, and you’re right they’re much softer and lighter. Love those fun designs above.
Love this so much! Sometimes a different kind of to do list is the right kind for that day!
Very cute designs. I love the fact that it’s organic cotton. Great giveaway!
Thank you for being so open, natural and honest. I think I just saw the real you
Very cute! My youngest would love to wear the mermaid one!
I am going to take a sneak peak at that website and see what we can order for Easter:)
First off – how nice that “EVERYONE is getting a 25% discount just for being a reader” – Thank you – and what cute shirts to be sure – I’ll be checking out their products –
I bet those shirts are super soft! Love the designs. My daughters are into all that stuff too.
These are adorable shirts. Love that they are organic too!
It’s so important to take a break from the constant to-do list and focus on what is more important. Thank you for the reminder!
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these shirts look so cute and perfect for kids. my daughter loves super soft shirts so if they are, it’d be a winner for sure
What adorable designs and I love the packaging! And they look super soft which is always a great bonus!
I love the cute designs on the shirt!! Plus it’s organic too!!
That is so cute love the name and what a great giveaway! I know so many kids who would love this!
I agree with this so much. Now that my daughter is 9 I realize just how fast it’s going and want those special moments with her so much more. So to-do lists can wait.
The target app is my life! I literally shop on there before actually going to Target or else I’ll be spending a lot of money haha nice post xx felinebykatsairs.com
I have been hearing about the iBotta app from different bloggers so I am strongly considering downloading this and using it. The savings add up so why not? Thanks for a helpful post!
I have to agree with you on the walmart shopping. It’s always a zoo, we have actually started going to ones that are farther away from our house because they are quieter. We used to have a target but they have since left Canada which makes me sad..they had the greatest stuff!
I just started ibotta. It seems too good to be true! I’m glad to know it’s to real…
oh yeah the Cartwheel app from Target is like gold! I love it and have saved sooooo much money when I am there every week. It really is a great money saver.
I’ve heard of these apps but I’ve never used them. I need to learn more about them. Who doesn’t want money savings. Right.
TOO FUNNY ! So it’s not just me screaming like a lunatic in the yard for the neighbors’ entertainment. I think even the squirrels line up for the show…. And I have taken her chair away at dinner time. She had to stand for the whole meal…. Keep smiling and Happy Spring !
Happy Spring to you! So glad I’m not the only one who has made my kid stand to eat!! LOL
This is a great post. Who doesn’t love saving or earning extra cash? I wish we had more options like these in Canada, some of them don’t work here!
I use Savings Catcher all the time. It really has saved me quite a bit. I love Ibotta too!
I get emails all the time about cartwheel…. after reading your article I am definitely going to have to try it out! Thanks!
Such a relatable post for all readers. I like the unique twist on couponing and saving cash. With limited time on our hands, I’m glad someone documents different ways of saving ! Great post!
I’ve been hearing a lot about iBotta lately. I’ll definitely have to check this app out, plus the others you’ve mentioned.
These apps are so amazing, I have never heard of them though. Will check them and try to save more. Thank you for sharing
Not alone in the taking away is chairs…at some point all 6 of mine have had to stand while eating lol…and some days I don’t dare get in my car, for fear I will not return…
Oh Ann you get me! LOL Feels good knowing I’m not alone and the only who would like to run away from the insanity!
i need to download these apps. I have been hearing lots about targets lately.
Some days it’s definitely a struggle. I have already cursed my 8 year old to have triplets exactly like him when he grows up.
These are awesome!! I’m always looking for ways to pinch a penny so I will definitely check these out!
I often claim I am going to run away. I usually picture Australia or the beach but I suppose the grocery store could work also!
Big wine always makes things better. Thanks for sharing your day, and I hope tomorrow is a better one.
YASSSS! Some days you just need a large coffee and a side of emotions to go with it!
HAHA! Oh my goodness, I know it is no consolation to you, but this post had me laughing out loud!
Oh man. Some days you don’t even know what to do next! So funny, I know it probably wasn’t in the moment!
Yep some days I feel like running far away! Tomorrow is definitely a new day.
I wrote a similar post about how to love your kids when they’re driving you crazy. I sympathize!
Thankfully they really are easy to love, but I think Spring break is what breaks most parents! 😉
Sounds like it was a rough week. We’ve all had them and hopefully the next week will be better.
I spit my tea across the table at your Bring the big one of wine home. It must be something in the zodiac system, because I can totally relate to your day! Hang in there…. it has to get better…. RIGHT????
The brownie and wine absolutely made it better. 😉 Sorry to make you spit your tea out, but happy to make you laugh. 😉 Thanks for reading!
Your perspective makes it so much easier when a day like the one you had comes up. And we know they always will come up. Cheers to a better tomorrow.
sometimes you just have to be naughty for your own sanity. Love this post.
I like your theory!! Words to live by! 🙂
Sometimes I feel like all I do is yell at my kids. If they would only listen. They like making mommy crazy.
I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels like the kids never listen! lol I’ve thought of having their hearing checked just to be sure they in fact can hear me! lol
I say ALL.THE.TIME. If you would “just listen!” I remember my mom saying the same thing when I was a kid.
Exactly at least you still have wine.Today started off like one of those days too but it got better.
hahaha I laughed pretty hard at this. I’ve had those days and there are sometimes where hiding in the bathroom for a few minutes is all it takes to jump back on the wagon.
Wouldn’t it be great if that Staples Easy Button really existed! 😉
I totally understand where you are. I’ve found that some days all we can do is laugh, no matter what!
Life really gets crazy if you don’t learn to laugh at it now and then!
I’m having a day myself with nap time being protested! I’ll definitely be pulling out my big wine tonight! Lol!!
I remember the nap days. My girls haven’t napped since they were 2.5. I thought those moments would last forever!! LOL Good news- it doesn’t!
Yes, I have days like those as well. Sometimes you just need to get in the car and get out of there. Often, I like to send my husband and the kids out of the house so I can just sit in silence 🙂
I like that idea!
ahhhh this story cracked me up as we have all been there. I love that you found a brownie . . .I mean c’mon, it IS the little things! 😉
It REALLY is! 🙂
I don’t know what it feels like to be at your rope’s end with kids, except for the times I spend with my nephew and he is tap-dancing on my last nerve. I feel for you, and enjoyed reading your post. Sorry, but I had to snort a little about how the window wasn’t working…I can tell you were definitely having ‘one of those days.’
I was an auntie before I was a mom and I never felt that last nerve being worked before. It was so much easier handing them back off to their mom and dad at the end of the trip. 😉
Aren’t kids amazing?! They see such a blessing and yet can drive you insane !! Great relatable post for me!!
Love my kids! But, some days I just need to have my own space. I think that’s totally human right? 😉
I can totally relate! Crazy how sometimes a trip to the grocery store is our version of paradise. I think that it has to do with feeling a bit of normalcy in or crazy worlds. Hang in there! So glad you had your mom to call!
Wow! Sounds like an amazing event for both the firefighters and the kids! I’m glad you got to attend! <3
Oh my, I hope you will find some means of relaxation! I don’t have kids yet so I can’t imagine how you feel1
You guys have break early! Ours isn’t for another 3 weeks, but we are packing up the troops and heading back to DC. Less chance of them driving me bonkers if we are away 🙂
Yes, we are early. Another friend of mine doesn’t have break until April. Easter was so early this year and we had no snow days so my guess is the teachers were all ready for break by now. 🙂 Have fun in DC!!!
Sometimes I feel like I dont have time to clean and I dont even have kids yet! I dont know how I will manage to get it all done when we do!
Oh my gosh, reading this post makes me want to deep clean my entire house. Literally, I was sitting here on my couch with my laptop on my lap and read the part about spider webs and furniture and reached behind my sofa to see what the heck might be going on back there. It sounds like you guys had a productive break!
I’m glad I inspired you to check behind the couch. We forget to do that until a kid looses a tiny piece of a toy and we climb down to look for it.
Our break isn’t for another week. I am not sure if I am looking forward to spring cleaning or not.
I never look forward to it. lol In fact I usually schedule us to be away for that week so I can avoid it. But, this time it was very necessary. lol
We are on break now and we have been cleaning like crazy people I love it though
Always feels good when it’s done, right?
My son’s spring break is over as well. Somehow, I survived, too! ~lol~ Now that his spring break is over, I’ve been on a spring cleaning frenzy. 🙂
Congrats to surviving!
We just finished our Spring Break a week before Easter. I had a ton of cleaning to do as well and I always get my girls to help out. We had at least 4 garbage bags full to send off to the Salvation Army thrift store.
My 5 year olds are pretty good about helping with the daily chores. But we moved around furniture which they were eager to help with by sitting on top of it and demanding a ride. 😉
It’s so nice to have a clean house! You inspire me – we are on the go the next few weekends but I need to do some spring cleaning next month!
Normally I don’t have help. So, I often make a list of tasks like windows, bathrooms, closets and tackle one at a time. Then when I’m done I like to stare longingly at my progress. I know it won’t last long, but I want to relish the satisfaction of a finished project. 😉
We’re on spring break now. And I’m so very fortunate to be spending a week in FL with my daughter for our first ever girls only spring break.
I love spring cleaning… or rather I love chucking a load of old stuff out and de-cluttering. My kids, however, wouldn’t part with a toe nail for fear they might need it one day. Can’t wait till they’re older and it won’t matter to them as much.
We’re on spring break this week and I’ve been working on organizing and spring cleaning. I think I need way longer than a week! Our issue is clutter. My goal in life is to have a place for everything in our home.
That’s what I want! A place for everything and everything in it’s place. Well, that’s hard with a hubby and two kids. But, we purged a whole bunch of stuff to make room for the things we use the most and truly love. It already feels less stressful!
I just make sure that I work on one area at a time, instead of thinking of it as the entire house needs to be cleaned, one closet, one set of drawers, one corner. I have the same thing, two littles stuck to me all of the time.
I agree! We did one room at a time because there were two of us working together. When the kids get involved they like to “help.” Normally I encourage it, but not when it will take me another 3 hours to clean up their help. lol
I started laughing when you mentioned sticking items so high up so little hands can’t reach! Haha! Yes we have all done that I’m sure! Thanks for giving a wonderful narrative of your spring cleaning. I really enjoyed reading it!
Thanks for reading!! 🙂
I am at the point where I don’t get to do the deep cleaning. I keep wanting to, but it doesn’t get done! But, someday it will happen…I hope 🙂
No worries. Those dust bunnies aren’t going to leave you… they will always be waiting for you! 😉
I can totally relate to your feelings about cleaning. I too clean when Im trying to control something…. especially when my world is spinning out of control! Kids grow up way too fast don;t they! Unfortunately I can relate to that too 🙂
I am excited for them because I remember how much I loved school. But, sad I’m going to miss them so much. It’s the beginning of life taking off at top speed.
Throwing things away or just going through everything can be very emotional. I need to do a deep clean, but I would need some help with that!
Can you come clean me out, all of my physical and emotional stuff please. haha. JK i’ll clean but only if you come help.
I clean when I’m trying to procrastinate on a project or deadline…which means I get a clean house but then I’m scrambling to meet a deadline and missing out on quality people time!
Spring break is next week for my kiddos and they will clean their rooms while on break. ????????????
There are some days I just close the door to my kids rooms and walk away. But, we did a nice purging of old stuff this break!
oh wow it’s always so emotional when you put away or pack up items from the kids so we can move on to the next phase of their growing up. I need to do this on the past couple of years still and hopefully will get to it soon.
I think we get to those things when we are emotionally ready. This was a cathartic spring cleaning. 🙂
I try to deep clean my house at least every 6 months. Well here’s the truth…I cannot seem to keep furniture in one place for too long. So I move the furniture, get horrified of what I find under it (I have a 4 yr old!) and begin to ask myself if I’m going to find any rodents somewhere and the deep cleaning begins!
I had the same cleaning schedule before I had kids. 🙂 Now I have 5 year old twins who are always (literally) hanging off of my body. Makes it hard to do the dishes most days! LOL
Wow! I love the concept behind this company. What an amazing endeavor 🙂 Sometimes I’m nervous that natural products might not smell that great, so I love how you included how good that scent was 🙂
Same here! I have such a hard time with scents that overpower me and set off my allergies. I feel like so many people have the same affliction so I like to share that.
This looks like a great product! We are slowly replacing everything that we use with natural options, some things are so hard to find, like deodorant that actually works!
I agree! I’m always searching for a gentler kinder deodorant!
I love when great products team up with great causes. I’m shocked too that they aren’t using coconut oil but good for them. Doing something different.
I haven’t heard of HelloMellow before but that body oil looks divine. I actually prefer body oil because my skin absorbs this faster than lotion. I will have to look into them! Thanks for sharing!
So true! It does absorb faster than the lotions! And for me, the results are better too.
Totally need to try this and just love that it’s vegan and paraben free. I bet it smells just lovely and works wonders!
Well this sounds like some products I ought to check out. I have never heard of them until now but I love the concept of what they are doing
I am into Spring Cleaning as well lately and had been trying my best to keep the house organized. I love this post and truly appreciate everything you have shared.
Amazing. I will have to check these out. A big fan of aromatherapy now that I have kids. Perfect for a mini mental escape. Thanks for sharing.
Mini mental escapes can also be found in a cup of coffee or running from the house the second my husband pulls in the driveway. 😉
Thanks for not sharing another how-to guide for spring cleaning. I think I’m going to lose it if I see another one.
I’m not at kindergarten level yet with my boys (they’re under 3), but what my friends tell me who have been there is to have LOTS of patience. And more patience to back up that patience. Haha.
I have to admit I don’t know much about autism, so it is always good to hear more and get to know what it is really like from people experiencing it.
I would love to try that. I’m starting to use more oils in my pamper routine and they really nourish and rehydrate my skin!
If feel like there is a lot of awareness for autism but not enough support. There are so many different kinds of autism, and everyone just seems to think they are all a disabling disease or something. There needs to be more positive support and awareness for this!
This sounds like a company and products I would love. I always enjoy trying new oils.
Yay, you survived. Spring break is over here and the only thing I do like is that there is no traffic in the morning when it’s time to drive to work lol. My youngest is 17. It’s so different now. Glad you enjoyed it.
Our spring break is over and I already started spring cleaning. But I’m kinda nutty with my spring cleaning. It can take me weeks to get things where I want them to be. lol!
What a wonderful heartfelt post. If people would realize for just one second they have no idea what’s going on with other people they might not be so quick to judge.
This is such an awesome post. Awareness and education are the building blocks to acceptance and help. We, as a community, need to stop judging each other and become the village it takes to raise a child
My son is autistic so I celebrate every day. I didn’t light it up blue because I don’t feel that autism awareness should be done on just one day. I tell everyone who asks me about my son what his diagnosis is and I explain a little to those who have no idea what having a child with autism is like.
Awareness and education are so important to help others understand, like me. I don’t have anyone close to me who is Autistic. Thank you for sharing.
Wonderful post. Thank you for writing and sharing.
Your friend’s words could easily be mine.
I know Sharon. <3 I am so lucky to have you both in my circle! 🙂
Yes to all of the above. In addition to an actual gift, I always bring a meal, too. Some of my friends did that for me when I was a new mom and it was SO nice not to have to worry about dinner for a few nights.
What a beautiful article! We are art created by the strokes of our history! We gotta look at that and love ourselves! 🙂
Loving all your ideas for new moms. I love this idea because often the baby gets all the gifts (of course!), and the mom is left out a little – if that makes sense. I like the idea of these comfort items like tea and candles. I would also add in a blanket so she can lounge in style!
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Great idea on the blanket! Something super soft she can fall asleep with. How cozy!
I would give all of those to any expecting mom, or just any mom in general. Moms overall are known to take care of everyone but themselves. This would be a great step in the right direction!
These are such great ideas for new moms. A friend of mine is pregnant right and is having her little boy this summer. I’m definitely saving these 🙂
These are really good ideas! Usually you just think about getting new moms baby stuff but it’s cool that you actually thought of things to get them for themselves. Great post xx felinebykatsaris.com
I mean which new mum wouldn’t love a decadent slab of chocolate to make her feel better? New mums work so hard and mums in general!
You can never go wrong with chocolate, that is for sure! Great ideas!
Rollerballs are my favorite! These are all such great ideas for new moms! Fantastic List!
Most people tend to forget the moms so having a gift for them is a great idea. I might even say a gift card for a spa would also be good once mom is up to it.
Love that idea for a spa card!
This is definitely very handy as my best friend just recently gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. I will be trying to check them all out and weigh which is perfect for her.
This is so caring of you! Of course when women become moms they concentrate on the things they need and sometimes forget the things they’d love!
You are so thoughtful and caring! These gifts would make new Moms feeling loved, and cared. Maybe flower that last for long like Orchid to add for the gift
Thank you for not posting a how to guide with tips for cleaning. Enough already! I can totally relate to the never ending to do list.
I’ll be a new mom soon! I’d think snacks would be something I’d want. Definitely the chocolate!
Congrats mama! Get that wish list up on Amazon now. 😉 Maybe someone will be kind enough to bring you a little something just for you! 🙂
What a sweet and thoughtful idea. My sister is expecting and of course I’ve been thinking about new baby gifts, but hadn’t considered just how much she would appreciate a gift too. I think she’d love the chocolate and lotion!
Wonderful list. Even though I’ve been a new mom twice, I still blank on what to get my friends when they have kids. I love essential oils, but never though to gift them to friends. I can’t wait to do this next time.
Oh, and I love your header picture on your blog. So cool. Very happy to have found your blog through Bloggers Get Social. I will definitely be back!
Thanks so much Hannah! I can’t wait to check out your blog too! I use my roller ball EO’s so much for stress and tension I thought ‘I wish I had these when I was going through that new mom stress.’
I like the idea of giving a present to the new mom! It’s easy to feel like the new baby gets all the attention, and a new mom deserves a bit of celebrating and doting over, too. (I almost said “pampering,” but … then all I could think of was diapers. LOL!)
I love what all that can do! I’m wearing an UP bracelet but yours does so much more! I don’t think I would be much of a race for you, though!
Oh I love all of these choices for pampering a new mama! I would add epsom salts to the list for feet soaking. That is something I love to do, and with all the walking around carrying the baby, sometimes my feet can bother me! This helps.
My husband LOVES his Fitbit. He is wanting the new Alta that just came out. I have a different brand of activity tracker and may need to start looking into getting a Fitbit of my own. These features are great!
my co workers are obsessed with their fitbit and they have this constant competition going in. It’s cool that you’re into it too! Great post xx felinebykatsaris.com
My husband and father-in-law love their Fitbits. They are constantly checking on each other’s status and trying to do better. It’s a great motivation.
I agree! Every night my husband and I check against each other for steps and miles. Mostly for fun.
we’ve never used fit bits but have more curious lately. The one you’ve shared in this post seems amazing.
I have avoided getting a FitBit so far because I’m so worried that I’ll get totally obsessive with it! I know it would benefit my health, but I think I would get REALLY competitive!
I hear that so much from my friends too! I try to see it as a helpful tool vs. the end all be all.
These are such great ideas! I know when people who are close to me have kids, its sometimes hard to show your support for them. They are exhausted, sometimes I feel like a new mom would just like some sleep and someone else to care for the baby for just an hour or two.
I haven’t jumped on the Fitbit bandwagon yet. I do like the idea of tracking my sleep, since I am so awful at it.
That has really been helpful! Also tracking my heart rate has been a good feature when I get to the doc office.
My husband has an older fitbit and I’ve been trying to convince him I need one. Now that I know all of what the new fitbit can do I want it even more!!!
You can Google Fitbit Hacks and find some extra things it can do. It has been a helpful tool for my overall health.
The simple things that make us smile. I love all the items listed.
Omg fabulous gift ideas!!!!! I would definitely give any of these to a new mama to be!
My husband has one of these and one day it said he only took one step that day lol. It also said he had an hour of sleep while he drove to work… em, maybe not. Love the extras in this though.
I have been wanting to get a fitbit. How fun that it can track water and sleep. I can’t wait to get one.
I am terrible with getting enough water each day. This makes it so easy! You can set personal alarms to remind you to do things like drink water, get up and move, etc.
I got a FitBit Charge HR last summer also, actually the purple one too like the picture 🙂 I have an autoimmune arthritis which has damaged my feet. I was actually going to write a post on how it’s helped me figure out my disease. I can’t race but I do love everything it can track to help me figure out my body!
I’ve been able to track health data to take to my doc. It’s great for more than just exercise! 😉
I had the original body media band several years ago before the fit bit craze…. Im always saying I need to get one, …. and its purple? LOVE IT!!
I had a fitbit that I loved. Somehow it ended up at college with my son. How did that happen? #momprobs haha
My youngest was just diagnosed with autism in December. My husband and I are constantly educating ourselves and work closely with his therapists. I can fully relate to your friend. Many people say to us ” he looks normal”..”are you sure the doctor is right”. I find it very frustrating because my husband and I know the difficulties our son faces each day. Thank you so much for posting this!
It is hard enough trying to figure out how to be the expert for your child without all the other “experts weighing in.” Much love to you and your family.
I love it! I love sneaking veggies into the kids food, to! My pasta sauce is filled with veggies and when I make mashed potatoes, half of the batch is cauliflower.
We started out sneaking in veggies to pasta sauce…back when my kids would actually eat pasta sauce. Now they hate that too. ??
haha – I was also laughing at the nutritional yeast! You are smart to recreate their fave meals with healthy perks included. Its a win-win for all involved!
Karen | GlamKaren.com
I know it seriously just sounds gross. LOL And alone it doesn’t taste crave worthy, but you put it in some cheese and BAM! Delish!
This is so smart and creative. Great way to get the little ones to eat healthier. Great post! xx felinebykatsairs.com
This is the second time today I have read about nutritional yeast in cooking. My kids are pretty good eaters thankfully but they haven’t always been that way.
I’m not a picky eater and I would gobble this right up! I have never heard of nutritional yeast before, but I definitely want to look into it. Thanks for sharing 🙂
Apparently it is popular with vegetarians for the B vitamins and protein. Who knew?
I had a VERY picky eater. I read once before a child will even willingly try a new food he has to be introduced to it 3-5 times. So, I would put a small portion on his plate at dinner when we had it. EVENTUALLY he tried it on his own! We have tried this with many hings, mostly vegetables. Works like a charm even now and he is 9!
I have done the same. My girls just are reluctant to even try new foods. Like tantrums for even suggesting it. So, I just work with what they will eat so neither of us has to stress. 🙂
I have to confess this is the first time that I am hearing about avacado mayo but it sounds delicious. I like the idea of an alternative mac and cheese.
Wow you rock I definitely needed this and will be doing iit tomorrow my kids are soooo picky !!
A friend of mine gave me a cook book by Jessica Seinfeld. She has some amazing ways to hide veggies.
I can’t tell you how much I was looking for a post like this. My youngest LOVES mac and cheese, but I don’t like the processed way it comes. THIS is going in my recipe book.
Awesome! I know the avocado mayo is a little less traditional, but sneaking in the veggies and adding in “cheesey booster” doesn’t take away from the deliciousness factor. 🙂
I have this and love it. Its so much fun when me and my girlfriends challenge eachother with the step count. My favorite!
I think a great tea is a wonderful gift for new moms! Sometimes on a hard day all you need is a cup of delish tea to make things better.
I agree. It’s like a 2 minute time out. 🙂
What great ideas. My sister just had her son on Friday so I get to be an auntie to a new baby too.
This is so awesome! My kids are so picky, especially my oldest. It drives me all sorts of crazy!
oh I think I have you topped with my son . The worst – he would never eat mac and cheese – still to this day – at 14 he won’t. We are going on a class trip for 4 days and I keep asking him what is he going to eat – he’s so picky.
The good news is he hasn’t starved yet. 😉 Gives me hope for my kids.
My kids were never picky when they were little. As teens they are very very picky eaters.
I feel like so many parents write about their children being picky eaters. It seems you have really figured this and can help so many parents.
I have had to really get creative. I have never seen such pickiness before! LOL My girls just know what they like.
Moms are the most creative people! When it comes to our kiddos, we have to be a little tricky sometimes and this is a fantastic reason to do so!
That sure is an interesting way of making it. I usually sometimes add mixed vegetables to mine to give them that extra boost of veggies. With the cheese covering it, it tastes so much better.
I should definitely try to hide some veggies in the mac n cheese. My daughter wants it every day, and I just tell her she cannot eat it every day of her life! It’s a fight, but..
I’ll need to try adding a veggie puree to my kids mac and cheese. I’d be curious to see if they could taste it.
So far my super picky eaters haven’t even noticed. 😉 The trick is to make when they aren’t looking.
This looks delicious! I love nutritional yeast and put it on my salads everyday (and popcorn too!), I never thought to put it with mac and cheese though, I bet my kids would love this.
I used to live on macaroni and cheese too. 🙂 I’m pretty sure no one added mayo into it, though!
Where do you find veggie puree? I have tried blending spinach leaves and putting in lasagne. My daughter loved it and didn’t know the difference! She also like smoothies and I can get away with all kinds of fruit.
LOVE THIS!
Reminds me that I saw recently on youtube someone put shredded zuchinni in oatmeal and I was hesitant to try it but really you CANNOT taste it at all!
Oh…that’s a good idea!
Hahaha I love this!!!! I so do the same thing with my daughters food. She decides all the time she now “hates” things so hiding the healthy stuff it is
I sneak cauliflower into so many things these days…. not for the kids, but for my husband! LOL
How exciting!! I am looking forward to reading the articles that your guest posters write for you. A fresh perspective on things is always a good thing 🙂
This looks very creative and delicious! I guess hiding foods in sometimes is the only option!
SO exciting to grow and feature new writers! You have such a great blog with such a great idea behind it.
Thank you Kristen! I am hoping to grow a community where other mom bloggers can find a platform to share their voices.
What a helpful blog for moms to connect! I’m not a mom, but I will share with my friends who are! They’ll love it!
Karen | GlamKaren.com
That’s so awesome! I think contributor blogs, especially mom blogs, are so beneficial to the community!
Great post Nikki! It baffles me why people are so concerned with something that they have no experience with. It’s like they’re trying to find something to shame others in order to make themselves feel better. Single moms, live the life you want…however that looks to you!
Exactly my thoughts! You do whatever works for you!
**throws confetti in the air** What a wonderful new adventure! I can’t wait to see all that the future brings for the mom community. Congratulations!!
Awe, thanks for celebrating with me! 😉
I love that you are giving new mums the opportunity to have there say because as you said being sleep deprived as a new mum is not fun. Congrats xx
Thanks! We all just want to be heard and connect. Motherhood can actually be a lonely place without a community behind you.
How exciting! I’m looking forward to reading the articles that your guests write for you. It’s always wonderful to get multiple perspectives in one place.
Looks yummy and I love avocado. Never heard of avocado mayo. Hmm going to have to give it a try.
This is awesome! I am excited to see what things the guest writers bring to the table! Congratulations on the great step!
Sounds exciting. It will be a good mix of new and experienced moms. Yes, I remember the days that you thought would never end. 🙂
This sounds great. I will be checking and seeing when you start taking on guest posters. I am hoping to guest post on more blogs.
So excited to hear about the expansion! There’s nothing greater than watching your baby (website) grow! And of course your own kids, too. 🙂
Regardless what anyone has to say, you’re a great writer. And one heck of an awesome mom. May you day continue to be filled with positive thoughts.
How exciting! Everyone has a unique voice and story, and I love it when online communities allow moms to share different perspectives.
Sharing our differences let’s us know we have options in our parenting right? 😉
I divorced from my boys dad when my youngest was 6 months old, so I definitely fell into the single mom category. As soon as I started dating Chris, I stopped calling myself that.
That’s awesome! It will be wonderful to see your reach grow with new people on the blog. What a fun journey! Glad to know there is light at the end of the tunnel from the early years as well 😉
We are so happy for you. Growth is such an amazing indication that you’re doing exactly what you’re supposed to be doing. XO
Oh thank you! That’s a great perspective that I didn’t even think of! 😉
I love that this is mac n cheese, but with added nutrition! That’s so awesome!
This is so awesome. We need to get past trying to label everyone (and using labels to define, reward or condemn people) and start just being accepting that we are all different, we are all special, and we all rock regardless of which “label” society defines us
You know, I was a single mom. And it was hard. Dang hard but I didn’t wear that as a badge of honour. It was what it was. She was 6 months old when he disappeared from our lives and we got a whopping $100 a month in child support that he lorded over our heads like it was a million dollars. I was a mom and she was my daughter. We made it work our way. I wish society would stop defining people we don’t all fit into nice perfect little boxes.
Why is this a big deal? If a woman is single, and a mom… She’s a single mom! Boom. Done.
Totally agree with your definition, but don’t misunderstand that look of pity… we nonsingle moms who barely get dressed everyday realize we could never do what you do alone! It’s more a look of, damn, I could never do it all! Thank goodness I have help! 🙂 Some people are never happy unless they are making people unhappy.
I’ve never thought there are many consideration before someone can be called as a single mom. All the labels toward women doesn’t make any sense. If she’s single with a child -regarding she receive support or not from the father of the child- she’s a single mom. That’s it!
Well said! All these labels get on my nerves and to be honest my friend whose a single mum couldn’t be happier she is far better off without the father.
Ugh. You know, “single mom” is pretty self-explanatory – you’re a mom and you’re single. That’s it. Anything else someone tries to put into it is just their way of being judgemental.
How exciting! I look forward to reading the new posts and getting to know your contributors. We are all in this together!
That is so exciting. I love that you want to share your platform with other moms who have something to say! I cant wait to read.
This is well said! I have heard of this before and it always makes me sad that woman aren’t more supportive. Anyone who does parenting on their own needs help not to be told they aren’t a single mom.
I feel like I hear the word “mansplain,” more and more these days. You would think in 2016 we poor women wouldn’t need a man to explain how this work or what our lives are or aren’t. I’m over it. There are lots of different types of single moms and dads out there; doesn’t mean one’s situation is better or worse than any other.
I know women who are raising their children any many different situations without their child’s father. I never thought of some being real “single moms” and some not being.
Congratulations on expanding the team. I know that it’s only going to get better and better. And I always try to prove the nay sayers wrong, even myself. 🙂
Congratulations on growing your community. I’m looking forward to seeing who your contributors are.
Wow, 14 and already a firefighter? That’s amazing! Have your girls talked much about this even afterward? It sounds like a really positive thing to take to kids to.
I’m totally with you on the being in awe of heroes! I find their dedication to helping others so inspiring and wonderful.
Thanks for joining #daysoutwithatoddler – see you next month!
My girls have always been fascinated by firefighters. We visit our local firehouse with treats 1-2 times a year. But, we have yet to see female volunteers. I thought this was a great way for them to really see they can be anything they want to be! See you next month!
Your post gave us chills. So lame how society has to put a negative spin on things that aren’t actually negative at all.
Here’s my two cents on this: moms need to uplift other moms. Period. They don’t need to define anyone else’s “singleness” they just need to offer support.
Now that is fun! Our kids would enjoy this! =)
Loved this post because its great to see parents complimenting teachers and seeing how much they do and how much of their own salary they contribute to their students. Mr. Chris looks like the coolest – totally checking out the links you offered!
Karen | GlamKaren.com
I love this guy! I would have loved being his principal!!
This post made me sad. It’s amazing how humans find new ways to beat each other up. 🙁 Glad to see you supporting other moms! Women should encourage and life each other up, always.
I had no idea there was such a negative connotation to being a single mom. I was raised by a single mom, and she is the most important role model in my life! Cheers to you!
Zaylen is going to be so proud of you! I don’t care about labels and who is allowed to be called what. I just know that when the job of two people is done by one, it’s hard. I’m glad you are ok with it. Cheers to you!
I agree about the labels! For some reason our culture feels comfortable putting everyone in a neat little box. I think Nikki is amazing for just enjoying every moment with her son despite how others want to categorize her!
I don’t know anyone with a child who has Autism. I have read about it though. It can be a challenge. I am so glad to see that there are those who strive to help children with Autism.
I didn’t realize any of this either. I certainly think that any mom who is taking care of her child without the father, is a single mom. Sometimes I don’t understand why people feel the need to downplay a mom’s role in her child’s life.
It is amazing how giving Mr Chris is…he is amazing. Such a great idea for a book.
I didn’t realize there was a stereotype or any sort of negativity around being a single mother. I find it hard to juggle everything myself, and I can only imagine the challenges of doing it all on my own.
Oooo how awesome Is this project!?!?! I will have to check these links out. These kids must feel so amazing to be part of this
That is amazing that he takes his own salary to give to this project. I love seeing teachers go above and beyond to help their students.
What a lovely man. More people need to follow his example.
What an incredible man! This is what I like to see in the education world.
I love that it is Autism awareness month and I wish that my autistic friends had this when they were younger. My friend would have really liked reading this.
What an amazing person! I’m heading over to follow him on Facebook ASAP!
This is so great! Somehow though I have a child who doesn’t like mac and cheese. She’s so weird.
It’s so fun to see websites grow. I can’t wait to see what you and the other moms have in store for us .
Thanks for joining us Amber!! 🙂
I still haven’t jumped on track with a fitbit but I definitely need to I know I would be motivated way more !
This is a great post, and I love how Nikki gave ‘shout outs’ to other Moms and pointed out their unique characteristics. Me personally, I don’t associate the title ‘single Mom’ with struggling…I just think to myself that the mother is not with the father for whatever reason…and it’s not always a negative one.
i have been thinking about getting a fitbit but this might be the final motivation to get me to the store.
What an amazing guy he is. I have a child who is autistic so I know firsthand what it’s like living with someone who has a diagnosis. I will be going to his page to show him some support.
Thank you Amanda! That’s exactly what I was hoping to do with this post! Get him more support. I am sure there are so many other Special Ed teachers who are as passionate as he is, just not getting the recognition.
I haven’t heard the statement different is not less and I love it so much! My niece is autistic and she is my happy thought!
I have worked in a school for Autistic children. We used to take the kids out into the community and you would be so surprised how differently they were treated. Every kid I worked with was a happy thought for me. I still go back and remember them with deep fondness!
I want a FitBit, I have wanted one for a while now and am thinking about ordering one. My oldest son wants one for school, his principal wears one and tells all the kids to wear one to see how much they actually walk during the day.
Thats exciting! I can’t wait to read more articles! Congrats!
what a great post! Autism awareness is something that I value as several of my good friends have children that are on the spectrum.
Haha. Kids are grimy little creatures. I am all about the hand sanitizer. This looks like lots of fun. We will have to try it.
Thank you so much for sharing this information. As a teacher, I was not aware of Mr. Chris and his very worth while project. I am now following him on Facebook and plan to help me spread the word about his project.
I love this post. Although I am not a single mother, my mom was a single mother. I agree with you just because you get support from the father still means you single. I have so much respect for all single mothers!
we go through a lot of play dough here in our house.
It’s a perfect activity when the kids are needing a little bit of quiet time. I’m all about the hand sanitizer too and my lysol spray! Germs be gone!
Too right and even if you have to sacrifice sanity and cleanliness at least you will have happy children. I hope they feel better soon xxx
Playdough is good any time, just like you said! When my daughter was sick, she wanted me to read to her. I quickly figured out that she just needed me in sight. So I let her rest wherever she wanted. Made some extra clean up from time to time, but I did manage to recover part of my day without having to read to her 12 hours in a row!
I could write a whole other post on how to protect your living room furniture from a sick kid. lol My girls wanted to be in front of TV and where they could see me. That makes the couch the perfect spot. But germs. LOL We’ve created our own little system for comfort.
What fun! I bet there are a lot of kids that would love to do this. Thanks for sharing the recipe!
We might need to try this tomorrow because playdough keeps the kiddo happy for hours…and that makes me happy!
Who doesn’t love a few hours of quiet…and of course a happy kid. Yeah, that too. 😉
Thanks for sharing your Friday favorites and the wonderful cause of Autism awareness. I value this philanthropic effort and really appreciate the highlight and information you are spreading.
Thanks Cara! I’ve meet so many amazing people in the autism community- but the unsung heroes are the parents. They have the stress, the worry and decision making 24/7.
This is my favorite playdough recipe! I love how the Kool Aid scents the dough and makes the whole room smell yummy!
This is a great cheap way to do it, especially on a rainy day. I no longer buy my daughter play doh because I’ve had to get my carpet cleaned on more than one occasion because of it.
This is wonderful. I love seeing people and educators promoting acceptance and beauty for special needs children, it’s such an important topic, especially since I have family in the autism spectrum.
Great job. I tried this once. It came out so sticky. I think I made a jello-o version. Maybe I’ll try this one sometime.
super cool! And also super cost effective!
What a great idea! Definitely passing this on to my friends with kids 🙂
oh my gosh, this is just awesome. I never knew you could make your own playdough before. what a fantastic thing to do with the kids.
Okay you guys have some crazy talent here. I never would have thought about this….Way cool
We are definitely big fans of homemade playdough. There are so many wonderful recipes! The sky is the limit. The last one we made was Fairy playdough with pink colorings and lots of glitter.
This is a classic project that all kids should make at least once. Who doesn’t like play doh right.
My daughter and I love making palydoh!!!! It’s so fun because we can choose the colors!
I’ve seen that teachers videos before. He seems like the best teacher. I love that he’s making a difference in the lives of those kids.
What a fun activity! I like to add oils like lavender or citrus to help with my kiddos mood – calm them down, or bust a bad mood!
Time is moving so quickly, this year seems faster than last and so on. My oldest is almost 8 now, and it doesn’t seem possible. I try to soak up every minute, even the hard ones 🙂
Enjoy every moment! Great reminder for loving the milestones, but also a great reminder for anyone (kids or no kids) to appreciate every moment.
Karen | GlamKaren.com
My daughter’s forth birthday was last week and I looked back at the years with fond memories but I also wondered how they had gone by so quickly. I miss the falling asleep on me or early morning feedings.
When I read posts like this one, I can remember so clearly my own motherhood journey, one that is over 30 years old. Your advice is perfect. Every new mom should read this.
Don’t be down on yourself! Being a mama is HARD work and sometimes we just lose it and wish for things to be different. No regrets, it’s the love that matters and those sweet memories. Don’t dwell and miss the new ones!
This is the hardest advice to follow. I think I like to try to just savor the good parts. I have twins too and they are now 8 and man it is flying by.
This is such a beautiful reminder. Especially on days like today, when I’m tired and grumpy and just want the kids to quiet down. lol.
Well written, as always ! We will have to meet for lunch come September….????
Awe thanks for reading!! Definitely let’s do lunch!! 🙂
This is all so true…having been a mom for 14 years, it truly does go by so quickly. The days are long but the years are short.
This is so beautiful, and really came at the perfect time for me. My daughter will be going to Kindergarten next year, too, and it is killing me. If I would offer any parenting advice, it would be to hold on to one moment, from every single day, because it really does come and go too fast.
I can’t believe how easy it is to make your own play dough. This would have come in really handy when I taught Pre-Kindergarten years ago because the kids loved play dough.
My favorite part of having a new baby – was just that – the new baby and the first year. I literally would have a new baby every year just for that! I have a teenager now and he is just about killing me! ☺
I love this message! The years really do fly by, but every stage that we pass through and morn the loss of is simply a doorway to the nest stage. My kids are adults now, and while I loved the early years, these years are equally special
This applies to life in General. It seems to fly by no matter how much you want it to slow down. We just try to stay in each moment so it feels longer.
Sometimes I think I’m selfish BC it just doesn’t feel long enough. 😉
Aww! You detailing these precious moments makes me want to have children so badly! When I do become a parent I really want to be a stay-at-home mom for the first 5 years of their lives. I don’t want to miss a moment!
Love this so much! It can be so hard to not wish away time when it is hard, but you will always want it back!
I just love this post because I was like that. I wished that they would just grow up and now that they’re grown up and almost out the door, I wish that they would be small again. You have to cherish every moment, the good and the bad.
I agree!
Time really does go by fast! I find myself getting frustrated all the time and I always have to remind myself that my daughter won’t be little forever and to just embrace it
What a beautiful story about Liam. Thank you for this information and suggestions on autism.
I love Norwex body cloths. I use them instead of facial cleanser and have been very happy with them!
So great to hear from someone else who uses Norwex!
My boys are 17 and 19 now, and I miss their little selves so much. They’re teen versions are great, but I truly miss the snuggles and cuddles.
I have teenage nephews who were my first little cuddle bugs. We won’t snuggle on the couch for a movie any more, but I can squeeze a big hug out of them now and then. 😉
Time goes by so quickly, all we really have are memories to treasure. We’re getting ready to put our toddler in “big boy” school, and I’m not ready. It seems like just yesterday we were coming home from the hospital with him in our arms.
So true. It makes me sad to see what a little man my 3 year old is. How he takes care of his sister and plays with me and his dad. I want him to be a baby forever!
I remember receiving sound advice like this when I was expecting my first child. How little did I know it would be true. I’m still trying to grasp the fact that my first child turned 10 last month. Time is so fleeting!
All three of these sound like great products! In light of all the information being discovered about the epidemic of animals, land and sea, dying as a result of having stomachs full of plastic- the reusable bag is a great start to the solution.
I love reusing the storage boxes instead of the bags. They hold so much more and I can wash them out easier than I can a reusable bag. I wish they would go back to paper to be honest with you, at least they decompose and are much better for the environment than plastic.
Most all of what I have used from Norwex I have loved, and it feels so good to have natural cleaners rather than all those chemicals in my home. I have never used a RuMe bag, but it sounds fabulous to have on hand. Thanks so much for sharing!
I LOVE MY NORWEX! My favorite thing is my mop. I hate washing floors and my norwex mop makes it so simple. Not to mention I don’t have to use strong smelling floor wash.
I need to try this. My kids really love to play with play dough, especially on rainy days!
I could not live without my reusable bags! Not only for shopping but for everything! I always have several. My kids love them for gathering treasures.
Im a huge Norwex fan! I use the environ cloths to polish my glasses, too. They are awesome at it!
Take it from me, before you know it they have their own families and you wonder where they years went. Cherish every moment!
I don’t know if we have Norwex here in Belgium, but I use the same kind of cleaner cloth (microfiber) and it cleans and shine everything. It does make a wonder, and like you said save a lot for environment.
I want to try Norwex now! I have heard great things about them, but will be trying them for sure now.
Oh, I love that Grandma poem! What a great idea! Thanks ????
I haven’t heard of the Poofy brand before, but I am always looking for organic options for bath time. I am definitely going to check them out!
I’ve heard a lot about Norwex products and all great things. I will have to see what I can find around me and give them a try!
Great idea to carry the bag in your bag. I tend to forget my reusable bags. Personally, as a presenter, I have started to email PDFs of my handout rather than use paper.
Super cute printables! I also love those homemade surprises that the kids work on for Mother’s Day! They are the best kind of gifts to get.
My girls decorate plates for me every year. I am going to need to start a plate wall soon. So much fun to have their work!
That’s a really great idea!! The plates and having them on the wall!
This is my first mothers day, but I will cherish the handmade gifts the most!
Happy first Mother’s Day Lauren!! Enjoy every second!
I love the reusable bag. It’s a bonus that you can keep it in your purse and have it to use anytime.
I’m not a mom, but I think that handmade gifts form your child have to be the best. THe most sentimental and the most memorable! Love that printable, too!
Karen | GlamKaren.com
Awww! I love the poem! My mom loved all the gifts we gave her from art class. Each year, for 12 years, she got a ceramic cat that I made in art. It is fun to see how I grew over time!
Aw you are so right. Sometimes the best gifts are those that are handmade! I melt when I see handprints too!
These are really cute printables, perfect poems. I don’t remember any notable mothers days but I cherish random memories of doing things with my mother, grandmother and great grandmother. I only have one photo of the four of us and it’s something I cherish
Those are two very beautiful poems and just like your mother, my mom would cherish all the handmade items that we made her. My daughter loves to bring me items and drawings that she did. She would even bring me leaves from outside. 🙂
Kids can make anything feel like a special gift!
Such lovely poems. My favourite gift on mother’s day is the cards. I love to read the sweet lovely things my boys wrote. makes me cry sometimes.
What a great post. We should all be using products that are friendly. I’ve never heard of Poofy products but will check them out now after the positive comments 🙂
Such lovely poems. Some of my favorite gifts are the little hand print ones kids bring home from school.
I just love their little hands! A great way to remember how little they were!
My son made me a necklace a couple years ago. While it isn’t my first choice, sometimes he will bring it to me and ask me to wear it for the day. I do. He gets the biggest kick out of it.
On Mother’s Day my husband always handles all the “work” of the house, and that is my favorite gift, because then I can sit back with my littles and really enjoy their personalities. Time is fleeting, and that is really the best gift I could ask for!
So beautiful and sweet! The perfect gift!
The handmade gifts are so heartfelt. I’d rather have a handmade gift with a lot of thought and heart than an expensive gift.
I was just looking trough mother’s day cards and homemade gifts last week when I cleaned out a closet. I kept it all 🙂
This is awesome I love stuff like this I am sentimental tbough and keep everything my husband makes my mother’s day perfect 🙂
Glad I found this I have been meaning to do this for a while and now I’m really going to so fun thx !!
This is such a precious idea! I’ll have to share this with my friends and family. It would make a wonderful Mother’s Day gift idea!
This is my very first mother’s day, but I love handmade gifts. It was a tradition we did with my mom growing up and I’m excited to have my kids do the same for me!
My third child was born two days before Mother’s Day. That has definitely been one of the best Mother’s Day gifts I’ve ever received!
what cute poems. I have always loved handmade gifts the best – especially from my daughter – the ones she made in school.
I love these poems! I cant wait to print off the grandmother ones and use them as part of the kids’ gift.
I think kids should make mothers’ day gifts. It gives them a sense of accomplishment and teach them that you can give gifts even without money
Thanks so much for sharing this!
My pleasure!! Thank you for sharing!!
Finding humor in it is definitely a step in the right direction. I laugh at so much of it and it really helps!
Yes, all about finding humor in things. There’s no such thing as perfection!
I really enjoyed your post! I remember collecting all the handmade cards my daughter gave me. The one that takes the cake was when one of the cards read ‘You are the QUEER of my World!” Haha! She made this in first grade and it was supposed to say ‘QUEEN’, but she mispelled it. I absolutely love it! Makes me laugh every time I see it!
Finding humor in bad situations often helps me go forward and leave my past in the past. It is good to have perspective.
I love making my mum homemade gifts for Mother’s Day, it’s so much more sentimental. They poem is lovely!
I’ve stopped blaming myself for anything. If something goes wrong, it’s the kids fault or whoever messed it up. I don’t baby my kids and my kids definitely know that mommy isn’t playing.
Sometimes it can be so hard to find humor in parenting, but it makes everything feel so much better!
You have no idea how much I cried when I got that poem from my son in preschool. It’s such a sweet poem.
I kind of have an idea. 😉 I have two that came home with the same poem. It’s those poems that really nail how short lived their time as little people is. They are only little once.
Humor is essential in parenting. Kid’s get dirty and do crazy things. Sometimes you have to laugh or you’ll go mad.
I stopped blaming myself a few years back and am much happier now. I can only do so much and that is all.
My husband and I balance each other out and make a great parenting team.
I love this so much. My youngest isn’t autistic, but was just diagnosed with ADD, so in a way I can relate to a lot of this.
I definitely think connecting with other moms helps so much. When you can say “Me too!” everything seems ok again.
Amen to finding humor. Some days thats the only thing that keeps me sane. Otherwise I’d just lose it. lol!
Thanks for sharing your friend’s story about her son with autism. It’s great to hear different stories from different moms to better gain perspective and learn how support can be a lifesaver to them!
Karen | GlamKaren.com
I wear all of my macaroni jewelry with pride because the little ones who made it for me are priceless 🙂 I also make sure to snap a photo of me wearing it beside them so if the piece ends up destroyed we will always have the photo to remind ourselves.
This is a great resource to people who have kids with autism. One of my dear friends is walking this road and as you said early intervention is KEY.
Thanks for sharing your story about Parker! I agree, never judge a book by its cover! We too used early intervention and swear by the results we saw in that program.
My 14 year old was diagnosed on the spectrum of Autism when he was 4. Parenting with him has been a lot different that I imagined parenting would be (he’s my oldest). I’m going to look for those books you recommended!
This is such great insight! I’m so glad that she has the support 🙂
It is so good that other parents have the chance to read other people’s stories. It helps all of them to not feel alone.
I agree, the best gifts are the handmade ones. I’m a teacher, and every year I make a Mother’s Day craft with my class just in case there are moms who are single or for whatever reason won’t be getting anything else for Mother’s Day.
That’s a really sweet gesture that I am sure those moms appreciate!
I believe humor will get you through many things! I believe that I do the best I can.
Oh yes, guilt and blaming are a big thing in my life! Trying to realize that I am doing the best I can is a process that I have been working on for a while 🙂
I try to be pretty honest about how hard it is being a mom. It seems it gives other moms the freedom to themselves. I had surrounded myself with some really great moms who build me up and encourage me!
I have my first one on the way, but I can relate to placing blame on myself where it doesn’t necessarily belong. But sometimes, stuff just happens.
What a little cutie! I had no idea how many therapists a child on the spectrum has. That must be very stressful.
I am pretty on top of things; I only have one kid so I never really feel overwhelmed. But there are moments that I just have to laugh at. It’s amazing when you meet another mom who has done or gone through the same thing.
What a devastating diagnosis for any mother. My heart and my hopes are yours.
Humor, that has gotten me through more crap… sometimes I think Id be a nutcase if I didnt have a GREAT sense of humor! Because honestly sometimes if I wasn’t laughing id be crying and who wants that!
oh yes humor is what keeps me sane. Otherwise I would be a mess blaming myself for ALL of the problems 😉
I’ve only been a mom for 4 years now (3 Mother’s Days so far) and the best gift I had gotten on my very first mother’s day was a vase my daughter ‘hand-painted’ when she was 5 months old in daycare. I still use the vase to hold my pens & pencils.
Oh how I love this post! I am the mom who takes all the blame. My husband even says it is like I look at our house like a business and as the “CEO” I should take blame for everything that happens with my business, but that is not how it works at all. Thank you for sharing this post! It is wonderful!
It must be difficult to experience such a diagnosis, but it sounds like having a support system is helpful and having options for different therapies sounds like a great thing for you!
Congratulations to your husband
Lovely Jewellery. I love the charm bracelet.
I have a chronically ill teen so I’ve learned to not blame myself for a thing. I’d spend all day beating myself up.
Finding humor is one of the keys! Working with kids and having a large family has taught me that you gotta roll with it!
This is so sweet! I think I’ll print these up and add some tiny handprints for the kid’s grandmas. My kids are still a little young, and they stay home with me all the time, but I can’t wait for them to start making the really cute crafts. (I’m not holding my breath for daddy to hold a craft time.)
I teach kindergarten and this would be a great poem for the students to share with their moms:)
I am not in a position to say much because I only had one very prissy daughter. It is very easy to blame yourself and I think many parents do that
Well said but I don’t agree that having a child with autism is a devastating diagnosis as some comments suggests. A hard diagnosis yes and like you said you have to be extra careful with him but autistic children are a pleasure to watch grow and develop and can be the sweetest kids. One of my best friends is autistic and he finds it hard to read social situations and can feel very awkward or anxious in certain environments but is one of the loveliest guys you would ever meet.
Thanks for sharing this. We don’t have a child with autism but many of our family friends have a child with autism.
Great tips! We are all imperfect! I’m not a mommy yet but hopefully someday!
It really is easier to connect with other people when we allow our selves to be vulnerable. I love reading honest parenting blogs for this reason. It makes me feel like less of a failure when I see that other parents go through some of the same things I do as a parent.
I just had a circumstance this weekend where I believed my daughter’s knee pain was my fault. Thank you for this…knee pain is a reality of life that I have to remove myself from the fault of!
Thank you for sharing Parker’s experience. Learning the experience of others makes all of us aware and understand autism even more.
Such a moving story. A lovely interview and thank you so much for sharing Parker’s story.
Oooooh, I need to try that EnviroCloth!
This is beautiful!
Thanks Aja!
This is really insightful. My brother has Aspergers so while it isn’t all the same, I can see a lot of similar things in him displayed in this article.
I totally agree. I had no idea about everything that my mom did for us or went through until I was a mom myself.
It all just kind of hits at once! Hope you have a great Mother’s Day!
I love this! Thank you for the beautiful reminder of how much our moms do for us, even as grown up mommas ourselves. I am so thankful for my mom and the way she has loved me so well!
Happy Mother’s Day to you and your mama!!
I no longer have my mom as she passed away last year but each of these women are so right. I never realized all the sacrifices she made and I couldn’t wait to grow up and be on my own, but now that she’s gone I wish I could have her back. Don’t wait until Mother’s Day to tell your mom you love her, tell her that every day!
Amanda I am so very sorry for your loss. I have so many friends who mother without their own moms and I see how much it hurts. Sending you many hugs and peace!! (I also agree tell your loved ones you love them as often as you can!).
So many lovely sentiments, love the idea of taking time to sit and really appreciate all of our own mothers have done for us!
I agree that I don’t think I appreciated my Mom as much until I became a Mother myself. She is my biggest cheerleader and I appreciate her love and sacrifice so much.
I am so grateful that I still have my mom still. She’s 78 and spry as ever! We talk daily and she’s always sharing her memories.
Definitely very lucky to have a spry 78 year old mom! 😉
I love this post and I love being able to honor mom’s. I’m not a mom, but the connection I have with my own mom is so strong and I am grateful for it 🙂
I am not a biological mother; never had the desire to have kids – not in a “I hate kids” kind of way, it just wasn’t for me. I became a stepmother at 37 and it is probably, other than overcoming some serious health issues, the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I seriously tell parents I have NO idea how they do it. My mom taught me something that I will forever be grateful for. She said, “Never rely on a man to take care of you.” I am so glad I took that advice. My sister and I both did and we’re both successful in our own right – I don’t mean this in a materialistic way. I mean, we know that no matter what we can make it on our own – and we have. On OUR terms. It has made us more secure women. Absolutely, 100%, without a doubt in my opinion being a parent is the hardest job there is. I thank my mom she did it three times (and dad, too). 🙂
That’s a totally valid decision to make. Parenting isn’t an easy gig and if you know for sure it’s not something you want why force it because that’s what’s “expected.”
I just wrote something like this in my moms card. It’s amazing how much I give my daughter; I give her every ounce of me, but my mom did this times 5. I am in awe of her.
I am one of four raised by a single, working mom. No idea how she survived! Happy Mother’s Day!
What a great read. I agree that you don’t fully appreciate your mother until you have children yourself. There is so much worry involved. You only want what is best for your children.
I’ve always appreciated everything my mom has done for me. She is the heart of our family. When she was diagnosed with Stage IV cancer last year, my whole world was rocked. You know your mom won’t be around forever, but when you’re actually faced with the reality you could lose her before you’re ready, it is scary. Her strength as she battles back has been amazing, and I’m so glad I can be here to help take care of her and provide strength and encouragement.
I am so sorry to hear about your moms diagnosis. All the best for her and your family! I don’t think we are ever ready to loose our moms. Such a scary thought living in this world without them.
I didn’t appreciate my mom until I was one. Now I love her even more for all she has done for me.
So easy to take for granted because until we are doing the work, we don’t see what goes on behind the scenes.
OMG I love this post! It’s prefect for mother’s day this weekend! 🙂
Thanks for reading!
What a great post! It’s so true that it’s hard to really comprehend why our moms acted like they did when we were kids. Like you, it made all the sense in the world the moment I met my son. I love that my mom fought to give me opportunities, and to let me know that I was loved unconditionally. She saw the things that she wanted to do differently from her own parents and she did them well.
Absolutely beautiful! To have the words, the patience and the knowledge of all things, like my mom does would be such a blessing.
What a wonderful way to commemorate all the Moms out there! I enjoyed reading this post. It was also very effective in getting me sentimental about what to do for Mom’s Day!
A great way to celebrate moms. My kids gets excited about mothers day. Well, my daughter a little more than my son. Haha
I love your advice for people who don’t have a relationship with their moms. My husband and his mother have a complicated relationship but I agree with you that they should respect each other from a distance.
My Mom is now in her seventies and is helping t raise my niece, She keeps saying she is sorry she was working when my kids were little. it does n;t matter to us, a good mom is awesome! Your post brought me to tears with the joyous stories
Looks gorgeous! I’ve always wanted a nice handbag, but I can never justify the expense to myself. Sigh.
^ whoops. I would use it to replace the giant totes I usually carry that weigh 100 lb because stuff gets lost and forgotten in there.
I love little bags inside big bags for all my mommy essentials: lip balm, essential oil sticks, tampons, & gum 😉
It is definitely amazing what I now know as a mom as opposed to how I felt when I was younger. And I can see the questions in my oldest’s eyes when we disagree about certain things. I remember my mom taking my brother and I to breakfast and only ever getting a coffee, and now I realize it is because she wanted to treat us but couldn’t afford it. I sometimes do the same thing today with my littles.
So cute and spring-y! I shared on FB too 🙂
Oops forgot to answer the question! I would use the pouch to collect all the random little things that somehow end up in my purse!
This was such a perfect read for today! And I feel like I always say something to this affect to my mom… shes sacrificed so much for me!
Love this!
The pouch is so cute! Umm honestly, From tampons to eyeliner to travel deodorant – I’d use that pouch everyday!
I’d use it to keep my essential oils in my bag!
I would use it as my non diaper bag bag!!
I love cross carriers. I think this would be the perfect purse for a mom to carry her things and the kids things. However the pouch would be just the right size for a quick mommy trip to the store by herself!
The most beautiful thing is this world is to be a Mom. I have 2 Sons that are such sweethearts, and then I’m even more blessed with the most amazing Daughter of my heart!
You are both amazingly wonderful mamas!! I get so much inspiration from witnessing your patience and love!!!
I love my mom! I appreciate everything that she’s done for me through my life and the times that she’s been there for me. 🙂
This is a beautiful bag, very cute and something I would definitely carry. I love bags and always like finding reasons to get a new one!
What a great bag!
I love satchels. I actually own a few that I use whenever I’m taking a trip because I can store my passport and wallet in it and keep it pretty safe. I am loving this one you got.
Aw that is such a lovely way of celebrating your mum. My friend said that when she became a mother all the petty fights with her mum became a thing of the past and their bond became stronger.
Cute bag. The colors are perfect for this time of year.
This is such a special post, I love that you had others contribute so that we can see a wide range of thoughts about mother’s. Now that I’m pregnant I’m seeing so much that I didn’t appreciate before, it really puts things in perspective.
So cute!! My son turns two this month and I think it’s time to upgrade the clunky diaper bag I’ve been carrying around! I would use the satchel to keep all of my mommy essentials – hand lotion, lipgloss, ibuprofen (haha), tampons, & a pen or two!
This looks like a great bag! I hate seeing things I want to buy and yet living on a college budget! haha.
I would use the pouch for my stylus, cleaning cloth and charging cord for my tablet.
I love Anna Nova, I especially love the turquoise against the black, my fav. I’m in.
This bag is so pretty! I love the teal against the black!
What a gorgeous bag! I love the print on it, it compliments the bag nicely!
It’s crazy! You definitely don’t realize how much your mom did until you’re a mom yourself! It doesn’t look like a lot until you’re living it
So true!!! Becoming a mother gave me a whole new understanding and empathy—not to mention respect and awe—for my mom. I find keeping my s**t together with 2 kids hard; my mom did it with 4! She is a rock star.
Happy Mother’s Day!
What a beautiful bag! I love cross body bags, so easy to carry and lightweight.
This is an awesome bag! I would love to have it! I’m very particular about my bags and replace them often.
What a beautiful bag. It looks like it would hold a lot of stuff.
Cross body bag is a great idea when you are carrying kids around. The print is great is for spring and summer.
Hahaha, I love this. I remember my (now ex) husband wanted to use the Ferber method with my oldest after he was born. Yeah, that didn’t last long.
That is so hard to do! And it doesn’t work for everybody!
I feel like this is true for everyone. Sometimes I could be so tired but just can’t sleep. You learn as you get older what sleep schedule works for you.
It’s especially hard as a new mom learning how to sleep around a baby’s needs as Debra writes about in this article. Thanks for reading!
Sleep is a highly individual thing. I have to be sitting up before I can sleep! When I am flat, I cannot get comfortable. Sitting up, my head rolls to the right and I am out!
I’m sure mama could get more comfortable if her baby could get more comfortable. Both could find some sleep!
The bit at the end made me chuckle! I remember even before I had a baby reading about Gina ford’s routines and thinking how bloody ridiculous it was. I am lucky my son sleeps for long stretches but he doesn’t ‘go to bed’ until 11pm or later! They are all different.
That makes for some long days!
What works for one may not work for another. It’s always important to keep that in mind when listening to “experts”.
Very true Vicky!
I remember those late nights. I has such a hard time dealing with no sleep. It does end at some point that is what I kept trying to remind myself that it was not going to be forever.
I remind myself that at some point it will be easier. Some moms have said by age 1 others by age 4. Haha
Oh man! I have to admit, this post made me LOL. My husband and I don’t have kids, but I’ve always heard everyone say — don’t believe what you see on TV—it’s NOTHING like that! haha
Totally NOTHING like on TV. And NOTHING prepares you for the sleep deprivation!
I absolutely love floral prints and cross body bag types so this is definitely me here. I haven’t heard of the brand before, but will take a look on their selection.
I am so in love with the cross body bag now!! I can’t go back to shoulder bag that slides off! I just can’t! 😉
Such a realistic view on motherhood. My youngest had issues with his sinuses so he could never breathe properly at night. He was up ever hour or two for FOUR years. Sometimes, you just gotta hang in there.
Oh wow… that sounds rough!! For you and your kiddo!
Experts often forget that babies don’t read their books! Anyone telling you there’s a one size fits all solution is probably selling something!
#StayClassy
Ha, ha! So true…babies aren’t reading, or listening to those experts!
So very true – every baby is different and whilst the techniques might work for some babies – others will just sleep when they want. Definitely agree that anyone who ignores a “ssh baby sleeping sign” deserves the response they get!
Thank you for the support in my response to an ignored sign. wink, wink.
I completely agree. It took a year of trial and error to figure out what works for us to get our little one to sleep!
Amazing how that year probably felt like an eternity. 😉
LOL – this is great. Sometimes it’s just best to let people go off telling you how something should be knowing in your head that you will do it your way anyway. No one knows what’s best except you. 😉
Yes I agree Laura. It is easier to just listen sometimes and go on your own way in the end.
Lol, I think my son is the same way. He sleeps when he wants and wakes when he wants. And we’re all just exhausted.
It really doesn’t last forever! My twins are 5 now and they sleep better than I do! 😉
This is hilariously tearjerkingly accurate! I’ve had so many people tell me so many ways to get my baby to sleep and the truth is she just won’t unless she’s snuggled up next to me. You do you mama and sleep when you can!
Aww I wish my daughter would snuggle to sleep with me. She is a scream till you give her a bottle, blanket and her daddy to sleep girl.
Love your writing style for this. I”m sure you’re not alone in your sleep deprived existence. I was fortunate with both of my kids and sleep and I still felt sleep deprived the first month or 2.
I think sometimes we have so much to do as a mom we forget we get to sleep too.
Haha love this!!!! Swear sleep is different for everyone. I have no excuse for being sleep deprived yet here I am! I can’t turn my mind off at night where as my daughter and hubby snooze right off…
I have this problem some nights too. So many ideas and things to do. When it gets quiet my brain goes into overdrive.
This article made me laugh. I can remember threatening to send my husband to spend the night at his mothers if he had to turn the television on or talk out loud. It had taken me over an hour to get my daughter to sleep and nothing was going to wake her…or else.
I have been there and I have made the hubs leave for a few hours.
It’s hard isn’t it. I have no advice you just have to plough through it and keep up the hope x
Completely agree though exhaustion induced I agree.
why should experts be any different in this subject than others…. I always laugh when I read how things are supposed to be in how to books. Its like, seriously people? Real life does NOT work that way! I can so relate to this article….. 🙂
I am glad to know I am not alone in the lack-of-sleep area.
I love this! We started with the bassinet with my oldest and tried the crib, and ended up co-sleeping. I get a lot of packages in the mail, and my mailman has started banging on the door to let me know the package is there…loudly…right after my youngest goes down for her ONE nap of the day. I keep putting up signs, which works for about 2 days, and then back to the banging…with the mailman taking the sign down!
This would upset me too.
I barely remember those days… I must still be a little sleep deprived! We have 4 and those early years we had a baby in the bassinet beside me so I could nurse in the middle of the night. We were never a quiet house so my kids can sleep through darn near anything now. Thankfully!!
We now have gone to making noise as we found the complete quiet was more disturbing to our daughter.
I’ve often wondered where and how the term “sleeping like a baby” came to be associated with sleeping well. The fact that most people aren’t talking about the horrible level of sleep deprivation that happens in the first year (and sometimes beyond) is very confusing.
I think the saying should be sleep like a cat. They sleep through anything: storms, loud noise, kids pulling on them and I have even seen some sleep through being sat on by other animals.
I know this feeling! There is so much incorrect, unscientific info, out there from so called experts it can get a little confusing when our life with our real life baby seems so different to how things are supposed to be.
However there is some sleep ‘gold’ out there that I found when my daughter wasn’t sleeping through the night, from an organisation called Hand in Hand parenting. I loved their approach so much that I became an instructor! #fortheloveofBLOG
WOW! I am glad you found an organization you feel strongly about!
I don’t have kids of my own yet but I would imagine they are just like the rest of us – which means everyone is different. While I love reading tips from others, I’ve learned that experts don’t always know everything about how each of us operate rest. Keep pushing through and eventually you’ll figure out what works best for her.
I agree. At this point we are letting her lead us when it comes to bedtime.
Indeed no such thing as a perfect parent. At best use your heart and instincts in the tough decisions. And do not ever let guilt get the best of you. That’s what I learned early on! 🙂
That mom guilt is an uphill battle some days!
I hear you loud and clear on the picky eater situation. Not only is my youngest SUPER picky, he will finally settle on something he likes – eat it 1000 times and then out of no where he will decide he hates it. It’s soooo frustrating.
That’s exactly what my kids do too. You’re right, soooo frustrating!
I am just praying my son won’t need counseling when he leaves home. If he survives and is well adjusted i did my job.
I am hoping for well adjusted and independent. I mean a kid can only cling to mamas hip for so many age appropriate years. 😉
I loved, “you are not the expert in my struggle.” Nice post well written. I also loved that you were kind about it. Seems to be a lost art these days.
Thanks so much! I try to see both sides. I’ve certainly said my share of things where I put my foot in my mouth. I try to remember how those moments made me feel.
LOL! This made me laugh a little. I don’t have kids, so I’m so much changes once you do. Thank you for sharing!
It’s all going to change!! Live it up now before you decide to have kids! 😉
Yeah in my head I was a perfect parent. It is until you actually become a parent that you get a whole new perspective.
Haha, I know. Suddenly it all makes sense…well, it makes sense why other parents are so tired all the time. I still haven’t figured out the whole parenting thing.
The worst thing is when someone tries to tell you how to parent your own child. No one is a perfect parent. Everyone parents differently, and as long as your child is taken care of it, it doesn’t matter what anyone else has to say.
I agree!!! 🙂
Such a great reminder that there is no such thing as a perfect parent. And I think that coming to this realization is so freeing!
It definitely lowered a bar for me!
Before I had a child, I remember not understanding why parents seemed to have so little time and constantly feel overwhelmed. I don’t think anything can really prepare a person for becoming a parent – the sleep deprivation was the worst for me. That and not having ANY time for myself, other than the hours of 8pm-1am.
I agree! I had no idea what the stress and worry was about. Moms always seemed anxious about sending kids on trips and I’d say let them live and enjoy. How little I knew the strength it took to send your baby on a bus far away without you.
There definitely isn’t a one size fits all and as many times we’ve all said kids should come with a manual. They don’t.
I know! I looked all over the hospital before we left. Waiting months for one to arrive in the mail. No luck. 😉
Yes, there is no such thing as a perfect parent, as a new mommy I am learning this, and all parents and children are different. There are so many ways to be a great parent, so no need to try to be perfect.
I’m a member of your club, {raises hand}. Being a teacher, I thought my extensive background with kids gave me an edge over others and I’d be a way better parent than many. Motherhood has a way of teaching you lessons you’d never learn otherwise!
Hello Roxanne, I am Debra and I too am a recovering perfect parent!
“You are not an expert in my struggle” LOVE LOVE LOVE!
All Moms are applauding this post. 🙂 Trust me I was an obnoxious pre-kid person so I cringe when I think of all the “helpful” things I did. I try to give people grace though because I was once on that side.
LOL Yes, I vaguely remember that “perfect parent” stage, when I was still pregnant with my #1.
I identify with this so much! I, too, thought I was a perfect parent pre-parenthood. I’m a young mom so I’m surrounded by many who think so too. I love this article! It’s so true, the struggles ARE real.
I adore this. Parenting is such hard work and perfection is a myth. Thanks for sharing this.
Look I dont have kids and I know being a perfect parent is a facade. I hate to say it but even some of these mommy bloggers make parent look so easy and perfect family portraits and candid of perfect moments when that in itself is a lie. Parenthood is a basket of unpredictability and sacrifice I do understand even though I dont hav my own yet.
Oh I understood a whole lot. I grew up with a single mother and watched my sister struggle as a single mom too. But there are just somethings you can’t truly relate to until you’ve lived it. That applies to all parts of life, not just parenting. I agree some of the blogs make it look so easy and that’s why I started this blog. So, the rest of us can feel OK with our messy lives. 😉
SO true. I remember I would say “i will do this” or ” I will do that” or the famous line “not my child”. I am laughing because now I am doing opposite!
I think I a perception of what kind of parent I’d be…the cool one, although probably not perfect…when I was a teenager. I became a mom at a youngish age, and just took it from there. I think the experience of being a mom makes me think I have a “good way” of parenting, but far far far from perfect. lol
I definitely had a lot of ideas before I had kids, but after, I realized that I needed to just let the kids lead a little bit, and let go of a lot of my own expectations.
Ah, the glory years. I remember those days; when I was a parenting expert and the parents around me were just ignorant. {To be 20 again!} Then I had kids. Yep. Parenting is crazy.
Interesting! My HUSBAND doesn’t like taking vitamins until I discovered an adult version of gummy vitamins. Now I don’t even have to remind him!
I’m quite sure my babies (14,10,7) would all love these vitamins. I imagine they would cheer for these vitamins over our GREEN SHAKE. 😀
Happy Friday!
xo
My kids won’t take a green shake either. But, if I add blueberries and call it a purple shake. 😉
My son may like this. He is much of a vitamin taker.
I am not a parent yet but I do have nieces and nephews and I totally understand you, no one is perfect and it is our job as adults to try guide them. They may not like it or do what they are told but they will learn from you or on their own and will thank you when they are older. So we shouldn’t feel bad for trying to educate and guide our children.
These vitamins are so yummy I’d want to eat them all the time! LOL! Thanks for sharing. I would love to get these for my kid!
These vitamins look great! I think my kids would get a kick out of taking something called “smarty pants”!
I tried gummy adult vitamins and they were nasty! But I can understand the attraction of using them for kids, especially those who can’t swallow pills
I bet my kids would like these. I always start giving them vitamins and then get out of the routine and forget. My daughter is a picky eater and could use a vitamin I am sure.
i love the idea of this. and it applies to everything, not just parenting. no such thing as parent and you shouldn’t expect yourself to be.
I am loving the fact that another child gets vitamins when I buy but I’m not so quite loving the price. I buy gummies for my daughter because she’s too little for pills. I might have to get one just to try it.
I was using another organic gummy brand that was highly recommended by a dietitian friend of mine. My kids refused to eat them. *sigh* So, these are much more affordable for us (the other’s were over $20 a bottle).
This sounds like me if I became a parent #noshame haha I love your perspective–so fresh and honest!
I love the fact that the taste on these vitamins is so good. That is one of the things that deters kids and adults from taking vitamins, the fact that they don’t taste really good.
Awesome! I will definitely keep these in mind when my little one gets a little older! I also appreciate how affordable they are!
I love that they taste good (I’ve tried them myself), But I’m afraid my kids would try to eat them all since they taste like gummies. 🙂
We tried these and my kid hated them. But thats probably because he hates everything that isn’t pizza. We will try this again because it seems like a great product!
I’m obsessed with gummy vitamins. Which is weird because I’ve never even eaten gummy anything.
These vitamins would be brill for the kids I look after. They hate traditional vitamins but they would most likely enjoy these gummy vitamins.
I feel you. I have twin picky eaters that barely eat. I would love to try the Smarty Pants vitamins.
I have twin picky eaters too!! If you have any great tips to get them to eat, or any recipes with secret healthy ingredients let me know!
I have been looking for a new brand of vitamins for my kids! I love the sound of that angel program going to have to check these out!
This is a fun way to take gummies! This would definitely take over the Flinestone Vitamins I used to take in the 90s.
i am loving the name too – how clever. I am like you and could never find a vitamin that my daughter liked the taste of – maybe we should look at these now.
I love those kind of gummies! I didn’t know adult versions existed. I wish I could get these here.
I’m very similar about feeding my kids whole foods instead of vitamins, but we have been doing vitamins for a while now since I am sure I am missing something!
My son had the same speech problems. By 2 he could say 2 words and they were not even correct. “galk” for milk and ‘Kee’ for Mickey. We called speech ‘talking school’. That got him excited that he was going to school like his big brother. We never really focused on the fact it was for his speech. He is now 9 and doing great in school!
That’s good to hear! My daughter will be moving into a preschool that has continuing speech classes for her now that she’ll be over 3. She really likes it and I think she’ll be excited to go to school like her sisters.
As a public educator I have been around speech therapy for 25 years and I can say that my speech therapists were always the most kind and hard working people! I can understand the stigma, but think of it this way, if a child comes to school needing therapy and the parents didn’t provide it, well, you can understand how we might feel about that… you, on the other hand, are taking good care of your child’s needs!
@Terri Thanks for supporting Jennifer! I think it is so rare for other moms to stand up and say good job! We need to hear that most in those moments we are second guessing ourselves.
My youngest started Early Intervention at 18 months and aged out at age 3. Then he went into private therapy after that for about a year. It never crossed my mind that it was something to be embarrassed about – a lot of kids need extra help.
Before this I worked for about 7 years with kids and families receiving early intervention. Every single parent processes their kids need for services differently. Some parents blame themselves, some become proactive and turn over every rock to get help. My twins needed EI at at age 2 and even though I knew how beneficial those services are, I kept feeling like I did something wrong.
In my head I know it’s nothing to be embarrassed about. I had to have physical therapy for my hips when I was a baby, and I know plenty of kids, multiples especially, that needed help.
My personality just makes me want to say that everything is fine, and I have a hard time asking for help. I don’t know. It’s a weird thing.
As someone who has speech problems I love that you’re doing whatever you can for your daughter. I had a pretty bad stutter as a kid and even now sometimes still have it. I wish more had been available for me as a kid, so don’t be embarrassed, embrace it!
My son took after his mama and had to have speech therapy. Now he talks all the time when he is with friends.
I’m glad she is doing well in therapy. Perhaps like one of the other commenters above state, it would be beneficial to call it school.
I think that feeling is common, especially when there is so much judgement and so little support amongst moms these days!
I think you hit the nail on the head! Everyone is so quick to criticize I think it makes it hard for us to live more open.
This is more common that one thinks. I don’t see anything wrong with therapy. You are helping. Thank goodness there is help for this!
My twin boys had speech therapy. I loved it. It was like play time for them. Plus the therapist came to our house so I had an hour to myself. They learned so much so quickly.
My twins had OT/PT in our home. I was alone for 3 glorious hours per week. My house was so clean. 😉
My daughter is in speech therapy and it was definitely hard for her. She has a hole in her palette so s’s and x’s are hard. The progress is amazing though. She almost has it figured it and she’s only been in for a few months.
This is something we are dealing with now. My 5 year old has severe trouble with the R sound, and while we don’t have any trouble understanding him, others do sometimes. There definitely is a stigma involved with speech therapy.
Love your supportive advice for moms. Its always important to take things in stride and not be too judgemental about yourself or others.
Karen | GlamKaren.com
I think it can be hard to deviate from what you thought was going to happen, but I am glad you opened up for help from family and friends!
I’m going through an issue with my 15-year-old that required me to get over my embarrassment too. I understand where you are and I appreciate you for sharing your story!
If we could just overcome mom guilt, we could rule the world! We are our own worst enemies.
I think it is a common response to Mom’s to be embarrassed when things aren’t perfect with out kids. We all have ideas about how things should be.
I was talking to my husband about this last night. I need this book.
I’m glad your daughter is doing well with speech therapy! It’s totally understandable to have a little catch in the back of your mind when you first start doing any sort of therapy for your kids — we all want to be perfect mamas and if something needs a little extra ooomph we feel like we should just be able to fix it ourselves (and we also feel sort of like a failure if we can’t do it). We’re so lucky to have an abundance of professionals to consult with and there is no shame in drawing on those resources. =)
That’s exactly it – I feel bad it’s something I can’t fix myself, but that is why we have professionals. Thanks for helping me put into words another part of how I feel 🙂
I think almost every mama suffers from some sort of guilt – I need to look into this one.
I can relate. That was my 2nd son, the one who is autistic. My 2 older kids all started speaking right on time with an extensive vocabulary but my son was able to string a sentence and was barely intelligible. No one knows your child like you do so I was able to get him the services he needed. My youngest Madison was also in speech therapy but she’s doing great now. Kids develop differently because now I’m like “don’t you ever stop talking”.
Sounds like a great book. I would love to have read it when I was a first time mom.
I’m glad your daughter is getting the therapy she needed and is doing so well. Another year and I bet it will all be practically forgotten.
I’m not a mom. But I see so many friends talk about mommy guilt, so I think they would really like this book!
Great advice fro mamas. You totally inspired me today.
Guilt can be so crippling, it’s important to recognize it and deal with it before it becomes part of your identity.
This sounds really fantastic! I am adding it to my to read pile this summer for sure!
I’ve always said that you’re amazing as long as you’re doing what you need to do for your kids. That’s all your kids need. I know my kids love that I am there for them and I have no mommy guilt. I used to but learned early that no parent is perfect.
I love this book. Every new mom should have it next to the diapers.
Someone very near and dear told me when my son, my first born, was 6 months old, to just follow my gut! I have listened to my own heart every since – even when friends told me otherwise
I believe that being a mum is something we can all make mistakes at – nobody is perfect and we should all know that. Great post and giveaway 🙂
Its so hard to let go of trying to be perfect, especially with how much judgement gets served out on a daily basis on social media. What I’ve found is that moms love to hear about your imperfect moments because they can relate in some way or another. We’re all far from perfect anyway 😉
I love the idea of embracing my imperfections as a parent. After all, parenting doesn’t come with a handbook and it is not easy.
When I was pregnant with my daughter, I had the perfect parent concept down pat. I’ve read almost every parent magazine and blog there is. Then she was born and the word perfect was a figment of my imagination. Good post!
I wish I had seen this book when I just started. That’s when I was buying books like Mommy Guilt by armloads. In eight years I found my sailor’s feet and got to a comfortable and cozy spot. But I’m glad to hear that there are more authors and experts out there who propagate the idea that perfection is a dream.
So funny that I just did a post on this! I am suffering from mommy guilt lately but I am trying to shake it off!
LOL – love the pee in the parking lot story as I am sure we have all done something a little questionable but who cares! As long as we are taking our kids’ best interest to heart it’s all good 😉
I have a hard time letting go of guilt as a mother. I am going to work on this.
This is such an important read! I’m so happy that your little one is doing well in speech therapy. I totally understand why it can be hard to accept needing help, I’ve been in a similar situation myself, now it’s just the funds to get the help now that I’ve accepted I need it!
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Mommy guilt is definitely a real
Thing. I think all moms go through guilt once in awhile but we just have to keep reminding ourselves that we are doing the best we can.
Ugh, I am notorious for forgetting my lip balm when I go to the beach and then I end up with burnt lips. And that is no fun at all.
I have my favorite sun protectant protect. I like products that don’t contain too many chemicals. That Mary Kay one would be great though for those who prefer to have a more made-up look.
Nothing beats a good sunscreen in my book. And when you don’t have one of those, a good tube of aloe vera.
I love your summer SPF selections! I already use the Kiss My Face and it’s amazing stuff! I am so curious about Mary Kay’s CC cream with an SPF 15. I want to try that too!
Due to medication and cancer, I can’t have long exposure with the sun and when I just have to go out, I cover myself with an SPF 100. Crazy.
Love Kiss My Face. They have some wonderful products for kids.
I don’t leave the house without sunscreen on my face all year. I wish I would have done this when I was younger.
I don’t leave the house without sunscreen. after my cancer scare i learned.
I love these products. Coming into the hottest part of the year, I def need to stock up.
I agree, sometimes we forget that just by being outside we should be wearing sun protection. I like the lip balm.
I was just thinking I needed to buy more tinted sunscreen. I’d like to try the lip balm.
I think every mom needs a little get away like this from time to time. When I go away with the girls, we usually head up to Maine or NH 🙂
Wonderful! I think it is so nice to be able to get a break like this and go away for a few days, of course with a friend you have experienced so much with already makes it the cherry on top. I had a getaway with friends to Barcelona and if was only for two nights with friends and I missed my hubby and little one but was much needed.
This looks like fun! Plan to make this with kids soon. Thank you for sharing.
I always wear a tinted sunscreen, it works so well for my face and keeps my makeup light too!
After constant being busy I think every Mom deserve a gateaway like this. Glad that you had a fabolous gateaway, and share valuables tips for other Moms.
Glad you got some mom-only time! Looks like a fun place to relax, especially the winery!
Karen | GlamKaren.com
That was my favorite stop!????
I have not been away overnight at all, not without my kids though. Maybe once they are all off on their own I can venture off. I am trying to save all that for when the house is empty and I wont have much to do lol.
Not every mom feels like they need to take time away and that’s OK. It worked well for us!
It’s getting to that time of year isn’t it? I know I walked the dog today and it was 85° so summer is definitely here! I use sunscreen, don’t like the smell but I use it.
That sounds like a fun time. I could really use a break myself. My daughter is grown, but my blog is my baby now. I need a little break from it. Lake George looks like a nice spot to take a break!
This is a wonderful idea to give mom a break. It’s only one night. Everyone will be fine without us for one night.
Thankfully the earth was still spinning the next day! (And not because if the wine) ????
I always make sure to wear sunscreen if I’m going to be out in the sun for extended periods of time, especially in the summer. I also always try to wear makeup that has SPF as well!
Oh my gosh, I love this so much! I need a night away from the kids too!
I go with some girlfriends on a weekend trip once a year and we love it. It is so nice to relax and get re-energized.
YES!!! Girls trip for the win. It is always so therapeutic to get away just for a little bit. Also, those chocolate bears are adorable.
They were truffles! So good!
Looks like you had a great time. Everyone needs to getaway and relax every so often.
I agree!????
I have always wanted to take my kids here! Looks so beautiful! I was there when I was like 2, but I don’t remember!
I can’t wait to take my kids back! They are going to love it! There is a family fun center with a carousel and arcade. Plus beaches. I can’t wait!
Great post! It sounds like such an awesome event. The tips are helpful, too. I’d love to check it out this year.
Hope you can make it! It’s an amazing event!
Love letting my kids jump in muddy puddles.
Sounds like an amazing event! We love muddy puddles at our house!
I used to read the Super Ty blog. So happy Cindy was able to make Muddy Puddles a reality! My kids would love to join this awesome fun!!
I am terrible at remembering sunscreen. Thanks so much for sharing.
The slate plate had a great collection of goodies on it and I especially love the chocolate bears. Girls nights are the best!
What a wonderful night away. I lvoe to travel to new places.
These are all great picks to protect your skin from the sun. We all know how important it is. I always try to use SPF lotions even if I am not going to the beach. If I am going to be outside for a long time I always make sure I am using SPF
I really need to pick up some tinted moisturizer! I’m very pale, so I burn in no time.
Sounds blissful! I remember when I was in my 20’s I used to see single women in food courts of malls and think, “Nobody is sitting with her… sad!” now I know that mom has finally escaped her chaos for a brief lunch and nobody should bother her! Just give her a thumbs up! Good for you Mom! Now I’m that mom! Sitting alone in a restaurant, content in my complete silence!
I can’t believe I’m this excited to let my son get super dirty in a big muddy puddle!!!
I can’t believe I look forward to letting my kids get completely covered in mud, paint, powder, bubbles and whipped cream (all at once) EVERY SUMMER! 🙂
First of all, I love the post title..especially “everyone survives.” Also, it looks like y’all had a fabulous time!
We did thank you! That was intended to put other moms at ease. I have so many friends afraid to leave the kids home with hubby because he won’t know what to do. He will figure it out!
I try to get outside for at least 20 minutes for the vitamin D, but then I use a BB cream that has SPF in it, and I love that.
I adore tinted moisturizer. It is such a life saver for me on a daily basis.
Those are some great tips. I have taken a day off without the family before and it all turned out ok. BTW after hearing about the motel, I’m not sure I’d want to stay there. 🙂
These are great selections! I’ve gotten way more into skin protection for myself so I’ll definitely be checking these out!
Mom’s only getaways are soothing and necessary! It looks like you all had a great time!
Would love to attend a wine tasting, something every woman must do with a friend. Looks like you had a great time 🙂
I am at a lacrosse tournament this weekend and I used about 40 pounds of sunscreen. I am hitting the stores in a few because I need more. I will try this brand. I am a huge lip sunscreen user . Lucky me , burn and never tan
Muddly puddles were my favorite as a child. I love when my lo jumps in them!
What an amazing event! Love the photo of you and your son happy and muddy????
I am a huge supporter of letting your kids get dirty! It’s one of the pure joys of childhood, and it’s nothing that a bath can’t fix.
We embrace muddy puddles here! And we LOVE the Mess Fest!!!!!!!!!!
My kids are outside all summer long and frankly, most of the winter, too. If it’s above 32 degrees, they are outside and I love keeping them as active as possible.
My kids are book worms and I try to get them to at least read OUTSIDE. But depends on the day. I’d love for them to love being outside as much as I do.
Thank you for letting me guest post today! My own words were good for me to read, because my kids are downstairs watching Netflix right now. Time for breakfast and a bike ride!
I love having your guest posts! Some days I have to remind myself it may be easier for me to let the kids sit in front of Netflix, but at some point in the day I am going to pay for it!
summer vacation is coming up and I’ll have to do this with mine. although I get them up early now before school and get them jumping on the trampoline. Helps wake them up.
That is the cutest little bike! I love getting outside with the kids because it gets me going too!
I love keeping all of my kids active too. It is hard on days when it is 100+ degrees, other than of course swimming time. They are all so much better when they get activity.
I agree! My kids go to bed easier and fall asleep quicker.
Excellent post. As an educator we see this effect in the taking away of recess minutes. Our boys are feeling it. We need to be careful of what we create!
Yes! Whenever my kids are whiny, I know they haven’t been outside enough. I try to send them out first thing in the morning and let them in when they have run around for a long long time 🙂
What a fun looking event and such a great cause <3
I make sure my boys are outside quite a bit! It is getting harder now that they are 9 and 12 – they are running out of ideas. I need to come up with some stuff for them to do this summer!
I am the favorite aunt in the family because when I babysit the kids come home exhausted, but in great moods. Getting out and doing things is always a success!
You took the thoughts out of my head this morning as I was out for my daily walk after I walk the 2 younger ones to school. I have 3 sons and was thinking that I’ll need to take them with me every morning. It helps me focus on what I need to get done and they need to get some wigglies out. I totally hear you on the Netflix thing. Nothing good comes from letting my boys veg all day.
I have a 9 month old so he’s not really out and about yet, but I can’t wait until he gets to the age where he wants to run around outside! Right now I just take him on walks and we’re starting a swim class soon. I figure we’ve got to start him young. 🙂
I have a 13 month old son and we are always outside for at least 2 hours playing in his pool and water table! Plus our walks with the pups and when we go for runs a couple times a week! Being outside is a natural mood lifter too, saved me from sever postpartum depression!!!
My kids are also more pleasant when I get them out and moving early in the day! It can change the whole pace of the day.
When my twin boys were little I made sure we got out of the house and to a park by 9am. At 9am the chaos started and whining, etc. I still make sure we go do things outside everyday.
I just wrote about this recently, too. Getting outside is so important these days. Not just for kids but also for us adults.
I don’t have any kids yet, but whenever I babysit my cousins I make sure to keep them as active as possible. They want to stay in and play video games, but after a fun day of activities, they always thank me in the end. Plus I’m a happy camper because they’ve used up all their energy and just want to watch a movie and cuddle by the end of the day!
We practically live outside during the summer. My boys are so active and in turn, I am as well. It definitely makes us a happier bunch!
Nothing helps my son grow then to be outside and running around. Experiencing the outdoors, exploring, camping is so awesome! Now if us New Yorkers could keep the snow away to enjoy it that would be great.
I guess it makes sense because exercise allows the heart to get pumping and fill you with adrenaline. Its a great way of staying active.
EiR NYC sounds like my kind of brand! I use witch hazel daily for cleaning my face; I’m sure the smell of witch hazel, aloe, and sage is amazing.
I’d love to try the Uplifting Butter, it sounds awesome.
Witch hazel is great stuff and I love the smell of sage so I can imagine it would make the house smell good. I’d be dubious of a magic lotion curing my cellulite!
I love it when I can find a local company that carries my favorites. Uplifting Butter sounds like a great product. I’ve always been a huge fan of body butters.
It smells great and goes on super smooth!
wow these sound like some interesting products. I like the idea of the spray for sure that you can use in different places
I love products that multi-task!
I definitely have those kinds of days when a shower just isn’t going to happen, so I will make sure to think of Eir NYC next time I’m looking to buy something to freshen up for those days!
It’s amazing how this refresh product from Eir NYC works as sanitizer as well. That’s the kind of product I love to have in my bag everytime I go out.
I just saw these in the store and wondered what the heck they were for! I should pick up a couple for our vacation, you never know where your going to end up!
Great idea to keep the hotel room fresh!
This sounds fantastic! Something I would love to keep in my car to help sanitize things. I am going to have to pick some up!
Ooohh! And I bet the fragrance isn’t really overpowering and perfumey like so many others that I have smelled. I love this!
Not perfumey at all!
Last year I had to force my daughter to play outside! This year total opposite thank goodness!!! She loves to be outside.
I’ve never heard of this company before but the product sounds ok. I wished they had sent the full product so you could really give real time results as someone who is purchasing but you said it felt softer over time so that’s a plus.
I’m still using it! The small sample is surprisingly long lasting! I still can’t tell major results, but definitely smoother!
We had SO much fun at this event last year. My girls love getting good and muddy and there really is no better cause!
What a great event! My daughter would be thrilled!! Looks awesome!
This looks awesome!
First I love your blog name and photo! We’re doing the same with our kids. We shut off cable and are forcing them to play outside all summer! Like we used to! 🙂
I want to go…I guess my daughter can come 🙂
It really is as much fun for the grown ups as it is the kids.
This seems like a great event! If only I was closer to NY haha.
My son also loves to jump in mud puddles, and when we were in Alaska found some that went half way to his knees. At first I kept telling him not to get wet, then figured he might as well have fun and enjoy it. He did 🙂
A lovely post Debra, being a Mum is so hard, and we are often overlooked when people ask us how the baby is doing, and I am very guilty of hiding my struggles. I have been known to answer the question “How is the little one doing?” by saying I’m fine. Your list of points is brilliant, just having a helping pair of hands, or a cup of tea made for you can make the world of difference. I hope it’s getting easier for you. Claire x #triballove
Thank you Claire! As the days pass life is becoming more manageable. There is some form of schedule. Simple gestures make days nicer.
I love this. We all could definitely use help, even if it’s just a quick text to check in. It’s nice to know someone is thinking of you.
I agree!
Aw…what a really thoughtful post for moms! Its so true and its so helpful to be really aware of others around us and how we can help – or be helped/supported in day to day stuff. Just that one check-in or coffee can make a world of difference.
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It truly does! I think any human struggling needs to know someone cares. But I remember how isolating and lonely it can be as a mom.
Moms are superheroes! They definitely deserve help whereever we can give them. Great post.
Thank you Thuli. I completely agree that we are superheros. I mean once a baby is born all the new abilities we gain we never new we had are amazing!
I love this, especially the idea about meeting at the park to chat while the kids play. I really feel like play dates are often more for the mom than for the kids, lol.
I agree!
These are great to remember and everyone will at some point be struggling. It’s important to be aware of it and ask for help if you are struggling.
Some people just have a hard time asking for help. I try to offer right away so moms know I am available.
Children are such easy distractors. I’ll keep that in mind when I see my neighbors with young children. I want them to know that I care about them as mothers, as much as I care about their children.
Terri that is truly amazing of you to care!
I love this post because I can totally relate to it. I am always smiling on the outside but inside you don’t want to know what’s going on. You’re absolutely right, we can all use a little help.
I am right there with you Amanda. I hide things very well. On this particular Sunday I was at my limits. Sometimes the kindest of words helps give a little relief.
Great ideas to really bless a fellow mom. I think taking some time to talk together while taking a walk with strollers or for coffee is always so helpful to just be with a friend.
What a great mom idea. Stroller rides and a talk will be added to my list of simple gestures. Thank You!
Great post and tips. We could all use a little more love as moms sometimes and have preople really see us.
I agree 100%
I love this! I think one of my biggest struggles as a mom is just that it often feels like no one sees me any more.
You’re not alone! I hear so many moms say this.
I love this! I need to meet up at the park more often. It’s hard with the humidity of Atlanta.
Got any fun indoor play places? Or kids big enough for a splash pad/water park? Even pushing strollers through the mall in the a/c or hosting play dates at home can give moms (and kids) a break.
I never thought I’d be a mother. And so I had no expectations of myself however now as a mother. I get it. I get the perfect parenting. And how things don’t always work out. Great post.
I think that as women we all need to be more supportive of one another. I love the idea of coffee dates, I often invite my mom friends over – I wish they were free more often!
I know! Even stay at home moms are difficult to schedule!
So much yes to this list!!! I will admit I’ve been the struggling mom before trying to balance it all and I would of died from happiness if someone offered to help even if it was only watching my daughter for 5 minutes while I took a deep breath lol…
Sundays are my deep breath days when the kids go to the nursery and Sunday School. I get to do nothing but just listen to the sermon. Best Days!
This is such a beautifully raw post! I love it. I was just chatting with my sister-in-law about “parenting” and how it’s easy to talk about being a parent until you actually ARE a parent with real kids and real issues. haha. Then things change. =) I love your writing style. It is engaging and clever. Thanks for being so awesome!
What a wonderful box of gifts. I can totally relate the mombie list!
I always see Fat-Fit-Fun on Facebook and was curious who actually tried it out! You never know what actually comes…ya know? Loving what you received in your box, especially that necklace!
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I am amazed at how inexpensive the subscription box rate is compared to the actual retail value of all the products. Some great stuff in there!
I think being an ear they can talk to is a really good way to help. Sometimes, you just need to vent, ask questions, gain reassurance, etc. every now and then.
I agree!
I always try to help out my sisters one is already a mommy of a ten years old and my other sister is expecting her first baby in august and I am always texting them even if its just to ask how their day is going. Begin a mom is no easy task but someone has to do it right. I think I will love being a mom 🙂
You will Leslie! As much as we say it’s a struggle the pay off is even greater. Otherwise, why would moms keep doing this? 😉
Motherhood is the best and most wondrous thing to ever happen to me. Even with the struggles.
What a great piece! I remember almost being skipped at communion because the cup bearer was so busy looking at my baby girl. She was the same person who later wrote me the most kind and compassionate letter when I told her I was suffering from postpartum depression. We DO get caught up in the adorable little faces of our friends’ babies, but gosh what opportunities we have to connect with the new mamas. You’ve laid out some great ideas here. Thank you for writing this!
Oh no! I am glad that she was able to send some comfort during your difficult time. It is funny but this is not the direction I was originally going but I am glad this is how the article ended. Thank You!
Yes, this is oh so true. A lot of us moms just put on a brave face because we want to appear okay.
Yes. However letting others in is important too. Too much of holding in our stressors wear us down.
Oh my goodness! I love literally everything in that box! I just got a box of bath bombs I have yet to try mostly because it’s one of those things I wanna save for a special occasion and might end up never using them. But I definitely want to give this fab-fit-fun a go! Thanks!
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Don’t forget to use the discount code above if you try! Also, this particular box has sold out twice! So what they put in here is practically gold! 😉
Being able to help each other out is so important. We go through so much as moms, and lending a helping hand out to a fellow mom could mean the world of difference to them!
So true Cathy!
I fall into all the categories of “mombie” you mentioned, especially wearing my maternity pants too long. Haha. FabFitFun sounds really neat. I have never heard of it before. You get such a wide selection of things. Ps. I wouldn’t share those bath balms either!! This is something I need to look into.
Don’t forget to use the discount code mentioned above if you decided to try it out!
You have convinced me that I need this box in my life. I am a subscription box junkie and this looks awesome. Going to give it a try!
I LOVE FFF boxes. I got a few of them. I really want a few of the items in this box, so maybe I should get myself one! LOL I think they’re a great gift idea too!
Looks like a great selection of products. I would love to have the herb garden. Clicked on the link but it’s not loading. I’ll try again later.
That herb garden is the cutest thing ever! I am going to have to look into this one. I have a subscription box problem for sure!
My daughter would LOVE this box. I think I might subscribe and surprise her. Thanks for the fab fit fun review.
Oh I’ve used that marakesh argan oil, so good! I love subscription boxes so I’ll have to check this one out, thanks for the unboxing!
I love monthly subscription boxes. This one looks great. Some great products to try!
This is a subscription box I’ve really been wanting to try. It looks like you got some really great stuff!
I have been thinking about getting this box, but wasn’t sure how I would like it. This looks like a great box though! I especially love the herbs kit – and I know nothing about contouring either 🙂
These are all great ideas on ways to reach out. Sometimes we worry too much about offering the help when people may just be too worried to ask.
Personally I am not a person to ask for anything. However when offered I usually accept the offering be it a cup of coffee or grown up talk time.
Thank you for sharing this Debra. So many of the little things we think won’t be a big deal can really help a mom have a better day.
I completely agree. The little things mean so much more than a grand gesture. I find it less overwhelming that if somebody offers to say come clean my house…..
But then again at this point I would take the help.
This looks like a great box! I really think I would love the herbs kit!
It is the small things that count especially with the big changes having a new born. X #bigpinklink
This box looks really good, I have seen them advertised a lot on pinterest and always curious about what is inside! Love it
I’ve never tried anything to keep them from chewing, but my oldest son is the worst with this! I am still telling him at ten years old to take the Lego out of his mouth! He was also my pacifier kid so maybe that has something to do with it? But yeah kids are crazy. ????
It’s definitely moving to see the reality of kids having to practice protecting themselves in their own school. My views on gun control are probably unpopular but I do believe in making changes and doing better. Whatever our political and social views I know that we are all moved by our children. Hate is very real. And we don’t want our children to be victim to it.
I agree Carolina!
I agree with you…I am scared every day for my teen to go to school. It seems like it can happen anywhere and I am not sure if change will ever come. Thank you for sharing this and encouraging others to share as well.
I agree with Carolina, Hate is real but honestly the “bad guys” are still going to get their hands on a gun whatever means possible and they are going to do what they intend on doing. I’m all for Gun education and getting military grade weapons out of the hands of the public but as a woman and a mother you bet your bottom dollar I am going to get my PAL and learn how to protect myself and my babies.
I totally get that bad guys will always find a way. I just feel we shouldn’t make it so easy for them. And if we really want to protect our kids why not give them better than bathroom drills? We put locks on lesser things. Where ever we stand on guns and gun control I think we can agree our kids deserve better. ❤
Oh my goodness, I literally gasped out loud when I read when the little girl was doing. I can’t even imagine. I have 6 young children, but they are homeschooled. It is so incredibly sad that this is the state our system is in, and that our precious kids are the victims. No child should ever have to be put in that position of practicing for what is going to be a common occurrance of violence in what is supposed to be a safe environment. It is just so heartbreaking.
Very powerful post! Thanks for sharing.
I have to say that I do not think making stricter gun laws will help. Bad guys will always get weapons.If people are going to kill, they will use whatever they have to do so whether it be poisons, slow cookers, knives, whatever.Most of these people obtain guys illegally anyhow. On another note, I do not think anyone needs assault riffles unless they are military.
It is so sad that this is happening in our schools, but I think it’s good to be prepared! Regardless of what the laws say, bad guys will still find ways to do horrible things.
I agree being prepared is a good thing. But, there has to be better ways to prepare our kids and staff than training them to be a victim. 🙁 Perhaps we should look at ways of keeping them out of our schools and not make it so easy to get in. Perhaps mandatory back ground checks for gun purchases would help reduce the body count or the amount of suicides. It took one reporter 7 minutes to purchase a military grade weapon. I think when we say things like, “it’s just going to happen no matter what we do” is accepting this as the new normal. I just can’t do that. 🙁
Forgive me, this may get long. I want to give you another perspective as a now 40 year old woman who grew up around guns and who has guns in her house. Disclaimer: my father was military and former law enforcement – an arms expert. My husband is a former cop and former military – arms expert.
I grew up in a home where guns weren’t for “killing”. They were a way to put food on the table and for protection. I grew up where there was an EXTREMELY healthy respect for guns and I wasn’t overly curious because my dad didn’t hide it from us. He educated us.
My grandmother (paternal) lived to be 92. Had she not had her gun, she wouldn’t have been past her 60’s. After my grandfather died in 1991 two men broke into her home to rape and rob her. It was between them and her gun. The gun won. I give thanks for that, still. She has since passed, but she was allowed a full, long life – thanks to a gun.
I am a gang rape survivor. I was a child when it happened (eleven). I live knowing that horrid, wretched violence and I can promise you that if someone broken into my home or tried to do that to me again I know thanks to guns I’d have a fighting chance.
I know if someone tried to hurt my stepchildren I could protect them – thanks to guns. I know I have ninety pounds of meat in the freezer and won’t go hungry – because of guns.
That written, both my husband and I feel there should be better laws and regulations. We feel that magazines with no greater than ten rounds of ammo should be banned from sales to civilians and we feel gun education should be mandatory. But because he is a former cop he is also well aware if criminals want guns, they’ll get them regardless of any laws we impose.
We are not right learning conservatives (in fact we are independents who lean very left), but I just ask that you look at it in its entirety. It broke my heart, too, when my ten year old stepdaughter – then nine – told me they have lockdown drills at school for active shooters.
And if it ever came down to someone trying to hurt your child, I could almost guarantee, without a second thought YOU’D pull the trigger to protect them.
(When my husband was a cop, his colleague was shot by a ten year old child who broke into his dad’s gun case. TEN. In addition, I am a Florida native with a gay niece who did a Facebook video on the Orlando shootings. My very good friend checked in on “safe” as Facebook because he was Pulse that night. I broke down into tears on the ground in the middle of my event in Colorado because of it, so please know gun violence has touched our lives, too).
Thank you so much for sharing! Guns are a huge part of the tiny town where I grew up. My parents had guns and used to spend date nights target practicing. My family has a long line of hunters providing food for our family. All the guns I’ve been around have always been properly cared for and the users have been properly trained. Guns are so well respected that the entire 20 years I grew up in that town there wasn’t a single stranger on stranger crime. So I totally believe guns have a purpose and a place. I agree with you that what we have access to on the open market (non military/police) should be limited. I don’t believe anyone needs a military grade weapon in their home. I am certainly not asking anyone responsibly caring for and living with their guns to give them up. I just think it should be a lot more difficult for someone on the street with a history to get their hands on that powerful of a weapon.
Too bad, the gun control bills wasn’t passed by the senate. So disappointing.
Very disappointing!
I saw that news in Australia and it definitely was food for thought. We don’t have this drill for kids here (not that I know of anyway!). Thanks for sharing your thoughts in this post.
Before I’m a blogger, I’m a forensic scientist. The sad truth of the matter is that laws exists for law-abiding citizens. Those of us who will follow laws anyway follow them. The criminal population, well, they don’t care what the law is, they’ll find a way to get guns.
Having seen the worst things humans can do to other humans, I fear for our children’s future in this country. We can never prepare for the unknown.
I completely understand that. But, there has to be a better option to secure our children at school than giving them drills to prepare to be a victim. We are essentially training them to be victims. We can never prepare for the unknown and we never know what the day is going to bring, but it just feels like if we accept this as the normal things will only get worse from here.
This post is so heartbreaking. Our children will no longer grow up in a world of innocence. We thought after the world wars the children did not need to be raised in a world of fear but I guess we didn’t learn well enough. ????
I don’t know how things got so broken, but I know there are some powerful decision makers who can make positive change!
I can’t imagine anyone reading this post and not feeling it deeply. I will never give up trying to make a difference but situations like this, too often, make me feel helpless to do anything to make a change.
I know it can feel so overwhelming. I feel like bombarding our reps with calls and msgs will keep the heat on them and hopefully push forward.
It’s hard to know the right way to make situations like Sandy Hook and Orlando never happen again. It definitely seems like better care for the mental ill and more gun control would be a great start.
I also thinking funding poured into our educational facilities for security could be a good start too. Why should we make the targets and victims deal with all the stress and struggle? 🙁
Wow…a three year old. I have a three year old and can’t imagine her innocence being destroyed like this. It is horrifying and something has to be done.
I completely agree!! I know people are still going to kill people and by any means necessary, but there has to be more options than this!
That post broke me too. I cannot even imagine telling a 3 year old to hide in a bathroom stall and be quiet!
I am constantly worried for the children’s safety as well. My daughter is in high school and has had to go through many drills on what to do in case a shooter comes into the school. Many schools around us have been on lock down several times due to students carrying guns, and bomb threats.
I think there is a lot of wisdom in doing drills with your kids in case of an active shooter situation but I also agree with you that we should take a stand against violence and let our voices be known about it!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and opening up the doors to have our voices heard. Very touching post.
It is terrifying to know our children must practice saving himself during a shoot out. We live near Orlando and that was a horrible moment but what is worst was knowing after all the school shooting our town actually had a drill to prepare kids. It was terrifying.
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Two weeks ago I remember overhearing my co-worker talk to her daughter, who is studying in UCLA, and she was so worried and tense. There’s been a shooting in her school and her daughter, along with a few students, locked themselves in the bathroom. Goodness! Really can’t believe this dilemma facing us parents, now matter how old our children are! 🙁
Thank you for writing this powerful post. I share your strong feelings and have also been contacting representatives, donating $, posting on FB and tweeting…I feel a constant need to be doing something, anything to address this issue.
I don’t understand the argument that bad people will always find a way to get a gun. Even if one attack is prevented by banning assault weapons, isn’t that alone worth it?? Why have any laws at all if we think they won’t be obeyed?
I respect the rights of responsible gun owners to own guns. I certainly understand wanting to have them to protect oneself and one’s family.
I agree with limiting magazine capacity if semi automatic weapons can’t be outright banned.
Mental health resources are pathetic in this country and need a major overall. We need programs in our schools and better treatment for all ages. We need to eliminate the stigma associated with all types of mental health conditions. Sandy Hook Promise is a wonderful organization working on gun violence on multiple fronts.
This is not just about outside terrorists or Americans influenced by ISIS or Al Queda. This is also about homegrown white supremisists, prejudice and hatred against all minority groups, not to mention people murdering members of their family on a daily basis!! It is just insane the number of guns easily obtained in this country by people who have no business having them!
And then the accidental shootings! I could go on and on and on. We have so much work to do and it will be a long fight but i refuse to just throw my hands up in the air!
This is such a sweet article, Diedre. I don’t have children yet, but being an aunt to many I can attest that my older sisters have adjusted their friendships, at least when the kids were younger. It’s always great if you have other friends in similar situations who understand!
Sadly, I am a worst friend after having kids and starting a new job. I have less time to hang out and talk. I admire those who can balance it all.
It is amazing how much life changes with kids. I do that yell mid sentence thing too . It is so funny to see people’s faces when it happens.
It’s always a laugh trying to finish any sentence during a play date.
I can relate to all of these. My daughter is 3 and I long for the days when I can enjoy a slow meal out again.
I’m in the time of my life where I am the “other friend.” No kids, no distractions, but I have been there, so I don’t worry about it too much!
I would be lost without texting! I, too, used to spend a lot of time on the phone when I was feeding infants but now, text is teh only way to communicate with friends in my hectic day!
I am a lot of these things now too. I hardly ever call anymore, texts are much easier.
My friends say I’ve become more observant ever since I became a mom and they also claim that my need to clean stuff has also increased! It’s quite funny when you realize the changes once your become a parent.
The goldfish printables made. my. day. Thank you! I’m working on phonics with my 3-year-old AND she loves goldfish, so it’s a win win. I also love the tip for using the yoga ball to help with focus. Do you use a smaller ball? My kiddo is tiny, so she can’t actually sit on our ball.
I have used one of the larger kick ball sized balls you get at Target, with a small kids table. As long as her feet can touch the floor to help keep her balance. I am upgrading to a yoga ball soon since my kids are so tall (they have at $5 Below store).
You’ve got a lot of great ideas here, but I especially like the goldfish crackers. Hmm, maybe I should try it as an adult.
Love the goldfish printable!
All wonderful tips! Love the watercolor idea.
I can completely relate to all of this!! It is fun when you meet moms that become friends with the same habits you have!
There are some friends I have never ever spoken on the telephone with. 🙂
I text a lot simply because I don’t want my friends to hear me yelling at my kids.
When my boys where little we didn’t have cell phones with built in cameras. I often feel that I missed a lot of great picture opportunities.
Haha!!! This is totally me. Text more than talks, check. Yells mid-sentence, check. I love this post!
I changed so much after I had my kid. You’re right about all of these points.
I love this article! Every single word of it is true! Thank goodness friends can pick up right where we left off because sometimes it can be a month in between having time for each other.
There is a combination of humor and a lot of truth with this. That makes it a great read!
I think that a cleaning service/person is a great idea and one that can help you. It gets your place clean and saves your energy for your kids! Really a great plan…
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I love the cleaning service idea! My parents used to do the same thing during the summer, of course we still had out own chores to do as well! Great post xx
Very good tips! Especially the cleaning service/person. We definitely need a break from the never ending clean ups. There are days when I feel like “what’s the point? It’ll get messy again”.
Another tip I think could be relevant is “it’s okay to ask for help” like asking if a friend or family could babysit for a day while you have some alone time. Either to soak in the tub, or go shopping, whatever you need. Everyone needs some time to recharge.
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That’s a lot to do for the summer! I normally ask my kids to help out but it would be nice to hire a cleaning lady too, they know better about cleaning anyway. I love the last one. Every mom deserves a break every once in a while!
Wow, curbside grocery shopping must be a complete lifesaver. I use PeaPod and it has been such a time saver having groceries delivered to me. A mom I know actually cleans houses for a little extra cash every so often, so I agree, it’s absolutely possible to hire someone to clean your house for an affordable price-point.
Oh my gosh YES!
Cute post! I love how we can be talking to our friends, scream mid-sentence at our kids about interrupting us and jump right back into what we were saying! The best thing is we totally get it:)
I would love a cleaning person! I really would LOL. Giving myself a break is my current summer life hack though!
You deserve down time too! I know it can be hard to come by as a parent!
I would lvoe to have a cleaning lady even for one day a month to help with deep cleaning. There are so many things that really need a deep cleaning this summer.
I hire for a deep clean at the end of summer. By then the house has been abused by the muddy tracks and mysterious wet puddles.
These are awesome tips! I love the laundry tip! I can’t wait till my little one is big enough to put her own laundry away!
It’s a big help when they can do things for themselves. But, enjoy every second of her being too little!
A cleaning lady is such a good idea! There is so much more SAND around here during the summer! We haven’t had nearly enough baths because we’re always out late. Last weekend we went 2 nights straight without a bath! :-X
Pool time and runs through the sprinkler totally count for “bath time.” 🙂
I love love having a cleaning lady. Not just me. My family loves it too.
Confession: I never told my husband I got a cleaning lady. 🙂
Aw it is true a good friend will stick around even with noisy kids. I eat like that too and I don’t even have kids it is a hard habit to break.
I have to text more than talk also. My kids are loud and either yelling or crying so it’s just more efficient to do this. A lot of my friends don’t understand.
Great list!!!! A cleaning lady is definitely on my summer list for next year! Between work and kiddo omg! Cleaning lady is a def must have!
I remember hearing new moms complain about not being able to work, clean house and have a kid and I’d think oh come on. People do it all the time! Now as a mom I totally get it!
I am totally that friend now that I have kids that has food intentions of hanging out but you better come to my place or it won’t happen.
I remember those days… this too shall pass! So many good times we forgot the rough ones. Now that the kids are grown and married, we find that we once again have that leisure time to visit, shop, etc… we just don’t have quite as much energy.
We have some of the same problems with our grandkids… but it’s SO much easier to just laugh at the messes they make and trouble they cause. After all, WE are not their parents! LOL
such an honest post. It really does change everything. PS. baby brain doesn’t go away either.
Personally I Childbirth is different for everyone. It was worse than I expected it to be that’s for sure. My last two were extremely quick labor (think1.5 hours and 45 min from first contraction to having a baby) with no medication (there wasn’t time). I only had one with medication and the mental fog was just as bad as the 12 hour labor that was both mentally and physically exhausting. But for me the pain quickly subsides after the baby was born.
Amazing how every birth story is completely different isn’t it?! 🙂
I think that everyone experiences something different, but there are many similarities. Take it day by day and little by little! 🙂
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I agree everyone has a different experience! I think that’s why no one can fully prepare you for your own journey!
I snorted when I read about the sedation, then I though, hey, why not? All of what I read is what I experienced. I can just promise that over time it all gets better. Hugs.
Lol, yes! And the list goes on….I had 2 kids with pain meds and 4 without. I would take no meds anyday. The heartburn….I have been a long time sufferer, but found a few things that have helped. The biggest for me is to remove gluten, actually most carbs. Happy to chat more if you’d like.
Oh, yes! The stretch marks and the heart burn! Those were the two things that I was not prepared for the most. And neither one wanted to go away!
Ah yes, the secrets of motherhood that we all figure out eventually lol. This was a great read, so real and true!
I was warned about these when I was pregnant with my first child. It’s still different once you start experiencing it for real. I think these are all worth it though. Definitely!
Great post – and one of my additions is that having a birth plan is a great idea, BUT, be prepared to throw it out the window and trust yourself to make decisions if everything goes sideways during labor. It might even be helpful to allow yourself to talk about what happens if every plan you had goes out the window. What do you really need, support-wise, from your partner? What do you need if you have to have a c-section? It’s great to plan out the ideal situation, but I found that it created a truly false sense of control over a situation that can be completely out of one’s area of influence.
There are rare moments in the last 10 years where I’ve actually have alone time. It almost feels odd.
This is definitely a good list. I know a lot of my mom friends complain about the same things.
Luckily, my heartburn went away and I think that the childbirth experience is very subjective. Overwhelmed is certainly the new normal.
Overwhelmed is definitely my normal, but I think as long as you keep chugging along every day, it is all going to be OK!
Sorry to hear about your heartburn hun, I suffer with it myself and I know how painful it can get. Motherhood is tough but its rewarding too x
Overwhelmed. Aint that the truth? I feel like I am overwhelmed everyday. But I have to keep toughing it out because so many mothers before me have done so and I feel like there is no reason for me not to. But at the end of the day, when I see a soundly sleeping baby, I feel it’s all worth it.
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Everything is true except that childbirth was the most excruciating painful experience for me! 🙁 I had my children naturally as well, plus I have a high tolerance for pain. It’s mostly probably because I went through a long labor with both children, though!
I never used to drink coffee until after my daughter was born. It’s basically a necessity now!
I agree! I gave up coffee after college…. then I had twins! I think it’s what keeps me alive now.
oh-my-gosh you are SO funny! Caffeine is a necessity for pretty much most adults and this Bean Box sounds ideal! What a great concept and sounds yummm…
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Amazing what we can have delivered right to our doors now right?
Now we’re talking about a box I would love! Coffee is the nectar that brings me to life. Love your post!
I need an IV drip most mornings!
Ahhhhh I feel you on never having time! My daughter is now four and I’m finally just starting to get a little bit of me time since she’s older and doesn’t need my constant attention.
This cracks me up!!!! Seriously child birth wasn’t AS bad as I was expecting, it was AFTER that I wasn’t expecting to be so awful LOL!
I need to remember this for my coffee loving friends at Xmas! I miss drinking it sometimes now that I’m pregnant.
I gave coffee up when I was in college (long time ago). But started again when I became a twin mom.
How cute! What an easy way to personalize something that all moms thrive on! We will have to try this. They could even be cute as gifts.
Definitely cute as gifts! Especially for your friends, or even teachers! These were gifts for our coffee date!
Who doesn’t love a good subscription box?! I love coffee ( decaf) and I might have to look into this one.
I have completely ruined myself with coffee the last six years since children. One day I’ll get to decaf. 😉
No day is complete without coffee and it’s good to have it with friends as well. These days, people even setup coffee stations or bars when they have friends over! I love that you can customize your coffee as well! It’s awesome!
The cups were gifts included at the coffee bar/sampling party. It was pretty fun!
I am all about trying new coffee. That Guatemalan kind sounds like a flavor that I would really enjoy.
It does sound lovely!
Cute that you made mugs. I have wanted to try a coffee face scrub for a while now. Maybe I’ll just make my own!
I have to agree with you. Subscription boxes are the best. You get a chance to sample so many things in small doses…
Easy to see why they are so addicting right?
I love your blogs Debra. Such great insight and so easy to relate to.
I am not a coffee drinker, but I love sample boxes like this to find new things to love! What a fun box!
I love the idea of making an exfoliating face scrub right at home. It’s a great way to get rid of dead skin cells.
I can just smell the coffee now. What a fun subscription box. I love your craft ideas with the homemade mugs too!
I love me a good diy coffee face scrub!! Going to try this on the weekend 🙂
I can’t wait to make for gifts!
I’m not really a coffee person, but I will drink it every now and then to help jump start my day. I also use in body scrubs. It does wonders for the skin!
Now this is a box I would love to get. A lot of the subscription boxes I’ve tried don’t have products/brands I will actually use.
I was a huge coffee drinker, but now I’ve turned to decaf. I do agree it’s a great way to sit down with someone and spend time chatting over a good cup of coffee!
I wish I could give up my total dependence on coffee! Such a zombie without it.
Oooo now this is something my hubby would love! He’s coffee obsessed. He doesn’t go a day without it.
I can’t go a day without it either!
A very honest post. I agree with you, I left my first birth and thought “wow, that wasn’t all that bad!” I mean, don’t get me wrong it hurt….but once the baby was out it was over…and it was all for a good cause LOL
Hmmm well typically I have food in my mouth – lol
I thought with a four year old I didn’t have to worry about this anymore. Then, last week, she put a small toy in her mouth and it got trapped. I had to do the heimlich and luckily she’s ok but it was the scariest moment of my life.
OH MAN! That is SO scary!! Glad it came out…and yes, I thought by age 4 my kids would stop putting things in there mouth..but here we are at 5.5 and I’m still wondering when this phase will end.
I don’t know much about kids because I don’t have one. But I know my mom and my aunts will buy toys that were meant for kids who chew everything. Maybe this might help. Also remember that is their way of exploring the world.
I have three children. The first two never put anything in their mouths…somehow something happened with my third and she puts EVERYTHING in her mouth. Everything…it is miserable. I am constantly picking stuff out of her mouth…Why?!
I can’t even imagine. I was lucky with my 3 that none of them were much into putting things into their mouths. A necklace sounds like an awesome idea…if you can’t find one you should come up with one and sell it to others. 🙂
I’m CFBC, so I’d have to ask my husband. I have seen those necklace thingys and I’d bet they would work.
Oh my! I learned in my studies that toddlers learn more through their mouth as that is one of more sensitive areas of their bodies. So everything goes into the mouth to be judged. Still…
My sons used to pick up anything and everything to put in their mouths. It was a workout just running behind them and making sure they didn’t ingest anything dangerous for them.
wow, what a nightmare. a light bulb, I think I’d freak out. Thankfully the only thing my two ever put into their mouths were their own fingers or their feet.
These stories remind me of my brother when was little. He loved to put anything in his mouth or that of the dog’s mouth. If you heard, “dere,” you ran because you knew something of yours was about to be eaten.
I like to believe that it’s just exposing them to enough things to build a good immune system. It’s amazing what they find attractive enough to stuff it in their mouths!
Seriously. Have the time I am just grateful my kids survive the dirt and everything they try and eat!
I’ve heard of the necklaces and know parents that have used them. They were helpful.
Kids can be confusing sometimes especially with the habits that they develop. I think one of the reasons they put things in their mouth is their curiosity.
I really am loving the sandwich wrapper which doubles as a snack baggy!
I remember that child birth to me was okay. I did prenatal Yoga and lamaze really helped me. But I had a more difficult time after birth because I was groggy all the time. I was not used to breastfeeding every 3 hours. And I was still very weak.
My kids and 5 & 7 and I still say this on a DAILY basis!
It’s definitely something that is a battle! I am not sure when it really stops. Curiosity is definitely getting the best of them.
My kids are a lot older now but when they were younger we had this same problem. Smaller things that resembled food were always the worst. I have no advice besides just telling them not to do it. Hope they break of it soon!
Great post! We also had the “advice” that we wouldn’t be able to handle being new parents, which personally made me unhappy hearing this. In the end it is what you make of it. If you decide you are going to have a great time being a new mother and parent than so it will be – exhaustion, alone time and all. I don’t bother to even close the bathroom door when I have to go, because I know my three year old is right on my heels “What you doing, Mama?” 🙂 We just have to learn to love ourselves and press on.
Great post, really enjoyed reading it!
oh-my-gosh…so funny! Love these stories/memories with kids – they really are the most funny and heartwarming things! 🙂 What kids say… the darndest things!
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lol, oh my god I laughed so hard at the fire truck one. I have two boys and each of them had problems with the word truck too.
Kids crack me up. Well at least mine do. You seriously never know what is going to come out of their mouths.
My daughter is 30 so I don’t have a lot of cute things she said, although she said lellow and roarange. I love those cute ways little ones have, too.
Oh God, I’m so happy that your son didn’t get hurt. My son is 1 and he’s been picking up stray bits to put in his mouth. I found him chewing on some of his cereal puffs, which would be fine, but I haven’t given him any. He must’ve found some in his chair or some where. It frightens me that I didn’t know where he got it from and I have that many crumbs laying around and didn’t know.
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Fire F*ck!?!?!? LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!
I know right?!?! I had to get a video because it’s just so darn funny to hear 🙂
I think fire F**k is one of the most common mispronunciations for kids! I still struggle with cinnamon! I love that you not only dont stress over it but appreciate the little things!
My kids entertain us with their conversations daily. My son is five and now purposely tries to makes me laugh, which is so cute.
My mom used to call frogs the f word. The boys at our church thought it was so fun they used to bring frog stickers to get her to say it in the middle of church.
I think I saw a viral video of a little boy your son’s age that had the same pronunciation problem of saying truck too. It is funny to hear a child say it even though they dont mean to…kids say the darnest thing.
Kids are always amusing, especially with their pronunciations. You try to correct them as much as you can but they won’t give in, it’s really going to take a while. Lol.
Kids will eat anything. My husband told me one time his baby sister got into the cleaning cabinet and started drinking the hand cleaner. Eeew! Luckily it wasn’t harmful.
So funny! Kids say the best things! I love keeping a record of what they say.
This is so funny. It’s the little things in life, like what kids say, that makes life wonderful.
Those necklaces are truly a lifesaver. My son was a chewer when he was little and thats the only thing that kept him from going after grosser options, lol!
I am a coffee addict so this sounds amazing! I will have to try this out. Thanks for sharing!
I love the cute little things that kids say! I’ve heard the truck one from other moms, so at least it’s normal, right? 😉 Our 3yo twins say calipidder, and I actually accidentally Google “Eric Carle Calipidder” last week and couldn’t figure out why there were no results! They also call bathing suits “bannit soops” and I am not correcting that. <3
I love calipidder!! My oldest also said artilerary instead of artillery. I really had to think about the word before I used it so I didn’t mispronounce it too haha.
My 2 year old is starting to say funny things and I can’t believe he picks these things up! It’s worse lately too!
Kids are so funny aren’t they? I have documented some of the things my kids have said in the past and they are so fun to read.
My son, who is also about to go to kindergarten pronounces pattern that same way! He also mispronounces “magnet” as “magnicks”
That’s so funny that he says pattern the same way too!
Roxanne- great review of this awesome company! I’m in love with the chemical-free skincare. My favorite skincare product is Must Dew… Hydrate your skin while getting an immediate glow. The pro-makeup is exceptional too… My faves are the botanical foundation, perfect mascara, perfect eyeliner pen, and the new paraben-free eyeshadows!
Oh my goodness…this is just hilarious!! My son is always saying the craziest stuff and I have to hold back the laughter to correct him!
I love learning about new skincare products. RIght now I am pretty happy with my Rodan and Field line but if I’m not, I’ll be sure to check this one out.
Is Limelight cruelty free too? It sounds like a great brand and it is great that they use a plant base.
I hadn’t heard of these but they sound like great products. I’ll have to enter your giveaway!
Sounds like a wonderful brand, Thanks for sharing
Instead of Captain America or Captain hook, my daughter says “Cock Ten Hook” or “Cock Ten America” we can’t help but laugh
Oh this looks awesome! I will definitely have to check it out. It seems like they are a great, ethical brand and I haven’t heard of them before!
Sounds like an awesome brand, especially for a choosy customer like myself!
I love products that don’t have all those chemicals, especially products I put on my skin and face.
This makes me want to expand my cosmetic horizons. It’s very cool that this is a family-owned company, and that they use 100% recyclable packaging – woohoo!
These are such great products! Thanks for the link to the giveaway!! =)
Oh man. Christmas lights!! And I thought mine was bad eating the crumbs from her car seat every car ride. As for necklaces check out Glitter and Spice who makes lots of teething necklaces and accessories as well as Mama Gems is another favorite. Great for either you to wear or your kids depending on their ages.
Oh you are speaking my language! This is the SAHM real story! However it is completely true that at that tipping point a little hand in yours or a little hug can make everything ok again.
My kids are older, so trust me when I say it does change as they grow up. My oldest is going to be 12 next week and doesn’t need me like he used to, so I get lots of me time these days.
I feel you on a lot of these things. I try to remind myself that the kids are little for such a short time and will be off to college before we know it.
You have just reminded me why I only have one kid. And now that she is fully grown, I don’t intend on having any more. One was enough for me. I can’t imagine having three.
Literally tearing up right now. I only have one kid but my husband works a lot too (military) and we live away from family so I get it! My daughter and I are really close and she’s great, but we have our days… then out of nowhere she runs back and just hugs me. And none of the other stuff matters!
I hear all your “trys” and echo them vociferously. Life can drown you if you let it.
Totally agree!
It really can be a struggle to work through a lot of this. I can completely relate to all of this and have had many of the same struggles.
When I teach yoga I talk a lot about creating physical and mental space for yourself. We all need it and with it we’re better at all the things we have to do and be.
I love the confidence LLR has given you and really loved the line you wrote , “a recovering self body basher”. Thank you for your encouraging post, it was what I needed to read today!
I am so glad it reached you! I have been really hard on myself most of my life. I’m just tired of that voice telling me I’m not good enough. Ya know?
I love my Nicole dress!
looks great on you
I love that Nicole on you!!
Love LLR! My new favorite is the Cassie
I like the Cassie too! But I have to say the Azure is my absolute fave. 🙂
That’s my fav too! Such a great skirt.
My favorite LLR item is of course, the leggings! But that Nicole dress looks amazing and I need to try one ASAP!
My favorite is the Cassie! It really is comfy and flattering for all bodies.
I am really impressed! I am also a skeptic, but your review has me thinking….. and I just love that Nicole dress, go figure 😉
I’m just starting on the LLR journey, but I’m loving it!
I saw your pics and you look great!
Thank you!
I have a MAJOR obsession with Lularoe’s. I can’t stop myself from buying pair after pair of leggings! I just got the pizza ones and I love them 🙂
I did not see the pizza print!! So cute!
I’m loving the azure!
I could live in this skirt!
I have not heard of this brand before but I am loving the look. I must go check them out to see what i can buy.
Check around locally to see if there is a consultant nearby that has pop up shops. It is well worth the time spent learning what your happy with!
The leggings are like nothing I have ever worn before! They are the softest, fit amazing and most importantly add a bit of color to my usual, blue, black and gray wardrobe. Thank you Heather Bunch and LuLaRoe!!!
I think my mom would totally agree with this post. Even as kids get older, they still hang around! haha, this is a great post
Those clothes look like they would be so comfortable!!! I know my wife and daughter would love these clothes.
Love pop-up shops – and try to check those out lots so I can get to know a brand better. That dress on you is STUNNING! I mean… really pretty!!
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Wow, thank you for sharing this. While I’m not a mother yet, I can relate it to my childhood, having a mother who always put us first, even when we were driving her crazy. Kudos to you!!
I would be a fan of this company just to see your transformation! You rock those clothes! My neighbor is a consultant and she’s often asked me to try, but I am bigger than their biggest size (right now.) I sure do get your body image deal as that is where I stand at the moment.
On days I wish I had more space for me, I think about how one day, I will have all the space I need and miss my sweet babies. They really do make like. I’ll get there quick enough.
I used to work from home and I often felt left out. NOw that I am in the working world, I want to be left alone.
Like you, I would probably be skeptical, but I do love that Nicole dress. It looks great on you!
You are killin it in those outfits! I love the skirt and I know I just need one before hitting the beach in a few weeks! I’ve got to check out lula roe!
I have yet to try on LLR, but everything looks so comfy and beautiful.
I actually have never heard of this company. I need to look into it! You look amazing.
The leggings are LUSHIOUS!
I hear you! My sanity saving trick is an early morning time. I get up before everyone else, so I can have some peaceful, uninterrupted time just for myself. I do yoga, meditate, have a cup of tea or two and write my blog posts. I don’t get enough sleep for sure, but it’s so worth it!
The after Lularoe outfit looks great on you. I need the you are enough tee.
This is why I work all night practically. I need to change this schedule though because I am exhausted! You are not alone in feeling this way!
It’s so important to have space, but this post made me tear up a little. It’s such a sweet little story! So lovely
That skirt takes me back I had a shorter version of your azetc skirt before. Sorry to hear about your struggles with perception of body image. I am the same and find it hard to accept my body as it is but I am better and hopefully you will be soon too x x
I love the clothes! So flattering and pretty! The personal shopping experience looks super cool and that you enjoyed it to the max!
You look gorgeous! With or without those clothes. But the process gave you such confidence you look gorgeous!
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Ahhhh now this is part of the reason I’m one and done! Love kids, but yeah, the never having a moment for yourself…. Ughhh drives me insane!
Its kind of a “grass is always greener” type of thing, huh? But – you totally bring up good points, but its hard to gauge it all. You’re just too cool and fun as a mom!
Karen
Your kids are so beautiful! I am in awe. I only have two and I am still jealous of moms with just one. Hang in there mama, you’re doing awesome.
I sometimes secretly think that too. I often struggle on the best way to give my 3 meaningful, one on one attention. I do love having all of the craziness and that they all have each other to play with. I am sure I will long for these crazy days when they are all grown and out of the house.
you know I have two and I came from a family of seven kids. If I was able, I would have liked two more, max. I don’t feel jealous of singletons because it’s up to the adult to entertain them. At least with siblings there’s someone else.
That’s a very good point about siblings playing with each other. Mine really do a great job together most days, and I’m really glad we have the four kids close together. It’s just some days are harder than others 🙂
Well, I guess I am one of those that you are jealous of. My daughter is now fully grown, though, and has moved out. I am an empty-nester now!
Hahaha I can definitely see how one kid would be easier but I’m sure you wouldn’t have it any other way. My best friend has 4 kids and I always say she had my share!
I have an only child and I always wanted three or four! It wasn’t meant to be, but I always thought it was better to have siblings.
It’s tough work for sure… but think about the amazing bonds your kids are going to have with their siblings for the rest of their lives. Totally worth it 🙂
I go back and forth on wanting more and being content with 2. I think it’s human nature to wonder if the grass is greener on the other side.
I only have two kids and I think that is the perfect amount. We considered only having one but, in retrospect, I think I would have regretted that decision.
I have one son and he’s one right now. We’re still contemplating on another though. I kinda want a little girl but I don’t know what I’ll do if we have another boy. Too much testosterone in the house! Haha
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I can admit that sometimes I am jealous of the mom with only one kid. I wouldn’t trade my two kiddos for the world though!
I can so relate. I felt that way at times when my boys were little. But it is so worth having them so close in age now that they are older.
I think it’s those early years that are the hardest. Two year old’s are crazy little people. You have two of them at once and your whole world goes haywire. But, then they get a little older and the chaos isn’t as bad.
I often think back to when I just had my oldest, and I think, wow, I had so much free time! Definitely not the same now with three little ones, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything!
There doesn’t seem to be enough hours in the day to satisfy the needs of so many!
I love your honesty. You are only saying what everyone else is thinking. When my second baby was born I didn’t understand why I had such a hard time adjusting- I already had one so I knew what I was doing, right? Wrong. My friend encouraged me by saying, “it doesn’t really count unless you have two or more kids. It’s a totally different ball game with more than one.” So true! I can’t even imagine 4 kids under the age of 5…but hang in there!!
It totally counts with one!! 🙂 I think being a mom and caretaker gets harder the more kids you have. You are one person taking care of the needs of many and it can get exhausting and even frustrating. I envy the moms who have several kids, a husband and pets and still have their patience!! 🙂
I totally get this. I think it can be so hard to split attention all the time. It would be easy to not have to split.
I agree. It’s hard when everyone wants mom for everything. The plus side is we are clearly very popular. 😉
Me too, but I wouldn’t trade the ones I have for anything. I’m so blessed to have two.
I agree. No one wants to trade it. But a little break now and then is appreciated. 🙂
I’m a mom of one and we are totally happy with having one kid. On the one hand there’s lots of one on one time and I love that. On the other hand, there’s not a sibling for him to play with and so sometimes, instead of him playing with his brother or sister while we do something else, we play with him (which can be draining after a long day, if I am being honest). It’s also very hard to be continually asked “when” we’re having another one … I’m 44 and have no interest in going through the infant stage at this point (even just almost 6 years later). I wouldn’t change what we have, but I also don’t find that having “just” one is as easy as some folks might think.
I think parenthood is certainly full of challenges no matter how many kids you have! I have twins and one on one time is rare for us. It’s all me all the time. I wish they’d prefer playing with each other some days, but they both want me most of the time. I agree, it’s draining entertaining kids! I can’t imagine having two sets of multiples at once. Potty training two at once was hard enough…I can’t imagine 4.
Oh no! I’m pregnant with baby #2 and I’m nervous about making the jump. I’ve settled into having just 1.
My aunt used to say to me, “the heart is like a rubber band, it stretches to make enough room for everyone.” I am a twin mom too, and for me the hard part is having two kids demanding the same kind of attention. A two year old’s needs are different than a newborn. That’s a whole different game to me! You will adjust quickly!
I would feel so healthy if I started off the morning with those. Talk about a boost of energy!
I definitely don’t miss the lagging energy in the afternoon!
I have to say I personally feel a lot more energetic through out the day and not just at peak times.
This is SUCH a great post – because its a reminder to me to get healthy in the mornings. I need to develop a gameplan like you and get some protein and good stuff into my routine!
Karen
It is such an easy way to get started with nutrition. Especially with the busy-ness of life!
I feel like loading up my breakfast gives me a good start. I love the 30 second prep!
I NEED this!!!
This is wonderful, I struggle with getting a healthy breakfast to start the day. Thank you for the reminder of how important it is!
As a single parent with one child, I always felt that it was hard, never felt adequate or able to do everything that I needed to do… Intellectually I realize that it would have been harder with more children but it never felt easy or something that I was able to do a great job at…
Every parent has their challenges, whether it is one or ten our job is never easy. I think single moms have it rough because you are everything to your child- mom, dad, disciplinarian, fun maker, bread winner, caretaker. My mom was a single mom to 4 of us and I remember it was never easy. I think for me as a twin mom I wish I had the time to enjoy each individual child. There is just one me and two of them and there is always conflict over my attention. That’s the hardest part for me.
I am using a similar product and getting similar results. I am glad to learn of another brand, I need to check out its label.
So many different ones out there. I have several friends using this particular product and seeing their amazing results made me want to try too.
Sounds like the perfect way to make sure you’re energized during the morning. I never skip breakfast because it gets me through the day! It would be nice to have this in the morning especially if you’re going to have a long day!
You have valid points but as a mom of 1, I have felt jealous of moms with 3 or more kids. The grass is always greener right? lol
I’m also a twin mom and I think the jealousy part for me is having the time to bond one on one. Two kids the same age demanding the same kind of attention gets hard. You feel like you have to divide yourself. I see moms with just one kid and they get to give them all their attention and really focus in on their needs. With my two … it’s just chaos.
I am all about quick breakfasts too. I am just not a morning person so I make big batches of muffins for my kids and just pull them straight out of the freezer and they eat them on their way to school.
I am planning that for the new school year! Our bus stop is only a minute walk, but I have a feeling we will be running late and need something quick.
This sounds like something a lot of people in Brillion joint I know will getting busy and trying to stay healthy is a challenge in itself I will look more into it thanks for sharing.
I love my morning green smoothie. Lots of veggies and fruit and almost always cinnamon.
I love my morning smoothies. I just don’t have time for all the cutting and chopping. It sounds so easy and simple, but really hard with two little ones hanging off my back pockets. 🙂 This is working much quicker and easier for me! And I get to keep my smoothies!
Starting off with this in the morning would probably kick start my day! I need to give this a try because I always seem to be dragging.
No way! 🙂 It seems hectic and crazy now but it’s a lifetime of rewards! I’m all for multiples! 🙂 To each their own I guess right 🙂
It is a life time of rewards…but, when you are in the thick of doing all the work the days feel long! True what they say, “the days are long but the years are short.”
I try to start my mornings off with a green smoothie, but they can be a bit labor intensive. Have a quickie and healthy on the go alternative would be nice.
My thoughts exactly! Some mornings are just such a rush to get out the door!
LOL every time I hear about picky eaters, my heart goes out to my parents. If there is a child who is worst than I was I would not want to know….
This is an interesting twist on a protein shake. I am more of a smoothie girl but this is intriguing.
You can definitely add in berries or fruit of choice to make it a smoothie. I personally need something gluten, dairy, soy and egg free. It’s hard to find good clean sources of protein without those things added! 🙂
I like the sound of pouring it over ice that sounds like the perfect way to get a vitamin and energy boost in the morning. Will give it a whirl!
I love your outfits! I’m so sad I missed the giveaway, but you look great
I definitely need more energy too! Thanks for sharing
You look fantastic! Such great colors/designs for the fall season, too! I’ll definitely have to check them out for friends/family. Sad to miss the giveaway!
I’m sorry you missed the giveaway too! But, I hope you get a chance to try some LLR SOON! I just picked up a couple of dresses for my girls back to school wardrobe. 🙂
Oh I so need this just for the energy booster, I normally eat healthy for breakfast but I need something to give me energy so this is an awesome choice it’s healthy and it gives you more energy!!
I just recently started my weight loss journey, and I have to admit I have never used weight loss shakes. I may have to give it a try and implement it into my routine!
I am not big on shakes, but this one looks so good! I usually drink shakes when I do fasted cardio. I prepare it and drink it right after my workout.
I’m not big on shakes either, but I am super on the go all the time it has become such a time saver. It is making my self care as a mom much simpler!
I have done ISA before and I swear by it. I lost a ton of weight and I love how easy it is to do!
Glad to hear another success story! I have heard so many so far!
I love this post. You guys went through so much and i love that you kept it together. It’s hard at the best of times anyhow.
Thank you! I agree!
Love your post. You have had your shares of trials, that’s for sure. I added your family to my prayer list.
Thank You we really appreciate your prayers!
haha – nope. Expensive toys not required! Save that for when they are much, much older and value it! Enjoy all the memories you have with your baby!
Karen
Little ones will literally play with anything… I agree save your cash for the big toys later. Like the iPad they will be crying about at age 6!
YES. YES. YES! To all of these. My son is 11 months old and I can’t believe how much I’ve learned over that short time. Everything in your post mirrors what I’ve learned as well. Love it!
That first year is a real crash course!
Isn’t it amazing how much we change as individuals that first year? Physically and mentally, the change to mom can’t be denied!
Truly amazing!
I love how honest this post is about motherhood. It’s a hard job, but the best one in the world.
Agreed!
I love your honesty! I agree about the toys! Oh man, do my kids like cardboard boxes and tape. 😉
We are in a new tape phase here. We go through a roll a day.
Your post is full of truths! We learned early about not buying expensive toys too, although the Jumparoo was a lifesaver in our house. Both my sons would sump until they fell asleep!
We didn’t have a jumparoo, but my kids burned a lot of energy in their little exersaucers!
You are so right, buying expensive toys is such a waste. Most babies want to play with the cheapest things, like empty boxes.
Yes! Mine too!
This is so great! I always laugh when we buy expensive toys and all they want to play with is the box. Or plastic from the kitchen. 🙂
Always right?
Lol, oh the toys. Yes, I bought all the expensive toys too and my kids played with them for about 26 seconds. And I never learned, I did that with all three kids!
My kids still love card board boxes. As soon as I figured that out I stopped buying new toys! lol
Marriage can be rough if its just the two of you. Add a new baby into the mix and it really gets rough. Glad to see you survived it all and pulled through.
I agree!
This is such a beautiful post! So pleased to have come across your blog..x #abrandnewday
Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to comment!
Ahhhh I learned my lesson with expensive toys! They just end up destroyed so it’s not worth it alto spend that kinda cash!
My kids still love a good ol’ card board box!
I recently discovered NAK Bows too and they’re super cute! My girls would love them.
Good luck! We love ours!
Pencil is pretty cute! Love the weaved headbands though
Both are so cute! I can’t decide!! But NO one else will be wearing either on the first day of school!
I love Like the pencil one but I love the weaved headbands on her fb page
I love all her stuff! So cute! I wish my girls would let me put more bows in their hair.
I think I like the ABC one just a little bit more but they are both so cute!
I like that the pencil one is so different! But I agree both are so cute!
Ahhh, tuning things out, the superpower all parents develop pretty quickly lol. The first year is a huge learning experience.
HUGE!
That pencil bow!! That is the cutest thing ever. I loved putting bows on my daughter when she was young!
I really like the pencil one too… I’m going to have to pick up a twin pack. 😉
I’ve never heard of this brand but need to check them out for my daughter. That pencil bow is so cute.
Tammy makes really unique accessories!
The designs for the back to school bows are so cute. I have a niece who loves headbands and I bet she would love these too.
I fell in love with these bows because they are so unique!
Wow, it looks like you’ve learned so much! Thanks for sharing this with us. I know I will definitely keep this all in mind when I have my first child.
Keep reading the Whatever Mom blog and I bet you will become a dictionary of parenting tips!
I adore the pencil bow! I hope I win. I would love to give one to my niece.
So cute, right?!
This is a new to me product and brand. The pencil bow is so cute. Perfect for back to school.
I know my girls love the bows they have from NAK!
Good luck to all the entrants the pencil bow is so freaking adorable. Love the look of the brand.
Thanks! I think it’s super cute too!
Aw….these bows are super cute! Love the fun vibe to them and they also look really pretty!
Karen
Thanks! My girls are little fashionistas in the making!
So cute – that pencil bow is unique and so clever 🙂 I’m SUPER excited for my son to go to kindergarten this year. He’s a September baby so he goes nearly a year after his cousins (born only 5 weeks before him). He’s ready and rarin’ to go, so that’s why I’m thrilled for him.
I love that pencil bow too! So different. My kids are getting more excited to start school. They have a late birthday and had to wait an extra year too. I think we are all ready by this point!
That first year of being a mom was definitely life changing. I love that you have found some amazing truths for yourself.
Thank you!
That pencil bow is outrageously adorable! I remember being little and having gigantic ribbon bows during cheer and gymnastics. Such great memories!
All of these bows are so pretty. I love adding hair accessories like these on little girls, especially when it is back to school.
My girls are super picky about their hair accessories. But they love the NAK bows we have!
I’ve never heard of NAK, but how adorable? Those prints are just to die for. My daughter would love those.
I don’t have any kids, but these are super cute! I remember wearing bows a lot in my hair when I was a little girl!
What cute bows! I love the pencil one. It is perfect for back to school.
These bows are so adorable. My daughter would love these.
Wow those are pretty cute although I don’t have any kids my nieces would really love these!
All of these bows are so creative. My absolute favorite is the pencil one. That is just pure innovation!
My kids go to public school and we get a specific list. It makes my life easier just to walk through Target and check stuff off as I throw it in my cart.
My boys started last week and they do well in public school. I love though, that there are options for those that don’t do as well or need an optional environment to learn and thrive.
Wishing you all the best in getting your own school year going and that it is filled with adventures! Hope you get to plan a lot of fun trips with your kids for some fun hands-on lessons!
Thanks! And yes – that’s our favorite part of homeschooling!
So interesting. I’ve thought about home schooling (we’re still a few years away though) so it’s great to hear the practical differences between the two. Thanks for sharing!
Glad you found it helpful! Homeschooling is very different but we love it.
I am so excited to get this school year going. My kids are getting stir crazy here at home.
Wishing you a fantastic school year. My son just started his junior year of public school adn he is loving it.
I don’t have kids but have friends that do, plus friends that are teachers, and friends that homeschool. I will say that seeing it from an outsider as a parent I’d prefer homeschooling I think.
That is neat how you have a perspective on both homeschooling and public school. My son had a lot of trouble in the 3rd grade and I really thought I was going to have to homeschool him. Something about the 3rd grade!
It was a tough year! I’m so grateful it’s an option for us.
Great post, one dear to my heart! I homeschooled my three girls through high school and loved every minute. I hope you have a fantastic year
Thank you! And that’s wonderful! We’re not sure how long we’ll be homeschooling. For now we’re taking it year by year, but I am hoping to hang on as long as possible.
Wish you a good and happy school year. Homeschooling wouldn’t work for us but I am glad it does for you.
Before reading this article I really didn’t know any of the differences between traditional and homeschooling practices when it came to back-to-school time. Interesting read!
Thanks for sharing! Great post!
I learned a lot of these things too. It is so definitely okay to cry and release those feelings!
My kids have, at various times, been homeschooled and traditionally schooled, and either way, getting ready for a new school year is quite a challenge.
Wow! Didn’t know the difference between tradition and home schooling and your article is very well written to explain the difference.
Wow! I am a real stickler when it comes to these types of products and your product has hit every thing I value straight on the head. I’ll be checking them out and I’ll tell them you sent me.
Perfect! Enjoy!
I’m totally interested in the hand sanitizer! I have sensitive hands but a slight case of germaphobe, so this would come in handy. I thought this might be sticky and then read NON-STICKY, 🙂 LOVE that!
Thanks for sharing your review.
This one does not dry my hands like other santizers!
I think these kinds of products are really important. Thanks for writing!!
Hmm, I could use some of that hand sanitizer and the bug away. Do you know if the hand sanitizer reacts with gel nails? My last set of nails discoloured with the hand sanitizer I normally use.
I don’t wear gel nails, so I’m sorry I don’t know the answer to that. I am sure you could write to Kim directly through her website to be sure. The ingredient list in this santizer is much different than your usual sanitizers.
I am loving the idea of that hand sanitizer! Heather above had a good question too about the nails. I’m definitely going to look into this, had never even heard of it until this post. Thank you.
I really want to try that magic salve! I should get 2 and keep one at work.
I find I use it for a lot more than babies. My kids are big kids now and we still use it a lot!
I would love an all natural product that is made in the US. The bugs away would be great for me right now.
This is a great list of Mama Must Haves! Glad to know about this company and the hand sanitizer, we never have enough of that!
I had toyed with the idea of homeschool in the past, but I don’t think it would make sense for me to do it now since work keeps me pretty busy. I do admire those who are able to do it, though!
So curious to try the magic salve. I really like more natural products that help treat bumps, scratches, burns and any other irritants that bother my skin.
I love that it doesn’t sting, very light scent and my kids can even apply it themselves.
Natural products are great. The hand sanitizer sounds amazing and the bug away is so needed right now.
Have not heard of this brand but I Like what i’m hearing here. I must go check them out. Thank you for introducing me to them.
Not only are they organic, eco friendly but its cruelty free too which is perfect for me. I love that the herbal range cares about animals and the environment as well as making excellent products.
Yes, it fits all my criteria too! That’s why I love them so much!
This is so interesting! I have no personal experience with homeschooling so this was fascinating! I hope you have a wonderful school year!
That is so awesome that you were able to figure out at a young age what worked best for your daughter. So happy to hear that she is thriving. It seems like you’re really creating a well-rounded education for her. So great!
THANK YOU for this!! I can relate on so many levels. I feel like THIS is the story of my life.
Total solidarity! I remember back to when I was a kid and if I didn’t eat something I just sat there quietly and found a way to get rid of it when my mom wasn’t looking. It would just be so much easier if my kids figured that out! LOL
you are so funny! I only eat round… no… not that… triangle… but not that… omg. Nailed it. And it can be such a battle – who wants to look forward to that every-single-evening? lol
This was really great to read. I am a first time mom and we have transitioned from bottle to food. My little one eats everything so I have not had to go through this. Of course, he could change (praying he wont) so this is a post I am going to keep. I love your letting go of perfection mindset – I just recently wrote a post on authentic self and another on being an imperfect perfectionist. Raising the white flag is a step out of your comfort zone, but I guess it must have been the right time 🙂
I’ve been slowly stepping out of my perfectionist comfort zone the last few years. It’s just too much when you are a mom!
I admit it was difficult to keep a straight face when she replied, “since right now.” Bah!
I am totally proud of my kids’ passion for mac and cheese and yogurt! Loves it so much he needs it every day!
Oh I feel your pain and so has every other parent in the world! Just when you think you have found the one food they eat, disaster strikes and they change to something else, ha
I can’t help but giggle! This sounds a lot like what I have to through with my daughter on a daily basis. 🙂
Man…. do you have a hiddeb camera in my house or what?! I feel like we lead VERY similar lives. My dynamic duo is 3 years old going on 14. Bossy. Mouthy. PICKY…… is there a stronger adjective to describe picky?! If there was, I’m sure you would know it. My one boy is AWFUL. He doesn’t even like the touch or sight of most foods. Each bite has to be cut into microscopic pieces & most times he barely finishes anything on his plate. Mealtime = a BATTLE three times a day here too. Constant coaching to eat, take a bite, empty threats of going to the doctor, etc. The other boy is a decent eater, so thank God he balances out this craziness. Hang in there, momma! It’s “whatever” here too. ????
Hey TwinMommaNE! Glad to hear I’m not the only one going a little crazy with tandem pickies! 😉
YES YES YES!!! I am on the verge of a picky eater emerging and I have to ALSO think back to when I was a kid – and all I wanted was macaroni and cheese with BBQ sauce in it. So who am I to fault my kid for wanting something particular even if it drives me mad. YOU ARE WINNING MAMA!!! Hang in there!!!!
Well I don’t have littles yet but this post made me laugh so hard. KIDS.
You are every Mom! My toddler just got really picky all of the sudden and it’s driving me nuts. This post made me laugh so hard, because it is so true.
I am glad it provided a laugh! 😉 I did manage a chuckle after it happened.
haha you are too funny. The struggle is real people it truly is. Motherhood never a dull moment.
I have 2 great eaters and 1 terrible eater. I have found that the more kids a person has they more they realize that each kid is his own person and it isn’t that the parents are awesome parents so that is why they have good kids…it is because the kid was randomly born good. Some kids are just born difficult and you can be the best parent ever and those kids are just who they are…I feel like it will serve them well as adults to be so demanding. 🙂 They will make great bosses…they have been acting like a boss their whole lives. Ha!
OMG, I can so relate to this. I am a food blogger….and all three of my kids are super-picky. It is only SLIGHTLY better with my oldest two now that they are 10 & 11. My rule is that if they don’t want what I’m making they can fix themselves something else. All three will starve rather than eat something they don’t want.
This conversation is hilarious!!!! Haha and we love how you pointed out the “offensive shape”. We don’t have children yet, but when we do we hope we maintain your sense of humor. XOXO
Oh man. Meal time is not my favorite time. It is such a hard time with my kiddos.
Ughhhh so reminds me of my daughter!!!! Every time I think I have meal time figured out, she changes the game on me. So annoying
My daughter has gotten so picky! It’s so hard when they refuse to eat things a certain way or when they suddenly switch.
So true! My kids were like this when they were little. They used to say like they couldn’t eat eggs because they felt weird in their mouth. Now they eat eggs all the time. They’ll get over it! You just have to show them you’re stronger than they are…LOL
I think it’s okay to feed them what they ask for sometimes. So long as they’re eating. We all parent differently and we all want the best for our kids. Just do what you think it right for them.
I am so lucky with my son. He is not a picky eater but of course, he has his tantrums too!
I’m such a sucker for cards!! I love, love, love sending and receiving mail. Basic Invite sounds AWESOME!
Thank you for your review.
I love giving and receiving cards too! I still have a birthday binder where I hand write dates and stock pile cards.
Awe Roxanne Finally got on your Blog.
Sherri my cousin Florence’s daughter
Ozzie’s cousin too. I was really impressed with Norwec
Towels. Awesome! Where can I buy them?
Walmart have them
I love thank you cards and holiday cards, so these invites are really great! I will have to check them out.
I always found it difficult to make my kid eat and behave at the dinning table. Thankfully now my kids are older and we really enjoy spending together time, especially at hibachi restaurants.
My little cousin went throught a phase when he said he couldn’t swim in wound pools, so I definitely feel you on the strange pickiness. Go with your gut mamma, believe it or not, this too will pass and when they get hungry enough, they will eat.
These cards are adorable! And I love that they have a service for double checking that everything is right – if I were sending out a big batch of cards I’d totally take advantage of that.
I love cards…all kinds! Especially now that my husband is a small business owner. I’ll have to check these out!
This is pretty fun to use!
I love those darling announcements. I am a paper fiend. I love my paper! Thanks for sharing this company, I’ll be checking them out.
I am one of the few moms in my circle that insists my kids send thank you cards. And I still send actual bday cards in the mail. I love my paper too!
Oh how fun! I love the look of cards these days and I love you can make your own design. I love the modern look and the awesome font choices.
The designs on these are too cute. Its always great when you can do your own custom design.
I definitely pick my battles when it comes to meals. Usually they get free reign for breakfast and lunch, and then dinner is mine, where they need to eat what I make. Sometimes that works, sometimes that doesn’t…
How adorable are these?! I wish more places gave invite offers like this! Anymore, they’re just so boring at the usual places I go.
Basic Invite has THE best custom cards out there – love the variety and the quality! And uploading your own photos is the best part, especially when they make the design patterns so chic to use!
What a great service! I need to go check out basic invite. Theses cards look like they are a fantastic quality.
Oh – you reminded me that I need to get some thank yous in the mail! And now you also have me thinking about designing my Christmas cards! I need to check this company out.
It is never too early to start those Christmas cards! 😉
These are too cute! Should’ve looked them up for early July when I had my son’s birthday party. Would’ve saved me a heck load of trouble doing the designs and prints.
Those are pretty invites. I like all the choices. I will keep them in mind for the holidays.
Their customer service is awesome. I’m using them for our holiday card design this year as well!
Oh yay! I love to get personal feed back!
I love getting cute and stylist invites like these in the mail! With holidays coming up in a few months, these would be perfect!
I’m a sucker the the little detail of having customizable envelopes. Sounds like a wonderful company for invites.
What a fun invite! I love making my own invites. This looks like a great option. I’ll have to try it out.
I love cards. I keep every card that someone gives me, so I would love to add this to my stash if someone sent me one… especially since it has all the personal touches from the customizations 🙂
These are super cute. I love how much customizable these are… I’m usually frustrated with the lack of options when making my Christmas cards online.
I am loving these adorable cards! I will be giving them a try for sure when it comes to Christmas.
Ashley is so beautiful and I’m so happy for your family. Thank you for sharing this beautiful story with us.
Ashley is amazing and a true inspriation, as are you Whatever Mom for all you do to to fight against childhood cancer! Thank you for this heartfelt and powerful post.
Awe thank you! It is so amazing how much she gives back, and she just has such an amazing spirit despite what she has lived thlived thru!
I went to Penn State and every year they hold, THON, the largest student-run philanthropic event in the world. The money goes to the Four Diamonds Fund that helps find a cure for pediatric cancer, so whenever I see stories like this, I always stop, read and get a bit teary eyed. What an inspiration Ashley is!
Kait, my daughter lost a dear friend to cancer as a young child. 12 years later, as a senior at Penn State, she danced. Now my son is working toward when he dances for the kids, and for a cure. Both The Four Diamonds Fund and St. Baldricks are truly exceptional and putting so much into research and truly helping to find a cure.
Your kids are an inspiration!! I love watching their passionate support of Thon!
Yes! A local mom friend of mine has two children who both attend Penn and have thon experience! I have supported them that he last couple of years. Amazing event and organization!
Beautiful! Ashley truly is inspirational! Thank you Whatever Mom for sharing the story and for all you have done !!
What an amazing way to contribute to a cause! My mom is a cancer survivor so I appreciate any and all work towards beating cancer.
Glad to hear your mom is a survivor! ❤ It’s a brutal disease. I wish her much health!
Your niece is so strong and the st. Baldrick’s organization sounds like a fantastic idea for fundraising! Well done for spreading the message!
There mission is amazing and so personal to your family. It’s such a beautiful and heartfelt piece that you wrote! I’m passing the name along.
As a Leukemia Survivor myself, this post is really close to my heart. Your niece is a true warrior and I commend her.
So glad to hear you are a survivor! ❤❤Thank you for sharing.
God this made me cry noone should have to go through cancer, but to hear a toddler suffering it breaks my heart. She is beautiful and its amazing that she has raised so much money for others and I think its great that she braved the shave. Good on her and you for raising awareness x
I cried writing it. It was difficult to relive it was heart breaking the first time.
What a scary thing to watch your niece go through!! I would have to say going bald would be important as well to my family after going through that. Sounds like an amazing organization!
They are amazing! They have no corporate overhead so majority of the money they raise goes directly to researching a cure. Please feel free to pas along to anyone who wants to get involved. ????
I have a friend who had a dear friend go through something similar and she went bald with her and it helped the girl not feel alone in the struggle.
thank you fro sharing this story of a brave girl. I have volunteered on occasion at children’s hospital adn it always amazes me how strong these children are.
It truly is amazing! Ashley rarely complained (even today!). Seeing those kids in her room I thought I can’t even complain.
I love this story! Childhood cancer is horrible and I love that you supported your niece in this way. I’m a cancer survivor and the night my Hubby had to shave my head, he finished shaving me and then shaved his own head. It really speaks volumes to the person going through cancer to see others doing that FOR THEM.
Amazing support from your husband! Wow! I am glad to hear you are a survivor.
I can’t image going through this with my kids or watching them get operated on, wondering if they are going to live.Thank you for sharing this important story. God bless her
What a brave young girl. Cancer is so hard to watch anyone go through, but I have always found it even harder with children. I so admire what she is doing for other. It takes a special person to go through such an experience and be so passionate to help others at such a young age.
Your family sounds amazing and I wish Ashley a long and happy life! I am so thankful for medical centers, especially pediatric ones, that specialize in treating cancer.
I was a picky eater as a kid but it was only the types of foods. I can’t imagine dealing with pickiness about color and shape too! Best of luck in the future! Maybe they’ll outgrow it. 😉
This is so hard to read but beautiful at the same time. I think doing something in solidarity with one you love is so powerful.
My dad had leukemia when he was in his early 20s. I couldn’t imagine watching someone close to me go through this!
I’m seriously obsessed with stationary — I don’t know what it is, but it’s an addiction! i love these!!!! So cute!
What a beautiful post. I know your friend Michelle smiled big and is watching down from Heaven. I don’t know why but maybe she had something to do w/you getting them twins 🙂 I myself was heading to work and had no clue what was going all I remember was the massive amount of people all moving out of the city and here I was walking towards the city wondering what in the world is going on. Each year my heart aches and seems unreal. I can’t even believe it’s been 15 years but no matter the time we will NEVER forget. ((HUGS)) to you.
I am sitting here at my desk reading this and sobbing. My husband and I recently took a trip to NYC to see the memorial museum and it leaves you without words and full of emotion. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend and for all the others who perished on that awful day. Like you, I remember thinking the sky was so pretty in PA – crsip, clear and beautiful. Thank you for sharing this.
So sad, I’m so sorry to hear of your friend. I’ll never forget 9/11. Prayers for you as you remember.
Such a hard day for the country – but especially if you knew someone personally from this tragedy. I’m so sorry for your loss. Its got to be incredibly painful. 🙁
I will never forget where I was either. I feel so hard for people that knew someone directly affected or lost. So sorry for you.
I was not old enough to really gather what was going on. I was in 7th grade Pre-Algebra. I can only imagine.
Thank you for sharing all about this. There are so many people who don’t share their loss or what they were feeling.
It’s crazy to think that incoming freshman this year will learn about this as true history and not actually living it. Thanks for sharing!
Beautifully written. I will never forget the loved ones we lost that day. It was a moment that stood still for me.
Prayers going up for your friend! The souls we lost will be with us always! We will never forget this tragedy, but honor them by living life to the fullest right?
I was living in California on September 11 so didn’t know a lot of people personally impacted by the events. But just a couple of years afterwards I moved to Philadelphia and then everything suddenly became more personal because it was so much more personal for the people around me
This is such a hard time of year. I knew a lot of people who died that day. I was little, but my entire family and town was affected.
I am sorry for your loss and hope that you get to see her again when all things are made new… When those in memorial tombs will live again…
Such an insanely difficult day for so many. I’ll never forget either–I don’t know anyone who will.
This made me tear up a little. This is very touching. I’m sure each and everyone of us remember what we were doing that day and where we were. It was heartbreaking and horrific.